Medvssa
May 17th, 2008, 10:35 AM
My boyfriend's hair is so different from mine that I would like some advice from fellow longhairs that have this type of hair. That is, I would say ii verging iii (I won't approach him with the tape measure and a grin in my face, poor thing ;) ) M and 1C/2A. There is quite an amount of wave going out, sometimes, but they are very wide and stretched. I may be wrong, there are pictures at the end of the post.
Another thing I should mention is that we live in Belgium, so please have this into account if you are gonna reccomend products, since we may not be able to find them if you live in another country. For example, I have never found clarifying shampoo labeled as such.
So, the deal is that I think his hair has been getting quite rougher and less soft and shiny in the last months. There is quite a halo, he always had it but now I think he has more, a lof of baby hairs going on, or broken hairs.
I hope this is not just the vapours of love being blown away from me :D J/K
In fact, I thought his routine had become a bit gentler so it surprises me.
So, his routine in the past and at the moment:
Shampoo. He washes about twice a week, mostly scalp and letting it wash over the lenght when rinsing. He used to wash a little more often, and all of it, but I recommended to do the above. He has always used Dove shampoo. I cannot tell if it was exactly the same one, currently it is "respect & équilibre/zacht & gezond" (meaning "respect and equilibrium" and "soft and healthy" - who would have said there was such a difference between French and Dutch? :D) This has dimethiconol and protein. He gets a few flakes after washing, for one or two days. Skin flakes.
Conditioner. He used Nivea conditioner in the past, I thoguht it had a cone, but I haven't found any Nivea conditioner with cone today when I looked. For the last year or so, he has been using the conditioner I use for CO, Henna cure & care neutral, which seems quite gentle but has two proteins, it is not very moisturizing. He never applies it to scalp since he says it makes it more flaky.
No leave in, but for the last months he is using a few drops of jojoba on the ends which help dry-combing and give a little softness and shine. He combs his hair every morning.
We detangle in the shower, with conditioner on, and a skeleton brush. Out of the shower, dry or wet, he used a seamed plastic comb. I replaced it with a wooden comb, wide toothed and smooth, about two years ago. He combs very carefully.
He lets it air dry, normally loose, but in a ponytail if it is windy and he has to go out. Sometimes he washes in the evenings, then we put a terrycloth towel over the pillows and he tosses it over them.
His hair is 90% of the time up in a ponytail. The elastic has a metal bit, as I haven't been able to introduce non-metal elastics, he doesn't like them because they get loose easily. Or because they are not... metal enough :rockerdud
He is still careful with these. I don't see any noticeable damage at ponytail lenght, but then, all of his hair has been at ponytail lenght at some point, right?
He wears it loose for bed, and doesn't toss and turn much. I have braided it a few times for bed, and this way it is certainly less tangly in the morning, so it is a possibility. I will have to do this and remind him every night, though.
I trim his hair about twice a year, when the ends get too tangly.
For the last couple of days his hair seems a bit drier to me. On our trip, last week, he has washed twice, and not with his usual shampoo, but with no-cone shampoos.
Today I proposed a treatment and he accepted. I COed the scalp and SMTed the lenght. The hair feels clean, but still dehydrated, if not more :( My hair feels quite more moisturized after CO and SMT. I use a lot of conditioners and leave-ins, though (I really have to). So I wonder, has it been coated by the cone so long it got dehydrated, and now we can see it? or he just needs to go back to Nivea conditioner? (I bought another for him today, "straight and easy liss", no cone or protein) Any other suggestions? Treatments? Please? :cookie:
Oh, and the pics. Last week, in the sun (http://www.innershelter.net/journal/2008/05/pimshair3.jpg). After the "treatment", the canopy (http://www.innershelter.net/journal/2008/05/pimshair2.jpg), and the middle of the lenght (http://www.innershelter.net/journal/2008/05/pimshair1.jpg) (this is quite a big picture)
Thanks in advance :blossom:
Another thing I should mention is that we live in Belgium, so please have this into account if you are gonna reccomend products, since we may not be able to find them if you live in another country. For example, I have never found clarifying shampoo labeled as such.
So, the deal is that I think his hair has been getting quite rougher and less soft and shiny in the last months. There is quite a halo, he always had it but now I think he has more, a lof of baby hairs going on, or broken hairs.
I hope this is not just the vapours of love being blown away from me :D J/K
In fact, I thought his routine had become a bit gentler so it surprises me.
So, his routine in the past and at the moment:
Shampoo. He washes about twice a week, mostly scalp and letting it wash over the lenght when rinsing. He used to wash a little more often, and all of it, but I recommended to do the above. He has always used Dove shampoo. I cannot tell if it was exactly the same one, currently it is "respect & équilibre/zacht & gezond" (meaning "respect and equilibrium" and "soft and healthy" - who would have said there was such a difference between French and Dutch? :D) This has dimethiconol and protein. He gets a few flakes after washing, for one or two days. Skin flakes.
Conditioner. He used Nivea conditioner in the past, I thoguht it had a cone, but I haven't found any Nivea conditioner with cone today when I looked. For the last year or so, he has been using the conditioner I use for CO, Henna cure & care neutral, which seems quite gentle but has two proteins, it is not very moisturizing. He never applies it to scalp since he says it makes it more flaky.
No leave in, but for the last months he is using a few drops of jojoba on the ends which help dry-combing and give a little softness and shine. He combs his hair every morning.
We detangle in the shower, with conditioner on, and a skeleton brush. Out of the shower, dry or wet, he used a seamed plastic comb. I replaced it with a wooden comb, wide toothed and smooth, about two years ago. He combs very carefully.
He lets it air dry, normally loose, but in a ponytail if it is windy and he has to go out. Sometimes he washes in the evenings, then we put a terrycloth towel over the pillows and he tosses it over them.
His hair is 90% of the time up in a ponytail. The elastic has a metal bit, as I haven't been able to introduce non-metal elastics, he doesn't like them because they get loose easily. Or because they are not... metal enough :rockerdud
He is still careful with these. I don't see any noticeable damage at ponytail lenght, but then, all of his hair has been at ponytail lenght at some point, right?
He wears it loose for bed, and doesn't toss and turn much. I have braided it a few times for bed, and this way it is certainly less tangly in the morning, so it is a possibility. I will have to do this and remind him every night, though.
I trim his hair about twice a year, when the ends get too tangly.
For the last couple of days his hair seems a bit drier to me. On our trip, last week, he has washed twice, and not with his usual shampoo, but with no-cone shampoos.
Today I proposed a treatment and he accepted. I COed the scalp and SMTed the lenght. The hair feels clean, but still dehydrated, if not more :( My hair feels quite more moisturized after CO and SMT. I use a lot of conditioners and leave-ins, though (I really have to). So I wonder, has it been coated by the cone so long it got dehydrated, and now we can see it? or he just needs to go back to Nivea conditioner? (I bought another for him today, "straight and easy liss", no cone or protein) Any other suggestions? Treatments? Please? :cookie:
Oh, and the pics. Last week, in the sun (http://www.innershelter.net/journal/2008/05/pimshair3.jpg). After the "treatment", the canopy (http://www.innershelter.net/journal/2008/05/pimshair2.jpg), and the middle of the lenght (http://www.innershelter.net/journal/2008/05/pimshair1.jpg) (this is quite a big picture)
Thanks in advance :blossom: