Explanation of Contacts & Friends

[Darian Moone]

The 100-posts/60-days only applies to a few remaining areas like the Community Meets forum.

Sorry to go off topic for a moment, but I've been searching high and low for the Community Meets forum and can't find it anywhere. Any pointers would be appreciated. This is where I would post about a local meet, right? Thanks in advance.
/hijack

[snowbear]

It's currently only viewable by modmins. They say it will be visible by members soon.

[Darian Moone]

Thanks Snowbear.

[Clare-Dragonfly]

People who both list each other as contacts do not become friends. Unless they discuss it separately, they won't know that each is the other's contact. I suppose you could say that friends are consensually and consciously mutual.

Aww... that's kind of sad. You could want to be friends and never know...

[CountessDeJager]

Aww... that's kind of sad. You could want to be friends and never know...

That's why I'd say it doesn't hurt to do the full friend request rather than just add as a contact. I wish we could send a message with it though (okay, I could do the PM work as a follow up) since it is nice to let people know why I asked them if they don't know of me. Pretty much I'm using that friend panel to remind myself to visit blogs or look for posts by people I like because we've met in person, swapped, I love their posts or opinions, we have similar tastes, I think they are neat, know them from another site, or a bunch other other reasons I haven't even thought of yet. Besides, seeing all the avatar photos on the friend/contact panel makes me think of it as one giant meet.

What I don't want is people being uncomfortable if they choose not to accept me as a contact or friend because we all have different ways we are using the friend lists. I'm just throwing it out there and there will be no hurt feelings on my side. I also want to write that people shouldn't be shy about asking me, I'm happy to share any private content (not that there is any yet) with LHC regulars.

Elizabeth

[KatKeRo]

Thanks Dianyla for explaining.

[Xandergrammy]

Whew!! Thanks for the explanations, Dianyla. One question keeps popping into my head. At my advance age, sometimes my memory is a little sucky. If I try and send a friend request to someone who is already my friend, will a notice pop up or something?

[PatGear]

Whew!! Thanks for the explanations, Dianyla. One question keeps popping into my head. At my advance age, sometimes my memory is a little sucky. If I try and send a friend request to someone who is already my friend, will a notice pop up or something?

Why not try it and let us know? You can try me.

[Xandergrammy]

Why not try it and let us know? You can try me.

You're so smart, PatGear!!!! I went to your profile and lo and behold, there is no "Befriend PatGear" under your friends list. I tried out a couple of other friends, and that Befriend button is absent. So, if there's a Befriend spot, then you haven't befriended that person yet.


ETA: PatGear, your hair has gotten so long!!!!!

[talullah]

PatGear, I was bored so I tried it too. :P I clicked on your name in the post above, then clicked on Add PatGear to Contacts--it informed me that you and I are already friends. So, it seems like either the way Xandergrammy did it or the way I did it, you can't send duplicate friend requests.

ETA: Okay, I'm *really* bored, so I clicked on my own name and there was an "Add Talullah to your contacts" thing. So I clicked on it, and it asked me if I wanted to add Talullah to my contacts--NOT the same message I got when I tried to add you again! So I guess we're not friends with ourselves by default. :P