how long do most guys like girls hair?

[Mariah!!]

okay so i have a friend with super short hair, above her shoulders but just below her ears. her husband was at home the other day and i was doing my hair at their house. i said something about hair length and mine feeling short (i think its at waist or just above it). well i have always heard that most guys like long hair on a girl. unfortunatly the longest my husband likes it on me best is bsl. but i really could care less. i love long hair more than i care what other people say about it. but her husband said that yeah guys he knows likes long hair. i said i was trying to get mine to my tailbone, and he said "they like it TO A CERTAIN POINT mariah!!" so i said what is my my hair too long? and he said no, but any longer and guys think it is unkempt! i was like "WHAT?!" it takes more commitment and upkeep than anything!! what the heck are you talking about!! lol!!

so the question is: i want to know what length guys (not on the LHC- because they obviously like really long hair) typically find the most attractive on a woman, and what do they think of really long hair?

[Dream0331]

My DBF keeps telling me that anything past BSL is too long. We`ll see how he feels when mine gets there.

[Calista]

24.5 inches.

[Merlin]

I like Mrs Merlin's pretty much any length, on account of it being attached to her.

If she was to want to grow it long, I can't think of a length which I'd find too long because I don't find very long hair freaky or wierd.

[Calista]

I like Mrs Merlin's pretty much any length, on account of it being attached to her. Aaaawwww, Merlin... http://www.cheesebuerger.de/images/smilie/liebe/d094.gif

[Themyst]

According to DH, it's waist - hip length.

[eamane]

According to DH, it's waist - hip length.
I think my DH has the same view on this... Well he thought my hair was long enough at BSL but he's stretching the length while my hair grows :)

[MissySue]

Just asked DH and he said bsl.

[OperaTeacherMom]

My DH has always said that he prefers mine "long", but I've never had it longer than BSL. We'll see what he thinks when I get to waist...which will be 2 years or so lol.

[Quixii]

My DBF loves my long hair. He thinks it's amazing. I'm not sure what he thinks about it going any longer, but when I showed him it was just past classic pulled straight, he thought it was pretty cool. His first present to me was a hair toy. xD

[klcqtee]

My ex thought BSL was perfect, Tailbone is too long, so I imagine everything between is like a sliding scale. My special friend says the sexiest thing he's seen is hair that just covers the breasts. I guess it all depends.

[Crackaleen]

To quote my husband: "If you can use it as toilet paper, I'm not that in to it anymore." So I'll say anything past tailbone for him ceases to be attractive.

[Torrin Paige]

My hubby chimes in with any length but the Susan Powter hair cut (unless it's from a sickness, of course.) He says that perhaps past ankle might be too long, but that's just because you HAVE to wear it up all the time for safety's sake. :) (When we met my hair was waist length, and before we got married I cut it to chin length, which he assured me was very cute. However, when I decided to grow it back out he said thank goodness and asked that I never cut it again. LOL. Turnabout is fair play and he's growing his out for me.)

[sarah061]

My fiance thinks that waist length is too long, but that just above waist is sexy :shrug:

[talervo]

My DH said anything past shoulders (in response to how short). He just likes it "long".

[JenniferNoel]

Mr. Handsome usually doesn't say a word about my hair's length, he just thinks it's shiny and cool looking. He likes my creative up-dos. But most guys I've met during the course of my lifetime have preferred BSL and/or CTBL. There have been the select few that like it knee length though.

[LisaButz2001]

My ex preferred BSL. He was incensed that I had it at waist, when we were in college, but I never cut it.

[Jeni]

I know the guy I'm dating now use to date a girl with tbl hair...I have no plans to go any longer then TBL so I'm good. I know he likes my hair but I don't get the feeling that if I cut it to shoulder length tomorrow he would like it any less.

Most of the guys I know don't particularly care about hair provided it is there and "looks nice". I know one of my ex boyfriends said he didn't like extremes- buzzed or hair to the floor was his definition of extreme.

My step father LOVES long hair. As far as I know his motto is "the longer the better".

[Sissy]

My husband had always said he was OK with classic but didn't really think extreme lengths like thigh/ankle looked all that great on people. I think he just likes it when my hair is more of a blunt hemline versus fairytale ends.

[christine1989]

I have heard waist length from many of the guys I have asked.

[Mariah!!]

this is interesting to read. my dad always said he likes long hair best because it seems to him that women with longer hair tend to be more cuddly.... not sure if there is any truth to that though!! lol! my DH calls my hair a "bush" at night!! he hates it in his face! but my dad says he loves his DGF hair in his face at night!!

strange!!

[missjessiecakes]

DF has weighed in on this matter, because I whined until he found his opinion. Past knee is too long and hair is at its sexiest when it covers all naughty bits in a flowing curtain. And or frames the butt :D

[Fractalsofhair]

Most guys I know think anything beyond hip is freakish, and most are very surprised at anything much longer than APL on a woman, mainly since most women process it a lot. However, most guys I know aren't a big fan of how processed hair feels so, I don't know.

Out of my guy friends with long hair, I don't think they care. One of them is fast approaching waist, and I don't think he'd mind pretty long hair on a girl. My brother at one point had knee length hair, and I doubt he'd insult any woman with very long hair.

[EdG]

so the question is: i want to know what length guys (not on the LHC- because they obviously like really long hair) typically find the most attractive on a womanOf course, I was thinking "the longer, the better". I suppose I need to disqualify myself for being a LHC member. :o


and what do they think of really long hair?My thoughts are best summarized as :thud: :crush: :cheese:
Ed

[Kristin]

My hair was BSL and DBF nagged me to cut it. So I tried a chin-length bob. We both hated it. Now that I am again past BSL he's happy with the length, but thinks my goal in the waist to hip range is too long (or at least that's what he says when we discuss it). Interestingly, he is kinda into the whole "Kristin-is-growing-her-hair" thing. He wants to talk to me about vitamins and stuff. And loves helping me measure. Not surprisingly, he is most interested in pulling my hair to see if it covers my chest yet. Boys will be boys.

[Meagan]

I just asked my guy friend, and he said waist-tailbone is sexy, he says he hates seeing girls with butt length hair.

[Alun]

Long enough to look long, and not too long to wear down

[freckles]

DBF yesterday was saying to me, "your hair is lovely. It suits you". I was like, "thanks :D" and then he added in, "... you might not really want to go any longer. You'll look like a fishwife". I just laughed and said that's what I'll have to look like then, 'cause I'm growing it to tailbone. I'm not sure whether he was teasing because he knows I'm going longer, or if he was planting pretty strong hints that he doesn't like it longer than waist. :shrug: :lol:

[DARKMARTIAN]

When speaking on a personal basis......

it doesnt really matter to me......she could have a bob or it could touch the floor.

Just so long as the heart is there....:)

[Allen]

It isn't just about length.

As long as it's healthy it can never be too long for my liking.

[Long_hair_guy]

If its healthy and looks in great shape then I don't really care. However if its long then we could be each others hair

[ibleedlipstick]

Honestly, most of the guys that I know seem to love the chemically treated, straightened, blow-dried mess that most girls around here have. I think they like the mainstream-ness of it.

So I guess that would be at/above BSL? I rarely see chem treated, damaged hair past BSL, so that is what I would guess.

[Juneii]

DBF says hip length. We will see how that goes since I plan to grow longer, as long as I keep my hair healthy and neat I don't see why longer hair can be a problem.

[sweet*things]

My husband likes it out of the drain.:laugh: With him, and most men, I think it's mostly about condition and whether it looks cared for.

[lesbia]

My boyfriend enjoy my hair: he say that he loves the softness, the shine, the colour...
About the lenght, he knows that I want tailbone hair and it is ok for him, but I don't know if he love the lenght or just me!!

in every case, for him, long or short hair (if soft and healthy) are s the same -.-

(but he want long hair too...mah, guys!..-.-)

[Long_hair_guy]

Honestly, most of the guys that I know seem to love the chemically treated, straightened, blow-dried mess that most girls around here have. I think they like the mainstream-ness of it.



I don't believe is true. I just believe most males play around with those females

[DakarNick]

I'm a guy and since I am (obviously) a member here, I love long hair...only on other people! As for length, I say between waist and knees. However, I'd take waist length, healthy hair, over knee length, damaged hair.

And to be honest, I love the angled bob. My fiance had her collarbone length hair cut into a bob a year before I met her and wish, if she ever decides to cut, to cut to that length. Anywhere between bob and waist is a no-go, unless she is growing it out. That being said, it's her hair, and I'll love her no matter what length it is.

[littlenvy]

Hmm … asked hubby and he said that length didn’t matter as long as it was straight and slick.
Well … there goes my dream of long curly mess! LOL

[Twil]

I just asked. The conversation:

"Daddy, how long do you like girls hair?"
"Why? You thinking of growing it out?"
"......Daddy I have been growing it out for a year"
*he looks up* "It looks nice, sis"
:o that's my daddy

[Tegaladwen]

My bf says no longer than waist hehe but that's not going to happen, it will be much longer! :D

[restourceful]

Both DH and DS love longer hair. Mine is currently longer than it has ever been in my life and DH tells me often how beautiful he thinks it is. He sees long hairs in the wild before I do most of the time (because he's very tall). He hasn't really said how long is too long. DS is dating a girl whose hair was just below her ears when they met. She is growing hers and it's touching her shoulders now. DS will be happy when it reaches her waist, I think.

[got2pals]

Assuming "DH" is the man a woman is married to... Mine knew me with less than 1 inch long hair and almost-waist-length hair. He called it "corn silk" in the in-between phases and now. How can I ask him "do you like long hair on women" without it sounding like a trap/trick question?
People (women and the occasional man) thought I looked cute or daring with really short hair, although my sisters then-fiance was upset when we both cut ours (at the same time, shoulder length to shorter bob). When I have long hair, it's not "cute," people say it's "pretty" if they say anything at all. Buns are pretty, braids are pretty etc.
So it's the difference between cute and pretty in my observation. Your hair, that is. I might go so far as to say that women notice hair but men are more likely to notice our curvy parts. And that they like shiny, healthy-looking, neat hair. Maybe it implies you actually are healthy and feeling good! What could be more attractive than that?

[florenonite]

One thing to bear in mind if you're looking at a cut-off length is that a lot of non-longhairs, especially male ones, apply the label "waist-length" to hair anywhere between midback and hip/TB, so unless you point out where your waist is you might get skewed results. I think women are generally better at noticing waists simply because women's waists are more apparent, in general.

