View Full Version : What to do? Should I cut?
Clarisse
December 5th, 2009, 04:21 AM
I feel very bad about my hair at the moment.
Most of my hair is healthy below-brastrap-length hair.
2 years ago, I got a very bad hair cut with some ugly, high lights in the front, that damaged my hair a lot. I have gradually cut the high lights in the front out - I simply couldn't stand them. The result is, that my hair is collarbonelength in the front and below-brastrap in the back, and it is very asymmetrical. I don't have any pictures, but I hope I have described my hair well enough :)
I'm considering chopping all of it off to about collarbonelength, where my healthy, all-one-length virgin hair begins. I know I don't feel comfortable with hair shorter than about APL/SL, but I don't feel comfortable about my hair the way it is right now either.
Do you have any suggestions? :confused: Should I cut it off and start with virgin all-one-length hair, or should I put up with it?
Heavenly Locks
December 5th, 2009, 04:24 AM
Is your goal blunt, one length hair?
From what you described you just have some heavy layering going on with the shortest ones at the front...unless I misunderstood.
You can always trim your growth from the back and not from the front until it all catches up. So only trimming the longest inch every 8 weeks or so.
Clarisse
December 5th, 2009, 06:28 AM
Thank you for the advice. Perhaps I should trim off an inch right now... - It's about 2 months ago since I trimmed my ends. And yes, my goal is blunt, onelength hair.
Here is two pictures of my hair - maybe they will show what I'm trying to explain:
http://img11.imageshack.us/img11/1787/dsc00096jm.jpg
http://img709.imageshack.us/img709/6076/dsc00098.jpg
It's simply horrible to look at :(
Please bear with my silly face :P
Sheltie_Momma
December 5th, 2009, 06:50 AM
Personally I don't think it looks bad at all, I think it looks nice. From my experience, once the collarbone pieces grow down a bit longer they will stay behind your shoulders and not bug you as much. I'd wait it out.
Tovah
December 5th, 2009, 07:13 AM
I don't think it looks bad at all either, and you have a very lovely face! I just looks like you're concentrating and concerned. I also suggest that you cut 1" off the back every few months. Everything is relative....I would love to have your hair.
theboredelf
December 5th, 2009, 07:21 AM
From what you described, it actually sounds like a hairstyle a lot of my friends have intentionally gotten. Is the front long enough to pull back? If the look really bothers you, just wear your hair up for a while until the front gets longer. I agree with what others said, about just gradually trimming, it sounds like a good plan.
rach
December 5th, 2009, 07:27 AM
try - http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/vbjournal.php?do=article&articleid=146 and you can add shape it it after.
as for conditioning it can take a while to built it up but don't give up.
this was my hair before i took care of it and a hated the feel the fluff so i can sympathize and i felt depurated to sort it somehow without loose a huge amount of hair.
http://i631.photobucket.com/albums/uu32/rachelheales/hair/SDC10717.jpg
henna and oiling and regular S&Ding (olive oil left in for an evening, also coconut oil mixed with shea butter mixed with cone free conditioner seem really good for me as a leave in)
henna my not be an option for you though cassia my help instead.
hang on in there :( and don't do anything you will regret (two week rule might be good to do - giving you time to think it over)
you hair does have allot of potential given the right TLC :flower:
Clarisse
December 5th, 2009, 08:13 AM
Thank you for all the compliments - when you feel really bad about your hair and you appearance for general, it makes you feel a lot better :flower:
I think the idea about maintaining where I am, by trimming an inch every few months is a good idea. How long time do you think it would take, before my shorter layers catches up with my longer lengths?
I won't henna my hair, as I like my own hair color. I really like henna-red too, though. But if I know myself right, then I would love it for a week, like it for a month and then hate it and just want to get rid of it. I cassiaed my hair last week, but I don't think the conditioning effect is as good as the conditioning effect of henna - and it straightens my curl pattern, making my hair wavy instead, which isn't too great either...
Perhaps I should try oiling my hair :) Olive oil makes my hair greasy and bad-looking, but perhaps a lighter oil could do the trick - tame my hair, and make my layers blend in better with the rest.
