Does anyone else's SO think they're crazy?

[CrunchyMama]

So my DH, thinks I'm crazy since I started taking care of my hair... And he used to complain that the ends looked unhealthy. Now that my hair's condition is starting to improve because I'm looking after it, he thinks I'm crazy and obsessed and going to extreme lengths (pun intended), trying all these new methods and hairstyles. Full blown eye rolls when he sees me checking out the forums.

Does anyone else have a SO who does not support their hair goals? He is amazingly supportive in all other things, but thinks I've gone off the deep end when it comes to my hair. And it's definitely gotta be one of those grass is always greener things, because when my hair was shorter he said he always wanted it longer, and now that it has gone past BSL to WL, he thinks it's too long. He appreciates the results of my new styling methods, but thinks I spend too much time on LHC looking for new ideas.

Sorry for the rant, but I'm looking for others in my shoes so we can lean on each other. ;)

PS. If this belongs on the Friendship board, feel free to relocate, mods! :)

[nakmom]

My SO is the same way! After some thought I decided to try CO washing, so I went out to buy conditioner. I couldn't decide on a scent, so I bought like 5-6 bottles of Suave Naturals. He tried telling me that I can't buy any more until next December! HA! :crazyq: Oh well! I guess he'll just get use to it. :p

[kitschy]

My SO thinks I'm crazy, seriously insane....but it has nothing to do with my hair obsession. :mad:

[Amber_Maiden]

Nope, mine thinks I'm just "seriously dedicated", though he does find my S&Ding obsessive.

[jacqueline101]

I'm afraid to ask mine.

[NativeGirl]

My DH thinks I'm nuts and obsessed with my hair. When I log onto this forum, I can hear him mumbling. I'll be looking for split ends while riding in the car, holding chunks up using the sunlight to spot them - and wham! - he smacks my hand and says something about how people will think I'm crazy. :/ At first, it didn't bother him. It wasn't until I started to henna/indigo that he really started to get peeved. Once, I accidentally dropped a bit of henna on our bathroom floor (I didn't realize it was there). I had left home, and when he got home, he saw it. He flipped out because he thought our dog was sick. He took the dog (who had been in his kennel) to the vet, and $1,300 later, the vet told him it was henna. Boy, was I in trouble. Ever since then, he's been an a$$ about anything related to my hair. Heaven forbid I am washing my tangle teezer or buying a new bottle of conditioner. :(

[arcane]

Mine thinks I spend too much time on my hair. However; he also doesn't have an opinion on my hair (his words, he says my hair is mine and trying to get an opinion of it out of him is like pulling teeth). The only thing I've definatively got him to say is that he likes when my hair is dyed red, because that is the colour I had when we met.

[Oksana]

My SO does support me but he thinks that all these changes won't make much difference. I can't wait to have long healthy hair and prove to him that it does work!

[white.chocolate]

What does SO stand for? I looked at the articles section but it wasn't on the list.

[gothicchick]

mine isn't too bad, but when i comment on things like 'ahhh i have more split ends again'

he's like 'of course you don't'

it's like 'err yes i do, their right there!!!'
he also thinks my oiling is silly, he's like 'why would you wash your hair and then put oil on it?'
*rolls eyes*

and buying more expensive hair products is apparently silly too :P

[suzye]

What does SO stand for? I looked at the articles section but it wasn't on the list.

Significant other.

Mine supports my hair obsession! He always pokes fun at me when I sleep with my cap on though.

[white.chocolate]

suzye, thanks!

Well, mine is very supportive. :)

[Anje]

I'm pretty sure mine thinks I'm a bit nuts, but it's not specifically related to the hair. He actually finds the whole hair/forum thing a bit cute, as it's one of the few stereotypically female things I do.


Then again, I now have him proudly putting henna and indigo in his beard thanks to this place.

[Bene]

My b/f thinks it's a cute hobby, and he's in full support since it keeps me quiet. Besides, he's got his own hobbies and interests, so worrying about mine wastes everybody's time :D

[AndreaPetrea]

DBF thinks I spend too much time on my looks in general. He thinks it's superficial. On the other hand he likes when I wear makeup and nice clothes and wear my hair up :confused:

A couple of years ago, on a vacation, he got tired of me asking "Do I look ok?" and told me that I was only allowed to ask twice a day :laugh:

[Libbylou]

My DH shakes his head and mumbles when I read the forum. I try to do the masks when he is not home. My son always remarks "What do you know, you put food on your hair." I just laugh.

