at what point does male hair become too feminine

[scotty810]

just wondering at what point or style do females consider male long hair to be too feminine.

like for example as guy getting a short fringe cut would just look silly let's be honest

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-iqtdu9uXiuo/Te3_2q3XcBI/AAAAAAAAFHE/6zB8jNVZGP8/s1600/hairstyle_with_fringe_belle-fringe-hairstyle.jpg

example.

or getting a perm hairstyle as well I can't see myself looking anything but really strange.

kind of why for 2 years i've done nothing to it, no dyes, no styles nothing because short of trimming it or thinning it there isn't anything I can do. Not talking about things like ponytails or anything but actual cut styles.

I guess I am a wee bit jealous of all the options females have for hair lol :(

[pink.sara]

Perms, fringes, highlights, heavy layering in hair (think Farrah Fawcett) pigtails, ribbons, bows, if you wear any of the aforementioned. I will giggle at you in public, and possibly point. ;)

However: natural long hair, natural waves and curls, natural steely grey, ponytails, plaits, leather thongs or strings, metal clasps, darker coloured accent stripes, dreads, Afros and shaved? Hot. :)

[PinkyCat]

I can't get past guys with "updos" like buns. It just looks....confusing.....to me. It's just too femme for me.

[ZeppHead]

Basic styles are fine. Low ponytails, braids, and even buns as long as their not strategic. Like a guy with a bun that looks like it was just quickly thrown up looks pretty hot to me. But, keep them low, no high ponytails or buns.
No layers, highlights or bangs.

[jasper]

Pigtails, ribbons, and bows were manly enough. . .in the 18th century. A high pony tail or top knot looks manly on a samurai, right? Still, it seems like you should have a lot of style options. I see a lot of variety in long hair on men.

[IanB]

Hi Scotty. I suppose, even now, guys with long hair are considered by some "a bit weird" as are some girls with "boyish" hair styles. I think it's all down to personal choice. For me it's loose or sometimes tailed. For younger guys, whatever makes you happy! :)

[Knotted]

I had a guy friend who permed his hair. It really suited him!

[Bene]

Dangly foo-foo hair sticks.

[dRummie]

I live in Toronto, so pretty much anything goes. If a guy likes it, and considers himself masculine, then it can be masculine.. it's all about the person's carriage.

[Konstifik]

Meh, I don't have any male and female hair attributes. I have "gosh, that's ugly!" and "wow, that's awesome!" attributes when it comes to hair. :)
People of all ages and sexes tend to look great in long hair in my opinion!

[Cupofmilk]

I really don't mind what men do to their hair. I guess it is how it is worn that makes it feminine or not.

[Skooter]

I'm also in the anything-goes-camp. It's all about how you rock it!

[pink.sara]

Pigtails, ribbons, and bows were manly enough. . .in the 18th century. A high pony tail or top know looks manly on a samurai, right? Still, it seems like you should have a lot of style options. I see a lot of variety in long hair on men.

So were tights... :tmi:

[lapushka]

Personally, I like short hair on men. It's just my preference. :shrug:

I do disagree with the statement that longer hair on a man is feminine by definition. This goes doubly so for children or teens.

[Drynwhyl]

If you ask me, I'm fine with whatever you choose to do! Although if you go by the widespread opinion, pink bows may be considered feminine :P

Really, I know guys why dye their hair (black, blonde and I've seen guys with pink hair) and it looks good. I'm not talking about the "emo" and the like hair, I don't really like that anyway...

It all depends on your personal style, your face, body, whatever...
And even if someone thinks you look "feminine", why would that be a problem? What's wrong with being feminine? I'm a girl and I am kinda "masculine", but that has never been a problem, I'm in a long relationship (with a guy, incidentally long-haired and he often wears it in a bun or braid and I think it looks very masculine)

So basically, do whatever you think looks good! Why care about other people's opinion, it's your hair.

[lydiajo]

Meh, I don't have any male and female hair attributes. I have "gosh, that's ugly!" and "wow, that's awesome!" attributes when it comes to hair. :)
People of all ages and sexes tend to look great in long hair in my opinion!

I feel the same way. Who is to say what male and female attributes are.
Lydia

[Siiri]

Have you seen pictures of metal bands from 70's and 80's? There's a lot of bangs, perms and highlights, even spandex (but not necessarily make up), but they don't look feminine at all. For example guys from Iron Maiden, you can google some pictures if you like. From all hairstyles, perhaps only pig tails look feminine to me, or actually not feminine but girly, and perhaps French twist.

[spitfire511]

I dated a guy who highlighted his hair very heavily. It somehow managed to survive the damage (he also paid mega $ to have a pro colorist do it.) But it really suited him. He was about midback and to be honest, just down (his was wavy) or in a simple low pony or braid is my fav on a guy. But I think so long as you're not 'going' for a girly look, it's not usually going to look girly ;)

[Phalaenopsis]

A single braid or half up braid looks very masculine on a man. Low ponytail and plain half up too, but I really dig the braids ^^

[karenpetal]

Similar to comments above its not a style which makes it too femme for a guy or vice versa - till you are comfortable in it anything will suit - I work in a hair salon and have seen girls with really rugged look and guys with delicate looks both suit equally well -

I love guys who can carry off a delicate look and vice versa girls who can look rugged when they wish too ;)

So dont let any of these boundaries bother you - if you feel like a low pony or down do it but if some day you feel like doing a french braid / french twist or for that matter pink bows dont hold your self thinking you will look femme

[redwoman]

If someone doesn't like what they see, they don't have to look. Wear what you want.

[Intransigentia]

Also to many females androgyny is hottt!

[Aveyronnaise]

^^Hell yeah to the above!

[Anje]

I think it's somewhere after the accessories get pink and sparkly, while the person is still trying to maintain a masculine identity. Costumes are exempt, of course.

[Crysta]

I think that at no point male hair becomes too feminine. Gender roles and conditioning like that IMHO is outdated. I think people should be able to do whatever they want with their hair without other people judging them.

I've seen a couple of guys before with straight cut bangs, and even knew one guy who used to get his hair permed. Personally I think it suited those particular people. This however is coming from someone who had bright "rainbow" dreadlocks, so my opinion is probably a lot more lax than other's might be.

Maybe if they got pirncess curls and put them in pig tails, and had a breast augmentation and wore a t-shirt saying "I'm a beautiful woman" Then that might be a bit feminine for my taste.

[redcelticcurls]

For quite some time, I thought that Gumball was a woman. I saw hair without a face or body, and I guess the hair looked womanly to me. So, for me, I guess a male hairstyle can look feminine, especially in a context where I don't see physique or movement or things like that.

