Do You Think Men Like Curly Hair?

[JulietCapulet]

Have you noticed men liking curly hair at all?

Hours later...

I just found this article: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/celebritynews/3699551/Men-prefer-women-with-long-wavy-hair-such-as-Kelly-Brook.html

[aada]

Yes, I have. The ones that like curly hair. :D

(There is no standard universal "like." Each individual has their own preferences.)

[spidermom]

My DD has curly hair. When she met her last boyfriend, she had straightened it, and she kept straightening it because he liked her hair. But one day she didn't have the time or energy and wore it curly. He LOVED it, told her she didn't have to straighten it anymore.

[Raventresses]

I've noticed quite a few men loving curly hair... I believe its the "wild" look to it. At least that's what my DBF says...

[bunzfan]

My last boyfriend preferred it curly :)

[DARKMARTIAN]

Curly hair is cool with me! The only time I dont think it holds a lot of appeal is when the hair is not only curly....but also nearly perfectly spherical.

Ive mentioned this before....but I cant help but see a field of dandelions when I view a large congregation of "elderly" people from the back

[Belisarius]

My DD has curly hair. When she met her last boyfriend, she had straightened it, and she kept straightening it because he liked her hair. But one day she didn't have the time or energy and wore it curly. He LOVED it, told her she didn't have to straighten it anymore.
LOL. Yes, there are men who like curly hair. Or in general if a woman has a certain physical characteristic, you can find a man who likes that. :)

[HintOfMint]

I believe that men like hair that appears to be in good condition, and texture doesn't really have much to do with it. I would say that is the only hard and fast rule about men and hair.

[MinderMutsig]

I believe that men like hair that appears to be in good condition, and texture doesn't really have much to do with it. I would say that is the only hard and fast rule about men and hair. Meh most are probably satisfied if there is hair period.

I know a lot of men who think blowfried bleached straw is pretty and cute.

[DARKMARTIAN]

I know a lot of men who think blowfried bleached straw is pretty and cute.

Ugh.......:(

[McFearless]

Most men like straight-wavy hair. Guys like hair that looks touchable. You can't exactly run your fingers through curly hair.

[Babyfine]

I met and married my hubby when I had a curly perm and he loved it. Of course this was 1992 but
I think he would still like me to perm but I won't because
it's too damaging.
He does not care for my hair straightened or flat ironed at all.

[HintOfMint]

Meh most are probably satisfied if there is hair period.

I know a lot of men who think blowfried bleached straw is pretty and cute.

It is possible that they can't really tell it is damaged... or they actually like the girl attached to the hair. Crazy, right?:p

[Lianna]

I believe length is more important to them. If you asked to choose between short and straight or long and curly, guess what wins, in most cases. If the curls look good, I don't see why not like it, now if it's a frizzball...(I've had frizzball :D)

[dfotw]

Yes, some men like curly hair.

In fact, a male friend of my nearly had a heart-attack the one time that I blow-dried my hair, and likened the loss of my curls to the defacing of the Sistine Chapel, then proceeding to (jokingly, I hope) threaten to burn down all the nearby hair-salons so I couldn't straighten it again... :p

[Yozhik]

Most men like straight-wavy hair. Guys like hair that looks touchable. You can't exactly run your fingers through curly hair.

Tell that to my BBF's boyfriend, who loves to run his hands through her 3B curls until they totally lose their definition. :p

She doesn't complain, though. ;)

[Roseate]

A male friend of mine recently had dinner with his ex-girlfriend. He has carried a little bit of a torch for her for years, but this time he came back to report that he was finally, completely over her!

She had recently had her waistlength 3b hair Japanese straightened to a glossy smooth 1a... and that was the end of it. Without the curls, it just wasn't the same.

There are definitely male curl-lovers out there!

[prosperina]

If the guy likes you, he'll probably like your hair. :flowers:

[McFearless]

Tell that to my BBF's boyfriend, who loves to run his hands through her 3B curls until they totally lose their definition. :p

She doesn't complain, though. ;)

Lol lucky girl! Run your fingers through my hair and you'll lose them forever:p

[IndigoInk]

If the guy likes you, he'll probably like your hair. :flowers:

This.

Make yourself happy with your hair.

[JulietCapulet]

I'm sure any guy would like THESE curly waves! :-Dhttp://imgur.com/Hc65E.jpg (http://imgur.com/Hc65E.jpg)

[cuddledumplin]

I've always had loads of compliments on my hair texture. (My hair is proper curly if it's shoulder length or shorter).

[princessp]

I'm sure any guy would like THESE curly waves! :-Dhttp://imgur.com/Hc65E.jpg (http://imgur.com/Hc65E.jpg)

That's me! I never post front views, how did you get that picture? :D

Anyway, I think guys mainly like you for you too (not your hair).

[Piewee]

Well, I guess this is for the men to clear up right?

I ofcourse can only speak for myself, but I like to consider my self a man, so I guess I have some to say here.

I like hair most on ladies if it's wel taken care of, it doesn;t matter if it's curly or something else.
The only thing I seem to find less atractive is when a women puts to much time on her hair making it look right. I mean, if you can really tell that they used a hair straightener to get it straight, or did a perm to get curls, or use a lot of hair products like gel,spray or mouse. Then it makes it look a little to much, like al little overdone.

So yeah as long as it looks natural and healthy I guess for me it doesn't matter.

Also, I know that all my guy friends think different about what they like, I really think there is now measure in a general preference, the only think that I know has a bigger fanclub is that most guys like long hair on ladies.

Any questions? haha

[Mairéad]

I can't speak for men because I am not one, but I think people in general are in favor of someone's natural hair.

[manderly]

Tell that to my BBF's boyfriend, who loves to run his hands through her 3B curls until they totally lose their definition. :p

She doesn't complain, though. ;)

My DH2B has some strange compulsion to try to "pet" my head as soon as I come out of the bathroom from setting my wet curls (moisture and scrunching gel and stuff). I've become skilled at dodging this. He's always trying to touch it when it's drying and must not be touched....but when it's dry and bouncy? No go. LOL

[JulietCapulet]

Well, I guess this is for the men to clear up right?

I ofcourse can only speak for myself, but I like to consider my self a man, so I guess I have some to say here.

I like hair most on ladies if it's wel taken care of, it doesn;t matter if it's curly or something else.
The only thing I seem to find less atractive is when a women puts to much time on her hair making it look right. I mean, if you can really tell that they used a hair straightener to get it straight, or did a perm to get curls, or use a lot of hair products like gel,spray or mouse. Then it makes it look a little to much, like al little overdone.

So yeah as long as it looks natural and healthy I guess for me it doesn't matter.

Also, I know that all my guy friends think different about what they like, I really think there is now measure in a general preference, the only think that I know has a bigger fanclub is that most guys like long hair on ladies.

Any questions? haha

Thank you for your response! That sounds good to me!

[pepperminttea]

If the guy likes you, he'll probably like your hair. :flowers:

This. It's more about confidence IMHO - if you're happy with your hair (and with yourself generally), it'll show. :)

[Speckla]

My husband likes curly hair and doesn't really care for straight hair. He used to hate it when I straightened mine.

[May]

My BF prefers my hair curly.

[leslissocool]

This is coming fro m my husband and his friends that are here at home, I just had to ask them (there are about 5 of them) :D

Hubby likes curly hair (hates it when I straighten mine, even the rest like it straight) and has a thing for curls.

The rest agreed that they like "big" hair, but mostly straight. They agree with the guys that said they like "natural looking, not too much product." And they like it at least Bsl.

This is fun! you should make a poll out of this!

[enfys]

Most men I know like touseled hair; from what I've gathered through relentless eavesdropping (I was the only girl in two of my college classes) many don't like pin straight hair as much as girls do!

Of course all men are different and probably have different ideas over what is curly/straight/long/short/blonde/dark enough.

[BrightEyes7]

This guy I knew said he went crazy for girls with curly hair... I've heard other guys say they like curly hair. My DBF once asked if I could make my hair do what Taylor Swift's hair does. So yes some men like curly hair. To each their own!!

[christine1989]

I have straightened and curled and I think they don't really care much. Length on the other hand they seem more opinionated about.

[AnnaJamila]

I just asked my husband and he says he likes straight to ringlets, just not the super tight curlies. But seeing as I have straight hair I'm wondering where that ringlet bit came from... :suspect: Haha!

[FrannyG]

Most men like straight-wavy hair. Guys like hair that looks touchable. You can't exactly run your fingers through curly hair.

Where do you get this data? I know a lot of naturally curly-haired women (3a-3c and some 4s) who have never lacked for male attention, I assure you.

I find that to be a pretty bold sweeping judgment that you made there.


It's been my observation that men don't care all that much about straight or curly hair. It's usually the woman that they like. Women seem to be more obsessed about the straightening thing.

[JulietCapulet]

Where do you get this data? I know a lot of naturally curly-haired women (3a-3c and some 4s) who have never lacked for male attention, I assure you.

I find that to be a pretty bold sweeping judgment that you made there.


It's been my observation that men don't care all that much about straight or curly hair. It's usually the woman that they like. Women seem to be more obsessed about the straightening thing.

I agree with Franny G. It would be good if she could post some stats about this.

[Lady Mary]

My husband likes straight hair, luckily for him my hair is pin straight. He likes braid waves too he's just not too into natural spirals.

In general though, I think most guys don't heavily sway one way or the other, just a slight bias. If they meet the right person, hair probably won't matter. ;)

[kabelaced]

Wavy, wurly, curly hair is beautiful, and I am sure there are men who love this kind of hair! :)

Curly and wavy hair, to me, evokes a soft and beautiful radiance. Rock on, curlies!! :)

ETA: On the flipside, I was volunteering this weekend with a friend I hadn't seen in a while, and I was staring in awe at his (had to have been at least 2c, maybe 3a) nearly waist-length hair! It was so shiny and wild in some places, yet awesomely defined in others. I've told him before how cool I think he looks like that :p

[Katurday]

Meh most are probably satisfied if there is hair period.

I know a lot of men who think blowfried bleached straw is pretty and cute.
Don't judge. Bleached straw can be pretty.

My brother prefers curly hair but his exes insisted on straightening theirs. My bf tried to curl my straight hair with his fingers when seeing it curly at prom. Poor thing.

