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woolyleprechaun
February 24th, 2012, 06:56 AM
I read this article when it first came out, and I thought it was worth a mention. The article is observing cheating men and their reasons, behaviour and personalities:(. The author mentions to 'beware of long haired women' as he has found that men tend to cheat with women with longer hair than their partners.....Whats your thinking on this? Is it true/false/daft/cheese:cheese:? Does anyone have any personal experience of this, or have any speculations as to why this seems to happen?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1288748/What-EVERY-woman-needs-know-men-cheat--man-spent-years-talking-hundreds-unfaithful-husbands.html

rock007junkie
February 24th, 2012, 07:05 AM
I would have thought it would be the opposite. Wife: long hair-more "traditional" and Lover:short hair and therefore more adventurous and daring.

woolyleprechaun
February 24th, 2012, 07:08 AM
I suppose it depends on your views of hair. I, personaly, look old and frumpy with short hair :( I never get that quirky funky look I aspire to ;) Ive just got images of SERIOUSLY hairy mistresses wandering about....:)

Chetanlaiho
February 24th, 2012, 07:12 AM
I can see the appeal I guess, with how most older women 'have' to cut their hair short, a young thing with 'feminine' long hair, would be appealing I suppose. Though his suggestion to be wary of women with longer hair is ridiculous :/ correlation míght imply causation but in this case definitely not strong enough to suddenly forbid your guy to see any longhaired women. (Although if it were true, I guess most of us on here are safe? Haven't seen many people with hair longer than the people on here ;))

rock007junkie
February 24th, 2012, 07:19 AM
I can see the appeal I guess, with how most older women 'have' to cut their hair short, a young thing with 'feminine' long hair, would be appealing I suppose. Though his suggestion to be wary of women with longer hair is ridiculous :/ correlation míght imply causation but in this case definitely not strong enough to suddenly forbid your guy to see any longhaired women. (Although if it were true, I guess most of us on here are safe? Haven't seen many people with hair longer than the people on here ;))

You have a point. I hadn't thought about that. Some women as they get older tend to cut their hair short. In that case, I do see how long haired women might have an appeal to men.

woolyleprechaun
February 24th, 2012, 07:26 AM
I think the warning was a bit harsh of him ;) The article has intrigued me for a while....I think its probably giving me hair-orexia issues:rolleyes:

Chromis
February 24th, 2012, 07:34 AM
Haha, I could picture the personal ad now! Must have longer than knee length hair as a dating requirement. :lol:

Not that I ever thought I had much to worry about there, but that makes for very funny mental images.

allmixedup88
February 24th, 2012, 07:39 AM
Long hair is a sign of fertility/health. Hair is an alluring feature.

woolyleprechaun
February 24th, 2012, 07:53 AM
Haha, I could picture the personal ad now! Must have longer than knee length hair as a dating requirement. :lol:

Not that I ever thought I had much to worry about there, but that makes for very funny mental images.
Too funny! I dont think Im a hairy threat to anyones marriage ;)
ETA I doubt DH would run off with a longer haired lady than myself, either. My hair annoys him enough as it is ;)

Moonlake
February 24th, 2012, 07:55 AM
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misspurdy06
February 24th, 2012, 07:59 AM
That article made me sad. The women in these mens lives lack confidence and control. I like what he wrote about how women need to let their men know they are lucky to have them and cheating has serious consequences.

Also those men are pathetic and self loathing.

PixxieStix
February 24th, 2012, 08:01 AM
Interesting. Not quite sure what to think of it though. I have no basis by which to judge this sort of statement by, since I never have cheated or have been cheated on, and neither have any of my friends. Since there seems to be this thought that "you must cut your hair as you get older", and if men are cheating with younger women, that may be the correlation. :shrugs:

Blackfire
February 24th, 2012, 08:03 AM
I remember in high school there was a boy who was engaged to his high school girlly. I was in a machine shop class where I was the only girl soI got a hear a lot of what guys truly think. While she thought he was cheating/had a deep guilty reason to not want to get married sooner, I overheard him tell his friends what he wouldnt tell her. He was afraid that if they got married she would cut her hair off! Its very simple how men think sometimes, and the cheating ones are even simpler.

Beldaran
February 24th, 2012, 08:07 AM
I think people have that connotation in their heads, I offer the following story, it happened to my husband last year:

My husband offered to drive a few guys from work to lunch. One guy hopped into the back and pulled a 2' blonde hair off of the seat. The guy said "Whoa man, who have you been riding with? Don't let your wife know!" My husband laughed and said "That IS my wife's!" :eyebrows:

akka naeda
February 24th, 2012, 08:10 AM
Not so. My daughter's father hated my hair because it was longer than a bob and was always telling me to cut it. He's a manic depressive and very controlling and went off with a blonde with, yes, you guessed it, a bob.

MsBubbles
February 24th, 2012, 08:11 AM
This doesn't surprise me at all! And it's nice to see long hair mentioned in such an article in conjunction with something attractive, instead of long hair = aging/deluded/trying to be 'young'. My DBF was the one who pointed out to me that so many women lop off their hair after they get married. I started noticing it, and found he was right! He is the one who got me to think about growing my hair long. Then LHC took over and the rest is history. :-D

Beckstar
February 24th, 2012, 08:14 AM
Who knows? Maybe a man who is going to cheat would look for a shorthaired woman if his wife had super long hair. Maybe it's being attracted to the opposite of what your partner has?

maborosi
February 24th, 2012, 08:26 AM
I don't know, I read this article in the past and it just looks like another way to pit women against each other. :shrug:

To be honest, all of the people whose boyfriend/spouse cheated on her didn't necessarily go after women with noticeably longer hair. While lomg hair is a sign of youthfulnes, at least speaking biologically, and most men I've met were willing to admit that they preferred longer hair (Including my own dbf), most men I've met also say they brefer bigger breasts. Does that mean women should "watch out!" for women with bigger beasts because their man might cheat on them?

I've always seen cheating as a way that people express their dissatisfaction in a relationship, not necessarily just about who was better-looking or whatever. It is dispicable, and one of the worst things I've seen is women (and men) who are so willing to patch things up with a cheater thst they have no backbone or dignity about it. By doing that, they're sending the message that it's okay to cheat.

I went a bit off topic. I just wanted to say that until a comprehensive study is done, I'm not really ready to accept that idea.

~maborosi~

humble_knight
February 24th, 2012, 08:26 AM
My opinion is that age is probably more important than length of hair. If a man in his 40s is cheating on his wife [of a similar age to him] with a woman in her 20s/early 30s, it's more likely that, by coincidence, she may have long hair.

One of my uncles cheated on his wife during their 20-yr marriage. Now, he's a lonely, old man. My dad, on the other hand, has been faithful to my mum for 39 yrs and they're still together. I know which man I look up to as a role model.

roxee
February 24th, 2012, 08:32 AM
It's really weird reading that article because from what i've seen women cheat more.

elbow chic
February 24th, 2012, 08:33 AM
Why is this article assuming cheating is mostly, or even primarily, a male behavior? Last I heard women were just as adulterous, at least the ones under 40. Weird.

Anyway, I would agree there is kind of an association between long hair and youthfulness, both mental and in actual practice-- lots of longhaired twenty and thirtysomethings do tend to cut it shorter by middle age.

alyanna
February 24th, 2012, 08:47 AM
I haven't read all the responses, but I had an ex-******* cheat on me with a girl that had maybe 1/2 an inch of hair all over and looked more like a boy. Not so much cuz of the hair, but because that's the way she looked and dressed.

******* had a complex against girlie-looking girls (like me). He equated that with flakiness and lameness and weakness. Everything I'm not. He always dissed me when I wore make-up or nice clothes. If you liked butch, why did you have the hots for me, *******?? Needless to say, one day, he found his stuff outside on the lawn in a big garbage bag.

juliaxena
February 24th, 2012, 08:53 AM
Cheating is rarely about looks of the other woman so I don't believe it for a second. Very often the other woman will be less attractive than the wife.

PinkyCat
February 24th, 2012, 09:14 AM
Cheating is rarely about looks of the other woman so I don't believe it for a second. Very often the other woman will be less attractive than the wife.

Yup. I dated a winner who did this to me. This woman was downright mannish. Did awesome things for my self esteem. Not.

roxee
February 24th, 2012, 09:20 AM
I think cheating is more about boosting people's ego's more than anything

Moonlake
February 24th, 2012, 09:39 AM
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heidi w.
February 24th, 2012, 10:03 AM
I think hair length bears low on the scale of why a man cheats or not. I am pretty certain that cheating has little relation to hair length.

More hype. <sigh> ...... oooooo.... evil women those longhaired women are. Good Heavens!

I believe cheating is about how the relationship is going (if there is one which there must be to "cheat", by definition) and about how one feels about themself. That's pretty much it, I believe.

heidi w.

shawty
February 24th, 2012, 10:18 AM
1. I dislike any sweeping declaration saying that men like/do/want/eat any particular thing (by saying this, I have made a sweeping declaration, heheh). It suggests that men are all the same which is simply not true. It's sexist. Period.

2. I don't consider the Daily Mail a valid academic source.

Which is to say - no worries about the content of this article! Stuff happens, but no need to "watch out for longer haired women" or anything like that.

Amber_Maiden
February 24th, 2012, 10:31 AM
(Although if it were true, I guess most of us on here are safe? Haven't seen many people with hair longer than the people on here ;))

Exactly what I was thinking. I'm only just past waist but have longer hair then most women where I live. LOL :p:rolleyes:

Amber_Maiden
February 24th, 2012, 10:33 AM
Stuff happens, but no need to "watch out for longer haired women" or anything like that.