[kidari]

He has his hobbies and I have mine. It doesn't bother me if he's really into something so long as the amount of money he spends on it is not out of control and he feels the same about my hobbies. The only thing he would complain about is if I constantly ask him the same questions about my hair over and over again. Or if I'm always asking him to take and retake a picture of my hair. He does enjoy that I share my hair products and knowledge of haircare with him. In addition to cutting my own hair I've been cutting my husband's hair for over 6 years now. When we finally get a house I would love to have a salon/spa room. He says he needs the garage to be completely his space and I respect that since he does all my car detailing and maintenance. I am actually interested in learning how to drive cars with manual transmissions and doing my own oil change or at least help him do mine this year.

[Cocoa_Crema]

DBF thinks I spend too much time on my looks in general. He thinks it's superficial. On the other hand he likes when I wear makeup and nice clothes and wear my hair up :confused:

A couple of years ago, on a vacation, he got tired of me asking "Do I look ok?" and told me that I was only allowed to ask twice a day :laugh:

Yeah, isn't that funny??? They like us to look beautiful, classy, and well put together but I guess they don't really understand the effort that goes into it. So when they see us actually investing the time into it, and asking if we look alright they think we are vain.

*sigh*

[BlazingHeart]

My DF is amused by it, I think, but he does like how my hair looks. Then again, he pretty much always likes how my hair looks, so *shrug*.

The only time he's done anything resembling complaining was about the amount I spent on hairtoys the past few months. He started at a much better paying position in August, so I took advantage of the larger paycheck and bought a bunch of pretty things. He does, at least, recognize that my forks ARE pretty and worth the money I spend on them...

~Blaze

[QMacrocarpa]

Nah, it's just an interest, and he has some unusual interests too, which I'm fine with. It probably helps that I'm a benign-neglecter and a non-S&D-er, so growing my hair isn't much of a spectator sport. I freely admit that I do a certain amount of unproductive online noodling-around, reading blogs and so forth, so I guess hanging out here is part of that. It's just part of my reading for relaxation.

[Mommyof4]

My DH thinks that I'm a hair addict :) He doesn't want my hair to grow longer than waist because he finds hair longer than waist "unattractive".. while I feel like, the longer, the better!

When my hair hits the back of my knees.. he's just going to have to get over it :D

He is also driven crazy everytime I buy a new hair product and tell him the whole explanation about its benefits hahaha..

[Viscountess]

My SO is....funny. He is supportive, but he teases me. He refers to me surfing the LHC as "Hair Porn", and calls my henna "mud", as in "are you wearing mud on your hair again?". I've nearly taken his eye out with hairsticks which he finds very upsetting and he does find himself annoyed with the many half used bottles of conditioner in the bathroom too.

[spike316]

Well I think it helps that my boyfriend and I aren't living together, but he just thinks it's adorable how invested I get in things. ^_^

[Deliciosa]

My SO is....funny. He is supportive, but he teases me. He refers to me surfing the LHC as "Hair Porn", and calls my henna "mud", as in "are you wearing mud on your hair again?". I've nearly taken his eye out with hairsticks which he finds very upsetting and he does find himself annoyed with the many half used bottles of conditioner in the bathroom too.

LOL mine says the same. I mud only once every fortnight, so he is good with it.
He does not like when I wear my hair up. I wish he would understand how bugging TB long hair can be. And quite frankly I dont want to burn my ends while cooking, or wash them while doing the dishes or what not. He calls me Thel(hindi for oil)-head when I oil and when I use my mahabringhraj oil he says that I smell like I a Freshy from India. But beside those little jokes he is pretty cool in comparison to what I read here.
Girls lets face it, they have no idea WHAT we are doing and just like to add a stupid comment, because they dont understand it.

[spidermom]

The only thing my DH objects to is S&D. He tells me to STOP!

[long&blonde]

SO stands for "significant other". Yep, mine thinks I'm crazy, tho he won't say it. When I got back from the salon & told him the stylist had measured my hair wet;official Mid BCL? He first mumbled "Well maybe its time to.." then caught himself & said "I know if it were my hair, that would be too much hassle for me." He wants to be supportive of whatever I want,I can tell. But I can tell he's realizing "she is hair obcessed."

[Shebelina]

Mine told me he loved my hair the other night and that I should never cut it. The next day, after having to wait for me to detangle and style, he told me I should cut back to waist so I wasn't wasting so much time. Personally, I think he deserved the brush that was aimed at his head :P

They can be so fickle sometimes.

[Shebelina]

Also, he thinks I'm crazy for being on this forum. I think he's crazy for following wrestling so I guess we all have our little quirks.

[aisha.christine]

My SO is pretty supportive, but he does jokingly call me crazy :p He's not making false assumptions; I'm pretty loony :D


... calls my henna "mud", as in "are you wearing mud on your hair again?"....

My DBF calls it baby poop. :D
When I told him I was thinking about using henna again, he asked if he was going to have to slather baby poop on my head again. :p

Even though he makes fun of my hair obsession, he likes the outcome, and thinks it's good that I'm funneling my mania into another hobby, so I guess I can't complain too much.

[Aerin]

Mine likes that I'm actually interested in long hair now, though I think he thinks I'll have an impulse at some point and chop it short before it actually gets long.

When on this forum though, he always asks how the hair people are doing, and if everyone still has hair. =)

[Zesty]

My DBF is supportive of long hair in general (he's the original inspiration for me growing it out, though now I own it completely lol) but he teases/laughs at me a lot. When I braid my hair on the top of my head to sleep, he calls me oddish or onion head or unicorn. When he saw how much my Grah-Toe forks cost, he was like "$60 for a hair thing?!" He thinks S&Ding is obsessive -- though to be fair, in my case it sometimes borders on obsessive. And if he saw me doing a DT or something... I can only imagine! But he has his obsessions and I have mine, and we generally don't hate on the other for it, only tease.

[Kitkey]

My DBF thinks I'm crazy, but he says it's a good thing I'm crazy because it means I can deal with his craziness. :p

I could just about hear the eye roll from the other end of the house when I yelled "honey! can you come saran wrap my head?" the first time I tried henna. He also thinks that since I'm trying WO washing that if my hair is wet it's washed. "How can it take you so long to shower if you're not washing?" :rolleyes: He is very supportive of any crazy hobby I manage to get myself involved in though. :)

[CrunchyMama]

A couple of years ago, on a vacation, he got tired of me asking "Do I look ok?" and told me that I was only allowed to ask twice a day :laugh:

Bahahaha, this made me lol, I'm surprised I haven't gotten this yet!

[CrunchyMama]

Thanks everyone who commiserated with me! I feel so much better knowing I'm not alone!

[Piyo]

My boyfriend actually bought me my first silk pillowcase for Christmas, and the other day he curiously looked at some new shampoo I bought. He seems to get a tad annoyed when I bug him to take length shots for me, but it's usually because I'm interrupting him. All in all I think he is fine with my hair obsession. :)

[Tia2010]

My dh was resistant to the idea of my growing it long at first (he doesn't like long hair that just 'hangs there'...his words)

But now he is liking it more :) so he doesn't really say much about it ...except he hates when I deep oil my hair before bed and wrap it in a scarf.. He's like: Really hon? :rolleyes:

[Lostsoule77]

My DH says that I'm obsessed and that I spend too much time on here. He doesn't say much when I oil my hair or buy new conditioners and stuff. He gets annoyed if a style takes too long or if I interrupt him to take a picture. Whenever I ask how my hair looks he says it always looks the same! He doesn't notice the difference between a knot bun and a braided lazy wrap!

Then again he went crazy looking for a nice hair stick for me for Christmas so I guess he supports me a tad. :)

[piffyanne]

My b/f thinks it's a cute hobby, and he's in full support since it keeps me quiet. Besides, he's got his own hobbies and interests, so worrying about mine wastes everybody's time :D
^THIS!^

My DBF dragged me into Reenacting, and I've spent nearly a thousand dollars (!!!) this year, mainly on vintage 40's clothing (to my vindication, if you can call it that, each new dress I've picked up looks fabulous on me, and it's completely re-sellable if I decide to get out of the hobby), and I've spent nearly every weekend of three seasons out of four at some reenactment or other with him, so anything he could say about obsessiveness hair-wise would probably end with me throwing his prized Japanese-made Brown Bess musket at his head.:p

When I talk constantly about my hair and the new stuff I'm learning on the LHC (still excited about the growing process! Wheeeeee~!) he listens, and when I realize how long I've been droning on and apologize, he says it's been interesting (and doesn't sound bored.) Either I'm dating the world's best actor, or he doesn't mind.

When discussing how long I should grow my hair, he just said "remember, you'll have to plan in extra time to take care of it the longer it gets." He seemed a little worried about the image of my hair I'd Photoshopped to finger-length that I showed him, too. My hemline's very thick right now, so my entire body seemed to be obscured in a curtain of hair. (He mentioned "Cousin Itt," hilariously enough!) When I reminded him that it may be getting fairytale hemlines by then, and that I move so much that it would look more like a living curtain than a static drape, he started coming around to my way of thinking, I think.

