What does your male SO think of your hair?

[Kat]

I keep reading about how guys supposedly go ga-ga for long hair, and how everyone's husband/boyfriend/partner loves their hair, etc.

My current partner and my last one both didn't give a crap. It's very disappointing. I'd love to have a guy who's turned on by my hair and loves to touch it and all that. Instead it's me having just brushed my hair and saying "feel, silky, see?" and he pats it for a second and says "very nice" halfheartedly and goes back to what he was doing.

Hell, I've even had a friend pay better attention to my hair than my SOs have.

Please tell me I'm not the only one whose hair is unappreciated!!

[Rohele]

You're not the only one.

My husband never comments on my hair, and I know he prefers it when it's shorter. He tends to favour cute short pixie-ish styles over anything else. He also likes change (in every aspect of his life, including my appearance), so he know that when I grow it long, he's not going to surprised by a new look or colour anytime soon.

He also hates it in his face when I lie in bed with him and I know that long shed hairs really bother him.

He's also smart enough not to complain about what I do with it anymore, so while he would prefer my hair shorter, at least I don't hear him complain about it.

[CindyLea1]

My Hubby goes in spurts. Some days, he could care less. Some days he goes to get the brush and surprises me with a good brush out.

If I ask him what he thins about a new updo, or a spiffy smelling conditioner/oil; I usually get a "it's nice".

My hubby does like it long, he's still pouting about the 15 inch chop my sister did to it 4 months ago.

[shadowclaw]

My fiance likes my hair, until it gets it way. I also like to hand him my shed hairs when they come off in the car, just to annoy him a little :) He really does like it, though, but he says he doesn't want it to be longer than waist. Apparently that's his favorite length. I told him I was striving for classic, which he isn't really thrilled about, but he isn't really against, either. I also told him I might just let it grow as long as it will go, and he just ignored me :p

[invisiblebabe]

My DH likes my hair, although he does not like the way it sheds everywhere :) Our vacuum eats it like candy! haha

[ladylibra]

My SO is slightly indifferent about what I do with my hair. He's liked it from 2 inches to APL/BSL, he liked it relaxed and loves it natural. I've threatened to cut it off again before (jokingly) and he didn't really seem phased by it.

However, when I told him I'm going for waist-length hair, he gave me a weird look and said that sounded like an awful lot of hair. I showed him where my waist was, and he responded, "Oh, I thought you meant here," and pointed to my hips. He doesn't like the idea of me having hair long enough to sit on. :rolleyes:

[skydancer7]

Well, I am still working on growing mine out, but my husband has made it clear that he LOVES long hair. Every week or so he comments "It's getting longer!" It's nice to hear that he notices.

When I had really short hair, we both hated it (although he was careful not to show it), and he was just very supportive and helped me not to give in to urges to dye or cut.

He is an unusual male specimen in that he is very observant of these things.

[jasper]

I think my husband would prefer the shorter curly perm hair I had when we met- because he found it attractive back then. That was a long time ago and my hair is not going to see another perm. I will roll it on rags some time so he can run his fingers through some ringlets.

[Carolyn]

No, you aren't the only one. My husband doesn't care about hair in the least. I think we've maybe slightly touched on the subject of hair a half dozen times in over 30 years. He's never given me a hair compliment. I honestly don't know if he likes it or hates it. And I don't really care. I loved long hair before I met him and I grew it and maintain it for me. There is no reason to ask or know what he thinks. I've learned to keep my thoughts to myself. He's never noticed a hair change in all these years. If he has, he's never said anything. I've never told him of any hair plans. I never discuss my LHC experiments and projects. He has no idea what I do. He's seen me with my heat cap on and my Turbie Twist for conditioning and he's never asked what I am doing. I'm sure the thinks it's some "girl thing" and he'd rather not know. I do all my hair conversation here at LHC or at a LHC meet. The long hair thing has been a very solitary road for me.

[dearladydisdain]

My boyfriend says he loves my hair but it's not in a "I am going gaga over your hair!" way. (Other things seem to be more important to him, things I don't understand, which is kind of annoying, but whatever!) He didn't know me when it was classic length+ but he has seen it at various lengths between APL and waist, and doesn't seem to really care how long it is or what color it is. I try to ask his opinion and he says he'll support whatever I want to do, which I guess is a good thing. :lol:

[rexy]

You're not alone. My DH does not understand why anyone would want long hair. I try to explain but he doesn't seem to care. He would never tell me to cut it, but no hes not gaga over it.

[LawyerGirl]

I have not had hair longer than shoulder length since I met my BF. Almost a year ago, I cut it to a very short pixie, and he liked it. Over the past year he hasn't complained about it being short, but as it grows out he'll occassionally say something like, "did you change your hair?" or "it's getting long"... I got extensions put it and he said I looked like someone else and that he didn't like them because they looked painful.

[GlassEyes]

I'm pretty sure some female SOs don't care about hair either. Just saying.

[missfortune9335]

I found out the other day that my DH doesn't even like long hair! I told him how long I was planning to grow it, and he said "Oh great." with an eye roll. (which was suprizing since he is normally very supportave of everything I do) So I asked him "what, don't you like long hair?" he said he didn't like hair any longer than shoulder length!

