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    Any advice on how to get out of a hair care slump? These past few months I've been quite gloomy and haven't really felt up to taking care of myself, my hair especially. I've not been using my boar bristle brush or doing any king of oil treatments and I've been sleeping with my hair loose and wearing it in all kinds of unsafe hairstyles like high ponies just cause they're easy and convenient. I really want to get back into the groove of taking care of my hair but when it comes time to do it I just never feel up for it and feel so lazy.
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    how long is your hair? a messy bun with claw clips should be the minimum care though. if you don't feel like diy trims or S&D you can go to a hairdresser but don't forget they don't really know something about hair care in general. you can try co-washing if you think wcc is too much of a hassle
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    We all go through different seasons in life, and sometimes you just have to spend your limited energy on your priorities. Be kind to yourself and forgive yourself if your hair doesn't beat out other priorities.

    I've had major depression for the past year or more, and the biggest things for me are to 1) brush at least once a day to prevent gnarly tangles 2) try to keep my scalp healthy by shampooing at least once a week 3) roll with whatever styles you can manage. Honestly, a ponytail is not the worst thing in the world for your hair (compared to heat styling, for instance), so don't be too hard on yourself. A cinnabun is also pretty easy, so I can usually convince myself to take the extra 30 seconds in exchange for not having my ponytail distracting me the rest of the day. Messy buns are still stylish, so roll with the imperfections, too!
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    It's okay if you just don't have the energy/interest to do much right now. Don't force it but take small steps. Is there something you miss about taking care of your hair? Oil treatments, braiding, hair toys... Maybe you can find hair care inspiration online, from here, Youtube or Pinterest etc., or maybe you could try some new product or method.

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    That's perfectly fine and normal! I would second switching the pony to at least an elastic held bun though. I use those cable elastics and if they're soft enough, there's no snagging or damage.

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    I second the bun/claw clip suggestion - it's been a timesaver for me and way better than reaching for an elastic.

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    Don't beat yourself up over not having energy for a full routine. Sometimes we just need a break, and that's okay.

    I agree about switching to a bun instead of a ponytail. Claw clips, sticks or a soft elastic are all good. I'd oil my ends in between washes too.

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    I'm often lazy too. Then I do the claw clip messy bun too. And put some oil in overnight. Is fast and easy.
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    agree with the others - and sometimes I can jolt myself out of something like that with something new - go find a new product to try or new hair toy (claw clips are always great!) sometimes if I do that it will prompt me to want to use it and get back in the groove!

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    Just take one thing at a time and don't try to do too much. When that one thing feels ok to do, then add another one. For example, decide to use your bristle brush twice this week. Put those brushing days in your calendar or maybe use an app where you can add tasks and reminders. Writing things down and planning ahead can really help and it just feels good to see the things that have been accomplished.

    If you were able to do the brushing, brush your hair 4 times next week. If it was ok, you could add something else next week. Maybe decide to do a protective style on Tuesday and Friday. Add those in your calendar and don't forget about the brushing. If it's too much, go back to the first task. You could just brush on certain days for a few weeks as long as you need until it feels comfortable to do. Or if you're feeling better and it's way too easy, add more stuff. Just not too much at once. If you suddenly add 20 thing in your calendar you can get overwhelmed and it's just going to make you feel worse if you can't do everything.

    But it's ok if you feel lazy and take a break. Do things you enjoy, if taking care of your hair will make you feel better, do that. Think about what's the most important thing you'd like to do and start with that. If it doesn't give you any kind of enjoyment, don't force yourself. Focus on things that make you happy and don't be too hard on yourself. Talk to someone about how you're feeling. Things will get better at some point.
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