It's my MOM that thinks I'm going insane, frankly. Whenever I start discussing what's next in the future of hair treatment, or why I need a seam-free wide comb, or why coney or sulfatey shampoos/conditioners might be bad for my hair, she ALWAYS says she's worried I'm getting unhealthily obsessed. She's dared me to go a day without mentioning my hair ONCE (went 3 days, no issue, no uncontrollable shivering, no hives), and I'm just waiting for her to try to put me into rehab.

I keep telling her I'm NEW to the LHC, that I'm coming across new information I'm excited to know, and that I'll calm down in a matter of time.:rolleyes:

[ButterflyKissx]

Nope, DH is very supportive about my hair growing. He doesn't me buying anything though I will ask about buying a hair fork soon since the one I want is a bit pricey. lol
He knows it makes me feel good and he likes that. I helped him with his dandruff problem a while back.

[hanne jensen]

My DH is very supportive of my long hair journey and doesn't think anything is too wacky to try as long as it gets results. DH is more excited about each centimeter of growth than I am!

[owlathena]

DBF thinks I'm crazy, but still supports me in my hair goals. He teases, but lovingly.

[Carissamarie08]

Yes he thinks I need a hobby....this is my hobby!

[Lucky]

My husband is very supportive of me, except for my hair, he thinks I'm nuts too!

He's pretty much just stopped asking me about anything hair related, he just lets me have my (harmless) obsession.

[AndreaPetrea]

Yeah, isn't that funny??? They like us to look beautiful, classy, and well put together but I guess they don't really understand the effort that goes into it. So when they see us actually investing the time into it, and asking if we look alright they think we are vain.

*sigh*

*Sigh* indeed. Yes, I guess they just don't understand :rolleyes:


Bahahaha, this made me lol, I'm surprised I haven't gotten this yet!

I told him that it was fine if he would then just tell me if I looked stupid. But guess what - I can have mascara under my eyes, messy hair, something strange on my cheek, something between my teeth... AND HE DOESN'T NOTICE!

[sazzie88]

i think some men dont notice anything> I have one of those lovely ones!

He wouldnt even notice if the colour changed or I have a new style. He must walk around with his eyes closed! Its nice to feel that someone notices :-(

[sazzie88]

But thinking about it a new bottle of conditioner in the bathroom does not go unnoticed!

[Gothchiq]

Heck no. He loves it. His hair is down to the small of his back and he's excited about all the ways to take care of it.

[freckles]

yes, my boyfriend thinks the whole thing is ridiculous. It's really not the thing he thinks is most ridiculous about me, though.

:)

[naturegirl321]

Mine thinks I act like an old lady because I take care of my hair and skin. We're not on the best of terms though.

[slz]

DBF thinks I'm crazy, but still supports me in my hair goals. He teases, but lovingly.
Pretty much this. Also whenever I talk about trimming he talks me out of it - I end up doing it in spite of him when it's really necessary, but he's alwys afrad I might cut too much :D .
Oh and he enjoys the beautifully crafted hairtoys, in spite of the price he might find a bit excessive sometimes :o.

Yet he stills calls LHC "your f*tish forum" :D.

[Ari421]

y second post here but my husband is very supportive he loves long hair I have been growing it for almost three years finally way below my bra strap! looking for some tips, sooo much info though not sure hwat to try!

[practikalmagik]

My DF is totally supportive about it, seeing as his hair is longer then mine still. He likes all the tips and advice I've given him and both of us have definitely benefited from the collective knowledge of LHC . We're on a race to see who reaches terminal first now! His hair has always been long whereas I've been growing mine out from vv short when we first met. I'm almost catching him up though now, am at waist woot!

[LaceyNg]

DH thinks its a temporary obsession that i'm ging to get over. i dont think he believes i'll make it to y goal and keep up with it. he kind of grumbles about me spending so long on the forums, and asks "do they pay you there?". lol. but when i ask him he does take my hair pics and help me measure! when i asked he said he doesnt find super long (as in classic) hair particularly attractive, would prefer that i stay around shoulder length. but he doesnt ask me to cut it or anything, and understands that i grow my hair for me. :)

[Jean Stuart]

My SO rolls his eyes allot and tells me I waste money on hair stuff. But he prefers my hair long so he just gets the eye rolls back.