I'm not changing my hair goals or anything, but you'd think an aspiring long hair could have a hubby who likes it too for pete sakes.

[adiapalic]

DBF prefers my hair long, he says he wouldn't like it if I cut it shorter--but when I tell him I want to have my hair at my knees one day, he asks "Well... won't that get in your way a lot?" I just laugh and tell him that I'll just have to put it up more then.

I get him to brush my hair sometimes for me, he doesn't mind. He doesn't seem overly thrilled or "turned on" that I have long hair--but there are times he'll notice and compliment my hair when I catch him watching me brush or play with it.

[Susana]

My DBF is pretty indifferent about my length. He loved it short red (actually I think he really loved it red) and black. He likes it now as well. I sometimes feel the urge to cut it short and dye it red again, so I'll ask him what he prefers to see if it'll tilt the bar one way or the other - he says he loves it short and loves it long, he loved it red and loves it natural. He told me he misses the short and if I cut it he would miss the length. Basically, I think he'll like it either way, which is one day you might randomly see me here with a short cut dyed red deciding to grow long again:o lol

[nowxisxforever]

My boyfriend is somewhat similar, but I think he just doesn't care what kind of hair I have! Which is fine. I'm slowly getting him slightly - I hope - more interested in hair though, as he has long (but thin due to mistreatment) hair himself.

[RavennaNight]

My hubby likes my hair, but could care less about what I do to it. He actually makes fun. The other day, he picked up my can of coconut milk and said "Don't tell me you are putting this in your hair." And hennindigo? :rollin: He jokes "Hey Sh$thead!"

[Bene]

My boyfriend likes my hair, well enough. He listens when I tell him about the random treatments I experiment with, he tells me it's pretty, and notices when I do something new (like straightening it). He's supportive, and the fact that he listens to my ramble on about hair things that would bore the life out of non-hair people is pretty cool. It's at the point where he'll ask me if my flat iron isn't too damaging :) yeah, he's a sweetie.


I think a guy who is turned on BY my hair would totally creep me out. Something about that is kind of... dunno, creepy. I'd be swatting his hands away, I have my limits of how much random hair touching I can take before getting pissy about it.

[sweet*things]

I think my husband likes it, but in an abstract way. I know he hates dealing with the plumbing and vaccuum repair issues that long hair entails, but he does it (mostly) without complaint.

[LittleOrca]

He loves my hair. He loves long hair in general, but he does not get excited about it or anything like someone with a f*tish would. He is supportive of me going floor length and can't wait to see it. ;)

[Susana]

Wait, I actually have to give my DBF more credit for being supportive. He's put up with all sorts of hair experiments from NW/SO to Baking Soda and Vinegar. He was the one who kept encouraging me to skip the shampoo and hold out a bit more to see if it worked. My hair got so greasy with NW/SO that when I asked his sister if my hair looked greasy she responded "No, of course not, it's still wet from you just washing it". I had not just washed it....I had not washed it in a few weeks actually. He would still encourage me to try longer to see if it worked. He was actually pretty disappointed when he found out I gave up and shampooed. I was really touched. He even puts up with the fact the he has to buy Drano every month to unclog the shower since my hair seem to clog it, and is very sweet when I disrupt a moment of passion with an evil glare (preceded by a scream) when he accidentally rolls onto my hair. So, although he does not care if I grow or if I cut, he is incredibly supportive of my efforts and experiments with it:)

[may1em]

He worries it'll be so long it looks old-fashioned and prefers it down (because it makes me look "severe"), though since I cut bangs, he's more ok with updos.

I think BSL was his favorite length. It still looked long but didn't get in the way as much, apparently. Or maybe I was more likely to wear it down then.

He's uninterested in my regimen and I'm not sure how he's going to react to my relatively infrequent washings when we move in together soon.

[Rivanariko]

My ex didn't like it. He hated the way it always got in his face and I was always trying to detangle it. He was always (jokingly) threatening to chop it all off while I slept.

But my SO right now LOVES it. Not in a f*tish sense, but he has told me several times that he absolutely adores my long hair. He thinks it's very pretty. The only thing that he doesn't like is how often I wear it up since I joined LHC, as he much prefers to see it down.
His hair was longish in high school when we first met and were good friends, but he's had to cut it due to the military recently. He's planning on growing it out as soon as he's done with the air force, though. I can't wait, his hair was really soft and fluffy when it was long. :)

[OLLIE]

My husband loves my long hair, He dosn't understand why woman after having children and getting married chop it all off to there ears like a man. He loves when others compliment my hair and he gets to say ya its like her third arm she has to have it. LOL

[KiwiLiz]

DBF doesn't seem to care about mine, he like to sleep on it because it's soft though, but that's about as much admiration I get for my hair from. I think he'd miss it if I cut it all off though.

[ipickee]

My DH loovveess my long hair. He doesn't much like it when I wear it up, and so far, the only length that we've discussed as too long (in his mind) is ankles, lol! He seems to be more...amorous...when I have longer hair, even though he doesn't say much when it's shorter! :-)

[orbiting]

My fiance is the one who encouraged me to grow my hair long...

And never say a word about it. Not ever (or at least not in a very very long while...). No "It looks nice" or "it feels nice" or "I like what you did with it." Seriously. Plus, when I scream, yell or cry in frustration with my hair, he just shrugs his shoulders and says, in a dejected tone "Well if you want to cut it, that's fine."