[Avvoltoio]

i love all, curly, straight or wavy hair if it is long, healthy, and thick

[lordofthespoons]

Yes! and this is coming from a gay guy :3 curley + wavey is definatley the best

[curlymarcia]

I believe some guys prefer curly and others straight. But any guy would realize that a healthy hair is beautiful. So, is more important what do you like ;)

[emmabovary]

When I first got together with my fiance my hair was Japanese straightened, and throughout our relationship he's been obsessed with my curls growing out. He's got curly hair too, maybe that's why he's in favor of curls. My ex BF was mortified whenever I wanted to straighten my hair.. or cut it. He didn't care about curls, he just wanted it to look wild and long.

[09robiha]

Does it matter??? He should like you for you, curly hair and all.

[trolleypup]

Like any physical characteristic, there is someone for everything and something for everyone...and of course, not everything is for everyone!

If you had a good study population, you could do an interesting two axis distribution map...curly/straight vs care/don't care. Or curly vs condition or whatever...but I'm sure what it will say is that some do and some don't or don't care.

Personally (and only personally), I lean towards long, healthy 1/2 hair *shrug* but for certain, hair is not a critical characteristic.

[aenflex]

It has to depend on the man. Most men I've dated were not into hair, period. I could have it red, brown, curly, straight, short, long- - and never hear a peep from any of them. Despite being a very happy and obsessed member of this board, I still don't understand how hair could play any type of major role/deciding factor in a relationship anyway.

[Sooze]

Some wonderfully diverse replies. Reminds me of something:-


"Only God, my dear,
Could love you for yourself alone
And not your yellow hair."

W.B. Yeats

[substitute "curly" for "yellow" ;) ]

[lapushka]

Despite being a very happy and obsessed member of this board, I still don't understand how hair could play any type of major role/deciding factor in a relationship anyway.

Same here!

I'd be absolutely mortified if a guy started telling me what he liked and didn't like when it came to hair, or clothing or what have you (that actually happened once, the guy loved shopping, and I immediately got GF instead of BF vibes). Talk about embarrassing! Who talks about this with a guy anyway or would even ask his opinion? He should be happy with what he's got. Period. What I do with or to my hair is up to me and me alone. Same goes for taste in clothing. I'll wear what I damn well please, thankyouverymuch. If a guy can't live with that, well... too bad. :)

[JulietCapulet]

Some wonderfully diverse replies. Reminds me of something:-


"Only God, my dear,
Could love you for yourself alone
And not your yellow hair."

W.B. Yeats

[substitute "curly" for "yellow" ;) ]

Thank you. :-)

Note: I take umbrage with Yeats but I know what you mean!

[mellie89]

DBF asked me a few months ago why my hair wasn't "curly" anymore. I was really confused until I realized that when he met me, my hair was probably along the lines of 2a/2b because it was so damaged! I tried to explain to him that my hair was in fact very straight, and he seemed a little disappointed. :p

[vanity_acefake]

Many many years ago I had my bsl dark hair premed (! I have the straightest hair ever) and I had guys in the pub coming up to me saying how much they looked my hair. It was a mass of wild gypsy curls. Looked lovely till my straight roots came in. So yes men do love curly hair. And straight hair. And every hair style in between!

[Sunsailing]

On women, or on themselves?

Yes and no.

I happen to LOVE curly hair on women. My wife has beautiful curly hair!

[Blueneko]

I am going to go out on a limb and say "like Kelly Brook" might also have to do with her large breasts and nude modeling.

Or they really like her hair. :)

[McFearless]

Where do you get this data? I know a lot of naturally curly-haired women (3a-3c and some 4s) who have never lacked for male attention, I assure you.

I find that to be a pretty bold sweeping judgment that you made there.


It's been my observation that men don't care all that much about straight or curly hair. It's usually the woman that they like. Women seem to be more obsessed about the straightening thing.

Which part?

Its my observation of what men like when it comes to hair.
There is more to getting a male's attention than hair.

[suicides_eve]

I know a lot of men who think blowfried bleached straw is pretty and cute.


My man don't :p
He's a curly fan.. and a long hair curly fan at that, which makes my quest all the more easier:crush:

[share801]

Not sure DBF cares if I have any hair or would notice if I didn't mention it.

[Unofficial_Rose]

I know a lot of men who think blowfried bleached straw is pretty and cute.

Based on observation, I have to concur on this one. I think the men who like this look just think "Blonde!", and for them, any kind of blonde > brunette.

But I think that's just certain men, and that there seem to be an equal number who dislike it (but are too polite/kind to say so openly).

But anyway, this is the curly/straight discussion, not colour-related. :)

[Athena's Owl]

I...can't be bothered to care whether "Men" like curly hair or not. I like my curly hair. if someone is going to judge hair to the point where how curly it is, what colour it is, or how long it is matters to the point where they wouldn't date a woman because her hair didn't match their expectations, well. That person's got problems that I don't have time for.

[Nat242]

Men are individuals. Some men like whatever is in fashion. Some men like curly hair. Others straight. Others wavy. Others don't factor hair type into their appraisal of a woman's attactiveness. Others like variety - changing styles and colours. Others prefer "male" styles, on other men. Others just love the hair that's on their SO.

[meerikal]

I have to say I find this thread incredibly entertaining. I do not believe I have ever been sitting with male friends or relatives and had one exclaim "look at the curls on her", generally from a visual attraction standpoint they are looking at other "assets". Most of the men in my experience are not looking at a chicks hair when they first meet her and I can only chuckle to think what the reaction of their friends would be if they started intelligently conversing about the merits of straight vs. curly on a woman they found attractive.