I personally don't think a woman should marry a man she thinks will cheat. I'm not worried if my husband is cheating on me, and will probably never worry about it- not worth worrying about.

ChloeDharma
February 24th, 2012, 10:59 AM
If i was with a man who would sleep with someone else because she had longer hair than me she'd be welcome to him.

jacqueline101
February 24th, 2012, 11:10 AM
I like the article and I'm keeping my long hair. I agree there is an attraction between long hair on women and men longing after it.

littleizz
February 24th, 2012, 11:23 AM
If i was with a man who would sleep with someone else because she had longer hair than me she'd be welcome to him.:thumbsup: VERY well put.

buttercupmcgee
February 24th, 2012, 11:39 AM
Hmm...it's called the "Daily Fail" for a reason. :-)

Cheating is about so much more than looks. It's about connection--feeling appreciated and admired. It most often happens when there's a disconnect between couples emotionally, not physically.

slz
February 24th, 2012, 11:58 AM
Haha, I could picture the personal ad now! Must have longer than knee length hair as a dating requirement. :lol:

Not that I ever thought I had much to worry about there, but that makes for very funny mental images.
Hehehe I showed this thread to the SO and he said "oh darn I'd better start to look right now then !" :D.

Other than that, I wiill just say :bs:.

dulce
February 24th, 2012, 12:09 PM
I do agree with the suggestion that a lot[not all though] men like long hair and as women age they[most, not all] tend to get very practical short dos.As a 60 year old with waist length hair I do notice all the very short haired older ladies where I live and that I feel like the odd man out sometimes..Very rarely do I see a lady [older with very long hair] where I live.My husband hates the short dos and was the one to encourage me to grow long again,I also get a lot of positive comments on my length from older men .I suspect even older men still like long hair.But if a man really loves you it would take more than hair length to make him cheat.But I suspect ,like my husband, a lot[not all!] older men still like long hair and may secretely miss it when their wives cut it off?

woolyleprechaun
February 24th, 2012, 12:23 PM
Its fascinating how many different spins can be put on this! I totaly agree that the Daily Mail is not a reliable source of info:bs:, but the author didnt pretend to be a scientist or specialist in the area either. It was just an odd 'Finding' of his that interested me......I doubt very much if hair actualy is a factor in relationships, but its just funny how these things crop up:rolleyes:. Personaly I feel it may be an age related thing (older/married women cutting their hair short etc) or possibly like he said, a case of cheats seeing long hair=youthfulness:shrug:
Sorry if Ive caused any offence, the article does not reflect my views in any way, I just thought you lot would find it interesting :o and for the record, women do indeed cheat aswel, so sorry chaps for the slightly sexist spin of the article :eek:

sfgirl
February 24th, 2012, 01:16 PM
I think guys just want what they don't have. If they had a wife with BSL+ hair, they'd want a girl with short hair. If they have a woman with dark hair, they want a blonde, if their wife has blonde hair, they want something "exotic".
I don't like how the article makes men the ultimate villain. Yes, some are scumbags. But the reason they were cheating was the same reason women cheat; to fill an emotional void. Sometimes cheating is both people's fault, it's easy to brush a lackluster relationship under the rug until someone fially breaks and does something like cheating. I know so many women who around the same age get obsessed with clubbing, plastic surgery, and things that make them feel "young". Men and women just deal in very different ways.
Besides that, I wonder how many of these men would benefit from a poly relationship? Monogamy isn't for everyone, we can't force everyone into a box society tells them is right.
I think if a husband cheats, you need to figure out the root problem and than move on from there. Is it for the status? Than he probably won't change. Is it because he "realized he's never going to be David Beckham or Bill Gates?" Than he probably needs some love and support, just like we do. Even if you do leave your husband, it doesn't mean you can't give him support.

I'm sorry if my post offended anyone who's been cheated on, but I always believe there are two sides of the coin to any issue.

mzBANGBANG
February 24th, 2012, 01:24 PM
I think guys will sleep with anything that moves and it so happens that more women wear their hair longer than shorter. lol

Unofficial_Rose
February 24th, 2012, 01:41 PM
As soon as I read the thread title I though "Bet that's the Daily Mail".

Home of internalised misogyny. Women more attractive than oneself are inherently evil (mind you, plenty of women seem to think that), long hair on women immoral etc.

Guess it must be a slow news day, no single mums/homosexuals/ asylum seekers to vilify. :rolleyes:

Bless them, they have slipped into self-parody again. :p

LittleOrca
February 24th, 2012, 01:51 PM
What is their definition of long, anyways? If the common hair length now is (for example) shoulder length and the man cheats with a woman who has BSL length hair, is it really that big of a deal? This sounds more like an article about a correlation that may or may not really have any true effect. There are lots of other things to consider than just the men want women with longer hair... not to spoil any fun. :)

Unofficial_Rose
February 24th, 2012, 01:56 PM
Me again. I think the purpose of it is just to make their demographic of reactionary middle-aged women feel scared/feed their self-loathing.