In real life, aside from wearing glittery pink hair bows, I would say that the total package of the man would determine if the hair looks feminine or not. I've seen hair that should look girly not look girly at all in a total package context.

[Cassie 123]

Hairstyles are mostly a matter of fashion, and not any sort of inherent masculinity-femininity. My husband wore bangs with his long hair back in the eighties, and I still fell madly in love with him. :heart:

The only real masculine-feminine difference that I can think of involves the jawline. Men have a larger, squarer jaw and chin than do women, and this is a key biological indicator of masculinity. So a woman's face-framing layers will often curve inwards at the jawline, covering the sides of the jaw and generally making the lower half of the face look narrower and therefore more feminine. A man who wishes to look more masculine might, then, want to do just the opposite, exposing the jaw by keeping his hair back somewhat.

[trolleypup]

I live in {Xxx}, so pretty much anything goes. If a guy likes it, and considers himself masculine, then it can be masculine.. it's all about the person's carriage.
Yep. In some places hair past the earlobe would be considered outre, in others, pretty much anything goes as far as hair and personal adornment. Thank you, I'll stay where there isn't much push to put all the pegs in neat square holes, with a sledgehammer, if necessary.

I'm also in the anything-goes-camp. It's all about how you rock it!
A person's style is their own, if it works for them, that is enough...maybe it works for you, maybe it doesn't, but they aren't there to decorate your world. A person confident in their style (so long as not viewed through standardized societal filters) can look good and well regardless of the number of "rules" they are breaking.

So were tights... :tmi:
*shrug* Some people make tights work.

In the end, wear the styles and adornment that make you happy. If you don't feel comfy, then you probably won't look good.

[neko_kawaii]

When I was a kid the only person I knew who wore their hair in a "bun" was a man who wore his hair in a very tight top knot. Took me years to see buns on myself as not non-feminine. Really, masculine, feminine and the variety of otherines are all about the culture you are accustomed to.

[Lady Dragon]

I think that gender roles are overrated.
People should be able to wear their hair in any manner it pleases them to do so.
And not be socially punished for adhering to the 'wrong' gender cues.
But I'm just like that.
:)

[Kosmos]

Hair doesn't have a gender in my opinion. Lots of guys worked perms and fringes in the 60s and 70s.

[DarkSunny]

Honestly, do whatever you feel like. "Feminine", "Masculine" or whatever, those things are cultural constructs, and change over time anyways. If anything, it's the quality of the cut/style and whether it's suited to the person's face shape that matter most in determining whether the look works or not, and even then, as long as you like the way you look, who cares about what other people think?

And even if you do care about what other people think, then it's not as if they all have the same preferences or personal opinions anyways. For example, I know people that like men that have that square jawed "masculine" look, while I've personally never found that appealing and actually prefer a softer "feminine" appearance on a guy. Heck I know people that could care less either way. Whatever you do with your hair, you'll find people that love it and people that hate it, so shrug, don't care, and do whatever you think looks best on you.

[Slinks]

For quite some time, I thought that Gumball was a woman.

:cheese:
me too !! and one of the other mods, I can't think of his name but the one who has "Evil, not Bad Moderator " or something like that written under his name ... BUT I so LOVE his pics in his profile .. mmmmmm yum :eyebrows: !! lol ..

oh there he is - trolleypup blush hope he doesn't read this !!

[SpinDance]

I've known a few fellows with long hair, straight, wavy and really curly. Usually they stuck with a low braid, or ponytail, once in a while worn loose. One did a nice job with a half-up braid, like Daniel Day Lewis did in Last of the Mohicans, (sometimes the half up braided into a low, nape of neck, braid. I haven't known any that wore a bun, probably because they didn't know how). The drawn back hair just clearly shows the male features, and men just don't look like women. As a lady is as a lady does, a gentleman is as a gentleman does.

All that aside, self-confidence can pull off pretty much anything, and what is more attractive then self-confidence? ;) Wear your hair as you like it, in ways that make you happy and feel good. Some people will like it, some won't, but that's going to happen regardless of your hair.

[Peter]

like for example as guy getting a short fringe cut would just look silly let's be honest

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-iqtdu9uXiuo/Te3_2q3XcBI/AAAAAAAAFHE/6zB8jNVZGP8/s1600/hairstyle_with_fringe_belle-fringe-hairstyle.jpg
Oh would it now?

http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_loln7dXNBm1qiw9cfo1_500.jpg

http://www.licklibrary.com/Images/Resources/Dave+Mustaine.jpg

And for that comment about pigtails:
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_00xgrABJFQI/S9URUmCKzqI/AAAAAAAAABw/3mAEeCs-wQs/s1600/Sitting_Bull.jpg

Don't pigeonhole yourself into current gender roles. Wear your hair however you want. I'm male and I wear a braid pretty much every day. I've done pigtail braids before too -- it's an easy way to identify those who are so immature that they'll "giggle and possibly point" ;).

[Slinks]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

HOT, HOT, HOT !!! even the ol' indian .. love it ..

[Misti]

If a guy likes it, and considers himself masculine, then it can be masculine.. it's all about the person's carriage.

Yes! ^^^^ What dRummie said! :)


If someone doesn't like what they see, they don't have to look. Wear what you want.

Exactly, Redwoman!

FWIW, to the OP, my husband usually wears his waist length hair in a low bun held with a single stick. He says people stare occasionally, but in the last year or so we have seen more and more men around our community wearing buns, so the novelty factor is wearing off.

When my husband wears his hair down, kids often shriek "Hagrid!" at him, so there is no way he is going to be confused for a woman, but many of the men we have been seeing lately are significantly younger and more slender and they look great and very masculine, too.

And Peter, great photos that make the point very well. I'd probably also have addedthe Duncan McCloud half up. No one every called HIM girly! (Not twice anyway.)

[ManCityBlues]

I dont think that people should be overly concerned with what others think of them. I say wear your hair how ever you want and if you like it then stick to it. The way i see it: if people think you are weird because you look feminine it doesnt matter at all and if they wont associate with you because of how you look then they dont deserve your company. There are people out there that will view you positively, those are the people that matter.

[pink.sara]

Oh would it now?

http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_loln7dXNBm1qiw9cfo1_500.jpg

http://www.licklibrary.com/Images/Resources/Dave+Mustaine.jpg

And for that comment about pigtails:
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_00xgrABJFQI/S9URUmCKzqI/AAAAAAAAABw/3mAEeCs-wQs/s1600/Sitting_Bull.jpg

Don't pigeonhole yourself into current gender roles. Wear your hair however you want. I'm male and I wear a braid pretty much every day. I've done pigtail braids before too -- it's an easy way to identify those who are so immature that they'll "giggle and possibly point" ;).