My ex hated my hair long. Tried to get me to cut it all the time.

[Raven2448]

My SO is so laid back that I have to check his pulse every now and then... which is a great balance for my over analyzing everything. He saiys he likes it both ways but prefers whatever makes me happy. Translated --- he likes whatever hair style doesn't make me yak!!

[little_acorn]

I'm supremely luckly my hubby also has long hair! So we both end up blocking the vacuum/sink etc with hair. He loves my hair and does not want me to cut it - I don't think he really gets the hairtoy thing but he's happy that it makes me happy :D

[lindaton]

I dated my DH 10 yrs before we got married. He always said I should get my hair cut off. I thought he just wanted it short. I made a deal-marry me and I will cut it off. So we got married, I cut it off, and then he tells me he was just jealous of all the positive attention I got from it. This has been 27 yrs and a few marriage counselors ago.

Now he never gives his opinion at all. And I will never cut my hair again for anyone but myself.

[MissFrenchTwist]

Years ago, I used to wear my hair up a lot... This was in the late-70's, when updos/french-twists/barrel-curls and all of that were the style-of-the-day. He was ga-ga over it, and all I had to do to drive him crazy was "make an appointment" at the shop, and come home with some fancy updo, and he was putty in my hands... :) We divorced in '82, and I have yet to run across anyone who appreciates it as much as he did.

Oh well...I wear it for ME anyway... :)

[Jinx2234]

My husband likes long hair as a rule (his hair is about midback length now), so he would probably be upset if I cut my hair off, but he never really says anything about my hair. If I ask his opinion, he will usually say "it looks good," but if I don't ask his opinion he won't say anything.
While he doesn't really notice any changes, he is supportive-- he listens to me talk about all the different things I want to try, he buys me the different (cheap) things I want to try and he takes pictures of the back of my head for me.

[Themyst]

My DH could really care less, I think. It's not that he doesn't care about me, it's just that he prefers a girl to make girly decisions on her own. There are times when we go out though and I find his hand stroking my hair appreciatively against my back.

[girloctopus]

My husband really doesn't care about it. I've been trying to get him to help me figure out my ideal henna/cassia mix and he just says, "Whatever you think will look good." :rolleyes: I need help and opinions, not indifference! :)

[Willow]

He likes it. He doesn't pay a whole lot of attention to it but he has made it known that he prefers long hair. He says that if I cut it, he is going to divorce me (we arent' married..lol). He says this jokingly of course. When I trim, I do it secretly because if he knows I have cut some off he seems to be disappointed but if he doesn't know that I trimmed it, he can't even tell!

[freckles]

My boyfriend says he likes "long hair" - which for him means he prefers it now (~BSL) compared to when we met (somewhere between chin and shoulder I think). I'm not sure at all what he would think of hair that is "long" in my opinion. I haven't been explicit with him about my hair goals (I'm aiming at least for tailbone, then I'll see how it goes) -- I asked him "how long would my hair have to be before you wouldn't like it?" and he says, he doesn't know. I know that he likes layered, 'modern' long hair though, and I'm scared to get too much layering (and the upkeep!) he would also like to see me blonde, and I am not prepared to lighten my hair (never done it in my life, I have pretty thin hair so I'm terrified of bleach damage) or to do the upkeep on dye. So I think that disappoints him. I might compromise by having some layers, but I'm keeping my colour.
He's pretty supportive of my faffing on with my hair, and will comb it if I ask. So yeah, it's alright :)

[Flynn]

My boyfriend has naturally nicer hair than mine (shiny, strong, curly and very forgiving), we both stopped maintaining it short at the same time (when we left high school; him because he didn't have to any more, and me because I couldn't be bothered paying for it any more), and it's about the same length (I'm about 4 cm longer, in spite of the fact I trim twice a year, and he's trimmed it... twice.) Sooo, no. It's not really a big deal. I think he likes it longer, but he says he likes it however I like it. He does enjoy petting it, though... ^__^ His hair is better, but. He has ringlets you can "sproing!" *Laughs*

[wahmof9]

My DH never gave me an opinion until we had been married 10 years. He said it was my hair and I could not whatever I wanted.

After prodding, he said if he had a choice he's pick long...

Now he is cheering me on as I grow grow grow...and he has fun in the process....herbal pack on my hair, oil, tape measure, etc....you get my point.

He knows I am an LHC addict now...and that is ok too! :)

[EtherealOde]

I'm pretty sure some female SOs don't care about hair either. Just saying.

My husband shaves his head, but in the past (before DH came along) I had boyfriends with long hair and loved it. When a man takes good care of his hair is is a wonderful thing.

But I gotta say I love my hubby's smecksey bald head, he looks hot with it and shaves regularly to keep it nice and smooth. He doesn't object when I rub jojoba oil or shea butter on his scalp either, I think he likes it. :eyebrows:

[Commedia]

My SO is so laid back that I have to check his pulse every now and then...

Raven, I really had to laugh at this... my SO is the exact same way! And it sounds like my guy seems to be similar to most in that he is generally pretty indifferent to my hair. He has said he likes it "long", and when asked what "long" is, he'll say it's anything past shoulder length. He would not want me cut it shorter than that.