[trolleypup]

I have to say I find this thread incredibly entertaining. I do not believe I have ever been sitting with male friends or relatives and had one exclaim "look at the curls on her", generally from a visual attraction standpoint they are looking at other "assets". Most of the men in my experience are not looking at a chicks hair when they first meet her and I can only chuckle to think what the reaction of their friends would be if they started intelligently conversing about the merits of straight vs. curly on a woman they found attractive.
For what it is worth, I've had male coworkers (mainstream culture) comment on women's hair [1] when they might quite reasonably have commented on other "assets"...so it does happen.

[1] among others, truly spectacular TB ringlets.

[Deborah]

On this issue I think men are just like women. Some like curly hair, some like straight hair. Just like women, I don't think most men care so much what type of hair a woman has. There are so many other things that attract, that hair is likely not near the top of the list.

[Tia2010]

I think it really just depends on the guy. Years ago I had longer than BSL hair that was reddish blond and I cut it all off into a very light blond pixie cut ... I knew two brothers and one hated the fact I cut my hair off the other brother loved it! So I guess it really depends on the guy. I mean if everyone liked the same thing we would all look alike and how boring would that be :D

[FrannyG]

Which part?

Its my observation of what men like when it comes to hair.
There is more to getting a male's attention than hair.


Well you said:


Most men like straight-wavy hair. Guys like hair that looks touchable. You can't exactly run your fingers through curly hair.

You did not say that it was just your own observation in the first post. You simply said that most men like straight-wavy hair and stated it as fact. Since you provided no data to support that, I wondered where you came up with that first sentence.

If you had said that it's been your experience and hadn't generalized, I wouldn't have challenged it, as I would have known it was merely your opinion.

Also, I know for a fact that curly hair is touchable. My son's GF has naturally fine very curly hair, and he can indeed run his fingers through it and does.

I didn't mean to offend. I just didn't understand on what grounds you made your statement.

Your experience is valid, however, it is not necessarily a fact in general everywhere.

[Eire]

I think I read in a study that more men prefer hair that is wavy or straight than curly. But from what I remember the sample size was barely over 30, so I'm not sure what it's accuracy.

The study also said that the smallest percentage of men are those who prefer red hair. However, I know that even though they are not as common, the men who DO like red hair absolutely LOVE it. So it may be that way with curls.

This is another interesting project that a woman did using herself as a subject. She compared ratings of attractivness and intelligence when she had curly and straight hair. She was rated as more attractive with straight hair, but more articulate and intelligent with curly:

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=5565719&page=1

[curlylocks85]

Have you noticed men liking curly hair at all?

Hours later...

I just found this article: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/celebritynews/3699551/Men-prefer-women-with-long-wavy-hair-such-as-Kelly-Brook.html

My boyfriend likes my hair and my hair is curly.

[jujube]

generally from a visual attraction standpoint they are looking at other "assets". Most of the men in my experience are not looking at a chicks hair when they first meet her

On the contrary, women's hair can be a highly erotic "asset" for men. Muslim religion and culture, rings bells?

Shave your hair off and you'll have proof.

[lacefrost]

Honestly? I've found men prefer curly hair over straight hair. I get MUCH more attention from men when my hair is curly than when it's straight. And don't get me wrong, my hair looks great both ways. When it's straight, it's shiny and silky and very thick and past my shoulders. When it's curly I wear it in spirals or in small waves or big waves. And I've found regardless of age or race, men prefer my hair curly. They will stop me on the street to comment. And I think it's because men prefer hair that's a little messed up looking. Like you've spent all day in bed doing certain naughty things. ;)

ETA: I've found this to be true in Atlanta and in Australia. Things could be very different in other cities. Of course every man has his preference but I do think there is something to be said for cultural standards of beauty and they vary from locale to locale.

[StraduX]

I'm a guy and I have to say it all depends on taste. I personally prefer straight to wavy hair, but if you have healthy hair, almost any style will look great.

[McFearless]

Well you said:



You did not say that it was just your own observation in the first post. You simply said that most men like straight-wavy hair and stated it as fact. Since you provided no data to support that, I wondered where you came up with that first sentence.

If you had said that it's been your experience and hadn't generalized, I wouldn't have challenged it, as I would have known it was merely your opinion.

Also, I know for a fact that curly hair is touchable. My son's GF has naturally fine very curly hair, and he can indeed run his fingers through it and does.

I didn't mean to offend. I just didn't understand on what grounds you made your statement.

Your experience is valid, however, it is not necessarily a fact in general everywhere.

I don't think its necessary to say.. "Im my opinion" before every post. Usually when people are speaking its from their experiences.

I have curly hair also. Of course its literally touchable, but its more prone to tangles and frizzies if fingers are being raked through it. The curls get ruined and most men don't want to piss of their girlfriends/wives by messing up their hair!

[CarpeDM]

The men in my life have always liked it better when I have curled my hair as opposed to not curling it, so I would have to say men like curls.

[RoseRed27]

There will always be men who like only one type, and won't stray. Some men only date full figured women. Some men only date women with the same religion. Some men will only date red heads. I think they are the minority though, most men are pretty open.

