help with those temple white hairs

[Alaska98]

No help here, but I was 27 when I got greys at my temple on the right side. I was excitedly hoping for a streak, but 3 years later, there are still just a few and now they're on the left side, too.

However, I've noticed sometimes I'll find a Grey that's started growing in brown again. I don't know what causes them to decide to stop being Grey... But I guess it is reversible.

[lapushka]

I'm 42 with just a tiny sprinkling throughout the hair. I got my first grays in my early twenties. You can't pick and choose these things, even though you wish you'd gray differently. These things just happen. All you can do is either accept it or dye the hair.

[mamaherrera]

Thanks, and interesting comment about the reversible parts. It's be neat to know if after they fall out, if those hairs that went back to brown come back white or brown???

[AmyBeth]

I use hendigo, and that seems to happen to me too. I'm very very good at looking in the mirror and just ignoring what I don't like. Just... don't see it. I have a good amount of greys, about 40% so I hendigo my roots every month or so. I just don't want to go grey yet. Not ready. I don't think I will ever be ready. Something kind of comforting happened the other day as I was examining my roots, trying to decide when to next do my roots and I realized that I have really pretty greys- they are very bright silver and shiny. If I ever do decide to let them grow, I'd like them. Just not ready for that yet, though.

[mamaherrera]

Yes I am definitely not ready for mine too. I like your idea A LOT about learning to look in the mirror and only see things that I like. I'm the opposite (hint: negative) where I look, and go looking for the things I don't like, so I see those sparklies right away, because theyr'e in the front where there's little hair and because I look for what I don't like. I should look at the other bigger percent of my beautiful brown hair.

[Sarahlabyrinth]

I just accept mine, I find them really pretty and they also prove to me nicely that my hair is growing, so they make me happy. Mine show up in about a week as well. I think that people probably often would have them but I really don't think that IRL one would generally notice them on others, nor would they notice them on you. That's my theory and I'm sticking to it.

[mamaherrera]

thanks very good points made. I see them more than anyone, I bet.

[cathair]

My bangs and temples are fairly solid white now yet my back hair is still light brown.Instead of seeing them negatively I try to enjoy them, I like to flaunt my white hairs,I do a half up and roll/twist the sides and catch them in a silver flexi 8 clip.The roll/twist really brings out the different silver/white hair colours.As more white comes in,you have to colour more often, why not try to accept them ,it's much easier,cheaper and your hair will be SO much healthier.White streaks in dark hair can be very sophisticated, so check out sophisticated hairstyles eg.french twist,chignon to play them up!With dye you get the generic dyed all one colour,you will look like all the others that dye,if you let your hair go natural ,you will have a unique colour not found in any box,.Good luck ,no matter what you decide.

This really. I am a touch younger than you OP and have/had very dark hair too. I can't be doing with all the stressing of maintenance. I would rather just accept it, my hair is going white so rapidly. I thought it was dark brown with white streaks, but I think I am just about ready to start calling my hair iron or steel coloured instead of dark brown now. People kept telling me that I looked old and that I should dye it. Then I bought some new clothes that I thought were probably too young for me and people have stopped commenting on my hair and keep telling me I look 5 - 10 years younger because of what I am wearing. I am fairly sure it's not just the colour that ages you, but your attitude to it and how you wear it.

[mamaherrera]

very good point made. And lately I get so depressed of mine popping up, that I tend to start dressing older to fulfill what the whites are making me feel older.

[AmyBeth]

Yes I am definitely not ready for mine too. I like your idea A LOT about learning to look in the mirror and only see things that I like. I'm the opposite (hint: negative) where I look, and go looking for the things I don't like, so I see those sparklies right away, because theyr'e in the front where there's little hair and because I look for what I don't like. I should look at the other bigger percent of my beautiful brown hair.

My mother was a great role model, for sure. She had many fine qualities, but physical beauty was not her strong suit, and even if it had been, she was just too bust DOING to ever worry about it. She would get up in the morning and make sure her clothes were clean and whole, she would do her hair simply, simple make up and off and running. She just didn't worry about it. My dad was very good looking- he could have given Cary Grant a run for his money, and when my mom was young, her friends would ask her how she landed such a dream-boat. The answer was that my dad didn't care a hoot about looks. His favorite saying was "Pretty is as pretty does." I heard him say that a thousand times if I heard him say it once. So while I am very much a girly girl and love to make up and have long hair (who could have guessed?), I just don't focus too much on my appearance. I mean, I do focus on it, but I'd go crazy and get depressed if I critiqued all of the flaws I see when I look in the mirror. It would make me unhappy and for what? So I have fun primping and try to look as nice as I can, but purposefully ignore anything I don't like that it's better to just accept. I know the "flaws" are there, but I try to pay no attention to them.