Explanation of Contacts & Friends

[Velvettt]

Some of my concerns regarding the whole Friends deal have already been covered. One that hasn't (I think?) is the reluctance to start a war or just insult someone. Case in point: I have very strong opinions on some subjects. Call them hot buttons if you wish. I know from threads at the old LHC that there are people here who would be offended. I am offended by their opinions on these subjects. I do not wish to accept these people as "Friends" or even "Contacts". I would like it if requests simply expired after a certain length of time. I really don't want to publicly insult someone with a "friendship rejected".

[Accolady]

Certainly not asked for, I'm just adding my three cents. LOL.
Velvett, please know this is not a rebuttal to your post, simply
my take for my friends list.

Oh, no, that long-winded woman KM is back on the bandwagon!

So far, I have accepted all friend requests. Though there are
friends in my list with differing views on certain subjects, I
don't know of, or remember anyone from the boards I feel
strongly enough to reject as a friend / pal / contact / neighbor /
whatever-you-wanna-call-it. While I may not like your
particular flavor of ice cream, I can look past personality issues.
Internal hate in a person is another story.

Now if I were to see a post by a certain person with particulars
I highly object to, by all means I would not only remove that person
but probably keep a little list right here by my computer. Years ago
I actually had such a list. I don't care for certain attitudes, but I can't
possibly remember everyone's particulars, nor can I read every post
to find out who is which thinking what. Until I see it, I'll assume you are
a decent person.

Don't show me your underwear and I won't show you mine.

On the other hand, opting only to include friends you know and
trust eliminates the worry of association by friends list, if you know
what I mean.

Speaking only for myself, until you pith me off or I see vile coming from
your posts , you're my friend. To quote Gabiwags..."Be yourself,
unless you suck."

Awwww. Group hug!

Karen Marie
Who is enjoying a day of WITH PAY. Whoo hooooo!

[Wanita]

To quote Gabiwags..."Be yourself,
unless you suck."

Forgot about that! I loved Gabi's quote!

[Teacherbear]

I would like it if requests simply expired after a certain length of time. I really don't want to publicly insult someone with a "friendship rejected".

I think they do, IF the person logs in.

Some of the mods from TBB and I tested it out. I ignored her for several days and she said I finally dropped off her list. Of course, I'd been logging in every day. Now, I have some people I've requested friends with/of and they haven't replied. Of course, they haven't been online in 2 or 3 or 4 years, but I've requested it anyway. I figure if/when they log in a few times, if they ignore the request, then they will drop from my list.

Does that make sense?

[Velvettt]

Thanks, TB! I'm glad to hear that it works that way.

[Hairstorm]

Interesting! May I ask another question? Do contact-only blogs or photo albums show up on any lists for non-contacts/friends, or are they completely invisible? In other words, if I look at the list of blogs, will I only see public blogs and those of friends/contacts? Or will I see everyone's blog and just not be able to view the non-friend/contact ones?

I'm wondering because so far, I haven't been denied access to any blog, and I know I can't be on everybody's contact list! Maybe I just haven't looked hard enough?

[PatGear]

I'm pretty sure the private blogs/albums you don't have access to just don't show up like they don't exist. I recently befriended someone with a private blog and she had all these blog entries that I never knew existed and all of a sudden the latest one just showed up on the "Find more" view once I befriended her.

So yeah, I have this nagging feeling that I missed some people whose journals I used to read on the old LHC and I'll never know it!

[embee]

Oh I am so confused! I don't do MySpace and had no idea this Friend thing was like that.

I think I'll make my blog private - or maybe take it down. I didn't have a Journal on old LHC because I felt private about things, and I very seldom read journals - somehow it seemed like PeepingTom stuff. Even if it wasn't private.

I guess I'm messed up. Nothing new there.

I wonder - can one change Friends to Contacts? Just a question...

[CountessDeJager]

Embee, you can change a friend into a contact by unchecking the friend box and saving the changes but keep in mind it is being a 'contact' that lets people view your private material. The 'friendship' only adds them to your list of photos as people you have friended. To keep someone from being able to material you have set to private means you would have to remove them as a contact as well by clicking the check box on their picture when viewing your friends/contacts and then saving the changes.

[Lady Godiva]

I wonder - can one change Friends to Contacts? Just a question...

You can, but unless they also keep you as a Contact, you may lose the ability to view *their* blogs and photos, if they see that you've "defriended" them. I think this is how it works... Remember that making someone a Contact enables them to see your stuff; it does not enable you to see anyone else's.