Does anyone else feel a little insecure...

[hennaphile]

About visiting LHC, in terms of seeing all the gorgeous long hair :o

I see so many heads of long, thick, shiny, stunning, unique, thud-worthy hair. Sometimes I feel a trifle self conscious about mine, especially after hair loss.

Good thing this is such a supportive place to hang out :)

Anyone else feel this way?

[Deimos]

Sometimes I feel that way. But then I look outside, to the real world and find out that actually it is not that bad ;)

[Bene]

Sometimes I feel that way. But then I look outside, to the real world and find out that actually it is not that bad ;)



pretty much :D




i was sitting here for a bit, looking at all the hair, then went out to walk the dog and came across this one chick who'd bleached her hair to... i don't even have the words for it. it looked like yellow brillo :bigeyes: and my hair was flowing in the warm summer breeze and i felt a little bit better :)

[maaria]

I must agree with Demios, it´s not actually so bad. I had a huge hairloss a few months ago. I went to the doctor and she established that I had scarcity of Zink, now it´s growing again but you must remember that hairloss is normal usually.:)

[Debra83]

When I'm here, and looking at pics, or posters' sig. pics, I feel that I haven't "earned" the right to be here yet, for lack of a better word.

But, when I'm at one of my jobs, or just out and about, and I see what people are doing to their hair, and how they are treating it, and how they make such negative comments specifically about other people's hair, I definitely feel this is where I'm meant to be.

When I first joined, it was all about maximizing routines, products, and knowledge to reach my goal. Now it is more about community, with a side of hair. You can even tell by my albums that it is no longer all about hair for me, for the lack of pics posted now, than at the beginning. Not as obsessed, I guess, but I visit here just as frequently.

I like that.

[Teazel]

Yes. It's called hair envy. :o I'm especially insecure about the way my hair seems to have thinned on top.

[Calista]

Teazel, you can easily hide the thin hair on top by all the hair you have at the bottom. :silly:

Like most everybody, I also have hair envy every once in a while. But I think for every gorgeous head of hair there will be at least one other head of hair that´s even more gorgeous, or just as gorgeous but in a different way, so I don´t feel alone with my hair envy.

[Calanthe]

Constantly. But not in a bad way, mind you. It's more like: Wow, I wonder how she/he reached that? Could I do this? :D

[Magicknthenight]

I get inspired from the hair i see here. I wish i had super thick hair that could take a beating and be super strong like others on here but i try not to dwell on it:p
I feel like my hair is thin even though it seems like it'd be average or even thicker then some friends i know. But I think this may be due to its thinner then it "has" been. But I think that's because I'm taking more care of it. Which equals less dryness and less frizz so its softer and thinner or...finer? I hope! One of my friends felt it recently and was like look theirs not a lot there! and held up my ends e_e
I really do get inspired looking through peoples profiles and albums that have a similar thickness and longer hair. It makes me believe that I'll get there too someday. And it will look nice even though its not super thick! Really excites me because I can't wait to be there!!!

[Dementia1013]

I have hair envy for many of the posters on here...
For me though, that's just more incentive to learn more. More updos, more braiding styles, more haircare tips. :D

[Rapunzal2Be]

Yes, sometimes I do feel a little insecure. On here I sometimes stop from posting my opinions on things because I think, "Who would want my advice, my hair is barely collarbone length yet..."

When I look at some of the beautiful, thick heads of hair on here or on TV (like Yelina on CSI Miami, Vesper Lynd in Casino Royale, Mikaela in Transformers) I sometimes can't help but feel a little down. I have very fine and thin hair and even with the best care and every effort to grow and keep as much as I can, I know I won't have my 'dream hair'.

But then I just remind myself that my hair is certainly nicer than some and that I'm doing the best I can for it (or trying to and learning how to) and that is something to be proud of and happy about.

[pixiedoo]

I am really new on here and I have found looking at all the gorgeous hair on here an inspiration!! I have recently experienced a massive amount of hair loss and my hair is so much thinner than it was but being on here has given me some hope that I can get my hair back to it's pre shed state. I have had some great responses to my posts and everyone seems really friendly.
I felt really insecure about my hair before I found LHC but now feel a bit better and so glad I have found a place full of helpful information and lovely people :)

[Chanterelle]

Sometimes. And quite often I have a feeling I don't belong here. I blowdry, heatstyle and never wear updos.
I admire everyone here on LHC for their commitment to their hair goals.

[desertgirl]

I love your long purple locks! I think I have hair envy over your hair.

[Nat242]

I wouldn't say I feel insecure, but I am envious sometimes when looking at the amazing colours many members achieve with henna. It doesn't make me feel worse about my own hair, though.

[Aditi]

No, i have never felt insecure about my hair as LHC has taught all of us to admire and love our hair as they are. Of course i have many hair idols over here and they motivate me to change my hair goal length everytime ;) but i have have found peace with mine and couldn't ask for much more better :)

[Heidi_234]

Neither did I. Mind you, I certainly don't think my hair is one of the best on LHC, but seeing what beautiful color other people have and I don't, or what a length some achieve and I'm just getting there slowly, or how shiny and soft it looks on others doesn't make me insecure or white with envy.
And there's no need to feel like that, I bet your hair is gorgeous! If you think it doesn't we can swap. :flower:

[Aditi]

Sure sure i am ready, after all "Variety is the spice of Life" :)

[3azza]

It's more of inspiration than envy for me, i admire all the beauty and length on LHC and gets motivated to treat my hair better.

[marzipanthecat]

Don't get me wrong - I'm really generally very very happy with my hair. But I do get quite envious of other people I see here! I think I get envious about spectacular colours people have tried (there is one lady with the finest ever purple hair) - I'm too lazy to keep up any colouring regime, and besides, I'm happy enough with the crazy colours I have naturally!

I get most envious about people who have the really really long hair - I am aiming for ankle-length myself- but I do find it really encouraging and helpful to see photos of people who are there already. It gives me hope that I can do it too!

[Tap Dancer]

I admire a lot of the hair I see here, but I don't feel any envy. I love my hair and I feel it's as nice as anyone else's. :)

[RoseRedDead]

Yes and no. There are days when I feel down about my hair, and seeing all the gorgeous heads of it on Ye Old LHC doesn't help... other days when I feel that, although my hair IS short, it's just as nice as anyone else's... novelty is the spice of life, I guess.

[Newniepg]

Yes, I do sometimes feel that way, depends on what time of the month it is though. :)

However, most of the time I am grateful for the beautiful photos as it gives me something attainable to aim for. I could want hair like the women in the hair adverts, but then I would be doomed to disapointment because my hair will never be completely straight, shining like glass with not a hair out of place. I feel much better about my hair thinking that it could one day be beautiful in its own individual way.

[Kylis]

Constantly. But not in a bad way, mind you. It's more like: Wow, I wonder how she/he reached that? Could I do this? :D

That's exactly how I feel!

[Charlotte]

At first glance, I feel a pang of hair envy when I see the super thick locks of hair on this site but pretty quickly that feeling is replaced with admiration. I know that I will never have super thick lustrous hair like some of the follicularly blessed members here, but I shall have the best hair I can have thanks to all the info and kind support at the LHC. :D

[BlndeInDisguise]

Sometimes. But then I have to remember that usually, the pictures posted and the avatar and sig pictures are usually the best pictures they have. Their hair doesn't always looks so perfect. :)

I'm also envious of those who have thick hair all the way down to the ends, since that seems an unattainable dream for me.

[Chrissy]

Not really. I mean I appreciate everyone's hair but I don't feel insecure at all. I do the best I can to care for mine. I love being here for all the great hair care things and of course all the great people here.

[ChloeDharma]

Sometimes i do, especially with my ongoing battle with hairloss. But i also find that being here gives me a healthier view of hair where i'm reminded that hair comes in many different ways and that we don't have to have what shampoo commercials deem "perfect" hair for it to be beautiful.

[Silver & Gold]

I could easily feel this way but perhaps because I'm getting old enough now to realize there is no way I can ever compete with the beauty of youth I don't let this bother me. My hair is the way my hair is going to be. I can learn about how to make it the best it can be for my hair today and that's all I can do.
When it comes to some of the gorgeous hair I see here, I admire and appreciate it the same as I would appreciate a beautiful flower or a fine example of a strong, beautiful animal. That is to say I can appreciate the beauty without relating it to myself and causing it to make me feel inadequate.

[Copasetic]

About visiting LHC, in terms of seeing all the gorgeous long hair :o

I see so many heads of long, thick, shiny, stunning, unique, thud-worthy hair. Sometimes I feel a trifle self conscious about mine, especially after hair loss.

Good thing this is such a supportive place to hang out :)

Anyone else feel this way?

Sometimes. I also feel a little self-concious about my hair length. This is the longest my hair has ever been, but then I see people on here who have waist length hair and still feel like their hair is short :eek:

And I occasionally feel self-conscious about my lack of hair knowledge. I know nothing compared to a lot of these people.

[hennared]

I've never been one to compare myself to others. But, I compare myself to me! Seeing the beautiful hair here sometimes does make me feel inadequate to my own self standard, since I"ve experienced a lot of hair loss this past year+. I see thickness and fullness here and sometimes feel down, because "that's the way _my_ hair used to be" (sigh of exasperation)

I don't always react that way, and I see there are women here with all types of hair thickness and length. So, at the least, I feel I belong here :)

[rach]

i do envy some peoples length on here.
one day i'll get there "sigh"
but we all must concentrate on the positive side and be wiling -
i've got hair which is healthier then it did.
and i've got a colour which i am very happy with.
the rest will just take time.
i don't feel insecure on here, many here to want the same goals too and there is such a variety of hairy people here :D

:grouphug: i like it here

[DarkChocolate]

Not really because I am here to share my growth journey and if people don't like it that is their problem. Someone's hair journey is mostly determined by genetics anyways. I really don't care that my hair isn't as thick as others here or that my individual strands aren't as thick either because that is something that I can do nothing about.

However, I do notice that people with thicker hair do get the most compliments and are singled out for compliments on threads like 'Before and After' and show me your circumference threads in which many people post. That in and of itself can make someone insecure and feel bad about his/her hair.