Uh, in response, yes I think that fringe is feminine, I also think Dave Mustane is an idiot whatever his hair looks like, and I don't consider those plaits to be pigtails.... Pigtails to me are two ponys worn high on the head (think Japanese schoolgirl) and dont go getting all offended or calling me immature, I was only joshing when I said "laugh and possibly point"!
But in all seriousness when me and my SO got together he would wear a low bun or plaits with his almost waist hair, which was gorgeous. But had he asked me out with a fringe, highlights and an overly styled flick, (let alone tights) I would have thought twice.
Just my opinion but that's not attractive to me.

[October]

I don't think any hairstyle is really feminine.. it all depends on the guy and how he looks with the style (applies to women, too). I don't think any hairstyle/haircut is a one size fits all (or none, in this case).

[faithsdaisy421]

I live in Toronto, so pretty much anything goes. If a guy likes it, and considers himself masculine, then it can be masculine.. it's all about the person's carriage.
I agree with this! If you feel good about yourself, that will show. Work it :D

[spidermom]

As long as you don't add a big pink bow, you're good to go.

[Mesmerise]

I don't think masculinity or femininity are related 100% to hair! By that I mean that a guy who's obviously masculine can probably get away with a hairstyle that would otherwise be considered "feminine" (maybe like some sort of bun in his hair or whatever... highlights...I dunno). However a more feminine looking guy, or a guy not as confident in his masculinity, may not be able to pull it off!

The same goes for women. Some say short hair is "unfeminine" but I'm sure we've all seen many extremely feminine women who have short hair! However, a woman who is not as intrinsically feminine in herself may not be able to pull off a really short hairstyle without becoming somewhat masculine in appearance.

Anyway, it's all about what you feel comfortable with!

[Crysta]

Sigorney weaver, Natalie Portman and the singer "Shiloh"

All bald, very feminine looking women - even when bald.

[Kim N]

I guess I am old fashioned. I like my man with short hair. He wouldn't have me in short hair and has said "I didn't marry a man" LOL I sort of feel the same in that I like him in short hair and have never really seen a man in long hair that I thought I wanted BUT have on occasion seen some very obviously masculine men that I thought were very hot. ;) (Still not sure I would want them but they did look hot if that makes sense. LOL)

I lived in Japan for a while and it was not uncommon to see men wearing headbands, barrettes and other girly styles and I definitely thought they looked strange on men. Long hair is one thing but I would not like to see obviously girly things like bangs.

In the end it has to be what makes you happy though not everyone else. :)

[lizdini]

eh. I dont think the cut makes a big difference. If you had bangs and it suited your face I don't think I'd consider it "femme". Now if you had it styled and perfect I might. Anyway it doesn't really matter, If you want to rock "girly" hair then you go on with your bad self!:hifive:

[kwaniesiam]

Short of schoolgirl pigtails, a head of spiral curls done with an iron, bridal or prom style updos, and very obviously feminine accessories like glitter, bows, and the like it doesn't.

[racrane]

It really depends on the person, in my opinion.

[Jayce]

I happen to like very short hair on a guy but many men rock long hair. The only style that looked "not right" to me was a french braid.

What bothers me more then style are men with long hair who don't look after it. Some think they only need to stop cutting their hair and voila - it's magically wonderful to everyone who sees them. It's not the style that a guy wears that catches my eye - it's long hair that's looked after. Neat and clean and cared for - always attractive to me!

[xoerincolleen]

I think across the board, any sort of curly, fancy updo would be too feminine, as well as super-girly accessories. Otherwise, like other posters have said, it depends on how you carry yourself. If a guy is wearing a bun or something and is obviously uncomfortable with it, it's not going to look right. But if he's confident, no one will give it a second thought!

[katsrevenge]

I tend to think everyone here is female. But, I tend to think all posters on all forums are female because I am.. so there is that. (Unless it is a gaming forum.. then I assume they are all 15-16 yr old males with no brains).

As for girly hair... for me it's not manly if there is no man attached to it. I just like it taken care of!

[EdG]

There is a simple way to avoid looking feminine: grow a beard.

I have always had a short beard. I figure beard hairs are hair too. :lol:
Ed

[CariadA]

I went to school with a guy who had APL hair with fringe that he dyed, highlighted and flat-ironed. In his case, his goal was to look feminine. He wore feminine accessories as well. But as that was his objective, I still don't think he was *too* feminine. It worked for him.

I think masculine men can make any hairstyle look masculine. Well, I suppose a big beehive or a fancy updo with a bumpit may be difficult to make look masculine. But anything is possible. :)

[Nipushiau]

I say never. Well, maybe pink ribbon-wrapped pigtails. :)

[trolleypup]

:cheese:
me too !! and one of the other mods, I can't think of his name but the one who has "Evil, not Bad Moderator " or something like that written under his name ... BUT I so LOVE his pics in his profile .. mmmmmm yum :eyebrows: !! lol ..

oh there he is - trolleypup blush hope he doesn't read this !!
Hi!

I have worn rather sparkly barrettes in colors ranging from pink to baby blue as well as more dramatic colors...and honestly, the only people who gave me flack were, shall we say, very much not my target audience...and positive comments were fairly common from those who were. (Rhinestones good, ugly (all the way to the core) people refusing to ever ride my bus again (due to said sparklies)...also good!)

[BeatlesFanGirl]

Bun, high-pony, colouring, highlights. As for bangs and layers, I get confused if I look at Don Dacus (Woof from Hair):


http://imagebox.cz.osobnosti.cz/foto/don-dacus/N226397-d5473.jpg

This guy is HOT... :P I fell in love with him the first time I saw Hair when I was 9-10. :D

[fluffybunny]

If you want to see a guy wearing a bun on the top of his head and twin braids and IMO still looking very masculine, do google image search on Daniel Vitalis.

And P.S. I had the "Wow, that's a guy! And a hot guy at that!" experience on checking trolleypup's profile for the first time, too ;-)

[BeatlesFanGirl]

Ahhhhh how can I post pic?? :O

[Dragon]

I have noticed it really depends on the guy. And how confident they are in it really makes a different. Same with short hair on women to.

[Othala]

I feel that gender is a wide-ranging, variable thing so I have no answer for you. If a man has "Farah Fawcett" hair, then that's great. It all fits into the permutations and combinations of the masculine-feminine continuum.

