I waffle between calling myself "agender" and "nonbinary," although CuteCrow's term "gender-apathetic" is probably closest to the truth. I don't consider myself a man or a woman, exactly, but I also just don't care about gender as much as most people around me seem to. It feels a little foreign when people refer to me in a very strongly gendered way (usually female, not always), but I also don't feel strongly enough about it to shape my behavior/appearance in any particular direction in hopes of provoking a different response.
What are your pronouns? I answer to anything I can tell is directed at me ( ;
Do you use your hair as a main way to express your gender? No, but as I mentioned up top, I don't really try to express gender in the first place. I have always felt proud of my hair, though, and feel much less positive about other aspects of my appearance. Therefore, I've always kept my hair long, and I'm certain that does contribute to people thinking of me as female even though I don't do so myself.
Do you think your gender influences your hair length goals? Not really. I'm certain that shorter hair would help me come off as more ~nonbinary~ but, again, I really enjoy having it long and am not too much bothered by being gendered female.
Does it affect how you choose to style your hair? I do find that there are some styles that reallllly make people think of me as female--mostly ones that seem "girlish," like double braids or looped braids. I don't wear those styles so much, in part because I prefer to avoid that. But sometimes I just really feel like wearing double braids. . . or, more frequently, I'm about to run late and I wear my sleep hairstyle into daytime life ( ;
Have you ever felt conflicted about your hair regarding your gender expression? I do find that a stereotypically gender-neutral or androgynous appearance is usually more weighted towards "male" visual characteristics, including (usually) shorter hair. I'm certain that more people would clock me as ambiguously gendered if I were willing to wear my hair short. But again, as for the questions above, I can deal with being gendered female even if I don't like it, and I get a big self-confidence boost out of my long hair.
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