I did everything I shouldn't to my hair yesterday...

[julliams]

Well, not everything, but I did brush when wet and blowdried, ripping my brush though trying to get it to dry in a reasonable fashion in only 15 minutes.

I could hear it cracking and breaking which broke my heart. I guess I should have just put it in a bun.

It was my daughters birthday party and after working on her costume for over a week, I was still finishing it off 45 minutes before we had to leave. Then I quickly jumped into the shower, washed my hair and proceeded to "kill" it trying to get it dry in time.

I feel awful about doing this but then I thought that this is possibly what I did to it every time before LHC.

What have I learnt from it?
1. Well, don't brush your hair when wet when you are in a hurry.
2. I could have blowdried it wavy and then just put it up in a nice updo.
3. I really don't like my hair straightened anymore. I don't identify with straight hair.
4. When I'm in a rush - I don't think rationally!!!

Today I think I'm going to wash it again and put a treatment on it (probably just so I feel better...)

[Copasetic]

#4 is the story of my life! Whenever I am in a rush I do things that I know my hair hates, like blow drying, or running out the door with soaking wet hair. Thankfully I don't do either of these things too often.

[Trish in SC]

I can relate. I had "hair guilt" a couple weeks ago when I flat-ironed my hair. I was going to a party and it just didn't look good...so out came the flat-iron. I felt so bad that I super conditioned it the next day, and kept it far away from hot, mean, damaging machines!

But, this does bring up an issue for me; maybe you can help. I don't feel like my hair looks very good, even though I know it's becomming healthy and long. I just don't feel like I have a "style," ya' know? It's really different than having a sleek, polished cut that you can hair-spray into submission and look decent all day.

(Hope I didn't just hijack your thread ~ is that what it's called when I introduce another topic into the conversation? Sorry if I did that! :rolleyes:)

[jaine]

I can totally identify with #3. I got my hair blow-dried straight a couple of weeks ago because the tangles were driving me out of my mind. It was nice to have tangle-free hair for a few days but it didn't feel like "me" at all.

(I do #1 all the time though ... in every shower actually ... is it really that bad? I need a brush to distribute conditioner evenly.)

[julliams]

Hi Trish - no this is my problem too. I don't have a style. Sometimes I feel like I just have this cape of hair and I do an updo and I feel like it doesn't go with my clothes or my "look". I'm having my hair cut on wednesday and I'm hoping that a good cut with some long layers will do the trick because I don't want to have to heat style it to make it look nice. The only go-to style I have at the moment is to twist a little bit on the sides and meet at the back - but it just doesn't look right with some outfits. And I don't want just one way of doing my hair that I know I'll like. Also I feel like I can't wear it out because it's so "big".

I think this hair appointment on wednesday is just what I need!

[julliams]

(I do #1 all the time though ... in every shower actually ... is it really that bad? I need a brush to distribute conditioner evenly.)

Well, normally I do comb through in the shower. I do it very gently and with loads of conditioner in my hair. It's the brushing that's not good. Admittedly I did use a wooden quill brush with is pretty much like a comb anyway. But it was the speed at which I brushed and I pulled through my hair because I was in a rush. Snap, snap, snap. Amazingly there wasn't alot of excess hair in my brush - probably all damaged hairs on my head!

[Trish in SC]

Hope you can take pictures of your haircut -- Before & After shots! :) I'm sure it will turn out well. It sounds like you know exactly how you want it done, and you can communicate that to the stylist. Best of luck to you!

[fridgee]

I can totally identify with #3. I got my hair blow-dried straight a couple of weeks ago because the tangles were driving me out of my mind. It was nice to have tangle-free hair for a few days but it didn't feel like "me" at all.

The same happened to me, its weird though, I used to wear my hair like that everyday only 2 months ago, but its such an odd feeling to see straight hair on me now. (Love the shiny tanglefreeness of it though!)

I will be massively conditioning to make myself feel better about it too!

[jacqueline101]

I've used damaging things in my hair. I used a narrow tooth comb before detangling my hair. I felt bad and I went back on my no stiffening agents.

[Mayflower]

But, this does bring up an issue for me; maybe you can help. I don't feel like my hair looks very good, even though I know it's becomming healthy and long. I just don't feel like I have a "style," ya' know? It's really different than having a sleek, polished cut that you can hair-spray into submission and look decent all day.

Maybe heatless curls/waves are an option? I see you have wavy hair already, but that way you can have more defined curls that actually look "styled". There are a lot of options, try searching on youtube or here on LHC!

[Darkessa]

Ive done this exact thing recently too. :(
For the past 3 months I have been very proud of the fact that I dont style my hair often, if at all.
Just in the past 2 weeks I have straightened, blow dried with a brush, and abused my hair more than necessary.
We just have to learn from it each time, and do better in the future.

[Amber_Maiden]

Oh no! :( It happens.

[Trish in SC]

Mayflower ~

Thanks for that idea; I do need to learn more heatless styles. I did a sock bun once, and it was way curly, but only on the bottom half.

[Egana]

Yesterday I wanted to braid my hair, so without thinking I grabbed my comb and combed it dry (snap, crackle, breakage!) and then I remembered - DOH!!! I used to do that all the time, and the damage is still growing out, and I wasn't thinking, and I just fell back into an old behavior. I think I may need to trim off the damage instead of try to baby it. Then an occasional slip up won't be so catastrophic...

[Hollyfire3]

Don't fret, your hair is so beautiful, i'm sure it will be fine. My hair is alot like yours (different color though) I really wish i felt like i had a style as opposed to just a cape, every since i stopped straightening, my hair is so uncontrolable and just not sleek like it used to be...i just can't bring myself to straighten it and rish damage...i hope you find a style you will be happy with, and long layers are great!