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    Default Worried about my hair.

    So, I'm getting worried about my hair. Since joining LHC I pay more attention to it than ever. I'm starting to notice some things. My hair is a lot thinner than I ever thought it was, and I feel like I lose a lot of hair. I only comb in the shower, and that's when I notice a lot of sheds. Usually the entire drain is filled with hair. I've never counted it, but it seems like a lot of hair. Is this normal?

    I have a lot of hairs that are shorter than the rest. I'm not sure if these are breakage or new growth. When I style my hair curly, they stick up around my head. I can smooth them down with a leave-in conditioner, but they worry me.

    When I run my fingers along single strands of hair, I feel a lot of bumps and kinks. Is this normal?? This is what worries me the most because it feels damaged, but then again, it could just be from my natural hair texture. I'm not sure.

    Also, my hair looks very dry. All of the time. It doesn't look healthy. I'm not sure if this is also from my texture. I do regular s&d's and I get a trim every few months. I don't heat style. I CO and use Argan Oil, gel and some leave-in conditioner in my hair. Before I shower I put some coconut oil in while I detangle with my fingers. Every week or so I do an olive oil/evoo leave in.

    So am I doing something wrong? Is my hair damaged? Should I do a chop and see if that helps, or does this sound normal for a curly girl?

    Help!
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    Default Re: Worried about my hair.

    from your album pics I think your hair looks really nice (I always wanted curly hair) so it doesn't look damaged from a distance. No idea what you're doing wrong, but sometimes even though I love coconut oil it gives me crunchy ends, think it works better on wet hair, or maybe if you don't put so much on. What's your diet like?

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    Default Re: Worried about my hair.

    When hair gets longer it may seem that you lose more hair that we are used to,but it's just hair getting stuck together.

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    You seem to only have joined recently... so, perhaps at least some of it is just that you are paying *attention* to shedding that has always happened. It could also be seasonal - I had shedding in Oct/Nov that appears to have stopped now.

    Longer hair will appear to shed more, simply because there is more total hair, because each shed hair is longer, making a bigger mass in the bottom of the shower. Also, if you've started brushing/combing or washing your hair less, your hair will be disturbed less and so shed hairs may stay within your mass of hair until you wash/comb/brush - this is especially true of curly hair, I think.

    Another possibility is stress - mental stress, weight loss, illness, diet change, etc. This can put some of your follicles into catagen phase and then, after a while, the hair will naturally shed and the follicle will start producing a new hair.

    But, if you're really concerned, perhaps measure your ponytail circumference and then you can measure again to see if your hair truely is getting thinner. But, don't measure too often - you'll only drive yourself mad giving yourself some other aspect of your hair to fret over. :P

    I'm afraid I can't help you much with the texture/dryness, though. You'll have to wait for someone a little bit more curly for that. ^_^

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    Default Re: Worried about my hair.

    Straightie here so can't help you with the curly questions. But it's normal to shed what looks like a LOT. Around 100 hairs a day is considered average - which means some people will shed even more than that and it's perfectly normal for them. And when your hair is long as others have said, each shed hair looks like a lot of hair. I have found shed hairs in the shower that I was sure looking at it were at least 3 or 4 hairs clumped together, and thought "Oh no, I'm losing so much hair..." and turns out it was just one really long hair. This happens to me a lot actually

    Another thing is that if you're only detangling your hair once a day and not really brushing/combing at other times, then ALL the shed hair for that day is coming out at once which does seem like a lot. But it's 24 hours worth of shedding, and you're not going to shed more now that those lose hairs have come out. You're going to go on shedding at more or less the same rate as always.

    The problem with feeling like you're shedding a lot is that it's so subjective. Just by worrying about it we can convince ourselves it's really happening. For years I felt my hair was "so thin" and getting thinner. I had a couple of dramatic medical-related sheds when I was younger and lost some of the thickness I used to have, so I felt my hair was thin and fragile and getting worse all the time. Until my husband mentioned that I had the same amount of hair I'd had when we met years before, and I realized he was right.

    It took me a while but I've finally gotten to feel confident about my thickness and shed rate, through measuring and objectively studying the hair of other people around me (really looking honestly at it instead of just assuming it's better or thicker than mine). Hopefully you will too, with time. It's hardest at the beginning when you first start to really pay attention to these things, and it gets better as you learn what's normal for you and see overtime that your hair really isn't changing all that much. It also helps to keep in mind a comment I read on here a long time ago, that shedding is a sign that your hair is renewing itself to grow again. It's a beginning and not an end, it's not permanent and it's not a bad thing

