View Full Version : Is there an unspoken respect between those with long hair?
Hydrilus
November 10th, 2009, 06:10 PM
Okay this might sound stupid, but today I went to this deli I've never been to before. They were pretty busy so I took a number and waited my turn. There was a guy there with long hair making sandwiches that seemed a bit rushed and stressed out, he was hurrying along the sandwich he was making (and yes, his hair was neat and away from food lol). After he was done making it, he called "#49!" I think was my number and handed the previous customer (a short haired man) his sandwich.
As I mentioned before, this guy seemed stressed, so I wanted to make it as easy as possible for him. I walked over and he seemed to have a complete change in attitude. He had a smile, we chatted a bit about how busy the place was, laughed a bit, placed my order and stepped away.
I SWEAR this guy made me a KILLER sandwich that was WAY better than he did for the guy before me. I mean for all I know the guy before me could have been a total ass or was ultra picky about what he wanted but, I'd like to think it was because of the long hair thing hehe :p
spidermom
November 10th, 2009, 06:31 PM
I've shared a certain nod of recognition with another long haired stranger in public a time or two.
GlennaGirl
November 10th, 2009, 06:34 PM
Maybe he just thought you were cute! ;)
Or, yes, maybe he did appreciate a fellow longhair.
Quixii
November 10th, 2009, 06:46 PM
I think there is. Kinda like between people of certain races - it's not uncommon to see two black men nod at eachother on the street, even if they don't know eachother. It's no secret that some people are prejudiced against people with long hair, especially guys. There seems to be that kind of understanding among strangers that are discriminated against.
(Though I could just be looking into it too much. ^^; )
EdG
November 10th, 2009, 06:57 PM
Most definitely.
On the rare occasions that I meet another longhair, I think to myself "you've mastered time". :bowtome:
Ed
TheEndlessOcean
November 10th, 2009, 06:59 PM
Well, I always have that sort of reaction when I see another guy with long hair, but I have no idea if it's mutual :p
Aer
November 10th, 2009, 07:58 PM
Yes, yes there is.
ZenBird07
November 10th, 2009, 08:10 PM
I remember before I had my big trim before I came to LHC I had my hair in a weird partial half-up thing I do that gives me a fierce warrior look. I can't describe it and I've never posted pics of it.
Anyway, I ventured out into public like this. My hair was around my bum and despite the nasty ends a woman stopped in mid stride to look at me and smiled the widest smile while she looked at my length.
She to had hair that was long. I flashed a friendly smile, nodded and was on my way but it did stick with me...:)
sapphire-o
November 10th, 2009, 10:14 PM
I don't know about between guys. I myself do seem to smile to a stranger more if he has longish hair or if she has hair longer than waist length. :)
rach
November 11th, 2009, 03:08 AM
Most definitely.
On the rare occasions that I meet another longhair, I think to myself "you've mastered time". :bowtome:
Ed
I like that :p but it's so true - show the individuals patience and self well-being side........
Respect :rockerdud
Tangerine
November 11th, 2009, 03:15 AM
Most definitely.
On the rare occasions that I meet another longhair, I think to myself "you've mastered time". :bowtome:
Ed
I was going to say something very similar to rach :) I really like this too :thumbsup:
Yes to the OP - I too think there is some truth in it
longhairedfairy
November 11th, 2009, 04:07 AM
I've noticed this as well.
Angela_Rose
November 11th, 2009, 07:13 AM
I think that's about right, yeah! I think it's that we know how much work it can take, how much time it does take, and when we see a kindred soul we can't help but respect that commitment.
embee
November 11th, 2009, 07:54 AM
Yes, here is someone who is not intimidated by the MSM and Madison Avenue Advertising. And I know, as EdG says, how long it takes to get that hair.
Olivia23
November 11th, 2009, 07:58 AM
I know I am always in awe of other long hairs I see. I always want to go up to them and start talking but don't want people thinking I'm a weirdo so I don't.
toaster
November 11th, 2009, 08:07 AM
It was probably because you talked to him like a person, and not someone expecting service. I always try and do that to people in the service industry and often they visibly relax, break out of their "pattern" and as a result I often get extra good service. It's not my motivation for being friendly, just a bonus for being so.
It's surprising how many interesting people you talk to when you just give a friendly "hello" to the next person in line. Careful on airplanes though, I don't know what it is about frequent travelers that just like to be left alone.
Alaia
November 11th, 2009, 08:36 AM
I agree with Toaster here. It is definitely partly because you made the effort to chat to him. You probably made him less stressed and anxious.
I know that when the shop I work in is busy it really makes me feel less stressed when customers take the trouble to be nice to me and understand when things take a little longer than they wanted them to (for example, there is only one till in the place and if another member of staff is using it I can't let my customer pay until they are done).
However, whenever I see someone with long hair it makes me smile, and I'm sure if they came into the shop it would have some sort of effect on what I do. Normally it involves a hair complement. ;)
So, actually it's probably a bit of both.