I just got my hair cut, so I can't ask DBF what length he prefers on me because he'd think it was a trick question :lol: However, I've had it past my waist, and he never thought it was "too long"; I think he might be biased, though, as it didn't get that long till we'd been together close to a year, so he was already convinced I was beautiful by that point anyway :p

ETA: got2pals: "DH" stands for "Dear (or occasionally another, less kind, term) Husband" :)

[squiggyflop]

um well i never asked but when i passed hip i started attracting a lot of male attention when i would wear it down.. before that no one really noticed me.. but i was only around guys my age.. so i guess guys my age like hip length hair

[rockkcor]

Many of my friends that are short haired males - also comment and like long hair - that is MOST think - 'the longer the better'... That is when talking about someone they would comment 'her hair is to her knees!' like best of comments they can give to a female they met (in sexual way)
But it is not a rule - some prefer short hair and so on...

[Nera]

A lot of my guy friends were really sceptical about the idea of me having long hair. They really didn't like it. Now I'm waistlength and they love it.

So basically I think they have no idea and it really does depend on the condition and maybe on the person walking around with it:D

[countryhopper]

I asked DH. He said from mid back to waist looks nice, but not longer.

Good thing my goal is BSL+!

[chipzahoy]

The males in my world definitely seem to prefer the longer hair. Some of the closer guys in my life have given rather negative feedback whenever I have cut my hair short to chin length. "The short hair looks good but long hair is just..(insert manly grunting sound of approval)"

[PiroskaCicu]

Most guys I know just like it "long" in general without a preferred length.... my DBF loves my hair short or long but he always seems excited that I am growing it to waist and a few times he mentioned that it would "be so beautiful" once I reached my goal . :-)

[SlightlySoprano]

Best guy friend of mine says "in general I would say hair lower than someones lower back would be to long"

This is after deciding that the hair in question would look healthy and well kept.

[May]

My BF has told me that past BSL is too long and most guys I know say the same thing. We'll see ;)

[PrincessFurball]

I told my boyfriend about this thread and how it appears that most guys don't like it any longer than waist or hip, with BSL being the most common choice. He said that was about right, but that he would like my hair even if it was all the way to the floor. Good answer, right?? :D

[HintOfMint]

At first I was a bit confused that the consensus seems to be that men have an upper limit of BSL to hip, when I thought that BSL or waist was a minimum.
Then again, I realized that context matters.
In the US, what we consider to be attractively long hair depends on the size of the population with that length of hair. In the BSL to waist category, there are enough women to give the length a sense of normalcy, but few enough to have their lengths be distinguished as "long." However, beyond waist/hip, there are far fewer women, so the idea or image hits the average man's "WEIRD" button before it hits the "HOT WOMAN" button.
I'm sure tailbone length hair in a country where longer lengths are common wouldn't trigger the "wierdo" reaction.

[SpeakingEZ]

I asked DBF, and he gave a very clear response: the shortest he'd find attractive is shoulder length, and the longest he'd find attractive is at hip/TBL, or "the small of her back."

He also said that he has no preference beyond that it's within that spectrum.

[haibane]

I discussed this with two different male friends recently. One who has, shall we say, a lot of experience with women, and he said the longer the better. I even specifically asked him "even down to the knees or ankles??" and yeah, he said that was great.
Then I brought up long hair around another friend with very little experience with women, and he was really grossed out at the thought of hair longer than the bsl/waist range, and insisted it must be unhealthy and badly kept. (I tried to educate him a little bit, but he really wasn't interested.)
I don't know if there really is some correlation with the experience, but I found it a bit amusing anyway. :D

[SlightlySoprano]

DBF says he prefers short hair on certain people, and it depends on their face.

The longest he said he could really tolerate would be iliac length.

[Reptilia]

Most guys I have met like it at about waist. Long enough to cover boobs but not your butt :p

[Igraine]

It is quite surprising to read the above, TBH. No man around me ever mentioned hair as being too long on a woman. However, when I told a friend that a man I saw and found quite umm.. kind on the eyes, had hair just about as long as mine (in cm/in, as he was very tall it just got to his lower back), she had an "eeeww" reaction. :(
Ok, I did ask a BF "Isn't my hair weirdly long?" His retort was "Weirdly beautifully long". :D

[Gwendolene]

Seems to me (although I haven't asked), that men seem to like it when hair cascades over the breasts. Perhaps the men surveyed for this thread don't like it much longer than that because once it gets too long it covers other "naughty bits" that they would prefer to see uncovered? I don't know...

[Sunsailing]

I've waited a while to chime in on this one.

As a guy, I know a lot of other guys. I've heard a lot of "guy talk" over the years in reference to women that (thank goodness) women usually don't hear ;)

I would say that over half the men out there could really care less about the length of woman's hair. Most just seen to have no preference. There are so many other things most men notice about women before they take note of the hair.
If you ASK a man and let him think about it for second, he will most likely say that he likes it long. Which translates to BSL.

I know that I am the exception. The first things I notice on a woman are her eyes and hair. I am attracted to very healthy looking hair. But I'd rather see "not as long" healthy hair vs. long & not very healthy.