    As to the "baby hairs" or the "halo" as some people call it...well not all hairs on your head are going to be the same length. Yes, some of it can be breakage, but breakage happens to everybody at least a little bit, and even if you never snapped a single hair you'd still have those baby hairs. Some hairs just naturally grow to a shorter length to begin with. And not all of your hairs are in the same stage of growth. If every hair on your head grew at the same time they would also shed at the same time, and we'd all periodically go bald and start growing from scratch! So you have some hairs that are fully grown, some that are partway there and some that are just beginning to grow again after the old hair shed out. So we all have them, some more than others. It's nothing to lose sleep over

    And one last thing: you say your hair doesn't "look healthy." Be careful of comparing your hair to, for example, hair ads or even hair photos here on LHC. In ads there are profesional stylists on hand and they use tons of product to get just the right look...for 30 seconds. And then they take tons of shots using JUST the right lighting and pick only the best ones. You're not seeing real life doable hair in those pictures. And even in LHC hair pics, most people are taking pictures of their hair at its best, not necessarily a "normal" hair day...and even then the camera flash adds a LOT of shine that isn't always there in real life. We've been sold an idea of what healthy hair looks like that isn't realistic. Hair can be VERY healthy without looking like a shampoo commercial. And I do believe also that healthy curly hair is going to look and feel VERY different from healthy straight hair.

    p.s. do keep in mind too that any changes you've made in your hair care since coming to LHC won't show up right away in your hair. If you used to heat style your hair for example, and only stopped a month ago, then all of your hair EXCEPT what has grown in the last month (so 1/2") will still have heat damage. If you've started taking vitamins, those will only affect new hair growing out of your head now, it won't change the hair that's already there. So it can actually take months or even years to see a real difference in your hair from changing how you treat it.

    Horrid lighting and resolution...but even still I can see 2" growth and lots more shine!

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    Default Re: Worried about my hair.

    Okay thanks everyone for the words about shedding. Maybe I am just overthinking it.

    emsahib - I eat a lot of chicken, fruit, veggies, etc. I love healthy food and I have a really good diet. Every now and then I slip and eat something unhealthy, but I was always feel sick afterwards so I stick to making healthy stuff at home. Thanks for the compliment.

    nytquill- I was heat styling regularly until about 5 or 6 months ago. I am wondering if the way the individual strands feels isn't from damage from that.

    I'm still hoping someone will come through and answer my question about the texture of the individual strands. It is what worries me the most and the reason I'm wondering if I shouldn't do a big chop.
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    Default Re: Worried about my hair.

    Don't worry, jesis; worry = stress, and you don't need more of that.

    I noticed all kinds of odd things about my hair when I joined the community and began scrutinizing every little detail. I despaired that my hair would ever get longer than BSL because of how easily it splits. But look! The worry was for nothing.

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    Default Re: Worried about my hair.

    I used to get weird hairs that were bumpy and unevenly flat and oddly textured down the length. Since changing my diet early last year I've had none of those issues, it's back to my regular fine hair that I remember having as a kid. My diet changed due to health reasons, so I realize in hindsight that my hair was probably really unhappy with the hormones and whatnot that were in flux due to the health issues. So it could be that, or it could just be the way your hair is meant to come out Either way

    Also, if you feel it's dry and maybe that's why your texture is uneven, you could try oiling it up for a few days - really letting it soak in there - and just doing braids until it's time to clarify. When I do that all/any trouble spots of mine will clear up. I'm a little more wurly than curly, though, but it might help you also.
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    Default Re: Worried about my hair.

    My hair strands are bumpy - they are pretty course (sp?) so it's normal and even my medium strands are bumpy! And I get what you mean about the health of hair - My hair is really healthy but it doesn't look it! I just think 'at least I know that my hair is healthy!" My hair looks dry - I did a Deep Treatment yesterday!!! So I know how you feel! It's just the curly way sometimes!
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    Default Re: Worried about my hair.

    You've gotten some great responses so far.

    For your concerns- 1)shedding - how long have you been CO washing? Many on here adore it, and I agree it can be great for your hair and scalp if they like it. But I shed like a beast if I do it. It could also just be seasonal shedding.

    2)shorter hairs - I think everybody has those? They're usually just new hairs as our hair strands don't all shed and grown in at the same time. But if your hair is curly and you're no longer using a flat iron then they're going to stick up and out.

    3)bumps & kinks - If they're tiny little hard knot like things, they could be single strand knots. Have you looked at the individual hair to see if it's a little bump? I get them all the time and it's really annoying. lol That's the first thing I thought of.

    4)dry looking hair- Does your hair look dry with nothing in it? Or how about with just a leave-in conditioner? Sometimes the products you use will make it look dull rather than shiny. It is possible that your hair is just dry from previous heat damage, in which case maybe with continued care it will improve after a while?

    Hope that helps and you find the answers that you're looking for.

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