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    My heart goes out to you for all you have been through!

    I am not going to suggest anything like a supplement or topical thing because after all the health issues you have had I really wouldn't want to suggest something that could be harmful. Dermatologists are a little better at dealing with something like hair loss and taking it seriously than a regular GP so if your insurance will cover it, that's what I would recommend.

    What I do have experience with is temporary health related hair loss and coping with it. I wore wigs for about three years and scarves/hats when I didn't feel like wearing the wigs. During that time, protecting my scalp and what hair I had, it came back in better condition than before, though still thin. I think keeping it protected and not having to style it really helped the regrowth process. You can oil your scalp and hair before putting on your wig cap as well, which makes it like a treatment. There is a website called Name Brand Wigs that I got my nice work wigs from and they have the best prices I have seen. Lots of wig reviewers on YouTube to get some tips. I still love my wigs, though my son has taken most of them to cut and style because he's creative like that.

    I tried clip-in pieces at first but I found them uncomfortable and they can cause traction alopecia over time. It's also hard to match color and texture in clip-ins in my experience, and just more easy and comfortable to wear wigs (and fun). Whatever you choose to do, I appreciate you being here and all your knowledge and hope you have a speedy recovery!

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    Quote Originally Posted by GrowlingCupcake View Post
    Maybe seeing a therapist, if you are able to, would help? Health psychologists can be very useful when hit with sudden chronic illnesses or the stress you are going through with regards to it.
    Oooh yes, seconding this - I thought I'd adjusted fine and accepted my acquired disability (through chronic illness) but it turned out I'd just been keeping my head above water, getting through the days with regards to whatever issues it threw at me, but not really dealing with it. Having some support - that the relevant specialist service decided for me, I didn't think to try to seek anything out myself - actually was really beneficial.

    (Also GrowlingCupcake well done for your calm and reasonable response upthread; I had similar feelings but didn't have a clue how even attempt to say it )

    I'm so sorry to hear you will likely continue to have a lot of stress, but hopefully it won't be on the same level as the shock and trauma to your body as your health emergency so your hair should still keep growing back, even if not as thickly as if you were not stressed. As in, the regrowth should still outweigh any ongoing effects from the 'lesser' stress (I'm in no way minimising your current stress, but relatively speaking for your body it should be less taxing)
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    I haven't been around long enough to know you, but I can feel the pain in your words and I'd like to offer my prayers of strength, self-compassion, and kindness from those around you.I can't begin to imagine what you've been going through and I'm beyond sorry for your loss. Take time to grieve, no longer having something important to you must be devastating. If you'd ever like some patterns for headscarfs, I'd be happy to send them your way. Maybe someone could suggest a soothing cream or something for scalp-care? Rosemary seems like a lovely thing to try. I don't know much about your situation and I can only hope I don't come across as insensitive. Thoughts and prayers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wendyclaire View Post
    I had to condense this long rambling post but this is an awful thing to say to someone going through what AspenSong is going through. Iíve been there and my hair wasnít nearly as long. Itís utterly devastating and the last thing someone needs is a tirade about God and how he did this to you or allowed it to happen! Shame on you!
    Um, ur, the way I would have condensed what I said would be, "God loves you & is there for you." I guess when I say things the long way, it's open to misinterpretation. Sorry for the verbosity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalamazoo View Post
    Um, ur, the way I would have condensed what I said would be, "God loves you & is there for you." I guess when I say things the long way, it's open to misinterpretation. Sorry for the verbosity.
    That is kind of the "gist" of it, of what I got from it. Don't worry about it. And now, I am not particularly religious. I mean I was baptized, did my communion & Holy communion but we were never church goers for the rest, but I still got your message and that it wasn't badly intended *at all*!

    I do have a pretty severe disability and I wasn't offended in any way either.

    It's all for the OP to say as much or as little, IMMHO. Not for us to judge on!
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    Thanks, Lapushka!
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    I think that is a lovely idea to pamper yourself, set aside some "you time", draw a bath for yourself or meditate. Do a hobby that brings you some relaxation and joy. Even something simple as painting your nails can alleviate some stress and brighten your day. I'm cheering you on from the sidelines I wish you the best

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    My heart goes out to you! My mom went through similar experience two years ago with a major health crisis and then hair loss, but her hair has gown back now, and curly too! I suppose a comforting thing to remind yourself when it hurts, is hair was made to grow! And that is the loveliest thing about it! This time of hair tragedy will not be forever. Hugs to you for such a difficult time in your life.
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    Unfortunately, there's nothing that can stop stress-related shedding once it started. It goes away on its own, and the good news is that it will! You just need patience. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you, but it will pass. As my Mom says, "everything flows, everything changes". I'm sending a lot of hugs and positive vibes your way
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