So many other men seem to be attracted to women with bleached, very dry, straightened hair. But they aren't looking at the hair :poot:


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[ButterCream]

I asked my husband about this yesterday actually, and his reply was:

"I have never though about it before...hmmm, I don`t care really...however long that makes you happy:)"
But he added after a few seconds:
"well, maybe not so long that you will step on your own hair while you are walking..."

Lol, that made me go-----> :D:D:D

My nephew was in the room also and heard my question too (he is 14, just got his braces off, and his voice starting to crack. In other words a normal teenage boy:p) and his reply was:

"Auntie, not longer than you knees...it would be so hard to walk:p"

It made me lol, because, first my husband said I could grow it down to my feet if I wanted to, and I think that is out of the question since I won`t be able to take care of THAT long hair, but it was so sweet hi didn`t have a shorter preference:D, and second, my nephew thought having hair down to ones knees would make it hard to walk:p
I told him some people actually HAVE that long hair and have no problem walking. His face was like:agape:

[littlenvy]

At first I was a bit confused that the consensus seems to be that men have an upper limit of BSL to hip, when I thought that BSL or waist was a minimum.
Then again, I realized that context matters.
In the US, what we consider to be attractively long hair depends on the size of the population with that length of hair. In the BSL to waist category, there are enough women to give the length a sense of normalcy, but few enough to have their lengths be distinguished as "long." However, beyond waist/hip, there are far fewer women, so the idea or image hits the average man's "WEIRD" button before it hits the "HOT WOMAN" button.
I'm sure tailbone length hair in a country where longer lengths are common wouldn't trigger the "wierdo" reaction.
Now that I've seen this thread, I agree with this!
Makes total sense to me. :)

See .. I just assumed that men would like BSL hair because it brings attention to boobs and tailbone length because it brings attention to the butt. That way they can look at your "hair" when they check you out. LOL.
Guess I was wrong.

[Sarahlabyrinth]

Anyone care to add anything to this thread? DH says that it would be about hip length, for him at least. Though he doesn't mind in the least how long I grow mine. "As long as you're happy with it, I'm happy with it", he says. He also says that if you want more information out of him you'll have to pay for it :p

[Siv]

I sort of got the impression of "the longer the better" being the general consensus, having heard it both from ex's and friends. But, I think they weren't really considering super-long-lengths at all since you hardly see people with hair below waist length around here. (While a lot of us are fair, and a heck of a lot of us have light blonde hair, most with light blonde hair do bleach it from medium blonde and it takes its toll on the condition of the hair.)

[Aredhel]

DH loves my hair at my current length but we fell in love when my hair was much longer. I think he's quite indifferent. He tells me my hair is beautiful all the time. I've joked about chopping it all off to SL and he's said that I'd look beautiful with short hair too. :p

My exes all loved my classic length hair. Most guys seem to be drawn to me when my hair is really really long.

[Sarahlabyrinth]

So I asked two guys I know well enough to dare ask about their preferences for hair length on women.

One of them said "Long like yours. It's feminine and sexy, and it gives you plenty of options on how to wear it."

The other one said "Minimum, a few inches below the shoulders, and maximum ankle length. But my ideal length is from waist to knees."

[The Maple Leaf]

I can't speak for the average guy; I'm sure it varies. There are men who have a major ****** for super-long hair, men who don't really care so long as it looks long; men who prefer that it not be exceptionally but only moderately long; I doubt we can generalize.

Speaking for myself, I do like super long hair and I don't think I would say there was any length that I would consider "too long"; I'd say long hair looks best between mid-back- and butt-length, but if someone wants to grow their hair much longer, I'm all for it. Particularly if it will keep them away from the hairdresser's.

"Too short" for me on an average woman would mean shorter than a one-length chin-length bob. Some women, however, look good with short hair; on them, an angled or elevated bob or a one-length bob at the jaw or even the nape can look good. Very few women (not more than 5%) can pull off a pixie/gamine. Anything shorter than that is generally too short for me.

[Alun]

Most guys I have met like it at about waist. Long enough to cover boobs but not your butt :p

That honestly does have some validity. I like looking at long hair, but I'm very partial to female butts as well!

[Kikyou]

Most of my male friends, with whom I ever talked about their preferences, or what do they like about certain girls, prefer bra strap/mid-back. Sometimes armpit/waist. So not extreme either way. Actually most of them doesn't like it longer than waist. Some like shoulder, though. My almost-Husband used to say that he doesn't like it longer than waist, but when I got longer than that, he never said anything about it being too long. He once asked, how I manage in toilet when it's down, out of pure curiosity :D He's always supportive and when I get excited about it reaching a new milestone or just looking the way I like, he's also cheering me, admitting that it looks good :D I think he didn't knew how it would look like being tailbone, but when he got used to it he likes it too.

[megthehennahead]

DBF didn't think he would like past TBL but then I showed him pics of fairytale ends (specifically Tauriel from The Hobbit) and he said he could handle longer if my ends looked like that. He doesn't like a blunt hemline. Thank goodness because I'll never have one unless I do a serious chop of old layers. I'm at waist now and the only time he doesn't like it is when I lay down and let it fall all over his face.

[lottiealice]

My boyfriend likes me with a bob cut because it got annoying to sleep when my hair was constantly getting in his face (unless I slept in plaits) before I cut it.

Shame on him, I'm growing it to knee now. :p

[martyna_22]

My boyfriend has always said that he likes it "long". He met me when I was a little past BSL, 2,5 years ago, when he thought it was pretty, and now, at BCL he claims it's beautiful.

