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    I second (or third?) trying a men's barber. Plus holding up the ends of your hair and saying “only this much”. As long as you’re only getting a straight-across trim, it seems to work well, since they won’t be trying to blowdry and style and generally mess around with your "look".

    I’ve also had good luck going to super-basic Supercuts-type of hairdressers, especially if they do both men’s and women’s cuts – they seem to actually understand a request to cut ONLY this much off the ends and please don’t style, blowdry or use heat!

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    Default Re: Any excuse to not get a hair cut? Anyone else like this?

    I second (or third?) trying a men's barber. Plus holding up the ends of your hair and saying “only this much”. As long as you’re only getting a straight-across trim, it seems to work well, since they won’t be trying to blowdry and style and generally mess around with your "look".

    I’ve also had good luck going to super-basic Supercuts-type of hairdressers, especially if they do both men’s and women’s cuts – they seem to actually understand a request to cut ONLY this much off the ends and please don’t style, blowdry or use heat!

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    Sorry, double-post and I can't edit yet!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sabrina Fair View Post
    Sorry, double-post and I can't edit yet!
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    Quote Originally Posted by stephy190 View Post
    It's been nearly a year. Last trimmed in January. So just need to work up the courage and hope for the best! But just always think if I get a bad haircut don't want to be going out to this upcoming event looking bad etc.
    I also agree with self-trim.


    Quote Originally Posted by MeAndTheMaz View Post
    I've seen a lot of people here say they go to a barber for trims. They seem less likely to Big Chop. Might be worth a try. But first think about what zanelle said.
    But, keep in mind you may need to go to more than one... some barbers will not cut women's hair. (A friend recently had an argument like this with a barber. She's not transgendered but prefers a more-androgynous look, and she wanted a male-type haircut-- and I mean, she already has a male-type haircut and just wanted to maintain it {or maybe she wanted a different style of cut... can't remember}. The barber simply told her they wouldn't cut women's hair. She was like, "...but I want a men's haircut...??") These types may be rare, but, I think I've heard of it happening to more than one person, so I'd advise to not be surprised for any women going to a male-centric barber/stylist.

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    That happened to me a lot (that hairdressers kept cutting my hair way too short, more than I wanted) until I took the time to talk to them seriously and clearly. I made sure they understood that my hair was very important for me, and I reiterated that I only wanted a small trim (I indicated the exact length of the cut with my hand).

    If you say "I want a trim" they interpret that statement as they want. For them a trim could be 4 inches when maybe you only want 1 off.

    They should listen to you, don't worry. And if they cut too much, tell them so they won't do it again. I don't like haircuts either but well, if I want a thick hemline I know they're necessary. I haven't taken care of my hair lately so I know I must have a trim in January. I have a lot of split ends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kat View Post
    But, keep in mind you may need to go to more than one... some barbers will not cut women's hair. (A friend recently had an argument like this with a barber. She's not transgendered but prefers a more-androgynous look, and she wanted a male-type haircut-- and I mean, she already has a male-type haircut and just wanted to maintain it {or maybe she wanted a different style of cut... can't remember}. The barber simply told her they wouldn't cut women's hair. She was like, "...but I want a men's haircut...??") These types may be rare, but, I think I've heard of it happening to more than one person, so I'd advise to not be surprised for any women going to a male-centric barber/stylist.
    That is so weird, though. Could it have been cultural differences? Over here the Turkish barber we have won't even touch a woman's hair!
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    Quote Originally Posted by lapushka View Post
    That is so weird, though. Could it have been cultural differences? Over here the Turkish barber we have won't even touch a woman's hair!
    I can actually explain that.

    Most of western society preaches that women should be able to go into anywhere men do. Should be able to do anything men do. Should have all the same privileges that men do.

    And on its surface that makes sense.

    But men and women are different. And most of the time men are not allowed the same courtesy. Consider the "shame" of a man with long hair, or one who goes to the beauty salon.

    It's not symmetrical.

    And it's good to have separate spaces, sometimes.

    Barbering, in gendered languages, is a masculine word. And barbers are specialists for men's grooming. The barbershop is a male space. Not only by tradition, but by definition.

    Many barbers, particularly traditional ones, are deeply bothered by having man-spaces invaded (notice my phrasing) by women who really aren't supposed to be there. It's not that women aren't allowed to go...it's that they aren't welcome in those spaces. A lot of men just don't want you there.

    I know, I know, it sounds hopelessly old-fashioned to some. And at some level it is.

    But having a space of our own is also important, and that's being stripped from men.

    You may have noticed signs for some shops are different than others, "barber and unisex salon" instead of barbershop. It clearly differentiates between the two skills. Barbering skills are different than hair-arrangers.

    Barbering can be useful for women, too, but it's really not a woman thing. Ask whether you'll be welcome, first, and if you're not welcome just back away.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lapushka View Post
    That is so weird, though. Could it have been cultural differences? Over here the Turkish barber we have won't even touch a woman's hair!
    I doubt it. It could possibly have been a problem with a woman looking androgynous, though, and simply using a different excuse (it could also have been not so much "I won't cut a woman's hair" but "I won't cut a woman's hair to look like that").


    Quote Originally Posted by cjk View Post
    I can actually explain that.

    Most of western society preaches that women should be able to go into anywhere men do. Should be able to do anything men do. Should have all the same privileges that men do.

    And on its surface that makes sense.

    But men and women are different. And most of the time men are not allowed the same courtesy. Consider the "shame" of a man with long hair, or one who goes to the beauty salon.

    It's not symmetrical.

    And it's good to have separate spaces, sometimes.

    Barbering, in gendered languages, is a masculine word. And barbers are specialists for men's grooming. The barbershop is a male space. Not only by tradition, but by definition.

    Many barbers, particularly traditional ones, are deeply bothered by having man-spaces invaded (notice my phrasing) by women who really aren't supposed to be there. It's not that women aren't allowed to go...it's that they aren't welcome in those spaces. A lot of men just don't want you there.

    I know, I know, it sounds hopelessly old-fashioned to some. And at some level it is.

    But having a space of our own is also important, and that's being stripped from men.

    You may have noticed signs for some shops are different than others, "barber and unisex salon" instead of barbershop. It clearly differentiates between the two skills. Barbering skills are different than hair-arrangers.

    Barbering can be useful for women, too, but it's really not a woman thing. Ask whether you'll be welcome, first, and if you're not welcome just back away.
    I... wow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kat View Post
    I doubt it. It could possibly have been a problem with a woman looking androgynous, though, and simply using a different excuse (it could also have been not so much "I won't cut a woman's hair" but "I won't cut a woman's hair to look like that")
    It would have been easier to explain IMO if it were cultural differences (not saying I like that, because it should be equal rights all over). Just going by someone's look is... not on!
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