The Random Hair Thoughts Megathread

[Bat]

I've been trying CO for about 20 days I've not noticed much change yet so I might just go back to condition wash wash mask condition,seems excessive but it helps me use up my stash xD

[GordonMurphella]

Hair isn't that different from weight. It's still an aspect of a person's appearance they might not have complete control over, and that might make them feel bad about themself. I'd rather people not mention my flaws, even if they're trying to be helpful. If something isn't right about me, I probably know about it, and if there's a fix, I probably know what it is, and if I'm not doing the fix, there's probably a reason for that.

Exactly this. Thank you for saying it so well.

[lapushka]

Hopefully others will be cautious when posting their random hair thoughts…realizing that their random hair thoughts may just get them a whole whack of disapproving comments about how wrong their random hair thoughts supposedly are. Teasing but wow. Most of you I’ve never even heard from before now but you come out of the woodwork to inadvertently scold me.


I think this whole thing has been blown a bit out of proportion.


In any case, I will continue being myself with people in public because it always goes over in a very positive and sometimes even a surprising and unexpectedly rewarding way. Not everyone in the world loves to be offended. Most people are very nice and enjoy exchanging helpful ideas and tips….and I’m one of those people.

You think *this place* is bad? Oh hang on, I can't.

[vampyyri]

It seems that an aloe leaf off of my plant lasts me about three washes I think I prefer it to the cheap alcohol free gel that I have

[MusicalSpoons]

Forgive me longhairs for I have sinned …

just kidding, but that's kind of how I feel.

I had a dentist appointment today, braided my hair as usual, did a tight braid this time (took me AGES! Literally about 15 mins - if my hair were thicker it would have taken less time) and after the appointment I was sitting on the chair trying to put my hair back up and struggling a little; the stick kept catching a hair from the wrong side of the loop so I was starting to feel self-conscious and I already was a bit conscious of how thin the end was … a tight braid was not a good idea for that. Anyway, I apologised for taking up time (I could have just left it and done it outside of the room but I didn't think of that, plus I didn't want to be dropping my hairstick and having to mind my braid, that's why I felt I had to redo it right then. I was already too tired to think straight).

Anyway, I was apologising and the dentist said it was not a problem, and started complimenting my hair, saying it was nice to see such long hair, yet I found myself deflecting, saying it was too long really and needed a bit of a cut (to which he said no but in a way that made me realise he thought I meant chop it off, so I clarified I meant 'to my knees' - actually my calves but that's unusual to say outside of LHC). I realised afterwards it was because I was ashamed of how thin it is at the ends, and I felt really quite sad that I'd said those things about my hair. It's true I do feel it's too long to keep long term, and it will need a cut at some point, but I just felt like I'd been really horrible to my hair and in a way, to myself. It was really weird. Even weirder because when I first did my braid before leaving, I was really happy with how neat it looked, being tight (yes braid shred as always but I've not done a tight braid for a very long time). It was just so weird, and I didn't like it, but I've realised I do feel quite embarrassed by how long and thin it is outside of LHC. If it were thicker I probably wouldn't feel quite that way, but at the same time if it actually were thicker I don't know that I'd have grown it this long, it might be too much to handle.

So yeah. Next time I'll probably braid a bit less tightly, I've not felt quite so negative about my ends when it's looser and the tassel is longer. It just felt really very *weird* to find myself saying those things, and half believing them.

He and the assistant were sweet though they always compliment my hair and I don't usually feel bashful when they see it, it's only when someone who doesn't know how long my hair is sees it that I feel that way, usually because I don't know how they'll react given that the societal perception of thin ends is that they're unhealthy and need to be cut off.

Rereading my comment, I've repeatedly used 'weird' several times which is something I usually try to avoid. But that honestly is the one single word I've had going round my head the whole afternoon, to describe it.

Anyway, on a nicer note I've put it round my head as a coronet braid this evening. So far 3 spin pins are holding it, as I can't remember where my Amish pins are. I don't know that it looks any good but it feels nice anyway.

[Ada-banana]

Forgive me longhairs for I have sinned …

just kidding, but that's kind of how I feel.

I had a dentist appointment today, braided my hair as usual, did a tight braid this time (took me AGES! Literally about 15 mins - if my hair were thicker it would have taken less time) and after the appointment I was sitting on the chair trying to put my hair back up and struggling a little; the stick kept catching a hair from the wrong side of the loop so I was starting to feel self-conscious and I already was a bit conscious of how thin the end was … a tight braid was not a good idea for that. Anyway, I apologised for taking up time (I could have just left it and done it outside of the room but I didn't think of that, plus I didn't want to be dropping my hairstick and having to mind my braid, that's why I felt I had to redo it right then. I was already too tired to think straight).

Anyway, I was apologising and the dentist said it was not a problem, and started complimenting my hair, saying it was nice to see such long hair, yet I found myself deflecting, saying it was too long really and needed a bit of a cut (to which he said no but in a way that made me realise he thought I meant chop it off, so I clarified I meant 'to my knees' - actually my calves but that's unusual to say outside of LHC). I realised afterwards it was because I was ashamed of how thin it is at the ends, and I felt really quite sad that I'd said those things about my hair. It's true I do feel it's too long to keep long term, and it will need a cut at some point, but I just felt like I'd been really horrible to my hair and in a way, to myself. It was really weird. Even weirder because when I first did my braid before leaving, I was really happy with how neat it looked, being tight (yes braid shred as always but I've not done a tight braid for a very long time). It was just so weird, and I didn't like it, but I've realised I do feel quite embarrassed by how long and thin it is outside of LHC. If it were thicker I probably wouldn't feel quite that way, but at the same time if it actually were thicker I don't know that I'd have grown it this long, it might be too much to handle.