[lithostoic]

Asked the bf and he says he has no preference (and called the question dumb, sorry lol). He said some look nice with really short hair and others with really long. It depends on what suits the person.

[Kat]

How can I ask him "do you like long hair on women" without it sounding like a trap/trick question?


I would be afraid of asking that to an SO, lest he think I was asking his opinion in order to have my hair at the length he preferred! (I'd couch it more generally, as in "how long do men usually like a woman's hair to be? I was having this discussion with some people the other day...")

I've said here before that I've never been with a guy who cared that my hair is long. It's not that big of a deal-- my hair is for me and whether he likes it or not, I'm having it the way I want it-- but if so many men supposedly love long hair, it would be nice if *something* about me was (even inadvertently) the way my SO likes.

I've not asked the guy I'm currently seeing, but a couple times he has asked me "what if you had your hair shorter/at mid-back length" so I assume that's what he prefers. (The answer is always "but I like it at the length it's at" and he must be smart enough to know that asking me to change to what he prefers is a bad idea.) Last time he saw me with it down, though, he did make sure to tell me he liked it, which was sweet (he's not big on giving compliments, so when he does I'm usually surprised to know he thinks that way, plus it's not like my hair is nice enough to be admirable to begin with, so maybe that's really why none of my SOs have particularly enjoyed it).

[Siri]

My husband loved my waist length hair. I've never been able to get it longer than that but I think he would've been good with it longer.

[olivetime]

My husband has no preference, although shaved wasn't his favourite ;)

[SunnyRose]

Every guy is different, of course. I think the majority may like long hair, as long as it doesn't appear unkempt or dirty. If the girl looks like she takes care of herself and her hair.

[Aredhel]

So I just asked this question to DH and he said that it probably depends on the person and their hair type, but he believes that on me specifically, he thinks my hair looks best at MBL. :) He thinks that thin hair looks the best when not too long, on both genders; his hair is thin too and he actually has his at MBL right now.

[Obsidian]

I just asked DH, he didn't have much beyond a shrug which means he has no opinion which means length is of no concern to him. I was quite surprised, I figured he would say around waist or so.

[Cherriezzzzz]

My husband just said middle of back! I was shocked because he loves very, very long hair. But then he said, (for himself) "just before you sit on it." Haha! I truly think however if a lady has very nice (color, thickness, texture etc) it might not matter as much?

[truepeacenik]

In my experience non ultra long haired partners tend to have the sense not to say if they think my hair is "too long."

Because my hair is all for me.

[dulce]

When years ago I told my hubby I wanted to grow past waist,he said that might be a bit freaky.I did anyway and he liked it.I keep it around TBL now and everytime I ask if I should trim he says no and tells me to grow longer! When I remind him of the freaky comment he says he never said that but he did!I keep trying to grow to classic but my ends just get too thin..I have been married 41 years now.

[Dendra]

I asked my DBO and he said he likes anything from shoulder length to long. He classified long as 'bottom of the back', and said if he sees hair any longer than that it makes him 'think of horses'...! He said it's not a negative thing he just associates really long hair with horses :rolleyes: :D

He also said a chin length bob can be okay as long as there is a fringe/bangs.

I know when I had short hair - pixie length - I definitely attracted different men who were 'into' short hair. One of them liked the alternative-ness of it, and one of them said he liked how a woman could have a (traditionally) masculine hair length and still be really feminine.

[Mrstran]

At first my hubby was all about really long hair, and told me to grow it forever if I want. That is until more recently when I showed him some pictures from google of hair past BCL. He then changed his mind and said it looks like curtains hanging off their heads. He now thinks CBL to WL is nice lol. I intend to grow to TBL, and he'll love it because I said so.

[Corvana]

I've never asked for specifics, because honestly I just don't care. But when I ask my husband if he prefers long or short hair, he says "I prefer long hair, but it's your hair do what you want. I'm not the one having to care for it, am I?"

He's certainly happy I'm growing my hair out, of course. But I don't know if he thinks there's such a thing as "too long", and by not knowing I don't have to have a niggly voice whispering to me that he hates my hair when/if it gets that long ;)

[Corvana]

How can I ask him "do you like long hair on women" without it sounding like a trap/trick question?

What I did, because I wanted it fully clear that I was just curious but that his preference would have little effect on my own desires for my own body, was frame it as a hypothetical. "If you could pick, which you can't because I do what I want :P, but if you could pick would you pick long hair or short hair?" And he said "I prefer long hair, but in the end it's never my decision because it's never my hair."

[Naliade]

What I did, because I wanted it fully clear that I was just curious but that his preference would have little effect on my own desires for my own body, was frame it as a hypothetical. "If you could pick, which you can't because I do what I want :P, but if you could pick would you pick long hair or short hair?" And he said "I prefer long hair, but in the end it's never my decision because it's never my hair."

That is, indeed, a clever way of asking, and a really reasonable anwser :applause

[Corvana]

That is, indeed, a clever way of asking, and a really reasonable anwser :applause

He is usually quite the reasonable man. XD I'm the same way about his beard. I'd prefer it a little shorter than it is, but he wants to see how long it'll go. Whatever makes him happy, it's his beard. He's thinking of trimming his moustache and I told him my preference (blending well into his beard, so it doesn't really look separate like it does now), but of course he knows that I'll like whatever he chooses because it's his beard on his face, and I like his face however it looks.

