Do you like your hair played with?

[Pburgh56]

I was wondering for both girls and guys do you like your hair played with. I know some people take so much pride in their hair that they do not like anyone touching it while others love it and let anyone style it. Other will let friends and family. What are your feelings about having your hair styled and played with?

[rhubarbarin]

I wouldn't mind it, but no one knows how to do curly hair. They tend to try to run their fingers through it, and then they get caught and hairs break.. So usually I don't let anyone style my hair except my curly-haired friend.

I don't really mind people I like touching it. Friends tug my curls a fair amount.

[Shiva]

Only certain peeps are allowed to pet me.

:D

[Lemur_Catta]

I don't really like when people touch my hair, except my boyfriend. For me it is the same as touching another part of my body, you have to know me well and I have to trust you if you want to touch or style my hair.

[jojo]

No i hate people touching my hair, it really goes through me especially if its a stranger. I am a RN and many of the nurses there will undo my bun while I am doing my writing to see how long my hair is, with them and family I put up with it but strangers like a woman in the ladies toilets, who just started touching my hair eek like did you wash your hands before fiddling with my hair! i didnt say anything to her but it really bugged me, like I am top heavy and if somebody came up to me and went " cor look how big your breasts are" and touched them i would knock them out! what gives people the right to touch me?

all in all Id rather they didnt to be honest!

[Jemoiselle]

I adore my hair being touched, pet and played with AS LONG whomever it is playing does so gently! Toddlers get some slack of course heh. :D I have no reservations letting strangers touch my hair either, as long as they aren't weirdos! LOL You know the type *snickers* Love the hair, just don't love the hair know what I mean? :eyebrows:

[Longlocks3]

I don't want anyone pulling my hair down from an updo but I don't mind if DBF touches my hair. I know he's not going to tell me to cut it lol.

[BranwenWolf]

Only by animals or someone in my close family. The cats have a good time with braids and horses seem to like sniffing my hair.

Other people? No. That earns them a filthy look and/or a smack.
If someone undid the bun I took 20 minutes to put in, there would be a fistfight to be sure.

[Freija]

I love it. Obviously, I'd resent a complete stranger walking up to me and grabbing a handful of hair, but if friends and family want to play with it gently, I'm more than happy. It feels nice, and I enjoy the attention (I fully admit that my hair is my pride ^^; ). My dad quite liked brushing it out when it was at APL, and he was very careful.

[forgetmenotak]

I don't mind family or a boyfriend doing the touching but I don't appreciate acquiantances or stranger touching my hair.
My kittie is allowed to play with it too! :)

[AJoifulNoise]

I can count on one hand the number of people I allow to touch my hair. But, it's not just about hair. I don't like most people touching me in general.

[going gray]

Absolutely not, my stylist of course, but that's it!

[Ryanne]

No, I will only let a few touch my hair.

[enfys]

DH is allowed to play with it because he's scared of it so won't damage a hair if he can avoid it. Mum is allowed because she looked after it when I was growing up and had long hair herself.

Other than that unsolicited playing is not allowed, and even asked for help with styles etc leaves me cringing inside.

[daydreamer]

Only if I am close with said person... otherwise it's weird, like someone touching any other part of me. Plus my hair gets oily fast if it is played with!

[MirandaWelch]

Yes, I love having my hair petted and played with. Pulled, too ;)

[lora410]

Only on days that end with Y. I love my hair played with and my scalp massaged.

[Wind Dragon]

Generally, I don't care for other people messing with my hair, but it has nothing at all to do with pride. In my case it's probably equal parts a). being pretty tender-headed, and b). feeling like that's -- well, kind of a personal thing.

Pburgh56, did anything in particular prompt your curiosity?

[Aer]

Only my husband, or family members.

[spidermom]

It depends on what you mean by "played with". I like to have my stylist wash it and comb it out. I like to have my husband comb it out. I don't like when my husband tries out an idea he got about a bun (but I try to sit still and take it). I used to love it when my little girl played with my hair while I was napping (I worked nights). I'd get up and there'd be all these little girl barrettes and decorated hair-ties. Cute. So I guess my answer would have to be "sorta, sometimes".

[LoversLullaby]

If I know them well enough, then yes. I find it comforting and fun.

[sarac]

Absolutely not. My husband barely gets permission to touch my hair. If someone just walks up and start touching my hair I freak, majorly freak.

Mostly its because I am very very tender headed, and my hair knots up so easy. As a kid I used to have to sit on my knees on my fathers lap facing him, while he held my arms (and me) down so my mother could brush my hair. Always a massive mess only surpassed by how loudly I screamed that it hurt.

[windinherhair]

I will say my family right now. No one really has the chance to play with my hair, since I have worn it up more especially when I work and there goes 5 days out of the week. I like for my husband to play with my hair as long as it isn't getting caught on anything. I've noticed since I joined LHC that I am more particular about my hair, and more careful with how even I treat it.

[Liave Ekeli]

It depends... if random people in the street come up and start to touch and play with my hair without me having given them permission to do so, I don't like that at all (it doesn't happen often, though). If people ask, or if it's my family or friends I don't mind...

[Aeris]

I didn't vote since the only people I like touching my hair are my boyfriend (he messes and tangles it up badly, but it feels nice and he likes it) and one of my cats - she loves to pick it up and clean it for me whenever it is down. :) Hey, I can't take that away from her, maybe it looks like a kitten she had before I adopted her.

Though I also don't mind my grandma checking my length. She always compliments it, and is good motivation for me.