It is such a weird paper, so misogynistic it makes the Sun look positively liberal. And yet popular mainly with women. Just bizarre, really.

lauralei
February 24th, 2012, 02:00 PM
Well, if I were going to cheat on my husband with another woman, I'd choose one with long hair! (But I just like long hair...) :wink:

amybru
February 24th, 2012, 02:02 PM
in the uk short hair is much more common so long hair would be more of a turn on for men as it is unexpected and different

Littlewing13
February 24th, 2012, 03:02 PM
I read an article once stating that women with short hair have no sex drive & so cut off their hair to become boyish, when they get their desires back they grow it long again.

Moral of the story: Don't believe everything you read.

Lipbalmbabe
February 24th, 2012, 03:15 PM
I thinks it's cheese. Men all have different tastes and when it comes to cheating they take all they can get

Bijoux00
February 24th, 2012, 03:47 PM
I'm not sure this is related, but my mum (who is French) told me that in France you used to be able to get a divorce if your wife cut her hair as it was considered to change the person significantly.
It also worked if the man had a long beard and shaved it all off.
Anyone heard of that before?
I guess hair can be a big issue for some people.


I love long hair on men! I would never cheat on my short haired DH though :P

I agree with the other posters that there is probably other things going on when someone cheats.

Audhumla
February 24th, 2012, 05:06 PM
I would say that because the vast majority of women tend to chop off all their hair at a certain age the trend here, if the study is really representative and there is such a trend, probably just means that they're going after younger women. Nothing new there.

FrozenBritannia
February 24th, 2012, 05:33 PM
I'm not sure this is related, but my mum (who is French) told me that in France you used to be able to get a divorce if your wife cut her hair as it was considered to change the person significantly.
It also worked if the man had a long beard and shaved it all off.
Anyone heard of that before?
I guess hair can be a big issue for some people.


I love long hair on men! I would never cheat on my short haired DH though :P

I agree with the other posters that there is probably other things going on when someone cheats.

Well, that's an easy way to get rid of a hubby isn't it? The ancient form of irreconcilable differences. Lol.

Sillage
February 24th, 2012, 05:45 PM
Please.

I am not going to trouble my beautiful mind with an article from the Daily Fail.

maborosi
February 24th, 2012, 05:53 PM
Please.

I am not going to trouble my beautiful mind with an article from the Daily Fail.

Haha. I love this so much :D

Unofficial_Rose- you're so right. I hate that women are egged on and encouraged to fear and hate each other because of someone being more physically attractive. It is so sad. :(

~maborosi~

annamoonfairy
February 24th, 2012, 06:02 PM
I think there is more to a cheating spouse and their reasons then just hair alone.

Sillage
February 24th, 2012, 06:20 PM
Haha. I love this so much :D



LOL it's one of my favorite quotes. Of course it's slightly hazardous to use as people who don't get it will think you're a stuck up snob of epic proportions!

Kat
February 24th, 2012, 06:44 PM
My ex dumped me for someone with shorter hair. Of course, she had much bigger boobs and was more promiscuous, so I'm sure hair wasn't even on his mind...

I mean, if that were true, I'd have few worries, eh? Then again, you'd also think I'd have other women's SOs falling all over me, whereas in reality 99.9% of men don't give me the time of day, so.... obviously there is far more at stake than hair. Then again, I'm preaching to the choir to say so here.


I suppose for women with short hair, that might be true. In my partner's case, he's so vanilla/square/mainstream that I would think a woman with more conventional shorter hair would appeal to him more than me, tbh with you...




My husband offered to drive a few guys from work to lunch. One guy hopped into the back and pulled a 2' blonde hair off of the seat. The guy said "Whoa man, who have you been riding with? Don't let your wife know!" My husband laughed and said "That IS my wife's!" :eyebrows:

I always say i'd never figure out if any SO of mine were cheating if I were to judge by hairs I found... I have hairs that range from blonde/fine to black/wiry... with brown, reddish, etc. in between and all sorts of textures. And then of course there are full-length hairs, right down to the ones that are brand-new and broken off. So finding a very dark, short, thick, curly-ish hair, and another medium-length and red-tinted, in my bed could just mean that I've been there! No help at all. :)



My DBF was the one who pointed out to me that so many women lop off their hair after they get married.

Many women cut their hair short when they have kids, though-- both to make it easier to take care of, and so the kid can't grab at it so easily. Many women also have kids soon after getting married. So...

holothuroidea
February 24th, 2012, 09:02 PM
I want the last 6 minutes of my life back.

What a load of garbage. Men cheat because women aren't strong enough to stop them. If that's not enough for you, they're miserable, too! There you go women, shame on you for making men miserable by not being good enough.

If I rolled my eyes any more they would fall right out of my head.