I did end up asking if he finds any length to be ideal because this thread made me so curious, and he said BSL or MBL, but then added that he doesn't really feel that longer is "bad or ugly, just not something I really see so it seems a bit strange to me."

[esfand]

Most guys like BSL to hip length IME. Even the guys who claim to like short hair hit on long hair girls.

[Rose115]

I dated a guy once who told me my CBL hair was too long at the time. He personally liked pixie cuts on girls because it showed the contours of neck and collarbones. He kept his nearly to his chin. He was the only man I ever met who liked short hair. When I first came home with a pixie cut, every man from my dad to my uncle to my neighbor told me he hated it. I am NOT growing my hair long for any man, however. It is 100% for me and my dream of having princess/Viking braids.

[Ondine11]

Interesting thread: I read every comment!

In Gone With The Wind, Scarlett was talking to Mammy about how Ashley Wilkes likes girls with a healthy appetite. Mammy had advised her to eat BEFORE going to the BBQ so she wouldn't eat like a hog in front of others (segue: this was supposed to be 1862: disordered views around women & eating go back a long way. Those corsets gave women 18-19" waists!) Mammy famously replied:

"WHAT GEMPMUMS SAY, & WHAT GEMPMUMS THINKS IS TWO DIFFERENT THINGS"

Mammy was never wrong about anything!

SOooo...I decided to experiment on my unsuspecting DH. "What hair length do guys like best on women?" "Between SL & BSL" came the safe, conventional answer. "What length do YOU think looks best?" "Depends on the woman. Not too short & not too long" (YES, that is pretty vague)

Part two of the experiment: observing him in his natural habitat. Casually watching movies, walking through Costco & Canadian Tire, in the tower where his office is.

Braveheart was on. Sophie Marceau, playing Isabella of France, appeared with her hair loose. DH: "Back in those days, most women grew their hair super long." (reverent WOW vocal tone used) AHA!!! CLASSIC LENGTH.

Next movie was Star Wars I. Princess Leia appeared with her cinnamon buns hairdo. "Can you imagine how LONG it must be when she unrolls them?" (probably CL)

Natural Habitat II: The office. There were many people from other offices, walking in the corridors, & getting in & out of elevators, etc. "That woman has a nice skirt!" I commented (pink knee-length A-line) "Yeah, BUT, she should wash her hair: it looks greasy" (sleek CL angled BOB black hair, 1a)

Natural Habitat III: Canadian Tire is very busy on weekends. We were there to grab a hitch for the back of the car, a new A/C filter, & I wanted a Kitchenaid blender (a pink one :) ) A family passed by, & their teenage daughter had WL dark brown waves."What beautiful hair she has!" I exclaimed. "Yes; it's really long!" he replied.

Scientific Experiment Conclusion: He SAYS SL-BSL BUT he actually PREFERS WL-Classic length, must not look greasy. Mammy has been vindicated!

[lucid]

My boyfriend said everything from buzz cut to right above classic :p And added that it depended on the person.

[lottiealice]

My boyfriend likes me with a bob cut. When I've been around waist he made me put it in plaits or a ponytail if we cuddled or if he slept over because it got in his face.

[Doom]

I cannot speak for "most" guys, only for myself. If the hair is healthy all the way down, then I like it best on a girl when it's classic length or longer, with a blunt hemline. If it's not healthy all the way down, then I favor health over length. It's sad when I see a girl whose hair starts thinning out at, let's say, mid-back length, and it gets thinner and thinner until it's just a couple of wisps at classic length. It's like she wants to convince herself that she has long hair and she's in denial, in which case, she'd be better if she had the courage to chop it where it's at full thickness and grow it from there, so eventually her hair will be longer and healthier.

[DaveDecker]

I cannot speak for "most" guys, only for myself. If the hair is healthy all the way down, then I like it best on a girl when it's classic length or longer, with a blunt hemline. If it's not healthy all the way down, then I favor health over length. It's sad when I see a girl whose hair starts thinning out at, let's say, mid-back length, and it gets thinner and thinner until it's just a couple of wisps at classic length. It's like she wants to convince herself that she has long hair and she's in denial, in which case, she'd be better if she had the courage to chop it where it's at full thickness and grow it from there, so eventually her hair will be longer and healthier.

Wow... that was terribly unkind.

[Doom]

Wow... that was terribly unkind.
I tend to fail at diplomacy, it was not my intention to be unkind. What did you find unkind, exactly?

[MsPharaohMoan]

Well some people like fairytale ends and feel a little persecuted for having them.

[likelikepenny]

Well some people like fairytale ends and feel a little persecuted for having them.

Drastic thinning from abuse, which is what I assume he meant, and fairy tale ends are two different things entirely.

[Doom]

Drastic thinning from abuse, which is what I assume he meant, and fairy tale ends are two different things entirely.
Exactly. I've been at LHC for over a year now, so I know what fairytale ends are. Had that been what I meant, I would've used the term.

[DaveDecker]

I tend to fail at diplomacy, it was not my intention to be unkind. What did you find unkind, exactly?