[masterofmidgets]

I HATE when people touch my hair. It's not even a trust or a personal bubble thing, since when it comes to non-hair touching I don't have any issues. But my head is super-sensitive, and when people touch my hair it just sends shivers down my spine. VERY unpleasant. I'll tolerate it if it's friends or family (my friends especially like to tug on my braids and stuff because they know it bugs me), but I don't enjoy it all.

[darkwaves]

Um, potentially interesting poll -- but selections offered aren't ones that I can select...

Yes, I like my hair played with -- in ways that work for me, as a curly... But no options here address that.

[eyesofsummer]

I wouldn't mind it, but no one knows how to do curly hair. They tend to try to run their fingers through it, and then they get caught and hairs break.. So usually I don't let anyone style my hair except my curly-haired friend.

I don't really mind people I like touching it. Friends tug my curls a fair amount.

This, exactly. I don't mind touching/patting, it's the raking that I cannot stand.

I answered, 'no, stay away' because that's the most common answer. However, if people are gentle and don't muss the curls too much, I don't mind at all.

[Bene]

It really really depends on who it is and what part of my hair. Playing with my hair is such an intimate thing, I only allow it of people who I'm close with. Friends are allowed to play with my hair, but the closer to my actual head or scalp area is reserved for very close friends or the boyfriend.

Strangers will get swatted and mere acquaintances will get a stern look that lets them know it's not allowed.

[frangipani]

i voted only family, but that would include friends and boyfriend
i don't like having my hair washed at the hairdresser, especially if they have fake nails
*shudder*

[Quixii]

I don't like it. I let my mom do my hair for competitions and such because she can French braid and it's usually easier for someone else to do my hair, but other than that, I don't like people touching my hair. Even her doing it on a normal time, when I haven't asked her to do it, bothers me. I'm not sure why. I have little to no problem with people touching me (arms or whatever), but they touch my hair and it bothers me. I sometimes wonder if it's a lack of control issue. I can't really feel them touching my hair and I can't really see them touching my hair but I know they are and that bothers me. Maybe?

[Gingevere]

I let my anyone style my hair, as long as what they're doing isn't too damaging. But only my mom is allowed to come near me wielding a comb or brush. Most people don't know how to brush properly and just tear through the tangles. :scared: My mom was the one who taught me and she is also a former longhair, so I know she won't inflict any serious damage.

Sometimes my friends play with my hair without asking, but that's okay since they know me well enough. Most of them ask permission first anyway, though, as it's pretty much common courtesy. My friend Kate has gorgeous 3b/3c hair down past her shoulders. It's such a fun contrast to my 1b/1c hair, so I like to play with it. I always, always ask permission because people are always all over her hair and I know she gets annoyed sometimes. Anyway, I digress! I've never had a random stranger come up to me and touch my hair. I get lots of comments, but no touching. I suppose it would be flattering at first, but it is very rude. Talk about an invasion of personal space! Is it so hard to ask first? But you know what they say... it's easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission. :rolleyes:

[Konstifik]

I voted on the just as long as it feels good and looks nice. With that, meaning no flat-ironing, blowdrying and the like. But braiding, brushing ad things more gentle to the hair (and me!)

[Pburgh56]

Generally, I don't care for other people messing with my hair, but it has nothing at all to do with pride. In my case it's probably equal parts a). being pretty tender-headed, and b). feeling like that's -- well, kind of a personal thing.

Pburgh56, did anything in particular prompt your curiosity?

To answer your question just some things got me thinking about it. For instance, I love to have my hair played with as long as the person asks. However, I know some people who hate it and others who love it just as I do so I was wondering. I love playing with hair too so it gives me an idea :)

[ChrissieM]

I'm fine with my husband, one or two close friends, and the occasional hairstylist touching my hair, but really no one else. It's mine.

[HairColoredHair]

Do not touch.

Although, I allow friends to play with it... it gives my creepy scalp feelings when they do (or it turns into a giant knot...)

[Dachsdragon]

I like my hair being played with but the only one who plays with my hair is dd who is 3. After a rather nice brushing she then puts misc items she has found in my hair that can turn the whole experience into a painful one with all the pulling and tangles she makes with the misc items.

[Eden Iris]

I don't mind my husband and kids playing with my hair in theory because it feels nice, but they knot it up, so it doesn't happen as often as they'd like.

[Pburgh56]

Keep the posts coming. Im glad people have responded to this topic :) thanks.

[Amara]

Only my husband. I really dislike being touched by anyone, though, ANYWHERE, except for one specific friend, and my husband.

[MAO]

As long as I know the person touching me....being touched by strangers is creepy! It feels good as long as they are gentle.

[EbonyCurls]

I don't mind if it's a stranger only if they ask first and I don't get a "vibe" from them. Yes, my hair is a part of my body, but I also consider it an accessory. Back in my wild days when out at the club I loved it when I was "dirty dancing" and the guy would run his fingers through my hair, some even buried their whole face in it! Hey, as long as it keeps their hands from elsewhere, right!

[RocketDog]

I love it when my husband massages my scalp, and I love having my hair played with at the salon, but during normal day-to-day life I don't feel comfortable having people all up in my space touching me.

[bahannas]

Nope, can't stand it. Every time I've let a friend touch/play with my hair, it's resulted in some sort of breakage. :rolleyes:

[florenonite]

I said "only my immediate family", but by that I really mean "only DBF". I wouldn't mind it if my wee sisters did it, but it's usually me playing with their hair rather than the other way round.

[RoseRedDead]

I voted for immediate family.