The long hair thing... whatever. They are "longing for the days of their youth." Well, gee, welcome to life.

roxee
February 24th, 2012, 09:10 PM
I want the last 6 minutes of my life back.

What a load of garbage. Men cheat because women aren't strong enough to stop them. If that's not enough for you, they're miserable, too! There you go women, shame on you for making men miserable by not being good enough.

If I rolled my eyes any more they would fall right out of my head.

The long hair thing... whatever. They are "longing for the days of their youth." Well, gee, welcome to life.

haha that was exactly my thoughts aswell

yummie
February 24th, 2012, 09:20 PM
maybe it applies more to women who wear long hair extensions? lol jk!! :D

Quetiepi
February 24th, 2012, 09:24 PM
My ex dumped me for someone with shorter hair. Of course, she had much bigger boobs and was more promiscuous, so I'm sure hair wasn't even on his mind...

I mean, if that were true, I'd have few worries, eh? Then again, you'd also think I'd have other women's SOs falling all over me, whereas in reality 99.9&#37; of men don't give me the time of day, so.... obviously there is far more at stake than hair. Then again, I'm preaching to the choir to say so here.


I suppose for women with short hair, that might be true. In my partner's case, he's so vanilla/square/mainstream that I would think a woman with more conventional shorter hair would appeal to him more than me, tbh with you...




I always say i'd never figure out if any SO of mine were cheating if I were to judge by hairs I found... I have hairs that range from blonde/fine to black/wiry... with brown, reddish, etc. in between and all sorts of textures. And then of course there are full-length hairs, right down to the ones that are brand-new and broken off. So finding a very dark, short, thick, curly-ish hair, and another medium-length and red-tinted, in my bed could just mean that I've been there! No help at all. :)




Many women cut their hair short when they have kids, though-- both to make it easier to take care of, and so the kid can't grab at it so easily. Many women also have kids soon after getting married. So...


Men cheat for a variety of reasons. It's not just the wife's appearance. There are any number of articles on the internet you could read, and thousands of books on the subject of adultery. I've read a few of them.
Usually they cheat with someone who is the exact opposite of the wife. Temperament, appearance, you name it, what ever is opposite of the wife.

MonaMayfair
February 25th, 2012, 05:44 AM
As soon as I read the thread title I though "Bet that's the Daily Mail".

Home of internalised misogyny. Women more attractive than oneself are inherently evil (mind you, plenty of women seem to think that), long hair on women immoral etc.

Guess it must be a slow news day, no single mums/homosexuals/ asylum seekers to vilify. :rolleyes:

Bless them, they have slipped into self-parody again. :p

Quite! The Daily Mail is notorious for being full of rubbish, lies, and propaganda from cover to cover!!!

LissaJane
February 25th, 2012, 06:33 AM
How about beware of scumbag cheatin' husbands, rather than beware of long haired women who are possibly completely lovely?

I think a lot of the women on this forum are much more in touch with their moral sides than most people out there and would probably never knowingly encourage or agree to a thing with a married man.
If a husband is going to cheat... I think he's going to cheat. Granted you get the few nasty women who encourage it and bring it on moreso than others, but if he cheats, he cheats... It doesn't matter if the women has long hair, short hair, no hair. Ultimately the man has a choice.

Georgies
February 25th, 2012, 07:33 AM
Please.

I am not going to trouble my beautiful mind with an article from the Daily Fail.


I want the last 6 minutes of my life back.

If I rolled my eyes any more they would fall right out of my head.

So true! BUT I did enjoy reading all of your responses!

Astrophil
February 25th, 2012, 07:38 AM
Please.

I am not going to trouble my beautiful mind with an article from the Daily Fail.


Haha. I love this so much :D
[B]


Same! Pfffffff to the Daily Mail.

StormVixen
February 26th, 2012, 03:52 AM
Just makes me think of this... (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5eBT6OSr1TI)

woolyleprechaun
February 26th, 2012, 01:05 PM
Hahaha! Its just such a hated newspaper....I buy it purely so my puppy can wee on it :)

iloveyourstory
February 26th, 2012, 01:21 PM
Dailymail is such a depressing site. I had to stop looking at it because it was making me depressed and negative. I think men cheat with whomever they can, they are about as faithful as their options.