Yozhik
December 5th, 2009, 08:22 AM
Your hair is so pretty -- I love the color and the soft waves!
I think it looks really nice the way it is now, and you're quite pretty, yourself :)
Maybe you could do a lot of half-ups that would distract you from having those shorter bits?
Arctic
December 5th, 2009, 08:23 AM
I think it looks gorgeous! My original idea was to suggest you to shape the face framing layers a bit and maybe add come small ones between the collarbone length and the longest ones, so the layering would be more gradual, but I can understand if you don't want that, having the goal of one length hair in mind.
amoulixes
December 5th, 2009, 08:30 AM
Perhaps I should try oiling my hair :) Olive oil makes my hair greasy and bad-looking, but perhaps a lighter oil could do the trick - tame my hair, and make my layers blend in better with the rest.
I think it looks just fine, not worth chopping! And yes, I was going to recommend oil! I actually add some to my conditioner and wash before bed and sleep with a braid. In the morning it's a little bit of a hassle because I find you need to brush quite a bit, but I love the results! :D
LaurelSpring
December 5th, 2009, 10:56 AM
Your hair is gorgeous! Dont cut it! Lots of people get their hair cut that way. It adds to the character and dimension of hair to have it in all of its transitional phases. Everyone is always growing out this or that. That little bit is easy to hide or put back if it bugs you while its growing out. Just get little trims until it all evens up.
bigmama8
December 5th, 2009, 11:19 AM
I think your hair looks really great! I would not cut it. If you're wanting to be all one length, you could just do small trims.
Roseate
December 5th, 2009, 11:27 AM
I think the shorter layers in front actually look very pretty with your waves. I understand that you don't like them, but rest assured that other people aren't looking at you and thinking "Oh, terrible haircut".
It looks like you're just a few inches from your goal of waist, why not get there and then maintain by trimming the back until your front layers catch up?
Barbie Diamond
December 5th, 2009, 11:46 AM
I know we are get paranoid about our hair at some time and it does not matter how good it looks. Your hair looks great! Don't cut. You migh try a (smalll) couple of blend layers. Or just continue to grow the front and trim the back. But I would not cut such beautiful hair.
Athena's Owl
December 5th, 2009, 11:52 AM
oh no, don't worry! it looks pretty intentional honestly. face framing in the front, that sort of thing!
but if it drives you mad, you can gather up the hair in front to wear in a barette on top of your head. I do this a lot, because I like my hair back from my face. I have an unusual face shape (diamond) and so keeping my hair back shows off my high cheekbones.
spidermom
December 5th, 2009, 12:55 PM
I think a nice U-shape would blend everything together very well, but it's my favorite shape, much more so than blunt, straight across. My own is blended from top-breast length in the front, and you see the back in my sig.
spidermom
December 5th, 2009, 01:01 PM
And you hair isn't horrible to look at, not at all. When I get frustrated with my hair (it's too bushy!), I hurryupquick put it up every morning without looking at it until I get over the feeling and want to enjoy my long hair again. Much better than cutting!
Fairlight63
December 5th, 2009, 01:24 PM
I think that your hair looks really pretty right now - Love the color! You are very pretty!
I would NOT cut off the back to shoulder length to match the sides.
What I would do is cut a little bit off every month in the back until the front catches up to the the back length. I would also pin the sides back with combs, barretts, head bands or do a half up then you wouldn't notice the difference in the lengths.
You could also wear your hair in up do's then you wouldn't notice the difference either.
JamieLeigh
December 7th, 2009, 10:29 AM
There honestly doesn't look like there's a huge difference in length from front to back, when you pull it all over your shoulder like that. I'd say trim the new growth off in the back (about one inch every two months sounds good) until it's all even. I bet it takes a year at most. Your hair is lovely! :flower: And until then, the suggestion of wearing half-ups with a nice barrette sounds good. :)
amaiaisabella
December 7th, 2009, 11:23 AM
Perhaps I should try oiling my hair :) Olive oil makes my hair greasy and bad-looking, but perhaps a lighter oil could do the trick - tame my hair, and make my layers blend in better with the rest.
