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    Default Re: When do you decide it's too long for you?

    Your responses are all so interesting, thank you.

    Quote Originally Posted by spidermom View Post
    I had a dream of classic length, but at that length it seemed to be more trouble than it was worth - hot, heavy, lots of split ends, tangled easily. It looked great in pictures, though! I cut back in increments, eventually settling at collarbone length for 2 years because I loved it; it was so easy. Now I'm growing again, almost waist length now.
    Oh, I feel it. It's hot, heavy, it's starting to tangle more than I'd like (and my hair barely tangles), there's TUMBLEWEEDS of hair collecting every couple days, and I even sit on it without meaning to. It's so fun when I am just swishing my hair around and in photos but yeah, it does get in the way. I think waist it a good length for a lot of people, it's long but short enough that you don't have to pay as much mind to it.

    Quote Originally Posted by MusicalSpoons View Post
    First off, it's an absolutely individual thing and as Ylva said, your feelings sound entirely reasonable and the whole point of long hair is to enjoy it!

    For me, I'm not there yet. I did think about this when I was having to sit down to detangle it most days and it was starting to brush the floor if I sat on a stool instead of my bed, and the fact it was pooling in the plughole when I shower because I have to sit for that too. Right now I mostly sit on my bed to detangle or sometimes stand, and the plughole is clean when I shower so I'm not worrying yet. I think my hemline is what will decide it for me, because there will come a point when I feel the ends are too thin for my liking. Depending on when that happens I might grow on just to see how far I can get, then after that cut back to where I was last okay with my hemline.

    That said, if wearing it down were a reason for me for having long hair, I'd be well past 'too long'! Even before LHC when I was going between hip and tailbone I used to wear it up the vast majority of the time for practicality, though it was okay for wearing down occasionally.
    Oh geez, my hair hits the floor when I bend down to pick something up or clean. I put it up in a bun, but buns are starting to be heavy.

    Quote Originally Posted by AmaryllisRed View Post
    I haven't gotten there yet. There have been times when I had to find new ways to deal with it, but no significant pain or exertion. If that happens, I'd have to cut back.
    If I were you, I think I'd cut back to hip or thereabouts first rather than going all the way up to BSL. Just to see if I was happier at hip. Fingertip to BSL is a loooot of length.
    I feel it, it's starting to become a point of discomfort and pain for me. I never thought this would be a problem for me, because many people still grow to floor length (like on LHC).

    I want to cut a significant portion off (estimated to be at least 21" from my current length back to a bit lower than BSL) so I can SELL IT! I've never done that before, but I look forward to the money to put towards for school, or a trip, or even wigs. I've been itching to try new colors, and I was never able to really fit all my hair underneath a cap without it being uncomfortable or obviously bulky. If I hate it, I suppose I can just grow it back to waist length, which shouldn't be too long.
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    Default Re: When do you decide it's too long for you?

    For me it's when I step on it, and when it goes down the drain when I'm showering, that's gross.

    But all the things you're talking about both manageable and up to each individual to decide for themself. For example: I have an instinctive flip of the head I do when I'm sitting down or getting in a car so my braid doesn't get caught (though sitting on hair really isn't a nuisance at all), and I almost always wear my hair up, so it doesn't get caught in door handles. Wearing it almost all the time in a low bun means it never hurts my head, though I've heard the opposite from other people, so that, too, is individual preference. I'm in the habit of picking up my hair every time I brush it, so the tumbleweeds aren't a problem, and honestly I think longer hair is cooler in the summer than shoulder(ish) length hair because you can bun it effectively so it's off your neck and that's the coolest possible style. All of these are comfortable and pleasant...for me.

    But everyone has different priorities, and different bodies, so what is comfortable for me may not be for someone else, and vice versa (I'm sure I could develop new habits for floor+ hair if I wanted to and be just as comfortable, but I don't want to, so that's my limit).

    I like the idea of the the two-week rule and incremental cuts. Personally it takes me a year or more to work up to actually cutting my hair, but that's because I'm bad at decisions... But two weeks seems reasonable for reasonable people.

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    Default Re: When do you decide it's too long for you?