Themyst
November 11th, 2009, 08:47 AM
I think there is a sort of different attitude - a different way of thinking in life - that goes along with really long hair and it affords a sort of camaraderie between those who share it.
angelthadiva
November 11th, 2009, 08:51 AM
Most definitely.
On the rare occasions that I meet another longhair, I think to myself "you've mastered time". :bowtome:
Ed
I love this! :) I may start using it, as a matter of fact! :flower:
On the rarer occasions I may run into a fellow long hair, I will compliment them. I understand their frustration at times and how hard it can be do something different than what other people do.
elianne
November 11th, 2009, 08:55 AM
Most definitely.
On the rare occasions that I meet another longhair, I think to myself "you've mastered time". :bowtome:
Ed
I love this! I like to think that there's a certain tranquility to having long hair, and waiting for slow, subtle changes instead of quick, large changes.
pinkbunny
November 11th, 2009, 08:57 AM
I know I always admire a longhair when I see one! I think it creates a common bond which makes a social encounter more relaxing. I know on more than one occaision someone has approached me and took their hair down after complimenting mine - it's like being in a club, but instead of a secret handshake we just display our hair! lol
pepperminttea
November 11th, 2009, 09:34 AM
On the rarer occasions I may run into a fellow long hair, I will compliment them. I understand their frustration at times and how hard it can be do something different than what other people do.
I make a point of doing this too. :)
shadowclaw
November 11th, 2009, 11:10 AM
I haven't met too many longhairs, but I do think this unspoken respect exists. And I think the respect factor goes up as the hair gets longer. Waist-length hair is incredible, but if we see someone with classic or knee-length hair, our awe and respect for them might just be a bit more. When it comes to guys, once the hair hits shoulder it's like a whole different world. I think I've only ever seen two men in person with hair longer than APL, and a handful that were between shoulder and APL. And it's not that longer hair deserves more respect, I just think there's a bit more awe involved with longer lengths.
Hydrilus
November 11th, 2009, 12:02 PM
Glad I'm not the only one thinking this haha.
It was probably because you talked to him like a person, and not someone expecting service. I always try and do that to people in the service industry and often they visibly relax, break out of their "pattern" and as a result I often get extra good service.
Yeah this was probably part of why I got an awesome sandwich and the other guy didn't, haha! This place was busy so I wasn't about to go and order a huge sandwich and then go down the list of 10 ingredients I DIDN'T want on it. It was a simple "Dino Special please" "For here or to go?" "To go, thanks" kind of exchange, quick and easy.
That sandwich kicks butt too, gonna make it a once a week thing hehe
elianne
November 11th, 2009, 12:10 PM
Yeah this was probably part of why I got an awesome sandwich and the other guy didn't, haha! This place was busy so I wasn't about to go and order a huge sandwich and then go down the list of 10 ingredients I DIDN'T want on it. It was a simple "Dino Special please" "For here or to go?" "To go, thanks" kind of exchange, quick and easy.
That sandwich kicks butt too, gonna make it a once a week thing hehe
When I was a waitress I always made it a point to try to get the orders out extra-quick for the tables that were polite and didn't talk down to me. Haha, and I always tried to get the food extra fast if they made of a point of saying "I know you're busy, take your time."
I waited tables while going to college, and there were SO MANY people who talked to me like I was beneath them or really uneducated. Every time I've eaten out since then I always, always try to be extra nice to my waiter (and leave a big tip if I can!) :)
Shield31
November 11th, 2009, 12:19 PM
I have both an unspoken and spoken respect for other folks with longer hair. With eye contact comes a natural acknowledgement and smile. I've also said a few words to a clerk at a local market. This person has a good looking ponytail. The first time we spoke, he seemed a little embarrassed :o by my sudden chatter. The next time I went through his line, he was firendly and asked how long I had been growing my hair. Two guys exchanged long hair pleasantries for a few moments, in public, and no one in line fainted :sleep:...
Imagine that????
Arriens
November 11th, 2009, 01:13 PM
And there I am the guy who treats the waiters as robots, no insults, just straight to the point. :p
Back on topic, yes I do believe there is an unspoken respect between us. However, people from cultures where long/uncut is normal, there is it a less.
prittykitty
November 11th, 2009, 01:17 PM
I think it was more than just hair. He probably thought you were cute.
rogue_psyche
November 11th, 2009, 02:48 PM
It could be the hair, it could be that you were friendly. I'd keep growing and keep being an awesome customer.
Shastrix
November 11th, 2009, 03:07 PM
I don't think I have experienced anything like that with a long-haired woman, but certaintly when I come across other long-haired men there is often an unspoken awknowledgement of the shared long-hairedness. :)
JamieLeigh
November 12th, 2009, 08:49 AM
I always enjoy seeing other long-haired people out there. It is kind of like a kindred spirit-type thing for me. The part that I hate is when you get the distinct idea that the other person thinks it's a competition, and that he/she is actually pretty miffed that your hair is longer. Mostly this happens with females, high school age. Around here anyway.
camirra555
November 12th, 2009, 10:23 AM
I think there is. I know when I had dreads I'd usually get a nod or some sort of acknowledgement from others with dreads.