He did also recently surprise me. I was getting ready to do my first-ever henna gloss, and as I was going into the bathroom he said, "Your hair will still be red afterwards, right?" I assured him that yes, it would still be red, and in fact a bit more red than usual. And then I said, "I thought you didn't care about the color of my hair." He turned around to look at me, clearly surprised, and said, "Yeah! Of course I do!"

[Samitra]

My SO is so laid back that I have to check his pulse every now and then...

Haha, I've described my BF that way aswell...

Anyway, he encouraged me to grow my hair, and later on, he admitted it was because I looked so very young with my short and teased hair style.
He likes my hair, gives me compliments and he plays with it/detangles it when we're watching TV, but that's about it. Oh, and he helped me go from washing with shampoo every day, to every other day by taking my shampoo bottle away from me on the "no wash"-days. (I had decided to cut down on the washing, but I had a hard time sticking with my desicion, he saw it and decided to help in his own way.)

I'm glad he cares, but I'm also glad that he doesn't care as much as I do :D

[Roseate]

I'm pretty sure some female SOs don't care about hair either. Just saying.

LOL, yep, my female SO isn't really interested in my hair! :p

I mean, she thinks I have nice hair and will give the occasional compliment, but the difference between APL and TBL is no big deal to her. It's all "long" in her eyes.

[FallenAngel]

My husband and my friends could not care less about my hair than they do today. Weather I henna, SMT, plop or whatever I don't even get a glance. He just... does not care at all. I do know that he prefers it longer than pixie, but he's not very picky!

So, I'm on this road together with you guys!

[free_hug]

I'm pretty sure some female SOs don't care about hair either. Just saying.

Well, and some of them would go gaga about a cute head of curls, or just a messy "bad boy" style :D (Adding for safety reasons: no, i didn't mean to creep you out, just do love nice curls on mens' heads)

Back to my story: i clearly remember how much attention my hair got from men when i wore it long (a lot). In turn, my most significant SO so far absolutely prefered short. But that's a thing of the past, and the majority was still a long hair lover, and i met very few people who were truly neutral on the issue. Oh, when the next SO comes along, i might return to report his preferences :D

[MerryKat]

My DH does not like my hair any shorter than shoulder length, so anything longer than that is fine. He is not sure about my plan to grow to classic, but as long as I am not cutting it short he is happy.

On the other hand a couple of times I have threatened to shave it, he has offered to help, but suggested that I might really regret it.

On a day to day basis he does not comment about it or what I am doing with it and as I no longer get it cut by a hairdresser he does not notice if I trim a bit off myself.

He does think my S&D habit is odd, but again as long as it is not shorter than shoulder it is cool.

My DH is easy to please.

[Stevy]

My husband thinks it's pretty, but it's not a major thing for him; if I got it cut short, I don't think he'd mind. Possibly he wouldn't even notice. ;) If you asked him to name one thing about my hair he'd probably say 'She's obsessive about it'. :)

Quite honestly, I'm not sure I'd want a SO who was crazy about my hair. I know it works out really well for some couples, but I don't think I'd want my husband to be forever fondling my hair or offering to brush it or having opinions on whether I should dye it, or whatever. I'd always have a bit of a worry at the back of my mind that he just wanted a woman with long hair, any woman with long hair, rather than being nuts about me.

[share801]

I think it puzzles him that I think it matters at all how long my hair is. I also think it puzzles him when I protect it from wind/sun, etc. He tries to be supportive if/when he figures out what I wanna do but I'm pretty sure he doesn't "get" it.

[sweetnmellow]

My DH doesnt like long hair, and he kept on trying to get me to cut, but I won't. I think it's my hair and it's important to me to be able to look at myself in the mirror and feel that I look good and that only happens when I have long hair... I had cut two years ago to chin length because he kept on asking me to do it, and it was... "cute" but I never got over losing all that precious beautiful hair! Never again, I think my long hair gives me a very feminine touch to my style and it suits me and my personnality I am not cutting again... BTW he liked my short hair the firs week but never mentioned again after that what a waste!

[plaidprincess]

I think my boyfriend would prefer my hair shorter, like chin length, and he liked it when it was blonde. He knows not to say too much since I love long hair on guys and he is a recent shortie. I also love facial hair and he keeps changing his - so we have a kind of push-pull relationship with our appearances - if he ever told me he didn't want me to grow my hair I'd remind him how much I loved his long hair. I might even be willing to cut mine if he'd grow his...

[Sammybunny711]

My fiance prefers my hair short, I think, but he also likes it long.

[GermanCurl]

I'm glad I'm not alone. Last year I started to let my hair grow to about collar lenght. My husband never commented on my hair (not once!) until my big chop in May (got bob torid myself of layers) when all of a sudden he said" Why did you cut your hair, it started to look good" :confused:. Let's just say I was at a loss of words and somewhat mad at him because he never gave me compliments about my hair/growth.
I've been letting my hair grow since May with a goal of BSL. This time I'm doing it for myself and do not care wether my hubby or anybody else comments on my hair or not.

[Calanthe]

No, you are not alone. DH couldn't care less about my hair. I suppose, he'd realize if I razored myself bald or dyed it blue but other than that, it's just something growing out of the top of my head.