Except for the finicky types...most men...when it comes to hair.....like.....whatever the girl has! :p It's true! Most men (and women) don't really know what they like. I know I pictured myself with a guy with medium length dark hair and duskier features, but I fell in love with a pale light-eyed guy with long blond hair! I "don't even like blonds". ;) They may say they have a preference for wavy hair, but the minute a cute girl with a mop of sultry curls walk by--they will not hesitate to ask for her number. My boyfriend met me with straight hair. I told him I was going to cut it all off and start over with my natural curly hair. He was apprehensive (so was I). I showed up on our date with less than an inch of curly hair.....He was overjoyed with how cute I looked! And he wasn't the only one. I have never had so many compliments from complete strangers in my life.

I think when men are asked what type of hair they like, they can't help but look at the total package. On some women, one style will not do her justice but another style will turn her into a bombshell. I bet if they used a less attractive model for the wavy hair, it wouldn't have fared so well. I also read that most people have either curly or wavy hair. But you woudn't know it since so many women straighten their hair or try to get the "right" type of wave. Maybe if men saw more luscious tendrils, voluminously fluffy 'fros, soft, spiraling tresses and breathtaking coils, kinks and curls of all types, more men would voice how lovely curly hair can be.

[RoseRed27]

On the contrary, women's hair can be a highly erotic "asset" for men. Muslim religion and culture, rings bells?

Shave your hair off and you'll have proof.

Yes, you're right, hair can be erotic. But so can any part of a person's body. I think culture has a lot to do with it as well. I don't think the majority of members here are from a traditional Muslim background, so they don't find a woman's hair automatically erotic. I remember from my sociology studies, there are some cultures (might just be one, and possibly only the traditional tribal peoples, not "modern", but the name escapes me), that if the woman is walked in on during her bath, she won't cover her breasts or genitalia first, but her belly button. But most men I know, aren't concerned with a woman's belly button. There are some people who can't get enough of feet. :confused: While the "foot criteria" for most men would be "I don't know...I guess they shouldn't smell?".

There are countless sites where people can look at...certain physical features of women. There are ones for hair too, but they are....not as popular......and are considered strange and a ******. To most westerners, a woman's hair isn't automatically considered erotic or sexy. (unless it's attached to a sexy woman! :p And even then, it takes a back seat to the "other assets")

I have cut my hair to less than an inch. I never felt more beautiful and desired. (when feeling beautiful is based solely on physical appearance) But that might be because I look best with very short hair or very long hair. This medium state is a downer!:D There are some women who look stunning with a shaved head (Amber Rose). I have seen even non celebrities look exquisite and feminine with a shaved head. It's not for everyone, no one hair style is.

As long as a woman looks good, most men (and some women) will take notice, even if she has something that she "shouldn't" to be considered attractive to some people. (very long hair, a shaved head, outdated clothes, not "tan enough", kinky hair, pink hair, a lip ring, a hijab, flat shoes, whatever)

[Unofficial_Rose]

Yes, you're right, hair can be erotic. But so can any part of a person's body. I think culture has a lot to do with it as well. I don't think the majority of members here are from a traditional Muslim background, so they don't find a woman's hair automatically erotic.



Lapdancers/strippers tend to have long hair even if it is not always their own (regardless of waves, curls or straightness). Not sure a dancer with a shaved head would be quite so popular, though. :confused: Yes, it's a secondary part of the look. But the fact that they tend to have abundant hair implies there must be something erotic about it.

[RoseRed27]

Lapdancers/strippers tend to have long hair even if it is not always their own (regardless of waves, curls or straightness). Not sure a dancer with a shaved head would be quite so popular, though. :confused: Yes, it's a secondary part of the look. But the fact that they tend to have abundant hair implies there must be something erotic about it.

Yes, it can indeed be sexy, but mainly because it's attached to a sexy woman. It's not the main part of the "show". And actually, Amber Rose was a stripper. Her status as a great beauty didn't skyrocket, until she shaved her head.

And long hair (real world long i.e. shoulder to midback), is considered feminine. (In the west, generally speaking. I'm not saying that men with long hair are feminine!:p) So of course, strippers would want to look as feminine as possible. Long hair might help some people look better, but not everyone looks good with long hair. Either way, the guy isn't saying "Dang, look at her side swept bangs and fairy tale ends, whoa". :D Strippers tend to wear eye shadow too, but the eye shadow itself isn't erotic. It helps, but isn't the focus. Children wear clip in hair pieces and wigs for dress up, but there's very little inappropriate about that. Children aren't discouraged from having long hair. They would be discouraged from wearing clear lucite platform heels, though.

I'm not saying, hair doesn't have the capacity to be sexy. It's just that in the west, for most people, a woman's hair will not be as erotic as other body parts. A woman walking through the library without her hair covered, will not be as shocking as a woman walking with no top.

I think we are more than the sum of our parts. A person can have the hair we say we don't like or the body type we say we don't like, but when we stop dissecting, and put the person back together, they can be a beauty. Even if we can't explain why...

[Coan-Teen]

I think most men tend to like confidence best so a wurly curly strutting her stuff will attract their notice just as much as the silky straight doing the same. A friend of mine who was being particularly crass once made the oft-cited comparison that a man appreciates an attractive woman and a nice car for the same reasons: she's a package deal. He was saying it to antagonize me but the way he put it also made a bit of good sense. If a car is a nice car, chances are the driver isn't going to complain the cup holders are the wrong shape. I think men tend to take things as a whole, including a woman's appearance. There will always be people who have particular and strong preferences, but the most attractive thing about you is owning who you are and being confident about it.