[Arashi]

I really don't think there's any hair style that's "too feminine" on guys because I see nothing wrong with guys or their hair looking "feminine", and I also don't think any sort of hair can be "too feminine" on a masculine guy who defines himself as such. :shrug:

I personally don't think people can look too this or too that, they just are what they are and I like all of it! :cheese:

As for what I'm attracted to on men- masculinity is great, androgyny is great, femininity is great. On men I like short hair, long hair, fringes, no fringes, any hairstyle, any hair color.. depends on the guy and how it works for him. Anything goes in my book.

[MonaMayfair]

A man can't be too feminine for me, I don't see why anything should be restricted to one gender.

[TheStorm]

I think that it depends on your build and attitude as to what you can get away with without it looking over feminine, DBF who is over 6ft and 100kgs, wears near enough only black and does not have a feminine bone in his body. He will often wear his hair in a fairly high bun, with hairsticks or pins, he will also use scrunchies or sometimes ribbons, he'll put them in his ponytails, braids, around buns, they are just about always black though. Why shouldn't men have the same choices as women? Ok it's a long way from poodle ear pigatails and pink bows but then how many women would even think about wearing something like that, most I know wouldn't dare go out of the house?

[Zindell]

I think all styles are good on both men and women :-)

[david]

I think all styles are good on both men and women :-)

:) I agree with that. I'm a guy and I would occasionally wear what some consider to be 'feminine' styles. My opinion is they are only hair styles. Some may consider a guy having long hair at all to be too feminine, so I guess it depends on your perspective.

[Cowgirl16]

I don't think there is any style that a man couldn't wear; to me that is a double standard. Women wear their hair from shaved to their shins; why shouldn't a man have the same ability? :shrug:

Might I also add all the men here on LHC have great hair, updos and all! :D

[maskedrose]

I think it depends entirely on how you wish to show yourself to the world. If you are a masculine guy, then staying with low ponytails, braids, half-ups, accessorized by leather, metal, etc would fit in with the image that you are going for. If you feel more androgynous or feminine, then working in more "girly" styles would allow you to express that part of yourself. Personally, I'm a huge fan of really masculine men with long hair - I find it ridiculously attractive, but that is just me.

[scottigirl_01]

Personal style is a good thing to me. If it feels good, wear it. If you feel funny about it, maybe reconsider the style.

[l0nd0nbr1dg3]

I have seen males with long hair and it doesn't loOk feminine.. It does look kind of rebellious tough

[spigette]

Different hairstyles are considered masculine or feminine at different times. I grew up in the 70's and 80's, and there was some crazy **** going on there with guys and their hair. My best friend's dad had a perm for years, and my husband's dad had a pageboy (think Javier Bardem in "No Country for Old Men" (http://www.imdb.com/media/rm2296027392/nm0000849) ) shudder:

I certainly knew lots of guys in the 80's who dressed like they were in Duran Duran or Platinum Blonde, and had the eyeliner and the fried, dyed-blonde rock-star hair to match.

I like looking at long hair on guys, especially if it is well-cared for. I have, however, always had a personal rule about never dating a guy with prettier hair than mine, lol.

Some things definitely seem more feminine to me than is appealing for men's hair - my cousin's husband does elaborate buns with chopsticks high on his head, and I find it a bit distracting to look at, which may be the effect he is going for, who knows? :D

[Eboshi]

There is a simple way to avoid looking feminine: grow a beard.

I have always had a short beard. I figure beard hairs are hair too. :lol:
Ed
Aargh! I'm plucking out these ever-increasing-amounts of wiry, chinny-hairs before they decide to band together and form a beard. :eek:

[deko]

As long as you don't tie your pigtails in pink polkadot ribbon or lace it's ok.

You set the rules.
You can wear your hair any way you want.

I prefer ponytails, one plait ot stylish bun on men, but it's just my opinion. You can do whatever hairstyle you please.

I prefer ponytail, plait or bun on ME and I don't feel less feminine... I don't like frills.

[Tuna]

It doesnt' guys with long hair are hot! Even coloring, curling hair can look good if a guy can pull it of. I always like ''alternative'' kind of look anyways.

[Slinks]

Aargh! I'm plucking out these ever-increasing-amounts of wiry, chinny-hairs before they decide to band together and form a beard. :eek:

I like the clean shaven look - but that's on my DH - on my son he wears the 6 o'clock shadow and I love that look on him - basically it's what your looks can pull off .. jmo

[wendy51]

For me there is no style that make a guy too feminine, he does whatever he wants with his hair, same for my boyfriend. A guy is a guy full stop.
There is nothing, in hair, that make a man (only in the eyes of a culture) too feminine. And anyway, i'd like to see more guys playing with their style with their hair, clothes. And there is never 'too much' in an appearance, it's always 'as it is'.

Someone wo would come to you and say 'you're effeminate ' it wouldn't be about your hair, but your behavior, trust me
So do bangs, or colors if you like it.

[jeanniet]

My 15 year old son grew a full goatee when he was 14. I think it looks pretty good, but when he goes out to eat with friends he frequently is asked if he wants to order a beer. Mom does not appreciate that!

If you're a man and can wear a style/accessory with confidence, I say go for it. And trolleypup already knows this from another thread, but I thought he was female. ASSumption on my part!

[Fingolphin]

A guy should be able to wear his hair however the heck he wants without being judged for it. But of course, unfortunately, that is not the way things work in this world. So it's all about what you feel comfortable and confident with. And don't care too much about what others think. I don't. ;)

[IanB]

A guy should be able to wear his hair however the heck he wants without being judged for it. But of course, unfortunately, that is not the way things work in this world. So it's all about what you feel comfortable and confident with. And don't care too much about what others think. I don't. ;)

Agree 100% - what about equality - we should all have the right to choose how we wear our hair. The older I get, the less I care about what others think :cheese:

[bte]

I agree too - people should wear their hair as they want to.

I'm not bothered by what others think - although I do appreciate the positive comments I get. I have never tried anything more adventurous than a ponytail or braid, but then I;m not a great fan of how the more fancy updos look on women either.

[Ardellis]

Count me in the anti-stereotype camp. Guys should be able to wear their hair however they darn well please. Hang what the rest of society thinks. Bucking the social norms is how they get changed.

[beez1717]

Some guys look good with more feminine hairstyles and some don't. So guys, don't be afraid to wear what you think looks good on you and are confident wearing.

[Misti]

The older I get, the less I care about what others think :cheese:
One of the great blessings of age, my friend. :)

[Fingolphin]

Agree 100% - what about equality - we should all have the right to choose how we wear our hair. The older I get, the less I care about what others think :cheese:

I am 35 now, and find that to be true as well. There are definitely benefits to getting a bit older! :D

[bte]

I think we have made great progress in equality over the last twenty years. My DW borrows my shirts, jeans, socks and ponytail bands.

[Gumball]

For quite some time, I thought that Gumball was a woman. I saw hair without a face or body, and I guess the hair looked womanly to me. So, for me, I guess a male hairstyle can look feminine, especially in a context where I don't see physique or movement or things like that.


:cheese:
me too !! and one of the other mods, I can't think of his name but the one who has "Evil, not Bad Moderator " or something like that written under his name ... BUT I so LOVE his pics in his profile .. mmmmmm yum :eyebrows: !! lol ..

oh there he is - trolleypup blush hope he doesn't read this !!

:laugh: :rollin: I should have made my title "Incognito!" or something.

For the OP:

I think male hair becomes too feminine only to people who, through their own personal views, determine it is so. If you're the owner of the hair, then it's up to you what constitutes too feminine for yourself.

The only downside is the risk of flak from those who cause a fuss because you're affronting their sensibilities about it. :shrug: From my experience, and fortunately for my location I believe, that seldom happens. Either that or I'm blissfully ignorant of it. :lol:

Happily enough, a jaw dropped yesterday when I pulled the stick from my nautilus bun. It was definitely a positive reaction. Last night I had to deal with the tangles. Not so positive. Very manly, grumpy face then. :p :knuckle: :silly:

[Chetanlaiho]

Hmm sometimes I see guys with a bowlcut kind of look that sort of have a fringe like that xD I'm pretty much anything goes but a super schoolgirly fringe might attract some attention from me. Or really girly pink bows or blingy dangling hairsticks.

[ghilliegirl_an]

I am also on the side that it depends on the guy, I may not be attracted to a guy that wears certain styles but that doesn't mean it doesn't look great on them. Whatever guys(and girls) decide to wear there will always be someone out there that finds it crazy attractive even if it's not the "norm". Personally speaking I like feminine looking guys, longish hair, clean shaven, skinny, guyliner, hair bows, skinny jeans the whole 9 yards so very few guys(short of wearing a bra and skirt(unless it's a kilt)) are too feminine for my taste. Of course that has led me to be attracted to far too many gay guys:shrug:


-Ashley

[celebriangel]

For me, there is no such thing.

I mean, I would be a little confused if a man wore pink ribbons in his hair to work, say, but that's more because of the associations wth childhood than the feminine thing.

My DBF *totally rocks* buns. He looks like some sort of warrior dude.

But then, I am very appreciative of androgyny and unconventional gender expression choices.

[jeanniet]

:laugh: :rollin: I should have made my title "Incognito!" or something.

For the OP:

I think male hair becomes too feminine only to people who, through their own personal views, determine it is so. If you're the owner of the hair, then it's up to you what constitutes too feminine for yourself.

The only downside is the risk of flak from those who cause a fuss because you're affronting their sensibilities about it. :shrug: From my experience, and fortunately for my location I believe, that seldom happens. Either that or I'm blissfully ignorant of it. :lol:

Happily enough, a jaw dropped yesterday when I pulled the stick from my nautilus bun. It was definitely a positive reaction. Last night I had to deal with the tangles. Not so positive. Very manly, grumpy face then. :p :knuckle: :silly:
The Bay Area (or much of it, at least) is a great place to express your out-of-the-norm self. West Sonoma County, which is where I live, is especially so. The diversity here is great.

Which reminds me--a couple of weeks ago I was up in Healdsburg and saw someone with almost floor-length dreads going into a restaurant. They looked really good, too. Unfortunately we were driving by at the time, so I couldn't tell if it was a man or a woman, and didn't get an up-close look. But what I could see was awesome!

Oh, and add me to the "Whoops, thought Gumball was a woman club." This is completely due to assumption on my part, and not a jab at masculinity. I'm simply inobservant.

[DoubleCrowned]

I think male hair can be styled in a way that clashes with more masculine clothing, being too soft or frilly looking. For example, waist-length curls with a formal suit would be a clash, and could be interpreted as too feminine. However, the same long curls could look perfect (and quite masculine) with a loose, blouson, collar-less shirt. On the other hand, a man who has a traditional, short, "conformist" haircut would look out of place in the flowing shirt, and might risk being called effeminate as a result.

Women get away with hairstyles that clash with their clothing much more easily than men, however, I feel awkward in sweats and sneakers when my hair is in a tidy French twist.

[alexandros22]

I think it depends on how it looks on you and not on the style. I like to wear mine in a samurai bun and i don't think it looks feminine at all.

[jamesw]

I think long hair looks great on guys. Updo's for the most part don't suit though.

[Symmetry]

As long as it's mostly natural looking, I don't think there's a cutoff point. Even something as obviously made up as Legolas's hair (in the LotR movies, that is) looks good to me, as long as the specific man can pull it off.

A tangled, matted, unwashed sheet of hair coming off someone who's too lazy or unconcerned to even practice basic hygiene, though...that really gets to me. It makes those of us who care about our long male hair look bad, I think.

[Demetrue]

Hmmm - If you are male (XY chromosomes) and your hair follicles continue to produce long hair, then it is "masculine". There IS such a thing as male pattern baldness (though women can inherit is well) but if your genes didn't give you baldness, then nature and genetics are obviously saying your long hair is not "too feminine". As others have said, what we consider masculine and feminine are social constructs that change over time and across various countries and cultures. Hair length really has no bearing on any other internal or external characteristics you possess.

[wtchmel]

I can't get past guys with "updos" like buns. It just looks....confusing.....to me. It's just too femme for me.

Total agreement on this one....

[Alun]

just wondering at what point or style do females consider male long hair to be too feminine.

like for example as guy getting a short fringe cut would just look silly let's be honest

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-iqtdu9uXiuo/Te3_2q3XcBI/AAAAAAAAFHE/6zB8jNVZGP8/s1600/hairstyle_with_fringe_belle-fringe-hairstyle.jpg

example.

or getting a perm hairstyle as well I can't see myself looking anything but really strange.

kind of why for 2 years i've done nothing to it, no dyes, no styles nothing because short of trimming it or thinning it there isn't anything I can do. Not talking about things like ponytails or anything but actual cut styles.

I guess I am a wee bit jealous of all the options females have for hair lol :(

Fringe - Noddy Holder (Slade)

Perm - Roger Daltry (the Who)



Perms, fringes, highlights, heavy layering in hair (think Farrah Fawcett) pigtails, ribbons, bows, if you wear any of the aforementioned. I will giggle at you in public, and possibly point. ;)

However: natural long hair, natural waves and curls, natural steely grey, ponytails, plaits, leather thongs or strings, metal clasps, darker coloured accent stripes, dreads, Afros and shaved? Hot. :)

Perms - see above

Fringes - see above

Highlights - OK in theory, but mostly seen on gay guys

Heavy Farrah Fawcett layering - me in the 1970s (I like the look, but I had to comb it every 5 mins, and didn't like the feel of hairspray)

Pigtails - to me that means braids, and I often wear one, but as you are obviously an American you probably mean bunches, IMHO only for girls with their age still in single digits

Bows - big in the 17th century, so must be due for a comeback


I can't get past guys with "updos" like buns. It just looks....confusing.....to me. It's just too femme for me.

Buns - pacific islanders wear them, and so did samurai warriors, so who would argue when they carried those big swords?


So were tights... :tmi:

Maybe tights on guys are due for a comeback too?

And someone mentionned pink sparkly hair accessories. I was going to say that Trolleypup wears them , but he already posted and admitted it!

[IanB]

Does it really matter? It's all down to personal choice, after all there are just as many females sporting what could be classed as "masculine" hairstyles, but we should have got beyond that type of classification in this day and age! :cheese:

[MasCat]

It's not the "what" it's the "how" :)))

[CornishMaid]

http://i984.photobucket.com/albums/ae330/elmsj/Misc/th_65ed7857.jpg (http://s984.photobucket.com/albums/ae330/elmsj/Misc/?action=view&current=65ed7857.jpg)

http://i984.photobucket.com/albums/ae330/elmsj/Misc/th_68a7d4d5.jpg (http://s984.photobucket.com/albums/ae330/elmsj/Misc/?action=view&current=68a7d4d5.jpg)

http://i984.photobucket.com/albums/ae330/elmsj/Misc/th_7dd5e05a.jpg (http://s984.photobucket.com/albums/ae330/elmsj/Misc/?action=view&current=7dd5e05a.jpg)

These are all pretty masculine looking to me. The middle one is Shiva - Hindu God.
I think it is all cultural / societal. To one culture a long haired man wearing a bun is extremely masculine, to another it is not.

Wear whatever you like I say :cool:

[Antimony]

I lived in Japan for a while and it was not uncommon to see men wearing headbands, barrettes and other girly styles and I definitely thought they looked strange on men. Long hair is one thing but I would not like to see obviously girly things like bangs.

This is exactly what I was going to say! Lately it's become a "thing" amongst young boys to use bobby pins to pin their long bangs up during class, and that's sort of transitioned into street fashion using colorful bobby pins and varying patterns with high school/college age boys.

Right now, there's a Korean actor who has very "feminine" hair who is experiencing quite a bit of popularity here:
http://www.nemopan.com/pan_issue/files/attach/images/6294/75875/3.jpg

I live right in the middle of Tokyo and I see plenty of Japanese men with very long sleek hair that they put up into a dewdrop style or a normal bun and just go about their day. They just wear normal clothes along with it. They (normally) aren't wearing suits, of course, but the hair always seems to fit them.

[Demetrue]

At one point in history, pink was for boys and blue was for girls, then it reversed. How can one gender claim an entire color as their own? Pink is a beautiful, vibrant color that many boys are initially drawn to, then told "Oh No, Pink is only for girls!" I see it all the time - I teach preschool. When I see that happen, I tell the kids, "No, everybody can like pink, everybody can like blue - we can like whatever color makes us feel happy!"

PS I also want 18th century ponytails to make a comeback!

[teal]

I can't get past guys with "updos" like buns. It just looks....confusing.....to me. It's just too femme for me.

I'm sure men would have said something similar about women wearing pants not so very long ago.

[julierockhead]

Long male hair looks GREAT, the longer the better...but it gets too fem for me when it is too neat. Guy hair should be a little messy, or a lot messy, a la Ned's hair in Game of Thrones. He wears it in a messy half up that is totally masculine.

And you do have options, besides benign neglect. You can color it, condition and oil it, try some masculine-type braids, maybe some feathers/leather strips/metal hairbands. Try some stuff and post pics!

[battles]

Wear your hair however you like. :p If it makes you happy, don't worry what anyone else thinks.

[WinterButterfly]

If you are a bigger guy and just look tough, anything goes. Even pink tyes and lacy scrunchies. If you are scrawnier or even just adverage you do better with low ponytails low braids and low buns. Leather acessories come in many masculine looks. You might try a low braid tyed at the end with a strip of leather. The smaller and thinner is the less you can usually do and still look manly. If you are 5'6 and 140 pounds, I would suggest only simple styles. If you are 6'2" and 210 pounds, then eperiment away.

[KwaveT]

I am one of those that believe that anything should go. How you want to portray yourself should play into the decision. If you want to protray masculinity then you may want to stay away from doing some things with your hair. If you want to portray feminity then I say go for it. I think we should have many of the same options as women do. Me personally I don't get wrapped up in betraying masculinity since I am a girly guy. I don't get caught in worrying about what everybody else thinks. Using myself as an example, I carry a purse and most certainly use it. If I am going to stare all around wondering who thinks I am doing wrong then other will tend to target me more. I carry it just like most women do on the shoulder and think nothing of it. Same with the hair styles, do what you feel you can confidently pull off. The very things that men are not suppose to do are some of the very things I get complimented on. I very rarely even get bothered about that purse from the public. My family is where I got all the grief from about it since I EMBARRASS them with it. When my hair gets long enough to use feminine hairstyles, I will get grief from them on that too. Until men start taking a stand against these norms nothing is going to get changed. That is why women have near total freedom of expression because they stand up for their choices/preferences.

[bluesnowflake]

I think some men can pull off long hair and some can't, but then it's the same for women. Most bangs, high ponytails, flippy layers,and angled bobs are some I can think of that I would think weird on a guy, but maybe some don't. I think it all depends on the confidence you can wear it with.

[Misti]

Until men start taking a stand against these norms nothing is going to get changed. That is why women have near total freedom of expression because they stand up for their choices/preferences.

I agree completely! Thank you for putting into words so succinctly, KWave.

[didrash]

It could reach the floor and I will still not think it feminine, as long as it is not dyed or styled in a typically feminine style - highlights or something like that. Its really not about length.

[Alun]

I am one of those that believe that anything should go. How you want to portray yourself should play into the decision. If you want to protray masculinity then you may want to stay away from doing some things with your hair. If you want to portray feminity then I say go for it. I think we should have many of the same options as women do. Me personally I don't get wrapped up in betraying masculinity since I am a girly guy. I don't get caught in worrying about what everybody else thinks. Using myself as an example, I carry a purse and most certainly use it. If I am going to stare all around wondering who thinks I am doing wrong then other will tend to target me more. I carry it just like most women do on the shoulder and think nothing of it. Same with the hair styles, do what you feel you can confidently pull off. The very things that men are not suppose to do are some of the very things I get complimented on. I very rarely even get bothered about that purse from the public. My family is where I got all the grief from about it since I EMBARRASS them with it. When my hair gets long enough to use feminine hairstyles, I will get grief from them on that too. Until men start taking a stand against these norms nothing is going to get changed. That is why women have near total freedom of expression because they stand up for their choices/preferences.

I think it is more because women are harder to embarrass. Also, some, but by no means all, follow fashion without regard to how daft it looks. I don't think the women on here fall into that category, but almost no men do.

[Cassie 123]

I think it is more because women are harder to embarrass. Also, some, but by no means all, follow fashion without regard to how daft it looks. I don't think the women on here fall into that category, but almost no men do.

I think it's because men are still higher-paid and tend to have more power in a business and political context in our society. When women wear masculine styles, it can make them look more powerful (sometimes). When men wear feminine styles, they are referencing the uniform of a weaker group and it can make them appear less powerful.

[Demetrue]

I think it's because men are still higher-paid and tend to have more power in a business and political context in our society. When women wear masculine styles, it can make them look more powerful (sometimes). When men wear feminine styles, they are referencing the uniform of a weaker group and it can make them appear less powerful.
Exactly. One of the worst things a group of boys can say to another boy to shame him is "you throw like a girl, you look like a girl, you cry like a girl," because unfortunately, being a girl is looked upon as something negative and less than.

[Alun]

I think it's because men are still higher-paid and tend to have more power in a business and political context in our society. When women wear masculine styles, it can make them look more powerful (sometimes). When men wear feminine styles, they are referencing the uniform of a weaker group and it can make them appear less powerful.

That's why men avoid feminine styles, to the extent that we do, but he was talking about why women have more freedom of choice, which is a slightly different question. It's not just binary, where every style is necessarily masculine or feminine. Men don't only avoid styles that might be seen as feminine, they also tend to avoid anything that can be seen as being silly or ridiculous, to a far greater extent than women do, anyway.

If I talk about men in the 3rd person, it's because I'm talking about 'typical' men. Men with long hair automatically fall outside that group.

[jujube]

Exactly. One of the worst things a group of boys can say to another boy to shame him is "you throw like a girl, you look like a girl, you cry like a girl," because unfortunately, being a girl is looked upon as something negative and less than.

This.


That's why men avoid feminine styles, to the extent that we do, but he was talking about why women have more freedom of choice, which is a slightly different question. It's not just binary, where every style is necessarily masculine or feminine. Men don't only avoid styles that might be seen as feminine, they also tend to avoid anything that can be seen as being silly or ridiculous, to a far greater extent than women do, anyway.

And also this.

[seaj]

I remember it wasn't too long ago that people would freak out when they heard of a guy using a hair straightener. Now about 1 in 5 guys use one according to one article I read. I'm sure that Nick Jonas helped a bit with that one haha.

What about these guys? Is their hair too feminine?

http://thefashionistoimages.com/2011/9/beforethestorm4.jpg
http://thefashionisto.com/reinaldo-berthoti-by-felipe-barbosa-in-isnt-he-lovely/

http://forums.thefashionspot.com/showpost.php?p=6367599&postcount=13

http://thefashionisto.com/andrej-pejic-by-marcin-tyszka-for-viva-moda-magazine/#more-94944

[Teazel]

Someone said "ribbons", and I immediately thought of Bono in the 'Stay (Faraway, So Close!)' video, and Michael Hutchence in the 'New Sensations' vid. Both wore black ribbons in their hair - and yes, tied in bows - and neither looked feminine in the least. Quite the opposite, in fact. :D

I agree with those who said it's not what you wear, but how you wear it.

[nellreno]

It becomes too feminine when it's attached to a woman, the way I see it.

[Cassie 123]

What about these guys? Is their hair too feminine?

http://thefashionistoimages.com/2011/9/beforethestorm4.jpg
http://thefashionisto.com/reinaldo-berthoti-by-felipe-barbosa-in-isnt-he-lovely/

http://forums.thefashionspot.com/showpost.php?p=6367599&postcount=13

http://thefashionisto.com/andrej-pejic-by-marcin-tyszka-for-viva-moda-magazine/#more-94944

I guess the question is too feminine for what? In my personal opinion:

The first link, with the braids: appropriate in many circumstances. Hot guy. :eyebrows:

The second link: most appropriate for a man working in a creative industry in a major city. Attractive, polished, but it does set off the gaydar.

The third link is broken for me.

The fourth link: provocative looks, suitable for a rock star or other big personality.

ETA: I was totally distracted by the clothes and makeup in the fourth link. Actually, the hair is just messy but genuinely androgynous.

[pixiedust]

I'd probably have to agree with most of what's been already said. Bows, ribbons, fringes, perms, heavy layering, high ponytails, high buns, highlights, also if the hair has been colored at all, I don't think I find that attractive - meaning highlights, all over color, or bleach. however, if its like, blue or green or pink or bright red or neon yellow, that'd be pretty cool.

In my opinion, men's long hair look best with natural tapered ends, a fairytale or v shaped hemline, any ornate, neutral toned low profile accessories placed correctly would be alright. low braids or loose tails, perhaps a loose bun if he had enough self confidence to pull it off. dreadlocks too, definitely. A guy at my local whole foods has knee length dreads. he's get beads in them, and it looks really nice in a bun, he never looks feminine or awkward.

[hendrickx]

I agree with most of what's on here. It's not what you wear, but who you are and how you act that defines you. That being said, most people in high school thought I was gay, including the woman I married.

I just never let other people's opinions bother me. I act how I'd like, treat others the way I want to be treated, and am generally happy about it.

When my hair gets long enough, I intend to put it in braids of all types, buns with chopsticks and without, and generally play with it. I can't say I'll ever wear any of it out of the house, but I will experiment and wear what I find to be comfortable and stylish no matter what the general public may think.

[Alun]

If some of the male models that were linked to might seem feminine, it has nothing to do with their hair. Andrej Pejic in particular has facial features that look more feminine than masculine, and is well known for that.