[Merlin]

I have a reverse situation:
Me >> Wife "Your hair looks nice"
Wife >> Me "Oh, yeah thanks"

You're married to men who don't comment. I'm married to a woman who doesn't really care, or indeed enjoy it, when I do!

[pammyxjean]

My husband does the same thing, I sometimes ask, doesnt my hair feel softer and look a lot healthier and he just says "oh yeah... I dont know, sure..." GUr makes me angry.... some dude dont care. But he does get mad whenever I cut it, even a trim.

[JamieLeigh]

My hubby definitely has never given a crap about my hair one way or the other. His hair is jawbone+ length, but mine is way too long and he thinks I spend way too much time worrying about it. (Never mind I wear it up 90% of the time, so he doesn't even have to look at it) :rolleyes: He'll have to look at it even less by September, LOL.

[Yayasmurf]

Kat I'm sorry you don't get the support you need. I found the easiest way to get my DH of 29 years interested in what I'm doing is get him involved. I went shopping and couldn't find a set of hair sticks in my town anywhere. When I came home I told DH how disappointed I was and asked him if he thought he could make me a few simple pair. He said he would try.

Well lets see now... it's been 3 weeks.. I now have 6 new pair of cute hair sticks. He came in yesterday, hiding something behind his back, smiling like the cat who just ate the canary. Long story short... he had carved me a beautiful hair fork with a butterfly on it. I hope you find a way to get your SO interested in your hair. Maybe you could ask him to brush or comb it for you. My husband likes to help me brush my hair. I think it's because it makes him feel needed and helpful.

Men are just like we are... they want to feel needed and appreciated. So get him involved in helping you with your hair and thank him for what ever he does to help you.

[PurpleAshes]

My DBF is very supportive of my hair-crazyness. I think he would love it ankle lenght or shaved, as long as it made me happy :D
He always compliments when my hair looks nice, or when I do style that he likes. We talk about hair a lot, since he's trying to grow out his hair too, and he borrows my products and concoctions.
:love:

[Loviatar]

He thinks it's too short. :lol:

He probably thinks I have too many hairtoys, though he wouldnt whine about them. And he certainly calls me a hair geek ;)

[SupermanSeven]

Woman with very long hair are incredibly sexy. I almost always prefer a girl with very a long hair over one with the typically fasionable barely BSL haircut. I very uncommon to see, a girl with healthy long hair and I think its a shame. If I was with a a girl with very long hair, I'd be in heaven, and I would definitely let her know it :)

[lovebug]

My boyfriend likes long hair on women, but he doesn´t quite understand that long hair needs to be taken care of. Anyway, he´s not against haircare, so I guess I could say he´s something like supportive. At least he hasn´t complained about oils and conditioners in his bathroom, yet :p

[pink.sara]

He thinks it's too short!

My SO is constantly asking when I'm going to let it grow out "all long, dark and sexy again"

So after having my fun I am... and he'll have to wait 3 years :rolleyes:

[Teakafrog]

My hubby usually doesn't say much about it, I have to provoke him. :liar:I say something like, "I'm going to chop it all off!", then he says no, don't, I really like it long, it's so pretty. Yeah, I'm bad like that. :twisted:

[Eireann]

My SO loves long hair. He'd probably be happy if I had hair to my knees, but I think I'll maintain at tailbone for a while once I get there.

[MemSahib]

Please tell me I'm not the only one whose hair is unappreciated!!

You're not the only one.

[Pixna]

My husband loves my hair long. He was in as much shock when I cut it as I was. Thankfully, he has been so patient during the growing-back process, although he keeps saying he thought it would be longer by now. :smirk: (He and I both!) He prefers it down rather than in a bun (when it was long enough to put in a bun) or in a half-down (just a little pulled back with a flexi or barrette). He doesn't always understand why we can't drive with the windows down in the car, but other than that, he's on board all the way!

[Kat]

I'm pretty sure some female SOs don't care about hair either. Just saying.

I'm sure that's true, but since the thread is about the stereotype that men absolutely going nuts about long hair and how unfortunately some longhairs have male SOs that don't (while presumably there are women with short hair whose male SOs wish they would grow it long), then discussing female opinions of it is sort of not the point...

[thetokenlady]

TokenMan's favorite saying is "Who am I to tell you what to do?" I love him for the fact that he thinks I'm able to make my own decisions, but it's almost impossible to get an opinion out of him!

He likes it longer though...or at least he's said that he doesn't like it short. He's bought me a few hair toys (including a really cute pair of skull-and-crossbone sticks). Once in a while he'll compliment me on a fancy braid or tell me it looks nice, but he's just not the type to go gaga over anything.

My biggest support is from my girlfriends. One in particular always begs me to wear it down because she thinks it's pretty. :)

[ilovelonghair]

Same for me: my guy isn't that interested either. He likes me hair, but I don't think he would mind if I cut it short. He has long hair himself and often wants to cut it off but he knows I hate short hair. Anyway he's happy with his hair after I henna it, because it makes it look so nice!