My mother is pretty much the only one who touches my hair/scalp. She can give a mean scalp massage and I swear that I feel so wonderful during and after. It just feels really really good.

Now, if I can just find an attractive man to do that... :cloud9:

[LadyGunn]

I voted that I love the feeling.

Lately, I've been keeping it up more often than not, so there's not as much opportunity for people to play in it. A friend at church the other week did run her hand down it & say that she likes that I wear it down sometimes. My cousin's daughters (9 & 10) like to "fix" it for me sometimes, but I always have a lot of detangling to do afterwards. :) My nephews (2, 4 & 5) like to pet it when we're sitting together. :crush: Back in high school, everyone - girls & guys - would play with it. It was apparently the youth group's favourite pasttime. :p

[LadyGunn]

Now, if I can just find an attractive man to do that... :cloud9:

If you find one, see if he has a single brother... :p

[Shorty89]

I can't stand my hair being played with, but I love to play with other's hair :D

[Merewen]

I said I love it, but even then it's sort of limited, although not as much as some people here. There's a gender gap for me - the only adult guy I'd feel comfortable messing with my hair outside my immediate family is my fiance.

[Sissy]

I chose, only my immediate family. Even then, they need to be careful as I don't want it handled roughly causing splits!

[Aerith]

Yes, I really love it! It puts me to sleep, lol. :p The only time I wouldn't like it is if someone was being too rough or making me feel like they were damaging it.

[YoginiCelestial]

I recently learned that I don't like people to touch my hair. I think the added awareness of the fact that I'm growing out my hair, has made me really sensitive about it.
Off hands, except for hubby!

[RoseRedDead]

If you find one, see if he has a single brother... :p

If he does, I'll give you a holler. :eyebrows:

[Laylah]

I love the feeling, especially a massage, but only by my close family or friends. Otherwise, it is unwarranted and deserves a slap, just as if they had touched any other part of my body.

[Pburgh56]

It seems like alot are protective of their hair. I actually like that quality because it shows people care about it :) Keep the answers coming.

[Isa-belle]

There aren't many people whose playing with my hair I won't mind... So many will handle it with greasy hands or just way too roughly... Plus it feels so personal.

[paintedmuse]

I voted stay away.
I don't like people messing with my hair, even if they're close to me. I don't mind it if friends touch it randomly, and there is one friend who likes to braid it and that's okay too, but I would never let anyone brush it or give me a scalp massage... (I love back rubs though :D)

[chocoshake]

I like it.
I think it isn't bad that they do that.
If they like it ;)

[frodolaughs]

I don't mind my boyfriend playing with my hair, but he doesn't do it all the time. It all depends. It isn't a matter of having too much pride in my hair to allow it to be touched. It just makes me uncomfortable. My mom will play with my hair if it's down, which can get annoying if it's constant. People who aren't my family I don't like touching my hair--unless they're another longhair showing me an updo or somehting. Casual touching in public? No thanks. Look if you want, but don't be rude about it and don't touch--just the same as the rest of my body.

[Deimos]

I answered only immidiate familiy, but that also includes my bf and close friends. But hardly anyone ever touches my hair. My mom used to cut it when I was younger and my current bf brushes and braids it for me sometimes.

[burns_erin]

I put only immediate family, but that does include my very bestest friend (admittedly though, she is in more family phots than one of my sisters).

[Mutinous]

Yeah I do, I swear I'm like a cat or something.

It's something my Dad always did when I was kid, and I guess it reminds me of that!

[thankyousir74]

I really like being petted, but obviously only on a "how comfortable with you am I" kinda basis. really interesting poll :D

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[prittykitty]

No, I don't like people touching and playing with my hair unless I say yes, such as when I see my hairdresser friend and she tells me that my hair is looking more and more healthy every time she sees me, then I tell her to feel it and see if she thinks it's soft or if it feels a little dried out still, things like that. Sometimes my daughter will come up to me and pull my hair up and tell me I should wear it in a bun. Things like this are ok. I absolutely do not want strangers just walking up and playing with my hair. I don't have this problem right now but who knows what the future will bring when it is much longer.

[GoddesJourney]

"Yes, of course, I love the feeling..." ...but only by certain people. Mostly by my husband but also by some friends.

[nowxisxforever]

I love my hair to be played with! Always have.

[skydancer7]

I absolutely love it! It has to be gentle though, because my scalp is super tender.

No one seems to know that I love it! I even have to ask my hubby if he will pet my hair. I would welcome more pets.

However, there are certain people who I would not accept touching my hair. You know who they are. Some creepy guy at a bar just trying to hook up, etc. No, no, NO. Hands off.

[CaraLynn]

I do really like it...I've always loved having someone else do my hair or play with it. I'm a pretty hands-on-huggy-lovey-dovey type of person though so I have to try to remember that some friends don't want their hair touched. :)

[artowl]

I don't have that problem yet, but I might later ;)

[faeflame]

Only DH and the kiddos get to touch my hair or me. When strangers get touchy feely it plain sqeeks me out!!

[aada]

most friends are loudly encouraged to play with my hair, not that all of them need the encouragement. i have always love people i am close to playing with my hair.

when it was BSL+ when i was younger, my brothers and cousins always played with it!

[winter_star]

Yes I do. Except my sister because she always pulls my hair... I think it might be deliberate.

[Copasetic]

No way . . . playing with it breaks up curls!

[Leneveu]

I wish people would play with my hair more often! I love it! It find it so sensuous, and it brings a feeling of closeness and comfort. Of course, only from people who I'm happy to be physically close to, anyway.