[PixxieStix]

When I met my FH five years ago, he had waist length virgin hair that he wore in a nape ponytail every. single. day. Rarely, he would wear it down, and oh man, *swoons*. I, however, LOVED braiding his hair for him. Half updos, fishtail, and regular. Now, this is a man who has many, many female friends, especially from high school (eons ago for him now!) and I've seen pictures of him when they got a hold of him for Halloween, and enter : the "catholic school girl" with two high ponytails (yes, skirt included), and the Geisha. Oddly enough, he pulled them off very well, and has always been comfortable enough with himself that he can wear whatever he wants, whether it be unorthodox or not, and he always looks pretty good. We are both growing our hair out now, and I can't wait to try all kinds of new styles on him, and he'll let , me, he'll go to work where no one will even blink at it because he carries everything he does with self confidence, which is really what I think it boils down to. Wear that like a second skin, and no matter what your style, hair or otherwise, people will automatically have more respect for you for being confident in yourself than someone who may dress to the T but is always acting unsure of themselves.

Hair accessories is where I do think it looks, well, odd if there is a certain style a guy sports but has pink glittery accessories in the hair, but hey, I'm more inclined to see the overall effect and judge how well it was done rather than judge the person.

Teehee, my whole family was out eating ice cream on some park benches the last time I went home for a visit, and she insisted the guy with the waist length golden blonde hair in dreadlocks playing hackey sack half a block away was a lanky, tall girl. My mother and I said no, that's a guy, and she wouldn't believe us so she walked up the other side of the street to a store just a little past him, pretended to read a sign or something, and then came back and said "Well, it's a girl with facial hair!" Lol! That just cracked me up so bad that she would stereotype someone sooooo badly (yes, the guy was wearing short shorts too), considering my baby brother has bright red, super thick, past waist length hair, and he is definitely tall and lanky. :P

[ladonna]

I think a man's hair would only look feminine if the man carried himself in a feminine way. My DH is so masculine that even when our daughters play dress-up with him he still doesn't look feminine.

[Little_Bird]

I've seen men in this forum looking like a women and women looking like a men, all of them had long hair.

Hair is just an asset, as is femininity and masculinity. As with hair, you should be able to chose one or the other, despite having a penis or a vagina.

I think it's very bad that there are women who shun feminine men, when women today are so much less feminine than women were a century ago for example.

Just think about this: the first lady to wear trousers was definitly called a lesbian and was made fun of by men and women altogether. Femininity is also not just about looks, as masculinity for women was not just looks either in the begining, but also empowerment.

I could go on and on about this as my master's dissertation was about femininity for men. I personally grew my hair in part because I'm feminine and I like being androginous. Andrej Pejic for example is so much more beautiful than many women out there. But beauty is just that, beauty, a shell to look at.

So what's with men wearing skirts, pink bows or thighs? As long as they're pleased when they look in the mirror, they have the right to wear wathever they want: it's cloth. They have the right to have their hais as long as they want: it's hair, a natural thing.

Society has cathegorized people for their genitalia, for their social position... is that right? Am I to be considered diferent from a rich person because I have less money? So why should I be considered diferent from a women because I have a penis? I might have diferent genitalia but I might feel things as a women does, I might think like a women does. So why can't I look like her? And even if I am just like a man inside but still feel better looking like a women? Who has the right to judge?

People are just too worried about what others think. It's a shame that people don't have enough confidence. I am wearing a shirt today I bought in the women's section and we had people over for dinner, and a guy (who's very masculine) really liked it and told me that when I don't want it anymore he would have it. I laughed inside.

And even in the men's section I've heard guys yelling that a pair of trousers was gay because they were orange. This is ridiculous.

Gender division is ridiculous. If there is such a thing I suggest every men in here to cut their hair and every women to give their trousers to the guys.

Or we can be happier by wearing wathever we want?

I have a strong opinion on this sorry :p I love my pink and my doll hair and my nailpolish. Thank you!

:D

[seaj]

I guess the question is too feminine for what? In my personal opinion:

The first link, with the braids: appropriate in many circumstances. Hot guy. :eyebrows:

The second link: most appropriate for a man working in a creative industry in a major city. Attractive, polished, but it does set off the gaydar.

The third link is broken for me.

The fourth link: provocative looks, suitable for a rock star or other big personality.

ETA: I was totally distracted by the clothes and makeup in the fourth link. Actually, the hair is just messy but genuinely androgynous.

The first two links show the same guy and I think in all the pictures his bone structure and build and poses allow him to pull it off.

Third link should have displayed these http://thefashionisto.com/random-magazine-nymphenburg-florian-pessenteiner-by-stefan-milev/#more-39639

As for the fourth link, androgyny is Andrej's forte and even outside of his career, he fully embraces his feminine side.


If some of the male models that were linked to might seem feminine, it has nothing to do with their hair. Andrej Pejic in particular has facial features that look more feminine than masculine, and is well known for that.

I was hoping to display a range of examples that show that how you carry yourself and your physical build play a part in what is percieved as masculine and feminine.

What other people think about [your hair] is none of your buisiness.

[Cassie 123]

Oops, thank you for your explanation, seaj. I totally missed your point the first time around :o but I get it now.

In my answers to the OP, I was trying to focus on some kind of practical advice - like "at what point does male hair become too feminine to attract girls?" or "at what point does male hair become too feminine "for advancement in the workplace?" And the answer, of course, is "it depends on the person"; I also think that it can depend to a certain extent on the circumstances.

Although some have taken offense at some of the answers presented in the thread, I do not think anybody was making any grand absolute pronouncements about what men may or may not do. I think all of the people who presented limiting-sounding answers were just searching for a way to give some kind of practical advice, as I was.

[Little_Bird]

Cassie, I have to say I didn't take offense :p I'm not sure you meant me, but I know I was kinda too blunt, but I get really serious when it comes to this topic :lol:

I understand what you say about circumstances and gender division, unfortunatly you can't have certain things if you don't follow some rules. Too bad they just don't have a true reason to be...

[Navydoc_76]

for some reason i dont like haircolor on men-my husband has short black hair and is going grey and i LOVE it! i love the grey streaks in someones hair-male or female.

im in agreement with others-as long as im not seeing scrunchies, ribbons, and buns im good with it. i love the ponytail with leather ties, but hardly ever see something like that! and a simple braid. i worked with a doctor that had the thickest blond long hair-he always ponytailed it.. his hair put most women to shame!

[xoxophelia]

Personally I think there is nothing wrong with a feminine man. If there are things you want to do to your hair that might be considered feminine.. I would say go ahead and do them! If you are worried about sending out the wrong signal then maybe you could stick to more "masculine" things but I think there are still options. One would be doing two accent braids in the front with a center part and starting the braiding halfway down the length. Kind of elvish/viking looking.

One braid can also look very good and there are many leather or metal hair clasps and accents that look masculine or even outdoorsy.

[Lissandria]

I love long hair on anyone it suits, especially a good looking man.

A man can rock the long locks any way he sees fit IMO. Femininity is a state of mind, not what you do with your hair.