StormVixen
March 2nd, 2012, 04:11 AM
I dislike all this "men cheat" talk... plenty of women cheat too.

diamantenstaub
March 2nd, 2012, 04:20 AM
I read this article when it first came out, and I thought it was worth a mention. The article is observing cheating men and their reasons, behaviour and personalities:(. The author mentions to 'beware of long haired women' as he has found that men tend to cheat with women with longer hair than their partners.....Whats your thinking on this? Is it true/false/daft/cheese:cheese:? Does anyone have any personal experience of this, or have any speculations as to why this seems to happen?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1288748/What-EVERY-woman-needs-know-men-cheat--man-spent-years-talking-hundreds-unfaithful-husbands.html

I have got a personal experience of this. Actually... well, my partner and I were going through a very very hard time 2010. His brother had a bad accident and had to stay in hospital for months - later had to use a wheel chair and actually my partner thought that it's his fault as he was not the "perfect brother". Anyways, he went throught a hard time and he stood back from me .. it was not easy as he did not know how to talk to me about it. He is not good at talking about problems. Anyways, later I found that he had this other girl.. her hair was really really long. Of course I did not like her :cool: Anyways... talking about hair, yes, her hair was long. She was Chinese and actually she had really not a lot of hair. It seemed like you can count her hair on one hand :D Her ponytail was mini mini... I was not jealous about her hair actually but yes, she definitely had longer hair than I have. I am not sure if he did it because of the hair :o I think it was just a very very hard situation for him and he needed deflection.

melusine963
March 2nd, 2012, 08:51 AM
I'm not a man, but I don't really think of long hair as sexy. A lot of hair on this sight is very beautiful in a classical sort of way, but I would have thought that most men would go for a more stylish (and probably shorter) look. Maybe there's a fine line between long and feminine, and conservative and traditional that some people can't see past. I'm certainly not growing my hair long in order to look more attractive because I don't think that would work on me.

HappyHair87
March 2nd, 2012, 09:10 AM
Not so. My daughter's father hated my hair because it was longer than a bob and was always telling me to cut it. He's a manic depressive and very controlling and went off with a blonde with, yes, you guessed it, a bob.

I understand that living w/ a manic-depressive can be frustrating...but i hate when ppl categorize all of us as controlling. Usually if they are that is a personality disorder...that is not manic-depression/bipolar disorder. Not all of us are like that and that really offends me.

I would think men would cheat with a woman who has short, edgy hair.

Helix
March 2nd, 2012, 10:32 AM
Just makes me think of this... (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5eBT6OSr1TI)

:laugh: Loved that.

leslissocool
March 2nd, 2012, 10:51 AM
Cheaters are cheater, men or women. I've never been cheated on, but I know even if DH shaves his head I still love him with all my heart ( I just don't EVER tell him that, or else he will and I LOVE his hair). He likes my long hair though and hates short hair on 90&#37; of women. That's one of the reason's why I grew it ,and I want to grow it longer because he really likes it :crush:.


I could never marry someone who could cheat. I told DH before he even proposed, if he ever cheats this life, our family is over for him (I'll never take him back), and so are his genitals :hatchet: I'd probably lose it. I'm very passionate about the man I love!

Article is just really from the Daily Fail!

Neneka
March 2nd, 2012, 10:54 AM
I understand that living w/ a manic-depressive can be frustrating...but i hate when ppl categorize all of us as controlling. Usually if they are that is a personality disorder...that is not manic-depression/bipolar disorder. Not all of us are like that and that really offends me.

I am bipolar too and not controlling at all but I understand that someone who is controlling and has this disorder can be difficult to be with. I think most of us just try to make it easier to our partners. :)

As for cheating.. people feel attracted to different kind of people. There is no woman that all men want as there is no man that all women want. And I think that I am more attracted to long haired women than my SO is. :o I still would never cheat him.

Kumiko033
March 2nd, 2012, 11:18 AM
Mhh, my ex boyfriend was always complaining my hair was too long and was very delighted and happy when I was above shoulder-length - He HATES long haired woman with a passion for some reason so personaly I think this all is bull.

Seeshami
March 2nd, 2012, 11:46 AM
I'm really glad my goal length is longer then what's popular in my area, I guess?:cheese:

akka naeda
March 2nd, 2012, 11:48 AM
I understand that living w/ a manic-depressive can be frustrating...but i hate when ppl categorize all of us as controlling. Usually if they are that is a personality disorder...that is not manic-depression/bipolar disorder. Not all of us are like that and that really offends me.

I would think men would cheat with a woman who has short, edgy hair.

I did not categorize all manic depressives as controlling, I just said HE was manic depressive and controlling, there is nothing for you to to be offended about in my post. He was diagnosed as manic depressive too.

I let him get away with things because of his depression, but really I knew that most depressives don't trash other people's property, threaten to cut themselves, or to commit suicide just because they don't get what they want. At the time I tried to be nice and put up with it because he was depressed and so things were difficult for him (I've been depressed so I knew how it felt), but I should have ditched him at once. I won't ever let him stay in the house by himself when he visits his daughter if I'm not there though, as I no longer trust him not to destroy my things, even if he miraculously gets better and the depression never ever comes back. If you visited me, assuming we got on, I'd probably be quite happy to allow you to stay in the house by yourself because most people (depressed or not) have an understanding that trashing other people's property is not something that is socially acceptable.