[OperaTeacherMom]

When I first went CG and started growing my hair out, DH said he didn't like my hair curly. It stung, but after talking it out I realized he didn't dislike the curls; he disliked the shrinkage, since it looks longer straight. I have decided I hate short hair on myself too, he was right all along ;) Guess I'm in the right place, long curly hair here I come!

[keepmyhair]

I do think that curls make hair more attractive, but I like good hair regardless of it's length or curlyness (if that's a word) :-)

[leslissocool]

I think most men tend to like confidence best so a wurly curly strutting her stuff will attract their notice just as much as the silky straight doing the same. A friend of mine who was being particularly crass once made the oft-cited comparison that a man appreciates an attractive woman and a nice car for the same reasons: she's a package deal. He was saying it to antagonize me but the way he put it also made a bit of good sense. If a car is a nice car, chances are the driver isn't going to complain the cup holders are the wrong shape. I think men tend to take things as a whole, including a woman's appearance. There will always be people who have particular and strong preferences, but the most attractive thing about you is owning who you are and being confident about it.

Beautifully put!

[patti]

I have had no hair, curly hair, straight hair, and hair of every color. My only observation - men that like women, like women. Never had a problem attracting men at any time with any different hair look.

[may1em]

Some do, some don't, and some like the hair whatever type it is because it's attached to the woman (or man) they adore.

[Watergallop]

I think the culture at large would have us believe that they don't. In Princess Diaries, Anne Hathaway gets her hair straightened during her make-over. On Sex and the City, Carrie gets hair complements when it's straight. Etc. I feel like I see this attitude a lot on tv, that straight hair is preferred and professional, but in real life I have not noticed that curly girls get any less attention from guys. If anything I think they're a little awed by well-maintained long curls.

[Merlin]

Well, trying (and failing) to avoid any comments about curly hair being easier to hold onto....

I agree with the comment that, for me, it's the person under the hair rather than the hair itself which matters. My first girlfriend (aghhhhh, very bad memories) had slightly wavy hair and Mrs M has hair which is thick and only just naturally wavy. In both cases it was them I fancied. Mrs M has had a couple of tight curly perms, which looked totally lush and which I loved despite the overpowering odour in bed for the first few nights. But then again I've liked it long and straight, braid waved, very short, loose curled and every other way she's worn it.

I'm often interested by the 'do men like..' type threads, because as a man I know what I like but I have no idea what 'men' like. Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn what 'men' like, because I'm me...not them.

[JulietCapulet]

I just keep wondering, if men disliked curls, why would so many women have them? It seems to me like the media has had a role to play in the preferences. But it's kind of like emotions. If you have a lot of emotion you are told to squash them and keep them silent. Don't express yourself too much. It's like curls. If you have curls and an expressive, emotional personality...you are supposed to basically become another person. Basically subdue anything naturally curly or expressive.

[JulietCapulet]

I'm still wondering about this question I posted. I'm afraid I'm becoming overly preoccupied with it.

[HintOfMint]

More anecdotal evidence, coming up!

I went for a haircut with my boyfriend at the time, and I asked the hairdresser to diffuse it and make it curly. It came out much curlier than expected and with the curls, an APL cut was practically up to my chin.

My boyfriend went bonkers and LOVED it. He begged me to do my hair like that repeatedly for the rest of the time we dated. Unfortunately, I was never able to replicate it, but he really loved it. And it didn't look like "curling iron" curls, they looked like natural big curls.

[wvgemini]

Ive mentioned this before....but I cant help but see a field of dandelions when I view a large congregation of "elderly" people from the back

Still reading through, but this made me laugh so hard:D

[Anywhere]

Maybe women have them because its not the men who like the curls, but the women themselves. :eyebrows:
I've had a guy tell me he only thinks straight hair is attractive, and a guy whine and complain every time I said I felt like straightening my hair. I think it's also more of a.. not sure what you call it. Regional thing? The guy who told me he liked straight hair was Vietnamese, and therefore had straight hair himself. The guy who loves it curly is 1/4 Liberian, and has super tight curls himself. I think its just an "I'm used to X, therefore I like X" type thing. But this is of course my experience with two guys, and I do realize 2 =/= the whole male population. I think guys want to be able to run their fingers through a girls hair which is a bit more of a challenge with curly hair. The romantic scenes in movies usually have a guy putting his hands in the woman's hair, and people see that since it's all over the media, and therefore think they want to do it themselves. I think that's still possible to do with curly hair as long as the guy doesn't rake through it but I'm not sure (I'm merely a 2c here).

But yes, I do believe men like curly hair. Whenever women (teenage girls, fellow classmates at least) want to look fancy (i.e. prom or just to look "cute" for a date or something) they curl their hair. ;)

[JulietCapulet]

More anecdotal evidence, coming up!

I went for a haircut with my boyfriend at the time, and I asked the hairdresser to diffuse it and make it curly. It came out much curlier than expected and with the curls, an APL cut was practically up to my chin.

My boyfriend went bonkers and LOVED it. He begged me to do my hair like that repeatedly for the rest of the time we dated. Unfortunately, I was never able to replicate it, but he really loved it. And it didn't look like "curling iron" curls, they looked like natural big curls.