[BranwenWolf]

It seems like alot are protective of their hair. I actually like that quality because it shows people care about it :) Keep the answers coming.


I am protective of it but the issue is that my hair is my space.
I got groped/felt up at a work place and now have severe issues about people touching me.
I mean- I always hated it because I find it completely unnecessary except from family and close friends, but now I hate it more. Now that I do have issues I give off the "unapproachable" vibe to most people but there's always one that ignores the cue and has to touch.

But- my mom touching my head is a wonderful feeling. I think I remember it from when I was a toddler and she'd just stroke my head the way that only moms can.

[Armelle]

Random strangers...not so much.

I often will ask a friend to brush my hair as I have trouble getting the bit between my shoulder blades. :)

[slz]

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[mira-chan]

Not at all. I'm not fond of being touched in general and hair is on a further level of private.

[Pburgh56]

Awwww I think we are reaching a consensous. Most people like only those close to them to do it or nobody :) I love the replies.

[Tangerine]

I voted immediate family only. Husband and children is fine (although the latter mostly in theory as they are both very young and esp the very youngest still grabs and yanks too much;) ).
And my mum. We've had my parents staying over for a week (they left a few hours ago:( ) and last night my mum combed my hair for hours, gently and carefully, and it was just such a lovely time to share together.
When I still lived at home my mum would often play with my hair when we sat watching telly, esp with my nape hairs. This would always make me feel calm, cosy and comfy.

[Smitts]

Yes!
I love my hair being played with.

I always bother my mother or grandmother or friends to brush it or play with it.

It feels great to me! Like get your back scratched....but even better.
It makes me really tired and relaxed feeling.

[Miuku]

If it's only touching (like for example trying to feel what the texture feels like), I am fine with coworkers and casual acquaintances doing so, even without my permission, and even total strangers with my permission.

If it actually involves playing, brushing or braiding, then only trusted friends, and they have to ask permission every time. Not so much for privacy reasons, just because it can easily become painful if people don't know what they are doing.

[Pburgh56]

I know what you mean sometimes if someone doesnt know how to do hair and they try , it will turn out bad. Tangerine I love your post too. Having your hair played with definately is soo relaxing. Definetly a pleaser :) Smitts as a fellow guy growing long hair I agree with you it is nice.

[Henrietta]

Yes anything that feels good and makes it look nice, but it must be trusted person. I don't want anyone to suddenly pull my hair "for fun. I wanted to try if it hurst." Yes, it does.

[lajsa]

I like it when people pet my hair... if they're gentle. Just as I like it when people scratch my back... as long as they don't tickle me. But just as with the back, I live with a sad lack of people who actually WANT to do it :p I need to get myself a boyfriend or something, seriously.

[jtl45]

love my gf to wash my hair and occasionally roll it up! I really do not let anyone else touch it!
Jim

[pennyroyal]

I voted only immediate family cause i absolutley love it when DH plays with my hair. :pIt would be kinda creepy for anyone i didn't know very well to play with it tho.

[tinti]

I looove when someone plays with my hair if theyr fingers are clean :D

[PeonyGarden]

I only really like my DBF and my close friends to touch my hair... apart from that, my general reaction is - back away from the hair slowly, and you will not get hurt!!!

[Dekublatt]

I voted for "Only my immediate family" and even then I don't "like" it but I accept it if they are careful. I don't bite (often ;) )

[luthien_belewen]

I love my hair being played with! My fiance is the one who usually plays with it, and he does a nice job of it--he's very gentle and likes to do it...so I don't stop him ^_^

[swanns]

I absolutely love the feeling of people playing with my hair, or just touching my head and neck area in general, and I will let almost everyone do this - there are certain people that I wouldn't wish anywhere near me though and they certainly wouldn't be allowed to touch my hair either. I do think it's polite to ask before you touch someone's hair though. People at work have this habit of pulling at my braid but I just can't bring myself to mind, I think it's nice they acknowledge it's something special. :)

[mneh]

When I was a little girl, I used to love sitting at my Granny's knee while she played with my hair, it was very calming and comforting.

I also like lying with my head on my Hubby's tummy/chest while I watch telly and he plays with my hair. Unfortunately, that's become a bone of contention now that I'm no longer heat-straightening my hair. As a wurly/curly I dislike having my hard-won wurls/curls disturbed too much and DH misses being able to play with my hair with freedom. I think we're going to have to work at achieving a compromise, cos I too miss him playing with my hair :)

[triumphator!]

I like it when my mom and some sorority sisters play with it. I have this one sister who can french braid hair super fast so I always plop down in front of her and try to entice her to braid it.

Anyone else.... stay away! :guns:

[wvgemini]

Love it! But only DBF or my toddler. He will stroke my hair and say "Pretty mommy!" and it just melts my heart.

[Qwerty Uiop]

I said "immediate family", but really that means my littlest son, because he is so gentle and I know he loves it. He only sees it down for a few minutes in the morning and has never done anything to hurt it.

[christine1989]

I wouldn't flip out if someone touched it but anything more than that will make it frizz up like crazy- I don't think my hair likes people ;).

[smileycat]

My sons both liked to stroke my hair since birth. I remember my childcare provider cracking up the first time she saw my newborn youngest snake his little hand up into my hair because my elder son also loved to hold my hair. Now 3 and 5, they both still like to touch my hair and hold it when we are sitting together. Of course I LOVE when my boyfriend strokes my hair.

Anyone else hands off! I have personal space issues!

[naples]

Only my girlfriend really gets to play with it. I dont like it all that much but when she does it thats fine. I like to play with it though

[baaaad_kitty]

No. My mom may touch my hair, and fix it some. My brothers and dad are free to play with them, and so is DBF, but the rest? No. I can't help but think other people's hands are filthy.

[Wanderer09]

Most people I know don't know how to be gentle with long hair. A friend asked to comb it once and he tried to be careful, but gave up when he saw the tangles he was up against. He just pets and strokes it now. That, I enjoy. :p

[Highpony]

I love when friend play with my hair.

[Avvoltoio]

i love if girl, woman who i know, play with it gently :)

[leoninnu]

I voted immediate family lack of better option but it would be more like people I know I can trust with my hair (and who I know to have soft hands so they don't get caught in the hair because that's just nasty.) Only exception is my BF. He has coarse hands and he's not careful with my hair at all but I don't have a heart to say no :D

[Panth]

Until I was 11 my mum (or, occasionally my dad) used to do everything for my hair, including brushing and plaiting it daily (probably because otherwise I'd wear it loose while I climbed trees and fell in mud, etc. etc.). So, now it has a really soothing association.

I've recently trained my bf how to properly comb hair, since I've been really stressed out.

But, provided my hair isn't too greasy (embarassing!) and they are gentle with tangles, I like it. If I know I've got tangly hair, I generally quickly fingercomb it out first to prevent too much damage.

*shrug* But, my friend group is pretty pro-hair. We have lots of long-haired men in our re-enactment group and they get brushed, preened and experimented on most every social - often ending up with fancy authentic medieval hairstyles. ^_^

[claireozzy]

I dont like it at all, but i think thats mainly down to the texture of my hair, and people get their fingers caught and snag it...and that hurts.

[Lilacs]

A friend of mine braided my hair once, but other then that only my immediate family has ever touched my hair and I feel like it would be awkward if anyone else touched it... maybe not but that's what it seems like :)

[silversnow]

I love, love, love to have my hair petted and/or played with. I prefer only people I know, though.

[nellreno]

I voted only immediate family, but it's more complicated than that. Really only my gf gets to play with my hair because I trust her and I know she wouldn't damage my hair or pull it out. Other than her the only person that might play with my hair is my sister, she's pretty good about not messing up my hair. Friends rarely do and after I've seen how some of them treat their hair I wouldn't be so comfortable with them playing with mine.

[ddiana1979]

Look, but DON'T touch. I will begrudgingly let my SO stroke the top of my head. He can't run his fingers through the length though. . . I don't understand how he can be so rough when he's attempting to be gentle. "Surgeon's hands." *derisive snort* :justy:

[Olyve]

Nephew and DBF are the ONLY ones even remotely allowed near my hair.
Nephew looooves combing it and well, DBF loves to run his fingers through it. It's so relaxing :)

[misslicorice]

Having my hair played with is the best thing ever. When someone does it, I find myself understanding how cats feel when they purr. XD I've never had anyone be too rough or make me worry that they would damage it.

[TheBluffs]

When my hair is down, I don't mind friend asking me if they can try a fancy up-do. :)

[Shiloh]

Definitely not. Even the tiniest tug on it really hurts. No one can make or brush my hair therefore. I hate to have hands in my hair anyway. So NO, NO, NO.

[Anywhere]

I voted Yes anything that feels good and makes it look nice. It sends chills up my spine. especially when its DBF. :crush:

[DARKMARTIAN]

People wanting to "play" with my hair is something ive just had to get used to. I admit ive never had a guy want to mess with it....(not that I actually know of anyways)...but admittedly theres been a girl here and there thats reached out for it. I can say this though.....as a guy with lengthy hair.....to let something like that get under my skin would just set me up for a lot of frusterations. So depending on who it is...I usually dont mind too much....

[meishkamooshka]

I only let immediate family and my stylist do hairstyles on it, but I love having it played with, esp. by my boyfriend. :)

[chicken]

I don't like anybody to play with it, even not to touch it. But I love to getting it washed by my dh or my brother...

[squintinschool]

I chose only immediate family, but in this case I'm defining family as "people I trust" and at this point in time it really does not include my biological family.

[Yavene]

I love it, given they ask first. I don't get why some people think it's ok to touch other people out of nowhere shudder:

[cataphract]

When my youngest brother was about toddler age he used to love to play with my hair. I'd let him get a brush and he'd brush it for a while, then he'd foof it around, then he'd put clippies in it. It was pretty cute, lol, and he was gentle.

Though.... there was this one time... I was sitting there... with butt length hair and one of my other brothers was playing with a matchbox car. He was really young and I was just letting him drive the car on me like a mountain or something. It eventually got stuck around the wheels and I sat with mom for a couple hours as she picked the car out of my hair after that lol.

I don't really let anyone other than family touch my hair though. I'm not much of a hugger either, so it might just be a personal space thing.

[virgo75]

I voted for "only immediate family" because I do LOVE to have my hair played with, but only by people I love and trust.

[Dark Queen]

I don't mind much, but the important thing is to ASK, lol. It gets weird when people just walk up and grab a handful.:)

[Locksmith]

I love my hair being played with, but only by people I trust and am not creeped out by, and only if they're gentle and don't tangle it. Hate tangles. :(

[impaciente1981]

If someone touch my hair it makes sleepy me :D

[meishkamooshka]

Update: My boyfriend washed my hair last night, and I found it incredibly sexy. I liked it a lot! Was nice not to have to wash my own hair for a night. :)

[Tom Steinberg]

Yes, if by someone I like :)

[SwordWomanRiona]

Only by my family, and by my friends, if they asked first. I would hate it if a complete stranger or anyone I barely know touched my hair without permission. That would be rude, what!