    I've had super short hair most of my life, so I haven't figured out what too long is for me yet. But knowing myself I think if I'm in danger of sitting on it that's going to be too much for me to handle.

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    Default Re: When do you decide it's too long for you?

    I have short-ish hair by LHC standards, but I imagine that hair that would take too long to detangle/style, or that would get in my way too much, would be the limit for me. Pain would be a hard limit. I am really not sure yet what obstacle I will run into first, though!

    As for the big cut all the way above waist... do you know how fast your hair grows? Before you cut such a big section, I think it could be interesting and helpful to calculate how long it could take to grow back to the next milestone(s). Just in case you regretted it later, so you can weight all your options. I think you could love the change, but since you will not have the benefit of gradual cutting back until you find the perfect length, I would just really think it through. :)

    No matter how you decide to approach it, I hope you will have a lot of fun with your new length!!
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    Default Re: When do you decide it's too long for you?

    I got to classic and then trimmed 3 inches for a better hemline. I really do not like sitting on my hair. but now I a gong to just see where it goes when I get back to classic definitely by Christmas.

    I do strongly advise to go slow in the cuts. You can always go a little shorter, but might regret a large chop.
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    Default Re: When do you decide it's too long for you?

    I've noticed an interesting thing that sometimes a certain length will feel too long or too annoying to someone, but then a length longer than that will feel like less of a hassle to them. I don't like my hair falling into things or onto the floor, but it's starting to get easier for me to tie my ends in a self-knot (or knot bun if you prefer) which leaves most of my length loose and my scalp not too confined, but it effectively shortens my length which helps just a smidge.

    I'm still trying to decide on what's too long for me. I think hip-tbl was the sweet spot before my hair started feeling heavy and before I was constantly sitting on the ends. But I think once I fully learn new habits to move my hair every time I sit it will get easier, which means that longer hair may not be more difficult for me. I am more curious to see how long it can get than annoyed by its length so I'm not cutting back yet, but if the annoyance gets stronger than the curiosity I think it makes sense and is worth it to start cutting back.

    I hope you figure out what will make you happiest and go for it!

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    Default Re: When do you decide it's too long for you?

    Iím loving this thread and how it shows how accepting and supportive this community is. I havenít had my hair long enough since childhood to know what is too long for me, but I do know that once I reach APL, I tend to cut it back. Iíve got some psychological block against going past that length. Iíd like to get to BSL and then decide. I LOVE the idea of a two week cooling off period before getting it cut. I might make a pledge thread for that! Maybe even longer than two weeks. I get so impulsive!

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    I havenít reached that absolute point yet, but I think Iíve reached the point where itís too long (for me) to wear it down comfortably in the everyday life. That point seems to be Bra Strap. The hair gets stuck in the armpits, between the chairs, in the car seats, between the safety belts... and now, in Middle Back, Iím starting to have discomfort sleeping with it braided, the braid gets stuck under me. I may have to work up a new sleeping style, maybe some kind of a braided bun without pins.
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    Default Re: When do you decide it's too long for you?

    esfand have you tried many different bun styles? There are also updos that are not buns but keep the hair safely up and out of the way. Not that I'm trying to dissuade you from cutting, just hoping to help explore all the options first (and maybe if you find you can happily grow longer, you'll be able to sell a longer length and then possibly regrow to there in the future if you wanted).

    Lunnafindel I've not developed the habit of keeping hair out of the way *because* it's always up in a bun though on a small scale just when it's down for some reason before or after bed, I guess I do have habits for that. Wrapping it around my neck doesn't feel great but is effective, especially for bathroom trips.

    redfrau there is indeed a Two-week rule thread https://forums.longhaircommunity.com...d.php?t=139091
    Last edited by MusicalSpoons; May 31st, 2020 at 04:44 PM.
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    Default Re: When do you decide it's too long for you?

    I've always dreamed of having classic or mid-thigh length hair. That's when I've said my limit in length is going to be. I don't think that I can handle it any longer than that. But who knows? I'm going to grow it out to see how long it will grow, and if it gets to a point where I can't handle it any longer. Then, I will cut back to TBL.

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