The concerns are with your judgment ("sad"), the presumption of (a) motivation on the part of those you observe ("It's like she wants to convince herself... and she's in denial..."), and (b) providing a prescription ("...she'd be better if....") to better suit your tastes.

It's okay to express your preferences (as you started), but leaving off the rest of the stuff would be more thoughtful to those who don't have your idealized look (or share your aesthetic sense).

[MsPharaohMoan]

Exactly. I've been at LHC for over a year now, so I know what fairytale ends are. Had that been what I meant, I would've used the term.

I see :flower:

[Doom]

The concerns are with your judgment ("sad"),
Another aspect of failing at diplomacy is that sometimes I use expressions I expect the other person to interpret literally, as opposed to metaphorically. You consider my use of the word "sad" as an act of judgment because you assume I used the metaphorical sense of "deplorably bad". Except, I did not: when I see thinning hair I literally feel a sense of sadness. This cannot be called an arguable opinion (as in "no, in my opinion you don't feel sad"), so I stated it as a fact because it is.
I stand corrected on the other points, however, which I admit to be blunders.

[Corvana]

Another aspect of failing at diplomacy is that sometimes I use expressions I expect the other person to interpret literally, as opposed to metaphorically. You consider my use of the word "sad" as an act of judgment because you assume I used the metaphorical sense of "deplorably bad". Except, I did not: when I see thinning hair I literally feel a sense of sadness. This cannot be called an arguable opinion (as in "no, in my opinion you don't feel sad"), so I stated it as a fact because it is.
I stand corrected on the other points, however, which I admit to be blunders.

I think in this case, saying "I feel sad" rather than "It's sad" would've been the way to go. "I feel sad" tells the reader that you feel sadness, while "it's sad" tells the reader that the subject (in this case, anonymous person's hair) is itself sad. It's harder to misinterpret if you're speaking literally when you try to be clear about your meaning.

[grooooow]

I cannot speak for "most" guys, only for myself. If the hair is healthy all the way down, then I like it best on a girl when it's classic length or longer, with a blunt hemline. If it's not healthy all the way down, then I favor health over length. It's sad when I see a girl whose hair starts thinning out at, let's say, mid-back length, and it gets thinner and thinner until it's just a couple of wisps at classic length. It's like she wants to convince herself that she has long hair and she's in denial, in which case, she'd be better if she had the courage to chop it where it's at full thickness and grow it from there, so eventually her hair will be longer and healthier.

I don't know; I personally did not get offended or see anything wrong in what you wrote. :confused:

[Kat]

The concerns are with your judgment ("sad"), the presumption of (a) motivation on the part of those you observe ("It's like she wants to convince herself... and she's in denial..."), and (b) providing a prescription ("...she'd be better if....") to better suit your tastes.

It's okay to express your preferences (as you started), but leaving off the rest of the stuff would be more thoughtful to those who don't have your idealized look (or share your aesthetic sense).

I'm pretty sure I've seen a fair amount of criticism on these boards from members who judge people (either others or themselves) they've seen for having {what they think is} "unhealthy" hair and about how the hair should be cut shorter until it's all healthy? This is no different.

[Glitch]

I used to be very self conscious (and still am, but not like before), and so I used to do a lot of beauty polls on various sites, basically seeking validation haha. Most of the time, guys' preference would be the generic, long and pretty type of hair. Though, no one should take it seriously. It's just hair and furthermore, it's your hair. I've been asked out a lot and I've never experienced healthy long hair (after the age of 12, anyway). So if anything, I'd say nice hair is just a bonus.

[kattmara]

I cannot speak for "most" guys, only for myself. If the hair is healthy all the way down, then I like it best on a girl when it's classic length or longer, with a blunt hemline. If it's not healthy all the way down, then I favor health over length. It's sad when I see a girl whose hair starts thinning out at, let's say, mid-back length, and it gets thinner and thinner until it's just a couple of wisps at classic length. It's like she wants to convince herself that she has long hair and she's in denial, in which case, she'd be better if she had the courage to chop it where it's at full thickness and grow it from there, so eventually her hair will be longer and healthier.


I don't know; I personally did not get offended or see anything wrong in what you wrote. :confused:

Neither did I and I have pretty thin fairy tale ends (6,5cm circumference at neck and the last 10 cm taper down to 2,5 cm at low waist). The problem with trying to make it comfortable for everyone is that in the end you make it very unwelcoming to different personalities, drive people away and you eventually kill the discussions because people don't dare to state things that might offend someone or be unpopular. In the end a lot of people will simply think that it's not worth it to join in because someone will be upset at some point no matter what and that's not beneficial to anyone since a stagnated discussion prevents the spread of information, constructive criticism and also tips and tricks.

I too think it can be sad when someone is holding on to ends that almost don't exist because most of the time it's not because they like it it's because they are afraid to change it. It's not at all condescending, it's just regular working empathy (not the same as sympathy). Being afraid is not a good thing when you are trying to figure out what to do with your hair, I have never heard of it leading to confidence or happiness, rather the opposite, and that's what's sad about it.

