Nothing can
make you or I feel a certain way. If my friend has lovely curls (she does, I was admiring them last night!) I have a few options in my mind about how to react to them.
-I can decide I'm ugly because I don't have curls (negative).
-I can become jealous and try to put her down in some way (also negative).
-I can become proud that I have long hair and she doesn't. (arbitrary, petty, and also negative.)
OR
-I can compliment her! (positive)
-I can enjoy the fact that we're out together and we both have pretty hair (positive)
-I can take joy in the diversity of hair types, from her shiny brown curls to my thinner, light brown straight hair. (positive)
The point is, these are emotional choices I made because I am a conscious human being, capable of thinking through my emotions.
The emotions of envy, pride and vanity happen
in our heads, not because of things external acting upon us. (Or because of what's on our heads.
)
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