I highly recommend Nightshade's oil for oiling. Our hairtypes are pretty similar, though you're a bit wavier than me, and it's very moisturizing :)
Clarisse
December 7th, 2009, 11:56 AM
Thank you for all the compliments on my hair! It's overwhelming! :)
I hope I'll make it to all-one-length in a year or two, by gradually trimming the longest part of my hair. I really need som patience... Perhaps wearing my hair up or half-up will help my get there quicker? It would protect the ends of the shorter layers, so that I wouldn't have to trim them along with the rest of my hair. I'm just really not an "updo" kind of person, so I'll have to get myself used to it :P
I'll look into Nightshade's oil. I just have one dumb question... When I use oils, I have to shampoo my entire length to get the oil out. While my scalp doesn't mind being shampoo'ed, my ends gets all frizzy and dry - and then my hair is even more dry than before I oiled. I have tried to search on the topic, but couldn't really find any topics on it. What could I do to prevent it from happening?
spidermom
December 7th, 2009, 01:13 PM
Oil very sparingly. Try 1 drop stroked onto ends with fingertips. Try it on both damp and dry hair to find out what works best. Increase by 1 drop at a time until you find the amount that is right for you. Coconut, avocado, and olive oils should be mostly absorbed into the hair as long as you don't use too much.
jasper
December 7th, 2009, 04:26 PM
I think your hair looks nice too!
I got an angled cut a few years ago and am eager for the sides to grow long again, so I've been doing some trimming in the back an inch at a time while resisting the impulse to just cut it back to the shortest length to achieve one length. I'm about three months into the process. It does take patience! But hang in there, you'll make it.
And in the mean time, your hair does look good!
bubbles_87
December 7th, 2009, 04:30 PM
I think your hair looks fine its really pretty...if you really want you can just trim it little by little.
klcqtee
December 7th, 2009, 05:25 PM
Oh, I think your hair is lovely! (It looks so soft!) I'd just let it grow, and trim and inch off every other month. If your hair grows at an average rate, you'll be able to maintain until the front catches up. I personally like when hair has some face framing layers because it adds some interest to the front of the hair and brings out your wurls! You may feel that you like it more when it is closer to being even with the remainder of your hair.
I cut off about 1.5 feet worth of hair (dye damage), and regret it now. If you can still take care of your hair (it's not too tangled or fried), then leave it alone.
Arctic
December 7th, 2009, 06:07 PM
I just have one dumb question... When I use oils, I have to shampoo my entire length to get the oil out. While my scalp doesn't mind being shampoo'ed, my ends gets all frizzy and dry - and then my hair is even more dry than before I oiled. I have tried to search on the topic, but couldn't really find any topics on it. What could I do to prevent it from happening?
Have you tried conditioner to remove heavy oiling? For most people it seems to do the trick better than shampoo for some reason, and is gentler to hair. You can either CO or CWC in a modified way by letting the first conditioner sit while washing yourself, shave, etc, then quickly shampoo scalp, and even more quickly apply second conditioner.
jojo
December 7th, 2009, 06:19 PM
Thank you for the advice. Perhaps I should trim off an inch right now... - It's about 2 months ago since I trimmed my ends. And yes, my goal is blunt, onelength hair.
Here is two pictures of my hair - maybe they will show what I'm trying to explain:
http://img11.imageshack.us/img11/1787/dsc00096jm.jpg
http://img709.imageshack.us/img709/6076/dsc00098.jpg
It's simply horrible to look at :(
Please bear with my silly face :P
your hairs the exact same as mine, even texture. I just have the back trimmed and leave the front it will catch up eventually!:)
HairyCarrie
December 7th, 2009, 09:26 PM
Because I started from a pixie I have the same issue with my front sides. Now I just pull them to the back, usually twisting them and clipping with small jaw clips. Or braiding and pulled back to make milkmaid braids. It moves the shorter pieces out of the picture and let's my long ones show off.
I don't want to go back through any steps I've already done. Although I wish all the hairs were the same length I'm waiting to do trims when things are *much* longer.
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