[Fiferstone]

My DH has told me he never wants me to cut it. His first wife had very short pixie haircuts and short hair on women reminds him of her (it's not good...). He doesn't appreciate me walking around with two plastic grocery bags tied on my head during the henna-renewal process, however. He doesn't like the smell, but he puts up with it because he knows it's one of my many wierdnesses, one of the things that makes me his "bad thing."

[amyapple329]

My female SO doesn't care much for my hair. I know she likes it BSL and is not into me growing it to down my waist as I am planning. She has longer hair also but seems to have no interest in hair, she just wears it. I on the other hand love long hair.

[Mary <><]

My DH is very supportive! He even helps me when I do SMT with the rinsing! He massages my scalp for stimulating growth, and he has no problem with my hair toys being in every room in the house, free space in the car, around my wrists at all times, etc... He says they remind him that I am never too far away! :D

[embee]

That is very sweet, Mary! He's a nice guy. :)

[Garnet66]

My dh is really indifferent to what I do to my hair. When I had it short he didn't say anything. And he hasn't really said anything about me growing it long. I asked him tonight what he thought about my hair all I got out of him was that he doesn't like my two toned haircolor. And he said that it's getting longer. But, he does put up with the hay like henna smell even though he HATES it. And he measures and takes pics for me. I guess it could be worse. I'm hoping that the longer it gets the more he will appreciate it. Oh, and when I asked him his opinion on waist length he said that he would like it to be only bsl. Waist length would be too much.

[iris]

I keep reading about how guys supposedly go ga-ga for long hair, and how everyone's husband/boyfriend/partner loves their hair, etc.
Honestly, I've never had any man/boyfriend/lover go gaga over my hair. I do think they liked it well enough, and I do think there is something to the stereotype that men find long hair sexy, but the petting and braiding and combing and complimenting by SOs that I read about here, never has happened to me.

I'm not really sure that I'd like that, though, I think I'd find it a bit suffocating to be fanned over. So I'm not terribly disappointed or anything.

My current man does take a technical interest in my hair - he used to have very long hair himself, much longer than mine, and he knows quite a bit about hair care. He notices the condition of my hair, and will comment on that occasionally, but very technically. 'Your hair has been in good condition lately' or 'it looks a bit tangled, I think you should comb it more often' or 'it looks a bit dry at the ends, maybe you should trim a little, just a little bit to refresh the ends'. He doesn't really do compliments, he gives technical evaluations :lol:.

He is very sparse with compliments anyway, he has complimented me on my appearance twice this year so far (yes, I count them). His philosophy is it's not good to compliment women too much, because then they start expecting it and then you (as a man) will never be able to keep up with the expectations. A bit strange IMO but he is completely convinced of his approach, so, whatever works for him :shrug:. I'm lucky (and so is he LOL) that I have iron-clad self esteem :lol:.

Seriously, I think it's really not the norm for men to go gaga over long hair. I've never experienced it and I've always had long hair. It may be the norm for them to find long hair attractive, but there's a big distance between finding something attractive and going crazy over it.

[camirra555]

My boyfriend doesn't really seem to care. He never says he loves it but he never complains either and he helps me do my henna. He does humour me when I ask him "honey does my hair look longer?" or "feel my hair, isn't it soft today?".

[Maddy25]

My boyfriend didnt seem to care much about my hair when it was long, but after having short hair for a while he looks at photos of it when its long and compliments how pretty it was on me, so he's happy Im growing it out. My best friend is a guy however and he loved my hair short, so Im not sure what actually LOOKS better but long is the goal!

My boyfriend tends to care more about hair colour, he loved my when I was a redhead ;)

[Fortymumble]

My DH definitely doesn't go ga ga over my hair. He never brushes it, nor massages my scalp or comments on it. Apart from complaints that it clogs the drains or the vacuum cleaner. :) We laugh together when it gets in the way and he knows it's MY hair and I will do with it what I want.

I did quizz him about his preference and discovered his is for long, layered so it's naturally wavy and of all the colours I've had, he preferred a dark cherry red which was convincingly natural looking. So did I quite frankly, but that particular product is no longer available. Alas.

[trolleypup]

I keep reading about how guys supposedly go ga-ga for long hair, and how everyone's husband/boyfriend/partner loves their hair, etc.
Long hair is very nice, but there needs to be a cool person inside too!

ps: rubbing someone's head who has very very short hair is neat too! Heh! That may be universal...said friend gets her head rubbed a lot (and she's happy with that).

[dearladydisdain]

ps: rubbing someone's head who has very very short hair is neat too! Heh! That may be universal...said friend gets her head rubbed a lot (and she's happy with that).
This is very true! Haha.

[thetokenlady]

My buddy Willy shaves his head. He's kind of a goofy guy, so when I see him I usually give him a kiss and rub his head. I knew he was married, but he's a biker buddy and his wife really doesn't ride much so I'd never met her.

So we're on a run and we all wind up at this bar for lunch and as I'm going over to collect my drink from TokenMan I spot Willy sitting at a table. So I come up behind him and drop a kiss on top of his head and rub his stubble. Turns out his wife was sitting beside him, probably wondering who the heck this girl is!

Fortunately, anyone who can remain married to Willy for any length of time must have a sense of humor, and we all cracked up while being introduced.

[rhubarbarin]

Long hair is important to my BF, but as long as it's there my hair isn't a big deal to him. He compliments it occasionally, and complains if I cut it, but that's about it. That's how he is about everything though - he doesn't gush. But he knows what he likes!

[InTheCity]

When I met DBF, my hair was just past my shoulders and I know he prefers that or longer to the short hair I've shown him pictures of (pixie or chin) from years past.

But in terms of growing it "long" (BSL+) he has been nothing but supportive. He encourages me to read the boards, massages my scalp and always gives me support. He also measures monthly.

The one time I showed him a pic of another board member and said "like this" he very enthusiastically said "that would look great on you!" and I knew from his tone he was being genuine. He definitely makes it easier for me. :)

[AmandaPanda]

Mine loves my hair. He had hair to maybe mid-back or waist when stretched. He cut it to collarbone length and is regrowing it. I haven't seen him in months, but I imagine that when I see him within the next few weeks, it might be past shoulder length. He knows I like his hair

I caught him touching the ends of my hair after I had my head turned on our first date.
I was trying to hand-detangle my hair in his car when he pulled out his brush from the pocket in the driver's side door. I started using it and he offered to brush it for me when i was having a difficult time with knots (all of this after letting my hair down and running around without combing it), which I politely declined, but I let him braid it for me.

I had glitter on my bun for New Year's Eve. He asked if I had glitter in my hair. I said yes, and he said he likes sparkly things.

Another day, he saw my jar with hairsticks in it, but at that point, had never seen any in my hair. I used one later and he said "I was wondering what those were"

[BrianaFineHair]

We've been married for 20 years and he has always told me the same thing, "As long as you like your hair, so will I." I have tried every trick in the book to get him to tell me if he'd rather my hair be long or short. He tells me, "you are pretty either way". -.- Won't budge. He just loves me no matter what :) He's a keeper!

[halo_tightens]

BrianaFineHair-- yours sounds a lot like mine. :)
Every time I ask his opinion on anything hair-related, he always says, "It's your head; do what you want with it." Jeez, a little feedback would be nice once in a while!

He is starting to get tired of me spending so much time lately either here on the boards, or putting food products in my hair, or talking about hair, etc. He claims that I've become "obsessed" with hair! Unfortunately, I think I'm just going to have to stop bringing up the subject around him. Sigh...

[Olivia23]

Mine doesn't seem to care either, but most of the males at work love my long hair! I find it odd that they compliment me on it and my hubby says nothing!

[Lady Mary]

I've always done things with my hair (fun colors, funky cut) I got bored easily so I changed it often. I was worried maybe my husband wouldn't like long straight "normal" hair compared to what I had before. So, before I decided to grow it out we talked about it. What he doesn't like (blonde, teased, permed, fried, frosted... you get the idea) what he does like happens to be natural red hair, not just the fun colors, which works out great for me because that's the color that was hiding under all this dye. :laugh:

As for length, I've never had it past my jaw since he's met me but after showing him some old photos of me and some of the lovely ladies here, he's on board with me having long hair.

So, he's quite supportive of what I'm doing with it. I think he'd be happy either way, long or short. :blossom:

[utdesertrunner]

Just the other night I took my hair down and he said "I really love your hair long". That made my day! He does prefer it long. Everytime I cut it he says that it's my hair and it looks nice. But when it's long he tells me I look much better with long hair. I'm not planning on cutting short again. The only thing he doesn't like is when it gets on his face or he rolls over it in bed. It's still not long enought to put up comfortably at night.

[WhitsEnd]

My husband absolutely loves my long hair. He grew up in a pentacostal family where every woman/girl he saw has long hair. He tells me that short hair is ugly. My hair has always been long and I am glad that he likes it that way. However, some of my family thinks that I only keep it that way because he likes it but I love long hair.

[Amraann]

Mine likes it long.

Several months ago we were on the balcony and my friend was here and somehow the subject of cutting my hair came up.. He piped in "NO!!! I like it long" (until then I really did not know what his opinion was despite being married for 21 years)
He does not frequently comment on it or compliment it but he will help or give his opinion if I ask.

[young&reckless]

My SO has been known to run his hands down my hair anytime he comes near me. Like a little boy he is forever stealing my hairtoy and grinning as my hair tumbles down. Total love that about him.

[toodramatik]

I don't have an SO but the guys that are interested in me, beg me to grow it or get extensions. They hate short hair.

[windinherhair]

He loves my long hair... But I did a short video clip today and uploaded it to youtube. He saw some other hair video's on there, and one of them he made the comment that the hair was too long... when it was actually just the length I want mine! Uh oh. Hmmm.... :undecided I mentioned I still wanted mine longer. He didn't say a lot but I suppose I will just have to wait and see what he thinks later.

[redwoman]

My husband always runs his fingers through my hair. he also points out women with short hair and asks, "is that a man?" He is old fashioned and likes my hair long. Thats ok because I like it long too. He also supervises my trims at the hairdressers to make sure they aren't cutting off too much...gotta love my husby!

[AmyJorgensen]

Mine says he would be sad if I cut it, but he sure doesn't give it any attention.

[Vermelha]

He likes it long. He's used to longer hair on women since women in his family have long-ish hair. He likes it big and full too...He expressed that he hates extensions and weaves, so I try to care for my hair the best possible. He hates the "chewed up" hair look...