[Angeletti]

Family and friends I'm ok with, but a stranger? no.. I'd probably slap their hand away. Luckily I haven't had a stranger try it yet.

[Freki]

I love love love having my hair played with. It sends shivers down my spine. When my husband combs my hair it just makes me smile, especially since he's not too fond of long hair.

But when strangers come up and touch my hair, it freaks me out a bit, because I have social anxiety.

[ArienEllariel]

My family and close friends but only if they are gentle.

[SwordWomanRiona]

My family and close friends but only if they are gentle.

Agreeing on the gentleness! But fortunately, most know that if they tangle my hair, they can begin running :draw: :)

[pira]

I really don't appreciate randomers touching my hair, I might get slightly agressive. Even with people I like, I'd rather they leave it alone.
I only like it during/after sex. But it messes with my curls, so I might regret that afterwards. Easily fixable by wearing my hair up though. And sometimes I don't mind wearing my hair a bit messy, my boyfriend thinks it's sexy.

[Tabi]

I don't mind people touching my hair as long as I have given them the permission to do so.

[Coan-Teen]

I chose immediate family because there wasn't an option for only people who are pre-approved by me, which would essentially be my husband and a few close friends. I also hate being touched in general. I don't like when other people over the age of twelve take liberties with my bubble. It is a very hard to penetrate bubble and woe betide those who attempt.

[ooo]

I like it, but I hate that it makes my hair faster dirty.

[Honeylove]

I love it, but only if I love the person (very close friends, SO). If I don't know the person too well but I really like them, I might be ok with it. If anyone else touches my hair, I'll likely get seriously angry.

[Leoslaire]

I get scalp infections real easy, so I'm very careful about who and what touches my hair.

[FoxRain]

There's nothing I love more! I'll purr like a kitten when people play with my hair (obviously not random strangers though. That's just creepy).

[morecowbell]

I really love the feeling of someone touching my hair. :) I wish more people would, but none of my friends (or my boyfriend) are all that hair-touchy (if that makes sense haha). One of the reasons I just recently decided to start going to get my hair professionally trimmed is that I want someone besides myself to take care of my hair for a little bit. :)

[aggie_deirde]

I hate it!!!!!!!!!!!I don't like to be touched at all.But I love doing others hair and touching their hair in general.Am I insane?

[Venefica]

I love having my hair touched and tended, I love the feeling of my hair being brushed, styled or in other ways handled. However I only let people I trust actually handle my hair as I do no want to risk anyone handling it to roughly and damaging it. However I do love to have my hair touched, I am just cautious about it.

[hazelnut]

I voted, 'No not at all,' even though my real answer is, "it depends on the person and the situation." I don't feel comfortable with my hair as it stands right now, so I really don't like it when other people, friends, family, or anybody really, touches my hair. It gives me the heebie jeebies. But maybe when my hair starts to really improve, then I'll reconsider.:)

[trolleypup]

Right now it would be "It's your lookout!" Hair is disgustingly dirty and greasy from neglect (and not benign neglect!) So you'd get a hand back in dire need of washing. Besides that, I'm pretty much OK with respectful touching if asked first.

[Emo~Flowers]

I'm extremely tender headed, so whenever someone is messing with my hair I constantly pull forward. Whenever I go into the Salon to get my hair bleached, however, it depends on the stylist as well. I don't like the pulling and yanking, of course.
My moms too rough on my hair. ><

[|Xei]

I love it as long as the person isn't a stranger. Nearly everyone who's ever played with my hair has been very gentle with it, which makes it even more lovely. The way my scalp tingles when my hair is moved around or brushed (ESPECIALLY when brushed) is so incredibly relaxing that I do wonder if I may have been someone's beloved pet in my past life, should I have had one. I'd love for someone to brush and dress my hair for me every day.

[celebriangel]

As long as they are my friend/family, ask permission first and are gently, I *love* it. I make purring sounds and everything.

DBF is the same (and he's a longhair too - it's longer than mine after I got my trim!). We love to play with/style each other's hair :D

[deepsuperficial]

only my boyfriend.... and i like when he does it

[Qadupae]

I love it, but only by DH or my mother. My mother used to play with my hair all the time, especially when she was on the phone. I used to just sit at her feet and let her play and braid my hair for a good hour. DH plays with my hair sometimes, not sure if he does it because he likes it or because he knows I like it, but regardless, I enjoy it ^_^

[Jomo]

I don't mind if my close family or friends touch it, but I'm very conscious of what exactly they're doing. I don't like it when the hubby pats my scalp because I get pretty oily, and if I touch my scalp it happens even quicker. But playing with the ends and such is generally fine by me.

I would be so scandalised if someone pulled out my bun I wouldn't even know what to say!! :P

[Theobroma]

I've always hated other people touching my hair. Outside the immediate family it's an absolute no-no for me.

[Venya]

I love having my hair played with! It is fun when someone braids it, also. ^_^

[dlinoxvostaja]

Only if my DBF does it~

[badfish]

I love having my hair played with! It feels amazing.

[newbeginning]

I didn't mind when I was a child and little girls in my class would play with it but as I got older I became protective of my hair and didn't like people touching it. Plus it would annoy me. I think it partially has to do with a personal space thing.

