Chop!

[CaraLynn]

I went to my mom's hair stylist yesterday to have her trim off my split ends....she was fixing it and I wasn't really paying attention...(stupid, stupid, me) and when I looked at it there was SIX INCHES gone!!! I did NOT have splits that high! She cut of all my hair up to where my layer was instead of just the splits. I am irritated...........and LESS than thrilled with my new length :mad:

[Blueglass]

you have to be very vocal with hair dressers especially new ones. Still it is hard to tell when they are behide you. Have you considered the feber method. Happily spring and summer are often time of grow spurts.

[Ellswyth]

so sorry!! And hair doesn't grow back fast enough after being scalped like that

[sweetkandi]

Im sorry about that. I hope your hair will grow fast during the warmer months.

[FrannyG]

I'm so sorry this happened. There are so many wonderful hairdressers who are really good with long hair. It really pays to do some investigating.

Having said that, it wouldn't hurt to learn Feye's Self-Trim Method (http://community.livejournal.com/feyeselftrim). I have used it for two years now, both for a big cut and for 1/2 inch trims. I never would have believed I could cut my own hair, but I do.

Anyway, many hugs to you, and I hope that your hair grows really quickly. :grouphug:

[CurlyNinja]

I'm sorry :(

[Islandgrrl]

CaraLynn - I'm so sorry this happened to you! I agree you should consider learning to do your own trims. It's really the only way you have total control over what's happening to your hair.

[SaveTheTapirs]

I keep hearing these stylist horror stories! What is with these people? I know that supposedly there are good ones out there, but jeez...I'm kind of losing faith in stylists in general. Luckily I don't seem to have any splits since cutting off my damaged hair a couple years ago and learning how to take care of it (compliments LHC). So hopefully I won't need a trim for quite a while, and when I do I just might look into the self-trimming method I've heard so much about.

Don't blame yourself CaraLynn, we've all had hair mishaps, accidents, and even tragedies. But don't give up! Consider it a new challenge to get excited about and conquer!

[Elfling]

*sympathy* We have ALL been there. I did that a few years ago and am still kicking myself.

[Poolsoflaughter]

That's horrible. All I can say is I'm sorry, hon. :(

[Stagecoach]

Oh dear, how terrible. I'm so sorry.... [[[[ hug ]]]]

[Lixie]

Ugh, how horrible for you. :grouphug: Even if you didn't complain at the time, it's not too late to call up say that you were less than satisfied with the results if you want to.

[UrbanEast]

(((hugs)))) That happened to me a few times in a row a few years ago. Now, after I tell them how much to take off (e.g. 1/2 inch), I ask them to show me beforehand (using a piece of my hair) how much that will be. They roll their eyes and I'm sure they laugh at me afterwards, but it doesn't matter to me.

I guess the silver lining is that any damage at the bottom of your hair is gone, so that you can start fresh. (((hugs again)))

[chloeishere]

That's terrible!

Did you discuss your displeasure with the haircut at the time? Even if they can't do anything for you, at the very least you can let them know to listen better, as I'm sure you didn't say "cut it all off to the top layer." Not all hairdressers are bad with long hair, but maybe if they were told more often what is meant by "trim," sad stories like this would happen less often. I would definitely call up there at least, and let someone know that you weren't happy, so the hairdresser can be made aware.

Anyway, I'm so sorry about the big length loss, and I hope it grows back quickly for you!

[spidermom]

Oh no! 6 inches is quite a lot! Here's wishing you one of those so-fast-I-can't-believe-it growth spurts.

Perhaps you said something about wanting to be rid of those layers? Maybe? I had that happen once. After I asked for a 1/2-inch trim, I started babbling away about how I decided I didn't want layers anymore, and she took off about 2 inches to help me get rid of layers.

[Neon Gloss]

WHAT?! 6 inches! You poor thing! ;(

[killashark]

oh i've had the same thing happen to me too! Ugh it just frustrates me so much. That's why I'd rather wait really long for my usual stylist, than to trust someone who's never touched my hair before. My regular has been cutting my hair since I was 6!

[Crinita]

I am the luckiest longhair in the world because my stylist knows what a ruler looks like and checks with me beforehand and during to make sure we're on the same page. I'm sorry you weren't so fortunate, hon.

Pax,
Crinita

[CaraLynn]

No, I didn't mention my layers.....she must just be a little scissor happy!

[honeybunch]

Oh no! I"m sorry!!!

[k_hepburn]

So sorry for what happened - it will take time but your hair will grow back!

I do wonder what goes on in the head of a hairdresser like that (and off course they aren't all like that, and you get people like that in any profession, only being scissor happy is a tad more dangerous in a surgeon...). I mean: 6 inches, that's a lot of hair. Whatever posessed her to think that it would be ok for her to give you a major change in appearance without consulting you? Like all the hair below shoulder is really just superfluous and therefore may be chopped of at (her) will and choosing?

The downside of being aware of the possibility of such an attitude is that as a long hair I nowadays feel the need to give hair dressers a list of instructions as long (at least) as my hair before I let them touch it and I do wonder if I might be coming across as a little hostile :evil: , which in turn doesn't exactly help in building a trusting relationship with a hairdresser...

Greetings

katharine

[Isilme]

When you go in for a trim you have to be very specific about EVERYTHING, from combing to how much they should take off to what products you want, or if you want them to flatiron it/blowdry or not. Everything you can think of. Before you go to the stylist, take your time to write down everything in case you forget to say something.
I'm sorry you bad luck with your stylist, but I would think it's important to call back and tell that you aren't happy and why, maybe you can get some of the money back? Or at least make the haircuts safer for other persons.

[AprilElf]

That is so scary! I'm sorry this happened to you. :(
It's not fair that you couldn't see what she was doing!

[stepha]

You poor thing!
I know exactly how you feel - a girl did the same thing to me 3 weeks ago. It's heartbreaking. I lost 5 inches, and after telling her not cut more than 1/2 inch! hairdresser/client rapport went out the window. She didn't follow my instructions so she didn't get paid. Perhaps if enough of these scalpers get called on it they'll quit ignoring their clients.

You may not want to try it but I'm seeing growth with monistat, tea tree oil, coconut oil, megavitamins and nearly continuous scalp massages. I'd like to add nutral henna for conditioning/strength but haven't any.

[dagonlilly]

I hope you didnt pay for the cut. I have not trusted a hair stylest in 2 years.

[addikted]

6 inches is A LOT!, I hope you told her how dissatisfied you were, a lot of hairstylists are ver scussor happy. That is why I am afraid to go to one. I shall be sending you many a 'speedy hair growth' wish.

[HairColoredHair]

It's happened to me... 'trim the ends' 6 inches later...

I started telling people my hair screams when it's cut.

[Wanderer09]

6 inches? That's like a year's worth of growth. :(

I haven't had such stylist mishaps yet, partly because I wasn't aiming to grow my hair really long so I didn't care if they took off an extra inch. I'm kind of nervous about my next trim.

[tiny_teesha]

try barbers, they apparently listen to you when you say 1/8inch trim.
My mother or I chops my hair. i went to a hairdresser once for a chop- DID NOT LIKE (there is the photo in my album hair history)
I do feyes method too. It is so easy and i don't even care if it asymmetrical (as i don't fuss about it) So long as it is not INCHES off, i'm happy :)

[psvzum]

You poor thing!!! The hairdresser should get an earful....

[Elfling]

The last time I had a hairdresser blatantly take more than the half-inch I requested, I refused to pay. This wasn't an inch when I wanted a half-inch; this was six inches and going from bsl to just below shoulders. I was livid.

I have *one* very trusted hairdresser in the area that I've been going to for a while, who does lovely chemical color jobs. of course I'm giving that up, but she's the only one I've ever met who will do exactly what I want, and also say eh, you don't need a trim this time your ends look good.

[CaityBear]

Oh my, that's horrible! The last time I went to get my hair cut I had no choice to who I was going to. We have one official hair dresser in my town, some people who do it at home, but I really needed to get rid of my split ends before they got really bad so I went to this hair dresser to get my hair trimmed. Sadly I lost more then I wanted.

[pookatrina]

Oh no! Sending quick hair growing thoughts your way!

[MadPirateBippy]

*hugs*

She could have thought the splits went up to the layer, which is why it was thinner...

Don't feel too bad, it was only six inches, so if your hair grows an average amount, you've got about a year to get it all back and now your hemline is even with the layer, at least. Bright side, right?

[enfys]

I second that, think of how lovely and thick your hemline must be!

This is why I've never gone to a hairdresser. I've even considered training in it as a profession just so people who came to me would not have these stories to tell.

With all the help and tips on here I'm sure it will grow back quicker than before, and healthier.

(((hugs)))

[Kelsey]

My condolences! I would be way beyond furious. Don't go back to her! I think it is probably necessary to insist that they let you see everything that they are doing, and make it clear you are in charge. To be a hair dresser, it is necessary for them to focus on the phrase "The customer is always right," and they should not dare to cross anybody.

[Ohio Sky]

Did you smack her!? :shake:

maybe I would have overreacted, though...

Maybe it will be good for your hair, though. Sometimes a decent trim makes hair healthier and stronger. Just trying to look on the bright side... Sorry dear :(:flower: