I see Alex (female) at Arabella in NE Portland. She's not super knowledgeable about long hair, though her hair is about BSL, but she's very gentle and respectful. She welcomes me coming in with my own washed hair, is fine not blow-drying, doesn't push me to trim, and is a good communicator. Just go in clear about what you want and let her know. The whole salon is really nice and mellow, and the massage therapist there is AWESOME.
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