Sheltie_Momma
November 12th, 2009, 12:08 PM
I always have an extra smile for longhairs.
Carolyn
November 12th, 2009, 12:19 PM
I often find myself smiling at other people with long hair.
vdhendrix
November 13th, 2009, 06:52 PM
It was probably because you talked to him like a person, and not someone expecting service. I always try and do that to people in the service industry and often they visibly relax, break out of their "pattern" and as a result I often get extra good service. It's not my motivation for being friendly, just a bonus for being so.
It's surprising how many interesting people you talk to when you just give a friendly "hello" to the next person in line. Careful on airplanes though, I don't know what it is about frequent travelers that just like to be left alone.
yes it might have been because you were nice, i used to work at wal-mart (recently quit) and you would not belive the *******s i have to put up with EVERYDAY, that talked to me like i was dirt, and people truly do go out of thier way to dispespect people with those kinds of jobs, and they really like to belive that they are better than those people
RecklessCharlie
November 13th, 2009, 07:57 PM
I agree, there is definitely a respect there.
When I was around 8 years and had hip length hair, I met one of my best friends who also had super long hair. We stared talking simply because of our hair. Found we had a great many things in common and are close friends to this day.
Wicked Princess
November 13th, 2009, 08:12 PM
Long hair, even on men, is not uncommon where I live, so I don't think there is any special notice given between two long-haired people.
Although when I see women with long hair, I always say to myself, "Rock on, Sister!" But I don't think any of that shows on my face or in my behavior.
Paliele
November 13th, 2009, 08:35 PM
I feel a kinship with people I see with long hair, but I think that's mostly because of the time I spend on this site. My hair isn't long enough to stand out yet, so I don't think any real-life longhairs feel any kinship with me. :)
Alun
November 13th, 2009, 09:53 PM
Maybe he just thought you were cute! ;)
Or, yes, maybe he did appreciate a fellow longhair.
The first time I read your comment was before I realised that Hydrilus was a guy. Of course, that doesn't rule it out anyway.
Alun
November 13th, 2009, 10:02 PM
I don't know about between guys. I myself do seem to smile to a stranger more if he has longish hair or if she has hair longer than waist length. :)
Yeah, in fact it certainly does exist between guys, although perhaps more of a counter culture thing than necessarily related to the hair itself. I've been known to give a 'peace' sign to a complete stranger with long hair if they are wearing T-shirt and jeans or similiar, but not to someone in business clothes with the same long hair, although too often I look like the latter myself. It's hard to be a counter culture hippie when you are middle aged with a mortgage, an office job and kids in school.
I would probably not give a peace sign to a woman, as it could be misunderstood, although I might be tempted if she looked trippy hippie enough, LOL!
Beatnik Guy
November 14th, 2009, 06:29 AM
I think to myself "you've mastered time". :bowtome:
I smile too -- but I'm going to try to think this sometimes too. :cool:
There is something to be said too about saying hi and being respectful to people, even if you're in a rush.
Themyst
November 14th, 2009, 08:51 AM
There is something to be said too about saying hi and being respectful to people, even if you're in a rush.
You are right! I went to Bangor yesterday and was at the mall eating pizza at Sbarro's. A woman was leaving, she had beautiful blond hair. It was only a little below bsl but I made a point to go out of my way (painfully shy as I am even) and compliment her on it as she was a bit older and I wanted her to stay encouraged.
Hydrilus
November 14th, 2009, 11:54 AM
You are right! I went to Bangor yesterday and was at the mall eating pizza at Sbarro's. A woman was leaving, she had beautiful blond hair. It was only a little below bsl but I made a point to go out of my way (painfully shy as I am even) and compliment her on it as she was a bit older and I wanted her to stay encouraged.
That is very nice of you! I'm going to make it a point to start doing that more often once my own hair is taken care of a bit better...and a little longer. Certain items I've purchased as part of my change in hair care routine have not yet arrived :D
Juli414
November 15th, 2009, 02:27 PM
One night after work, I stopped by the local Kroger. This would have been about midnight. One thing I needed was shampoo. As I wandered various parts of the store, I kept seeing one guy with white BSL/MBL hair. When I got to the hair aisle, he was there, as were about 4 other people, also with longer than shoulder hair. I chuckled and said, "I'd like to call to order this meeting of the (my) County, Ohio, chapter of the Long-Hair Community." They all looked at me, and then at each other and laughed. I had hoped someone might be on here, but the reference to here didn't get any glimmers of recognition. I need to get some cards made up.
I don't know if there's any extra respect, but I do make an extra effort to speak kindly to guys with long hair, and comment on long hair.
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