That is so sweet, thank you.:-D

[JulietCapulet]

Maybe women have them because its not the men who like the curls, but the women themselves. :eyebrows:
I've had a guy tell me he only thinks straight hair is attractive, and a guy whine and complain every time I said I felt like straightening my hair. I think it's also more of a.. not sure what you call it. Regional thing? The guy who told me he liked straight hair was Vietnamese, and therefore had straight hair himself. The guy who loves it curly is 1/4 Liberian, and has super tight curls himself. I think its just an "I'm used to X, therefore I like X" type thing. But this is of course my experience with two guys, and I do realize 2 =/= the whole male population. I think guys want to be able to run their fingers through a girls hair which is a bit more of a challenge with curly hair. The romantic scenes in movies usually have a guy putting his hands in the woman's hair, and people see that since it's all over the media, and therefore think they want to do it themselves. I think that's still possible to do with curly hair as long as the guy doesn't rake through it but I'm not sure (I'm merely a 2c here).

But yes, I do believe men like curly hair. Whenever women (teenage girls, fellow classmates at least) want to look fancy (i.e. prom or just to look "cute" for a date or something) they curl their hair. ;)

I don't have curls because I like them, I have them because I was born with them.

[Issmene]

Well whenever my hair is curlier (sometimes it just happens and I get streched ringlets) or make natural looking curls in my hair with ribbons I get compliments of guys, so I assume they like curls xD

[Nera]

Duh, every one I know only likes me for my hair!! They've just used me because I was curly;)

No of course not, hehe, every one likes different hair, but that doesn't mean that some hairtypes maybe get more attention than others.

[Nera]

* that some hairtypes don't get more attention, I meant!

[Anywhere]

I don't have curls because I like them, I have them because I was born with them.


but the thing is, if you didn't like them you would straighten them or chemically straighten them, or wrap them, or relax them some way or another. ;)

[vanillabones]

My hair is extremely flat and straight, when I had fusion extensions to APL I stopped blowdrying because the extensions were wavy and I liked having wavy hair for once, my DBF love love loved it, said I should always wear it like that and that it was pretty and looked more natural? Too bad it is very unnatural for my hair to look like that, but I will constantly make braid waves then once it is long enough :(

[ladylovecraft]

I really don't think one type of hair is liked more than another... I know plenty of guys who like short hair, long hair, dreads, curls, straight.. I've never noticed a particular curve towards any type of hair. Every individual has their own tastes.

Even if there is that general lean (such as girls liking short hair on boys), there are always tons of exceptions.. I prefer long hair on men. You can find plenty of people with all preferences.

[Anywhere]

I really don't think one type of hair is liked more than another... I know plenty of guys who like short hair, long hair, dreads, curls, straight.. I've never noticed a particular curve towards any type of hair. Every individual has their own tastes.

Even if there is that general lean (such as girls liking short hair on boys), there are always tons of exceptions.. I prefer long hair on men. You can find plenty of people with all preferences.


Agreed. It also varies on peoples perceptions of "long", and "short", or in this case "curly" or "straight". I know girls at school who gel and scrunch their hair only to end up with very, very slight waves (between 1c and 2a) and say they have "naturally curly hair". I'm a 2c and I'm hesitant to call myself a full on curly. I think certain ethnicities generally like certain hair better, based on whatever the "norm" is for them. I of course have no proof of that other than my personal observations.


I guess I should re-tackle the "if men don't like it, then why do women have it?" question since my previous argument for that is probably invalidated. Some men don't. There are straight haired women that they can love. Some men do. There are curly haired women that they can love. Genetics don't always = what all men like or what all women like.Aside from that, I believe (not sure though) that curly hair is a dominant trait and will override the straight hair gene. It also could be that there are no straight haired women where they are to have children with, or perhaps the men themselves have curly hair that would override the straight hair gene their spouse has. There's a whole lot of reasons as to why women would have curly hair. Women have leg hair, most men don't like that but we're still born with it. Same with armpit hair. :shrug:

[gthlvrmx]

I. Love. Curly. Hair. I feel that there is more personality in it than straight hair and it does have that wild yet beautiful look to it

[ladylovecraft]

I guess I should re-tackle the "if men don't like it, then why do women have it?" question since my previous argument for that is probably invalidated. Some men don't. There are straight haired women that they can love. Some men do. There are curly haired women that they can love. Genetics don't always = what all men like or what all women like.Aside from that, I believe (not sure though) that curly hair is a dominant trait and will override the straight hair gene. It also could be that there are no straight haired women where they are to have children with, or perhaps the men themselves have curly hair that would override the straight hair gene their spouse has. There's a whole lot of reasons as to why women would have curly hair. Women have leg hair, most men don't like that but we're still born with it. Same with armpit hair. :shrug:

This, as well. If genetics dictated what everyone liked, or there was a set ideal, we could assume that all men prefer blondes and big boobies (say a Pamela Anderson look), and none of the different looking women would get dates!

When I described my ideal mate to strangers, I get a lot of confusion in response. If I wanted what genetics dictate I should want, I would like short-haired alpha-males with muscles and tans. I pretty much like the opposite. And there are plenty of girls in my 'scene' so to speak who like the same look. There's someone out there who likes your look, no matter what it is. And there's also someone out there who thinks you look ridiculous. : )

(Before anyone takes offense, I am one of the MOST RIDICULOUS looking people alive.:D)

[Quixotica]

I know a lot of men who think blowfried bleached straw is pretty and cute.

Muwhahaha....me too!!!

