Should I go back to my natural hair color?

[endlessly]

I'm going to start by saying that at least in my opinion, I take really good care of my hair - I limit my washings, always use deep conditioners and leave-in conditioners, cut out silicones and harsh sulfates, and I never use heat to style my hair. That being said, I still dye it. I know, I know, that's pretty bad, but I honestly can't help myself.

From what I remember about my "natural" hair color, it was a light, golden brown, and I've been coloring it some shade of red/reddish brown for the past 10 years. Lately however, my roots are just getting out of hand. It's so much upkeep now that my hair is as long as it is, so I don't want to keep coloring the entire length, just touching up the roots, but that's almost as expensive (not to mention, still not a time-saver). I have about 2 inches of regrowth right now and the color is definitely not what I remember it being. I know in contrast with the red, I'm probably not getting a true idea of the shade, but it honestly looks like more of a grey-brown, or as I've been corrected in my house "ash brown".

I've always thought of myself as more of a redhead, it compliments my skin tone so much better and I personally think the color is beyond gorgeous...but the upkeep! I don't want to keep coloring my roots every 4 weeks...and that's exactly what I have to keep doing.

I'm worried that coloring my length to match my roots, this so-called "ash brown", will make me look older and that's not something I'm ready for. Any thoughts or suggestions?

[Arctic]

You are right, the roots will always look drab against the vibrant coloured hairs. You will only know how your real, current colour is by letting it grow out.

I coloured my hair from 13 years old to over 30 years old. First with market colours, then with henna. When I grew out my henna, my real colour looked just like you described yours. It was only after I started to have it down to my earlobes or so, that I started to really like it. And when I had cut the henna off, I learned to actually love my colour, and it suits me so well!

The hair colour changes as it is in contact with the elements, the lengths - not to mention the tips! - are never the same colour as the roots. I for example noticed I have some red pigment in my hair. It can be seen in certain light and in photos.

I don't have anything helpful to say, just that it will probably look much nicer than you would think when seeing roots, and that you will have a lot of support for your growing out journey here, if that's the decision you'll make.


PS. Nothing wrong with ashy brown, it's a beautiful colour, I think!
PPS. I understand the identity crisis of changing hair colour. I was also a redhead in my heart, and changing to my own ashy brown colour was a big step. I don't get many hair compliments anymore like I did with red hair, but I think this colour looks good on me, and I love it. I also love the easiness!

[Arctic]

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[Begemot]

I don't think anyone should feel bad about dyeing their hair. Sounds like you already take very good care of your hair and it shows by the looks of it, lovely hair in the avatar picture!
If you are serious when you say you don't want to keep coloring your roots... then don't, just stop and see what happens. Maybe you could try and look the situation from a different angle: maybe your own natural color suits you and makes you look your age/younger! There's so much hate for ash browns around but it doesn't have to be that way. There should be a pride thread for brunettes somewhere here. Maybe you could look that up and see other brunettes?
About my own experience of growing out my natural color. I didn't think I would love it, I guess I thought that I would just tolerate it since I was so sick and tired of dyeing. So there really was no choice. But now I really like and appreciate my natural hair. It's mine and it makes me feel good about myself. Some struggle with their own hair but I would advice to grow the color out before you judge it.
Good luck!! What ever you decide to do All you need to do is what's best for you.

[wilderwein]

I still havent seen a natural hair color that doesnt look pretty! I have seen tho a bunch of hair colored heads (including me) wich just were meeeh. So my opinion is and ispired by another girl in youtube you should let your natural hair color grow and see it before greys start in! Isn't a little bit sad, that almost half of the women have never seen their natural hair color in their adult live?

[lapushka]

Maybe see if you can try going past the 4 weeks without the upkeep. If you can do that, it means you *can* successfully grow out your hair. Why not try that first?

[Rosetta]

Maybe see if you can try going past the 4 weeks without the upkeep. If you can do that, it means you *can* successfully grow out your hair. Why not try that first?

I second that

Also, Endlessly, if you do decide to grow out, definitely try a colour remover like ColourB4 /Color Oops to remove (at least some of the) dye, it will be easier to grow out then, the contrast won't be so big. Like Arctic said, everything else easily looks drab and greyish against red (even if it really isn't)

But I wouldn't necessarily recommend dyeing your length to match your roots to begin with, as a dyed colour will never totally match a natural one, it will never be as multifaceted and natural-looking. And especially with ash colours, the result may well end up looking too "grey" and harsh, which may make you to decide you don't like your "natural colour", based on the dye result (which will be a wrong conclusion)...

I do know what you're talking about, as I've also been some kind of redhead for half of my life, and have felt that's part of my personality & identity, but now I'm kind of growing out my natural colour, at east for the time being Simply because I finally realized it may actually suit me better than the red...

[Arctic]

Oh, and I have occasionally played with temporary colours on my natural hair, it a little bit of fun for few weeks. (says she with freshly dip dyed ends)

[Ferryl]

Inside myself I identify as a blonde, like I was when I was a kid. The last time I dyed my hair it was red. I am currently growing out my natural and it's brown (way darker than I ever remember, especially compared with the red). The red was from a salon, not henna, so in time had faded slightly from the vibrancy it originally had (which actually makes the color transition subtler). I gave up on the dye due to wanting to save money and hating all the upkeep. That was before my LHC days. I never cut off my red, because that would be a lot of length. Instead, I just ignored it and now when I do a bun, all of the hair is my natural brown color and the bun is red, lol. It's doesn't look nearly as peculiar as I worried it would look and with umbre being a thing, my hair is probably more trendy than I ever intended. The first part of the growing our process is the hardest. The good part as everyone has said is that if you can't tolerate it, you can always re-dye. *shrugs* So not really any downside to trying to grow it out and see how you like it.

[endlessly]

Maybe see if you can try going past the 4 weeks without the upkeep. If you can do that, it means you *can* successfully grow out your hair. Why not try that first?

Trust me, I've definitely tried to try doing that in the past, but I have very minimal patience! I think the previous time I had touched up my roots, I had waited 12 weeks and it was a nightmare.