On topic: I think it's quite a bit cultural (can you say it like that?), I might be wrong but I think it's more appreciated and common with long hair in Europe than it is in USA? I'm sure it also varies between different areas since it's such a big country. The sort of news anchor-hairstyle that I see in american tv-shows and of course news is something I rarely, if ever, see over here and before I started lurking this forum I have never heard of people being accused of having "too long" hair and looking unprofessional - or even that one should cut the hair short when getting older, I even had to google that one. A lot of older ladies over here do have short hair, but it seems to be more of a practical and a being young in the 60's thing.
A lot of guys in my generation 20-30 think that waist or almost is an attractive length, I have never heard of someone who thought that that would be too long and most don't seem to really care at all unless it's super short, almost buzz cut, as long as it looks good and healthy. I talk to a lot of different people and I would say almost everyone appreciates regular long hair (bsl-waist in this context) and it's not at all strange to say so, regardless of age but they don't really care for it if it takes a lot of time or is very expensive.

[cm006j]

Boyfriends I've had in the past who say they like long hair usually mean somewhere between BSL and waist. Never any longer than waist!

Like you, though, I grow my hair for me! My husband is happy if I'm happy and has no comment on my hair adventures :)

[twill]

My husband likes my hair length (just above/at tailbone). If it were significantly longer, he would probably voice concerns about the practicality of it (practicality is one of the #1 virtues in his book), but he knows that I manage it and take care of my hair, so he might be fine with it being longer.

On the other hand, my brother in-law absolutely loves ankle-to-floorlength-or-longer hair. He'd even be willing to lay aside his intense hatred of bangs for floor-length hair.

Most guys I know prefer long hair. Exactly how long? Not sure on that one, but older guys at least (and maybe younger, too, idk) really seem to like waist or longer. In my dad's book, the longer the hair the better (as long as it's being taken care of).

I've known one guy who claimed he liked short hair when the topic came up, but I suspect he was just trying to be edgy - he was the type to be intentionally contrary if the majority was voicing an opinion one way or the other.

[Renora25]

Interesting thread: I read every comment!

In Gone With The Wind, Scarlett was talking to Mammy about how Ashley Wilkes likes girls with a healthy appetite. Mammy had advised her to eat BEFORE going to the BBQ so she wouldn't eat like a hog in front of others (segue: this was supposed to be 1862: disordered views around women & eating go back a long way. Those corsets gave women 18-19" waists!) Mammy famously replied:

"WHAT GEMPMUMS SAY, & WHAT GEMPMUMS THINKS IS TWO DIFFERENT THINGS"

Mammy was never wrong about anything!

SOooo...I decided to experiment on my unsuspecting DH. "What hair length do guys like best on women?" "Between SL & BSL" came the safe, conventional answer. "What length do YOU think looks best?" "Depends on the woman. Not too short & not too long" (YES, that is pretty vague)

Part two of the experiment: observing him in his natural habitat. Casually watching movies, walking through Costco & Canadian Tire, in the tower where his office is.

Braveheart was on. Sophie Marceau, playing Isabella of France, appeared with her hair loose. DH: "Back in those days, most women grew their hair super long." (reverent WOW vocal tone used) AHA!!! CLASSIC LENGTH.

Next movie was Star Wars I. Princess Leia appeared with her cinnamon buns hairdo. "Can you imagine how LONG it must be when she unrolls them?" (probably CL)

Natural Habitat II: The office. There were many people from other offices, walking in the corridors, & getting in & out of elevators, etc. "That woman has a nice skirt!" I commented (pink knee-length A-line) "Yeah, BUT, she should wash her hair: it looks greasy" (sleek CL angled BOB black hair, 1a)

Natural Habitat III: Canadian Tire is very busy on weekends. We were there to grab a hitch for the back of the car, a new A/C filter, & I wanted a Kitchenaid blender (a pink one :) ) A family passed by, & their teenage daughter had WL dark brown waves."What beautiful hair she has!" I exclaimed. "Yes; it's really long!" he replied.

Scientific Experiment Conclusion: He SAYS SL-BSL BUT he actually PREFERS WL-Classic length, must not look greasy. Mammy has been vindicated!

What a creative experiment! I think my partner corroborates this. I had almost BSL hair about a year and a half ago and he used to play with it all the time. Now, with my CL hair he barely touches it. I think subconsciously he prefers the longer hair. And I am in agreement!

[2gaits]

My husband prefers what I would call super long hair. If you ask him how long mine should be he would want classic to thigh length. Crystal Gale is who he always remarks about having beautiful hair. He does want it healthy and styled as well. Some big hair goals! My dad prefers long hair as well. I know that from comments growing up when I would cut it. On the other hand, I have a brother in law that thinks my sister's hair is too long and ridiculous. Hers is probably between bsl and waist. I have friends who say their husbands have no preference.

[DesM]

The question;- "how long do most guys like girls hair?"

It's their business is my answer.

I do however like long hair, the longer the better, hence I've been growing my hair for as long as I can remember, and I've no intention of cutting it, 'though it's stalled around waist length :-(
My wife also has long hair which was once at classic length, but she trimmed it to just above waist length but it's growing longer again.
So, whatever makes her happy is fine by me.

[saff.cel]

Long hair is supposed to be short hand for sexuality. In my experience, almost every guy when asked will say they prefer long hair, but also in my experience, boys will do a double take at a cute girl in a pixie cut. I have to say that I've gotten more attention for having short hair than for it being long, but like everyone else is sort of saying, if you're with the right person, it's about the person, not the preference. My husband has seen a lot of lengths, styles, and colors, but there's always something to appreciate. :)