As I said, he hated my hair, because it was too long, and he's now living with someone with a bob. Subsequently I met a guy who thought my hair was great because of the length and how unusual it was. It just depends on the individual.

swearnsue
March 2nd, 2012, 11:48 AM
I saw something on t.v. years ago about things men will never tell women. One of the things is that no matter what, don't cut your hair. Over the years I've ask DH about my hair...should I go blonde? Red? Long? Short? This and that and his answer is always "whatever you want to do Dear". Well, I started growing my hair a few months ago and yesterday I went to trim a little off the back to even it out and he almost freaked out, "why are you going to cut it? You're going to cut all the length off!". So funny. I think for reasons we will never know, most men like long hair. We cut and style and color and highlight but at the end of the day just long healthy hair wins out on the man-scale. Just my opinion. DH is so funny, proof that the excited utterance is the truth.

sfgirl
March 2nd, 2012, 01:35 PM
I think every guy has his hair preferences however. I try to stick with what my guy likes, because he sticks with what I like. There's nothing wrong with changing your appearance for someone as long as they do the same. :)

woolyleprechaun
March 2nd, 2012, 01:46 PM
Im pretty sure that my DH prefers short haired women. Hes very complimentary of shorter styles on myself and others, and often regards long hair as 'horsey' (no, me neither:confused:) But hey, its my hair and I dont grow it to please anyone other than me :D

Changling
March 2nd, 2012, 04:02 PM
I think it could be true that men are more likely to cheat with a longer haired woman...but what are we supposed to take from that? Don't let him meet longer-haired women? Be the longest-haired woman? I think if he's a cheater, he's a cheater. He's not going to be faithful just because you have the longest hair.

How about this...I'd rather die cold and alone than be in a relationship with a cheater.

natural_shine
March 2nd, 2012, 04:47 PM
... women usually cut their hair after marriage.

I've never yet met a man who doesn't like long hair in a woman.

Actually, quite few times I've heard from men -as a reaction of women dramatically cutting their hair- that they just want to be single, it's like a showoff of being unavailable.

So yes, men might be inclined to cheat with longer haired women. But it's simply a sign of lack of love and small mindedness. Better sooner than later.

AcornMystic
March 3rd, 2012, 04:23 AM
I think every guy has his hair preferences however. I try to stick with what my guy likes, because he sticks with what I like. There's nothing wrong with changing your appearance for someone as long as they do the same. :)

I understand how that can be sweet, to be considerate of one's partner's preferences, but my initial thought of your paragraph was; Focus on satisfying your partner with your self and not focus on satisfying yourself with your self. So each of you strives to alter the self to satisfy the other "sticking" with that. What a way to never be in touch with what you want for your own self, purposefully doing it. I suppose if that makes those in a relationship both happy to want to make the other happy and never wishing to be satisfied with their own self. Sorry if that makes everything so confusing, but the word "self" is separated on purpose addressing the actual self. One's individuality and what makes them who they are.

As for the article... I think it is total rubbish. It's taken only one aspect of the statistics and used it to demonize an entire group (long hairs), not looking farther into the facts and the various circumstances that cause cheating. It's also given a distraction for men, pitting women against each other, offering them the opportunity to cheat and/or continue to do so. Women seriously need to come together and put the smack down on unfaithful men and put them in their place. Us women need to read the book "The First Sex" and regain our confidence and knowledge as the ones who really run the show. I don't want to sound like a feminazi, but seriously, this is getting downright ridiculous and women do not realize how important a part we play in the natural world.

My one ex-boyfriend didn't leave me because a few months into our relationship I decided to cut my hair from APL to a 3 inch pixie with 6 inch bangs for my graduation and decided to keep it short. He left me for a model, a year later (though who knows for how long their little online fling went on for as he knew her for 2 years longer than I), who happened to have long hair, BSL-waist, because he was too weak to be my rock in a hard time and stick it out with me with only "hope" that things would get better. He responded to the emotional stroking he got, since he was weak of mind in the first place and would snuggle up to anyone who would rock his cradle. What drew me to him was also what made him such a poor partner; a wet noodle. I just didn't break it off when I first saw his weakness, being in a vulnerable state myself having had my father pass away, the day after my graduation at that, and it was him that eventually broke it off. Anyone could take the fact that I cut my hair and she had long hair and was a model and completely dismiss the fact that he was just simply a weak baby of a man who could not be strong for his partner during a tragic life event. Me having crazy long hair would not have made a difference and made him miraculously a stronger more suitable partner.

To lighten the mood and play with the article, though, I guess since I want to grow my hair down to my knees and beyond I don't have to worry about my husband cheating on me, completely dismissing the fact that I met him with chin length hair, got into a relationship with him with chin length hair, married him with chin length hair (with extensions to suit the theme of my wedding dress), and only since joining am making a conscious effort to grow it out. The only thing that has changed is that he now finds excitement in my growing hair, as growing my hair is something I now find exciting, and strive to do, and he manages to find all my interests exciting. Short hair or long hair my husband didn't get with me for it, will not cheat on me over it, and to play around with statistics claiming you're informing women and then watch them bear their claws and go at each other is pathetic... Cheating men just need to take responsibility, gain some self-respect, respect for their partners, and commit. I don't want to leave female cheaters out, even though this topic is about male ones. They could really benefit from doing the same... >.>

Raiscake
March 3rd, 2012, 09:34 AM
I found out this guy I was seeing for a few months back then had a long-time girlfriend. He was cheating on her with me and I had no idea. I felt so awful and worthless. :(

Anyway, I had shoulder-length hair back then. His gf had really long hair. So hair length has nothing to do with it.