[luckypenny]

I don't have a husband or a boyfriend :( the last guy I dated (over 3 years ago) often mentioned not liking short hair. My hair back then was shoulder lenght and he fussed at me when I cut it short. In fact I think he lost total interest in me after that.

[Kat]

I guess perhaps I should not complain that the boi isn't always touching my hair or anything...I don't generally let anyone other than me touch it because it gets so tangly that it's easy to get fingers caught (used to happen to my ex) and I don't want anyone jerking their hands out of my hair and damaging it (plus I hate having my hair pulled--involuntary reaction is to shriek). So I know even if he wanted to run his hands through my hair, I'd either refuse outright or end up yelping when his fingers got caught...but...still...

[82exoticbeauty]

Well, it depends! My boyfriend of 3 years now about hair, it doesn't matter to him! But I think it was of 2007 which is about 1 year 1/2 of relationship, he thinks that my hair was uneven, not straight and too long, and didn't like the blonde dye which make my hair half blonde and dark brown! But now, it feels like he don't mind:shrug::)! I even caught him playing with my braid hair and tossing it around my neck and pretending to choke me! But he's just kidding around:laugh:!
But sometimes he just take the scissor out and pretends that he is going to cut it and I was like 'No way:scissors::bigeyes::shocked:!', but he's just joking! I only put my hair up when we go out and it's Summer and hot! I only let my hair down sometimes! But the last time I let my hair down in public was December 2008! So I will let it down in public somewhere of September-October 2009!
I was like thinking that my boyfriend didn't say that I need a new cut! But I like the way he doesn't mind about it, but love it when he starts playing with my hair without me noticing it!:D

[Raponsje]

My SO likes my long hair, but isn't a big fan of buns. He loves it when I make two braids and when I have it down. A bun is the most practical for me so that is my day style and when the kids are asleep I take it down for him. He would like it to be blonder, but that is a big no no for me.

[ipickee]

he would also like to see me blonde

This kills me!! My hubby's the same way! He'd like to see me blonde, but isn't it easy for them, when it's not their hair or their time and effort that goes into the upkeep? Now hubby's just happy with long hair :)

[pointydog]

I guess I'm lucky, DH loves my hair. He doesn't brush it or play with it, but on the rare occasions when it's down he always has a nice comment for it.

He was more upset than I was at the last cut. When I went to the hairdresser on our wedding day (9 years ago) she couldn't work with the length and asked it it was OK to cut it back some. Ended up about a foot shorter. He didn't realize it until the next day when I took it all out.

His only complaint is that he really doesn't like the grey. I'm about half and half now, especially at the front. I have one off-center 'racing stripe' that's pretty hard to miss. I'm not interested in the upkeep of a dye job, so DH now helps me do cassia every 5 or 6 weeks and we're both happy.

Every now and then I get annoyed and think it would be nice to shorten it some (like when I accidentally sit on it and can't turn my head) but DH always reminds me that he really likes it long and hopes I won't cut it. Sweet, isn't it?

[fisher2]

i just found out my gf has waist length hair (i knew it was long before but it was always up in a bun or hi pony.she asked me to brush it for her and it made me happy

[Kat]

My partner also prefers the two braids. And would really like me to henna it, but I keep explaining to him that unless I either henna my hair for the rest of my life (could be 60 or 70 more years for all I know!), or am resigned to the fact that eventually I'd have to either buzz my head/do something horribly damaging to remove the henna, then it's not a good idea!

[Mebo]

My DH threw a hissy fit when I cut it in the mid-70's, and is loving it tailbone length. He always asks what the big topic is on this board, and trims for me about every 6 months. He isn't really very happy with me or the cat (yes, she's a long hair!) when it comes to the vacuum cleaner, but he gets over it.

Ask what my grown kids think....... I dare you. lol

[dukkelisa]

Wow, this thread has really helped me deal with my husband's disinterest in my hair. He often jokes about cutting it short. I think he likes shoulder length as "long hair". I never get a compliment, he never plays with it, never looks at it as an attribute.

But then, I have to be fair to him....no one else compliments it either. I have had perhaps a total of 3 compliments in the last 5 year's! The last one was about the crown braid, not the hair itself. I don't know if it is so uncommon anymore, but people seem to dislike long hair or act uncomfortable around it.

I don't need or seek compliments, but sometimes I wonder what's so horrible about it?

[freckles]

This kills me!! My hubby's the same way! He'd like to see me blonde, but isn't it easy for them, when it's not their hair or their time and effort that goes into the upkeep? Now hubby's just happy with long hair :)
no joke. I put on makeup from time to time because he likes it, but I'm not willing to commit to something I have to always maintain just because he'd prefer it that way!

[funnybunny668]

My DH never said much about my hair when it was long. Then I cut it short and he never said much then, either. After I finally ASKED him what he liked, he said he liked it longer, rather than shorter, after I'd already cut it short. Go figure!

[CaityBear]

My boyfriend likes my long hair. He has learned how to do some pretty nice braids. :P

[Deimos]

My SO likes my hair, but he wants me to show it of and let it down more... Easy for him to say, his hair is longer than mine! He also braids it for me sometimes :)
All my previous BFs liked long hair, but long hair for them started at shoulderlength ;)