What are your pronouns?
She/her (they/their is perfectly fine, I have no patience with gender roles)
Do you use your hair as a main way to express your gender?
I don't consciously use my hair to express gender. I've had many different hair styles from shaved through pixie, bob, down to knee. I've never felt not me because of my hair length. As a kid I envied curly hair (my mom is a curly) but the times I've put in the effort to curl my hair it feels weird, something I'm constantly conscious of and I'm relieved when the curls are gone and I'm back to me.
Do you think your gender influences your hair length goals?
My gender presentation (female) makes having long hair socially easy, aside from the occasional "Don't you need a trim?" comments that result as hair gets longer and longer.
Does it affect how you choose to style your hair?
Again, gender presentation and the time and location I live in make all options socially acceptable. I feel for other people whose gender narrows their options in other people's eyes.
Have you ever felt conflicted about your hair regarding your gender expression?
No, but other people clearly have been! I had a "boy" cut in 5th or 6th grade and a number of people misgendered me or became very upset that they couldn't easily tell if I was a boy or a girl. I didn't understand what their problem was. It was no big deal to correct "he" to "she" from my perspective. When I was in college and shaved my head I got strange looks and muttered comments from strangers which made me roll my eyes, but I was not expecting the sexuality assumptions that came with being female with a shaved head, LOL. Sorry ladies!
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