Hairdresser said my hair is frizzy...

[Arianwen]

DBF went for a haircut and I was saying I was jealous about his lack of grey hairs etc. The hairdresser said I could try a semi permanent something or other that would help my frizzy hair (she said it looked dry) blah blah blah. I mentioned I haven't had a trim or haircut in over a year and her face went :eek: hahaha.

Anyway, was she full of baloney about the semi-permanent colour whatsit? I have gotten used to my numerous grey hairs, I even have a mini streak going on. Why should I dye my greys?

[Nat242]

:shrug: It's her job to cut and colour and style hair. She'll have her own opinion on whether young women like yourself should colour their greys, and she'll have her own opinion on "frizzy" hair. So long as you're happy with your hair, that's all that matters :flowers:

-- Natalie

[Katurday]

She was probably trying to make you a permanent customer because if you started dying your grays, you'd have to keep coming back to touch up roots.
How does chemical damage keep hair non-frizzy?
Any time I dyed my hair it turned straw like, fell out, and frizzed up worse after.
Hairdressers are just business people trying to make sure you come back month after month to maintain a look.

[DecafJane]

Her idea of beautiful hair is probably dyed and ironed, and you clearly have different hair to that.
The semi-permanent colour may change your texture for a few weeks, but you would need to keep re-doing the colour and add to the damage. If you are happy with your hair (and you should be - it is gorgeous), why bother with the expense, trouble and damage? :)

[Arianwen]

Hah! I thought as much. I sometimes am not happy with my hair but it is what it is!

[HairColoredHair]

I note you're 2c/3a-ish? Sometimes I think hairdressers think hair comes in two styles - stick straight and ultra curly - and everything else is just 'frizz'.

[Deborah]

Yeah, she's trained to sell more services. It's all about $$$$, not your hair. I would just ignore her.

[MoldyCake]

Well, semi perm is a demi color, which means it only deposits color into the hair shaft, much like henna, and it conditions it while doing so. Demi color has helped my bleach damaged hair which was severely frizzy and straw like become smoother and softer.

[Teacherbear]

DBF went for a haircut and I was saying I was jealous about his lack of grey hairs etc. The hairdresser said I could try a semi permanent something or other that would help my frizzy hair (she said it looked dry) blah blah blah. I mentioned I haven't had a trim or haircut in over a year and her face went :eek: hahaha.

Anyway, was she full of baloney about the semi-permanent colour whatsit? I have gotten used to my numerous grey hairs, I even have a mini streak going on. Why should I dye my greys?

I'm not sure what you are asking.

Yes, there is such a thing as semipermanent dye that can cover (or paritally cover) grey hair. Yes, some people think wavy/curly hair is frizzy - they generally highly value slick pantene-looking hair (which has been airbrushed). No, I don't think you need to do anything particular with your hair just because she suggested it.

[lookingglass]

This reminds me of the "ancient hair" comment I got from my last hairdresser.:rolleyes: They all like to do chemical treatments: it is what they are trained to do. Listen to your hair. Remember, anything you get started in the salon is meant to keep you comming back for more: styles, dye jobs, the works.:eyebrows:

[Poolsoflaughter]

I'm glad that you're keeping your gray hairs! I guess she was just doing her job. :twocents:

[missy60]

Semi permanent will wash out without having roots and it does appear to be conditioning. It is not the color that is conditioning though its added ingredients thats doing the conditioning so if you dont want to color you could just use those ingredients to get the same conditioning benefits.

[k_hepburn]

If you like your grey hair, go with it, wear it proudly, and good on you!

You will certainly be saving yourself a lot of upkeep, and, speaking as a chemo head, I can't say that I've ever found colouring my hair - whether semi permanents or permanents - to improve the condition of my hair.

Greetings

katharine

[n3m3sis42]

This reminds me of the "ancient hair" comment I got from my last hairdresser.:rolleyes: They all like to do chemical treatments: it is what they are trained to do. Listen to your hair. Remember, anything you get started in the salon is meant to keep you comming back for more: styles, dye jobs, the works.:eyebrows:

Okay, I just have to ask. What is "ancient hair"?

[JillieRose]

I think, Arianwen, that she was simply responding to your saying that you were envious that your bf had no grey hair. And being a hairdresser, she thinks, "Hey! I can dye your hair! Then you won't have grey hairs and you won't be envious!" And also, being a hairdresser, she is used to hair that is very straight/very curly rather than wavy, and so associates your hair with frizz.

See? Nice motives, just...maybe inelegant application thereof. But yeah, I would stick with what you have. :)

[Delenn]

Her idea of beautiful hair is probably dyed and ironed, and you clearly have different hair to that.


Quoted for truth!

[kate46]

Semi permanent will wash out without having roots and it does appear to be conditioning. It is not the color that is conditioning though its added ingredients thats doing the conditioning so if you dont want to color you could just use those ingredients to get the same conditioning benefits.

My thoughts exactly!

[Islandgrrl]

If you like your grey hairs, I see no reason to do anything about them.

The hairdresser was doing what hairdressers do: trying to sell you her services. She heard your comment and probably thought, "Hey, I can fix that."

[jojo]

the thing with hairdressers and a lot of people for that matter is they are not used to seeing hair in its natural state, with its curl or wave or with natural colour(s) because every where around us is this opinion that straightened, coloured hair is nicer but why should we conform to what others think is the correct way to go? its a bit like a lot of people getting boob jobs, because society says big boobs are the way to get on in life, is this to suggest small boobs make us unsuccessful?

not at all, be who you want to be, the hairdresser is just trying to pay her bills the same as all of us, but its your hair and you have the right to and have earned the right to have your hair how you want, i too have greys coming through and i intend to allow them to do their own thing, regardless of what others may think!!!

[Patrycja]

well-its your hair.If you like it the way it is-then keep it.Its not on her head and she's not the one taking care of it,you are.I embrace my frizz and I don't need anyone to tell me its there-I see it everyday when I look in the mirror.Maybe next time that sort of thing happens-just shake your head and laugh.Walk away,if possible.

[AshleyP]

Everytime I have colored my hair, my frizzies disappeared - that is, until I washed it the next time. :rolleyes:

[prosperina]

Well, semi perm is a demi color, which means it only deposits color into the hair shaft, much like henna, and it conditions it while doing so. Demi color has helped my bleach damaged hair which was severely frizzy and straw like become smoother and softer.

Except that henna doesn't so much deposit color into the hair shaft as it invades the hair shaft, takes no prisoners, and sets up a permanent autocratic dictatorship. :D (And oddly enough, it is good for your hair.)

On topic, she's trying to make money. Or on a less cynical note, hairdressers get inspired when they see unprocessed hair. They love playing with it, "taming" it and getting to "play." It probably gets boring doing men's hair cuts and trims all the time.

[Lamb]

the thing with hairdressers and a lot of people for that matter is they are not used to seeing hair in its natural state, with its curl or wave or with natural colour(s) because every where around us is this opinion that straightened, coloured hair is nicer

That is very true! In fact, I find myself guilty of this way of thinking sometimes. I am obsessed with looking tidy and orderly, and with my 2c/3a/3b type hair, it just doesn't happen. (Well I guess it could happen if I could get myself to buy a straightening iron, but that is even less likely!)
Wouldn't it be a great thing if we could see beauty in irregularity?

[Rain]

I've always noticed my curl is relaxed a bit after dyeing. She may have been thinking of that.

[willowcandra]

A semi permanenet colour would usually tame frizz and give a nice shine. I don't think the stylist was trying to get your money or ruin your hair lol she was just offering up her professional advice as to how she would "improve" your hair. You can take it or leave it. No stress needed.:)