HappyHair87
March 3rd, 2012, 10:22 AM
I did not categorize all manic depressives as controlling, I just said HE was manic depressive and controlling, there is nothing for you to to be offended about in my post. He was diagnosed as manic depressive too.

I let him get away with things because of his depression, but really I knew that most depressives don't trash other people's property, threaten to cut themselves, or to commit suicide just because they don't get what they want. At the time I tried to be nice and put up with it because he was depressed and so things were difficult for him (I've been depressed so I knew how it felt), but I should have ditched him at once. I won't ever let him stay in the house by himself when he visits his daughter if I'm not there though, as I no longer trust him not to destroy my things, even if he miraculously gets better and the depression never ever comes back. If you visited me, assuming we got on, I'd probably be quite happy to allow you to stay in the house by yourself because most people (depressed or not) have an understanding that trashing other people's property is not something that is socially acceptable.

As I said, he hated my hair, because it was too long, and he's now living with someone with a bob. Subsequently I met a guy who thought my hair was great because of the length and how unusual it was. It just depends on the individual.

I know you didn't say all...but i hate when people in general put that on us as if all of us are that way. As if we're controlling because we're Bipolar. If anything i personally am simplly a walking party who loves it when ppl are themselves...i get freaked out by ppl who switch up on me.shudder:

But now that you explained it more i understand what you mean.:agree:

It's all cheese now:cheese:

HintOfMint
March 3rd, 2012, 10:57 AM
This is the Daily Fail. This, like many other publications, thrive on sensationalistic articles and headlines that force women (mainly) to feel bad about themselves and insecure and nervous. It's an addictive behavior to feel nervous and insecure and it even feels good in that terrible sort of way. Horror stories about relationships, weight, looks, and children are forced to be "women's issues" because that's all women are supposed to worry about :rolleyes:
Here's the deal: men are in relationships too, men get overweight too, men age too, and men have children too. Yet women are the ones to worry about it because THAT IS WHAT WE ARE FED. And it consistently garners page views and increases advertisement revenue.

How revolutionary would it be to look at these articles that shame women for growing old, gaining weight, not feeding your child organic produce, and "letting" your man cheat on you, and say "THIS IS NOT MY PROBLEM" as a woman?

If, heaven forbid, my partner cheats on me, I will deal with his sorry behind when the time comes. Until then, I refuse to give this anxiety-inducing article any sort of hold over me. It is just someone's cockamamie idea, and ideas, need attention like people need food. And like people, when deprived of food, ideas die when deprived of attention.

heidi w.
March 3rd, 2012, 11:03 AM
I've gotta tell ya, this kind of thread kind of disappoints me as it's kind of keeping stereotypes running and giving them some kind of validation.

In my opinion people cheat not because of temptation, but because they've got something screwed up in their head regarding their priorities and promises that they may make.

It also appears to me that someone sort of doesn't understand the thinking of "cheating". Cheating has very little to do with what a woman looks like, in reality.

Not every guy is a Charlie Harper!

heidi w.

Mrs.Witherup
April 22nd, 2012, 06:43 PM
Cheating is rarely about looks of the other woman so I don't believe it for a second. Very often the other woman will be less attractive than the wife.

This! Totally! I had a gorgeous friend who's hubby cheated on her with a much larger woman, with short thin horribly processed hair! She was devestated and bewildered, why would a man cheat with a less attractive woman?
Stupid men...

SacantRoese
April 22nd, 2012, 07:15 PM
I've observed several men that cheated on their wives with several different women, and for the most part their wife had short/medium length hair.

Other than the fact that some men are plain idiotic, the long hair thing sounds like complete bunk to me.

Jing
April 23rd, 2012, 04:06 AM
I would have thought it would be the opposite. Wife: long hair-more "traditional" and Lover:short hair and therefore more adventurous and daring.

Really? Most women seem to "traditionally" cut their hair after they get married. Not straight away, but certainly by the time they have children.

There are all kinds of weird and random statistics about relationships. For example, statistically there is a greater chance of a marriage being a happy one if the wife is more attractive than the husband (regardless of whether they're a 10 and an 8 or a 3 and a 2). What does this tell us about how we should behave? Absolutely nothing.

Let's say it's true that men who cheat generally do so with women who have longer hair than their wives. What does this tell us about how we should behave? Same thing. It's not like the chances of your husband cheating on you are inversely proportional to the length of your hair.