[Jean Stuart]

I can not stand to have my hair (or anything) touched, combed or brushed by anyone else. very annoying.

[GoatLady]

No, not a bit. But then I'd never be one to get a massage, either. Or a pedicure.

[homeeduk8tor]

Only my DH is allowed to play with my hair and even he has to follow my guidelines as to how to handle it....poor guy!

[Emmental]

Yes!

One of my favourite things about the salon is having the woman who washes my hair give me a little massage. I love having my hair played with. I'm not really concerned about breakage or haven't been thus far.

[dmarie63]

I'm not a fan of people invading my personal space. That includes people touching my hair.

[Marz Hase]

Only my husband... and ONE stylist that I've found who will actually listen to me when I tell her what I want done with my hair. I love it when my husband plays with my hair...

Unfortunately, I've work it down or in pigtails to go shopping and I've had so many random strangers feel the need to come up and TOUCH IT. GAH.

[Kyla]

I don't mind it when my boyfriend and best friends do it, although they all do it rarely. They don't really do anything to it either, they just run their hands through small sections. DBF is very careful not to break any strands or anything-it's very sweet. :)

[Of the Fae]

This has been a temptation of going to the hairdresser's for me. It feels so good to have your scalp massaged and washed...

[Nev]

hehe, well i'm too busy playing with my own hair to let other people play with it, i dont share :)

[littlestarface]

Oh yes I love to have someone play with my hair,combing fingers styling I love it all. I just wish I had someone to do this to me :(

[Amber_Maiden]

I like it when my husband brushes me hair.... :) It's easier if he does it anyhow. He's more patient.

[Ligeia_13]

Yes please! :D I remember once when I was really young, my mother had my grandmother comb my hair bacause she was busy. Oh, it was marvellous! She combed my hair so slowly and soflty, I almost went into a trance :p

[gergelul]

Well, no.
I utterly dislike anyone else than me combing my hair( but that was a while ago, when my hair was all tangly& stuff so maybe now i wouldn't mind it that much).
But I do like it when people touch my hair and make me compliments about its texture and softness:eyebrows:

[skara_brae]

Like others, I HATE it when people try to touch or play with my hair. (This is part of why I'm trying to do it up more!) The only person who can get away with it is my husband. I don't care how shiny or nice or long or pretty people think it looks. Maybe they could ask me about my hair care regimen, so they can get their own hair that way and then they can touch it to their heart's content???

[on-fragile-wing]

I absolutely LOVE having people play with my hair. I wish they would do it more frequently! I always feel awkward asking anyone (even my husband) to play with my hair. I am trying to teach my husband that it is the #1 way to de-stress me.

[LoversLullaby]

I love having my hair played with! :) But only if the person is gentle. No one ever plays with my hair though. My ex boyfriend used to, and that's about the only thing I miss, haha.

[QueenJoey]

I hate people touching my hair. I tolerate my mom and sister doing so, but even that's a stretch. My mom actually hurts me because she yanks my hair, sooo hard! And my sister doesn't really know what she's doing, but she's sweet about it, and she loves playing with hair so I just suck it up and let her do her thing.

But yeah, anyone else is a big no no. My hair is for me to touch only. I play with it constantly, but it's okay because it's MY hair.

[2peasinapod]

Can't say I've had that problem, but I would freak out if someone tried that. Family members hugging me gently stroking my hair when I'm very upset is one thing, but hell no to the rest!

[Kumiko033]

My boyfriend always swirls my hair to death! Just a weird habit he has ever since I've known him. I don't know why but if he isn't allowed to do so..he ended up doing it anyways without thinking.
First it always made my hair frizzy 3 years ago now it's fine haha, yaya for haircare.
People can touch my hair aslong as they are not damaging it in anyway, I don't mind.

[claymoregalatea]

i love people touching & styling my hair it feels like a massage xD
but if a random/ almost random person just did that, that would be awkward

[AlleyKitten]

I only like it if it's someone who knows some style I don't (like French braiding) and they're close to me. I like fun things being done to my hair, but just combing or playing with it, no way, I don't trust anybody to treat my hair as gently as I do! Though my husband has proved that he can do it and not tangle/break hairs/otherwise make me crazy, it's still nerve-wracking for me to let him. I've put five years of hard work into my hair (from elbow-length, when I started really taking care of it) and the potential for somebody to screw it up in a way that takes years to fix is just way too big!

[MagicAndMayhem]

Hmmm not sure...when my boyfriend plays with it, he tries to detangle it and it hurts so I don't like it...but when this one guy I worked with actually played with it and tried to mess it up, I kinda like it :p

[suraque]

Absolutely not.
No one but me.
I do it quite often actually. :P

it's something about people and curly hair.
Everyone just likes to pull it down and watch it spring back up.
so, every once in a while someone will be messing with it.

[seaj]

I always play with everyone's hair just because I'm the only basically one in my family that knows how to braid.

Once one of my cousins did braid my hair (two french braids, even though I'm completely capable of braiding my own hair) and the whole time I felt like she was pulling too tightly enen though she wasn't. I didn't want to complain about it because I knew she wasn't doing anything wrong.

I'm too OCD about my hair right now to trust anyone else with my hair.

[SC]

I don't let other people play with my hair, no one in my family doesn't know how to braid short hair so I'm quite lucky. My friends sometimes ask if they can try to do something for my hair, but it's always no for me. Even if they could style it well, not pull it or anything, I couldn't stand someone else doing something for my hair. I know my hair better than they do, so it's my excuse.

[Melanie Marie]

Only the people that I like or trust. My dad trims my hair, and every now and then I'll let my mom brush it out, but other than them I would not like it at all. If I had a boyfriend, I would probably let him touch it too, but no one else. I don't even like my sister touching my hair. Last month was the first time she ever saw me wear a hair stick, and she pulled it out while we were in the car! I was really irritated, but over something that she saw as so trivial I knew it wasn't worth the argument.

I have become much more defensive of my hair over the last few months. :p

[Spacescape]

I hate it when people mess with my hair, unless I specifically ask for help with something like detangling an elastic in the back. My least favorite is when I've waved/curled it and everyone wants to help me "tidy" it up. I've spent quite a bit of time and energy getting it to look like naturally-one-step-from-curly hair, don't rake your fingers through it :mad:

[ZeppHead]

Screw that! All the work, effort and time I put in to trying to keep my hair tangle/split end/mess free? Please. Stay. Away. Unless its just my bf rubbing his hand over it in a downward direction, that I don't mind.

[Dina L.]

Brrr, NOOOOO! Nobody. OK, maybe my BF, but only before washday, otherwise he smooths out my curls. I also hate my scalp/crown to be touched, so I think this don't-touch-my-hair is connected with this, too.

[SunnyChicago]

Other than me, just my stylist and my salon shampoo-er only! When my daughter was young I used to let her brush my hair which was actually very nice and relaxing.

My hair is very smooth and a shiny golden blonde, I have had a few a few people I don't even know just reach out and touch it! I do NOT like people to touch me uninvited! That...as you all know...includes my hair! No matter how tempting it might look. I think I actually growled at the last person that did that, he's lucky I didn't rip his hand off. :)

[kellsouth]

I like mine played with, but only by people I know somewhat. Not random strangers walking up to me in the store. That said, it rarely gets played with. No one in my family is into that sort of thing. :(

[Zesty]

No one really plays with my hair much, but I would let my boyfriend run his hands through it or whatever if he had the inclination (which he seldom does beyond just running his hand over my head). I wouldn't mind having someone else braid my hair either. But definitely not strangers. I also have one friend who likes to do head scratches, which can feel nice, but I have a problem with dry scalp flakes, so I kind of cringe whenever she goes for it. Lol.

This doesn't really count, but it kind of reminds me of something my DBF did recently. We were on his bed watching a movie, and I had my hair in a single braid. I was laying down facing away from him, and he kept sneakily picking up the end of my braid and then tickling my ear with the tassel. It was pretty funny. It was also neat to realize that it's long enough now that he can sneak up on me with it without me feeling it. :p

[Isala]

I only want my BF to play with my hair, but he needs some direction. Yesterday he asked to take out my braids. He just put his fingers in it at the top and started pulling down and I said, "oww! You have to do it from the bottom!" To which he replied, "Well that's not as fun"
lol :)

[AshleyTheRed]

No because strangers play with my hair. I can't wear my hair down at church without having old lady claws in my hair. It's disturbing, and makes me want to run away screaming.

[Vlientje]

I like it when someone is braiding it or something, but I always hate it how it feels at the hairdresser. Especially washing, aghhh it hurts!

[Sama]

I am on the fence of "only my immediate family" and "of course, I love the feeling." I've never really had a stranger approach me and touch my hair. Although I'm sure I'd feel uncomfortable about it, the notion would certainly flatter me.

My husband loves to play with my hair. He is a big reason I keep my hair long, actually [basically, he suggested I grow out my perpetual pixie, and I tried it and found I liked longer hair very much]. Also, my 2-year-old daughter thinks my hair is "bees" [beautiful] and loves to brush it. :crush:

[swetiepeti]

I don't mind if friends touch it, I don't mind if strangers who are clean looking ask to touch it, I actually pay my grandson Bryan to brush it for me. He's gentle and takes his time, because he knows that's how I like it and being 10 he likes to make money.

[blue_nant]

I would only let friends/family play with it, but no one asks. One little girl, long ago, wanted to play with it. I told my man to watch that she didn't comb partway through, then start again when she hit a snarl. He didn't, so she only got a few strokes. But really, no one asks. ??

[Avienda]

I love it when someone else does my hair, but most people are so rough that i rarely let anyone else touch it. If I do, I tend to lay down very strict ground rules before they are allowed to touch it!

[Nefcerka]

Absolutely NOT. I´ve had my hair handled by hairdressers and some friends in the past and I always hated the experience. My hair is fine and fragile as it is and having someone else yank it is a total no-no for me now. Even the other day, DH tried to take one apparently loose strand from my hair, but he accidentally pulled another healthy one and I actually yelled.

[lapushka]

Eeeek yikes. Why does this give me the creeps. I *can* understand, during "play" between partners, but otherwise? Bit creepy. No?

[neko_kawaii]

Absolutely! I had a nice long visit with one of my sisters this summer and one of the things we made time for was to braid each other's hair. I miss being a kid and having my mom (or any or my numerous adopted parent figures) do my hair. Shame my kid only asks me to comb his once it has become a rats nest. Takes all the fun out of it.

[ETJ CURLS]

As a curly girl, I've perfected the duck and sidestep manoeuvre when people start getting itchy fingers. My toxic trait is that even though I don't want other people touching my hair, I LOOOOVE playing in other people's hair. I ALWAYS ask first though.

[eunioa]

Yes.. but no. Only family, bf, & super close friends. Most people are so rough when handling hair that strands start to break off or they tangle it up. Although, I do love when other people give me scalp massages.