[Luna12345]

My boyfriend gets mad when I straighten my hair, he loves it big and curly.

[Mesmerise]

I think men just like...whatever!

Different man = different likes/dislikes.

I think "in general" men prefer longer hair (although some guys like short hair), but beyond that I guess some prefer curly, and some straight, and many just don't care at all because hair is just one aspect of a person!

I think if a guy finds you attractive, it won't matter so much what your hair's like, or whether it's straight or curly, long or short!

[Saila_]

Men at large are not at consensus about these things. Secondly, why should I concern myself with pleasing men? It's my hair. It's also 2011.

I am not meaning to be snarky, that's just my first reaction. That link just made me shake my head. Unbelievable.

Sigh.

[JulietCapulet]

Men at large are not at consensus about these things. Secondly, why should I concern myself with pleasing men? It's my hair. It's also 2011.

I am not meaning to be snarky, that's just my first reaction. That link just made me shake my head. Unbelievable.

Sigh.

It's ok, if you want to be snarky it's fine. :) But yes I do like to please men, why not? It's fun and they deserve fro women to put some effort for them. Men are wonderful.

[Mesmerise]

There's nothing wrong with wanting to please men, and there's also nothing wrong with wanting to please yourself!

Honestly whether men like/dislike curly hair is like saying do men prefer girls who are tall or short (I've surveyed them about this very subject lol)... what will you find?? Some like tall girls, some like short girls, some don't care at all... and some think they like one but will go out with the opposite cause they fall for THAT GIRL and not her size!

Hair's the same. My husband told me years ago that he would like me with a spiral perm... well sorry to say like heck I was gonna do that ;) I've had perms before, I didn't hate them but I DID hate growing them out!!!

My hair is just in between and BLAH... I'd rather it did one thing or another ;) I find it easier to straighten than curl though, so I tend to go for the straightening iron when I'm going out!! (Although if I had rollers I'd probably curl it occasionally too lol).

My husband had me with long hair, short hair, brown hair, blonde hair, red hair... and honestly he doesn't seem to care at all!! Some guys will have a definite preference, but one's preference won't be another's.

So what's the moral of the story??

Don't worry about it!! Don't fixate on what guys like or don't like... some guys will like, some guys won't like...that's life ;) Most just won't give two hoots one way or another if they like YOU!

[Sylph]

I have fairly straight hair, and when I curl it I normally get lots of compliments but I think that's mainly because I look 'different'

Personally, I love curly hair and think it looks very feminine... but I'm not a guy so I have no clue what is going on in their heads!

[Athena's Owl]

I have to agree - I really only care about what *I* like on *me.* I figure that if a guy is so set on hair looking a certain way that he can't find women with hair that doesn't look that way attractive, that's just the tip of the iceberg of a whole bunch of other things that make him less appealing.

[Joliebaby]

I sure am glad my husband doesn't have preferences to a particular style or type of hair. Because it's been short, long, medium length, blonde, red, dark (ehm, even with hints of teal blue), bangs, no bangs and BALD, since we started going out. Only the waviness was ever the same(ish).

Oh no wait, maybe that's why he has always told me my hair is beautiful just the way it is :D

[HintOfMint]

It's ok, if you want to be snarky it's fine. :) But yes I do like to please men, why not? It's fun and they deserve fro women to put some effort for them. Men are wonderful.

As a fellow man-adorer, I completely understand where you're coming from. I find them both fascinating and adorable.

That being said, there can be a point where we perhaps become a little TOO preoccupied with what they, as the entire half of the species thinks, when in fact, they are not a monolithic entity.

I think that there are some things that most men agree on (facial symmetry, hair length and the like) and of course there are large minorities to these things, but I do not think that curly or straight matters nearly as much. There are some men with stark preferences, but I don't think that most care.

Basically, one cannot please everyone. No matter how lovely one is, there is going to be someone out there whose boat she does not float. And this is okay! It is perfectly fine to want to be pleasing to men, but at some point, something has got to give. Relax, my dear, put a smile on your face and cut yourself a break.

Furthermore, I looked through one of your albums. You are exquisitely beautiful. I mean that from the bottom of my heart. You are the last person who needs to worry about being pleasing to men. I have a hard time believing that men can string a coherent sentence around you.

As a side note, straight hair now is more of a fashion thing than anything else, and I've never seen a man express a preference for leggings no matter how many fashionable ladies wear them.

[Luna12345]

I think most men like what looks good on you, because what looks good on another girl wont necessarily look the same on you. My bf has dated chubbier girls in the past and never asked them to lose weight because it didn't look bad on them.
He was attracted to me and I'm a very slim girl (not really curvy) and he doesn't ask me to gain weight because I look good the way I am. I'm pretty sure that he likes blonds because he absolutely loves Cameron Diaz( who doesn't ) but yet he always asks me to color my hair black because when he met me I had my hair colored black and he was attracted to me that way.
So I think it's really about what looks good on you:)
And even though straight hair is more in style these days, he always wants me to keep it curly, several of my guy friends think that i look really good with my hair straightened! so you see everyone is diffirent, diffierent taste, diffirent opinion.
It would be such a boring world if we all had the same style ,
no one needs to copy whats in style to be beautiful! =)

[sweetiepie]

A quote from that article: Half of the men questioned also said they like girls who wear their hair down rather than in a smart up-do. Hm.