So yeah. Next time I'll probably braid a bit less tightly, I've not felt quite so negative about my ends when it's looser and the tassel is longer. It just felt really very *weird* to find myself saying those things, and half believing them.

He and the assistant were sweet though they always compliment my hair and I don't usually feel bashful when they see it, it's only when someone who doesn't know how long my hair is sees it that I feel that way, usually because I don't know how they'll react given that the societal perception of thin ends is that they're unhealthy and need to be cut off.

Rereading my comment, I've repeatedly used 'weird' several times which is something I usually try to avoid. But that honestly is the one single word I've had going round my head the whole afternoon, to describe it.

Anyway, on a nicer note I've put it round my head as a coronet braid this evening. So far 3 spin pins are holding it, as I can't remember where my Amish pins are. I don't know that it looks any good but it feels nice anyway.

I really get this. My thinner ends are more covered because of my curls but I get this weird unicorn shape due to breakage, I'm already trying to think of ways to explain to people why my hemline isn't as full (layers?) or hide my ends. It's not even that bad. I don't want to feel apologetic about my hair! I apologize enough as it is.

I dont have any advice for you, just to embrace yourself, maybe it will be more acceptable to have natural fairytale ends one day.

My random hairthought: reaching tailbone, I could feel it during yoga (yes I checked my length during yoga, I'm obsessed). And I wanted to complain about the above: my ends, unicorn shape, breakage.

[rosenester]

My hair only grew 1/4” this month. I hope I have closer to 1/2” the next 2 months so I have more to work with when I trim in December.

[Whirly Girly]

You think *this place* is bad? Oh hang on, I can't.

Nah, I don’t think this site is bad at all, or any of the people on it, either. I like this community and I find most people are very encouraging and supportive. I’m not upset with even one person here. Everyone has the right to their opinion and I respect that. No worries, guys.

Forgive me longhairs for I have sinned …

just kidding, but that's kind of how I feel.

I had a dentist appointment today, braided my hair as usual, did a tight braid this time (took me AGES! Literally about 15 mins - if my hair were thicker it would have taken less time) and after the appointment I was sitting on the chair trying to put my hair back up and struggling a little; the stick kept catching a hair from the wrong side of the loop so I was starting to feel self-conscious and I already was a bit conscious of how thin the end was … a tight braid was not a good idea for that. Anyway, I apologised for taking up time (I could have just left it and done it outside of the room but I didn't think of that, plus I didn't want to be dropping my hairstick and having to mind my braid, that's why I felt I had to redo it right then. I was already too tired to think straight).

Anyway, I was apologising and the dentist said it was not a problem, and started complimenting my hair, saying it was nice to see such long hair, yet I found myself deflecting, saying it was too long really and needed a bit of a cut (to which he said no but in a way that made me realise he thought I meant chop it off, so I clarified I meant 'to my knees' - actually my calves but that's unusual to say outside of LHC). I realised afterwards it was because I was ashamed of how thin it is at the ends, and I felt really quite sad that I'd said those things about my hair. It's true I do feel it's too long to keep long term, and it will need a cut at some point, but I just felt like I'd been really horrible to my hair and in a way, to myself. It was really weird. Even weirder because when I first did my braid before leaving, I was really happy with how neat it looked, being tight (yes braid shred as always but I've not done a tight braid for a very long time). It was just so weird, and I didn't like it, but I've realised I do feel quite embarrassed by how long and thin it is outside of LHC. If it were thicker I probably wouldn't feel quite that way, but at the same time if it actually were thicker I don't know that I'd have grown it this long, it might be too much to handle.

So yeah. Next time I'll probably braid a bit less tightly, I've not felt quite so negative about my ends when it's looser and the tassel is longer. It just felt really very *weird* to find myself saying those things, and half believing them.

He and the assistant were sweet though they always compliment my hair and I don't usually feel bashful when they see it, it's only when someone who doesn't know how long my hair is sees it that I feel that way, usually because I don't know how they'll react given that the societal perception of thin ends is that they're unhealthy and need to be cut off.

Rereading my comment, I've repeatedly used 'weird' several times which is something I usually try to avoid. But that honestly is the one single word I've had going round my head the whole afternoon, to describe it.

Anyway, on a nicer note I've put it round my head as a coronet braid this evening. So far 3 spin pins are holding it, as I can't remember where my Amish pins are. I don't know that it looks any good but it feels nice anyway.

Your hair is absolutely gorgeous, MusicalSpoons. Makes me kinda sad that you feel any shame at all, with a gorgepus avatar picture like that! Hair does not have to be thick, or even long for that matter, to be beautiful. As long as it’s cared for, it’s lovely, in my books.


I have a dentist appointment coming up (a cleaning) and I was thinking about how to wear my hair when I go, because a huge bun will be awkward for laying back. Your braid idea is perfect. Thank you.

[ArienEllariel]

Sigh. I wish my hair would hurry up and grow. It's thick enough this time around that at between APL and BSL, I really can't make a bun with a hair stick and have it actually stay. So I'm stuck in sad scrunchie bun territory unless I want to shove bobby pins in it (and even then, the shorter pieces stick out). My braids are so short and chunky still.

[baanoo]

spoons, it is always so humbling to sit with these moments after they happen! I hope you feel released from those feelings now that you’ve wrestled with them a bit and can move on to enjoying your lovely hair in full confidence. I bet it looks great in a coronet.

As someone else whose hair compacts quite a bit in a tight braid, I feel your pain about the thickness of the braid end!