Something that I think people should keep in mind is that it takes years to grow your hair and it also takes just as much time to have the strands catch up to one another to give someone blunt ends. I personally have seen my hair thicken up over the years. If my hair grew all at the same time and I never trimmed the point that forms in the middle I would be at classic now.

I do love my silky fine hair that is the color of dark chocolate:)

[2luvmycurls]

Sometimes I get that "oh, I wish I had her hair!!!" envy, but mostly it's just inspiring. Could my hair one day look that nice? Or I know my hair will never look like that (straight vs. curly, thick vs. thin, fine vs. course), but if we all had the same hair, it would be pretty boring after a while. :)

[Nightshade]

I'll admit to a bit of hairorexia. I worry that the ends are too thin, and wish that my hair were thicker overall. :oops:

[Firefly]

No, I find it more inspirational than anything else. Sometime I gaze wistfully at someone's gorgeous hair and wish mine was as shiny/healthy/less thin/whatever -looking, but then I just get motivated to really pamper my hair.

Here's to all the lovely LHC ladies (and lads... :D)!

:beerchug:

[trolleypup]

Insecure, not too much, but there is always some wistfulness about the hair here that is longer than mine. *mew*

[ilandree]

Yes,lol,it inspires me to no end, but does not make me want to rush to post pictures of my own!

[Jason]

I do feel outclassed at times but I know I'm doing the best I can with the hair I have. I also think that even average hair at LHC is usually much better than average hair outside LHC.

[Roseate]

Sometimes I feel envious about people who are already at the lengths I want, makes me feel impatient with my growth rate!

And of course I love to look at all the heads of hair that is so different from mine, and imagine what it would be like to have glossy straight hair, or perfect corkscrews, or ravens-wing black or glowing henna red. But on the whole, I like what I've got, and I like LHC for helping me take care of it!

[Rohele]

I feel insecure sometimes too, especially since I feel like my hair isn't as thick as it should be/was at one time.

I also feel insecure when I see the shininess and colour of some people's hair. I have massive regrets about dying and damaging mine over the last 10 years or so. I feel mine looks like straw (especially the bleached ends).

I just tell myself at least I found LHC and now have the knowledge to work towards healthier hair. Regardless of the problems I'm having there is at least a few other people who have dealt with the same issues and are able to offer help.

[nowxisxforever]

I feel the same to a point, yes. I'm sincerely jealous of a lot of the hair here, even shorter hair, because of what marvelous quality it's in compared to mine. I may have length, but my length, partially due to treatment and partially due to hairtype, is fairly damaged.

In the end though, we're growing our hair long for ourselves. It's a journey! I joined the long hair community on LiveJournal when I was above waist-length a few years ago, and I didn't feel like a *real* long hair either, like I didn't belong-- as soon as I hit waist I felt much better, but it just reminds me that everyone has had their own personal journey.

What makes someone with longer hair more justified in being here? Nothing. Growth is part of the fun of long hair...growing it long from short, finding new styles and new treatments, taking care of your hair.

Don't compare yourself to others. We enjoy having you here! We're all together on this wonderful journey. Enjoy the ride!

[thankyousir74]

I'll admit to a bit of hairorexia. I worry that the ends are too thin, and wish that my hair were thicker overall. :oops:

Aww Nightshade, just let me say you are one of my definite hair idols :3

And though I feel like my hair may be slightly thin sometimes (especially when compared to my DBF who has gorgeous iiiiiiiiiiiiiii BSL curly hair), at least I feel better when I know that I'm treating it the best I can.

If anything the real hair envy comes when I see that I don't quite have a defined system that my hair definitely likes, and then I see members who know exactly what to do when hair misbehaves. But I guess long hair is definitely a learning process, and while I'm barely at APL, I realize that slowly but surely I am learning :3

I love you guys :bounce:

:grouphug:

[enfys]

I have hair envy for sure. And I'm pretty sure it's the kind of thing that never goes away. The grass is always greener, yadda yadda.

[GlennaGirl]

Sometimes. It's self-inflicted, though. I mean I've had my struggles with my hair and have cut back so many times. This always makes me think whether people are looking at my Join Date, then looking at the back of my head and going, "Is she even serious about all this?"

But overall, it's a supportive community regardless.

[krissykins]

Sometimes it gets me down, but I have to remember: those heads of hair had to start someplace too!

[Bloodflower]

I guess we always want what we don't have ... I too look at all those on here with longer and thicker hair than mine. But what really helps is taking my own hair pics. My hair, freshly combed, looks always better on a pic than in real life. Or so I feel. So I tell myself all that georgous hair here must also look more realistic in real life than on the photos. I'm not implying it doesn't look as good in real life, just more normal.

[fisher2]

i feel sad around people with hair longer then me in bad condition may be the fact its so over processed or becaused its longer im not sure

[VanillaTresses]

Yep, especially seeing that while I have wanted long hair and admired long hair for such a long time, I have not actually managed to grow it past BSL! Every time I have made it to BSL I have ended up cutting it way back. So I am not sure where that makes me fit in (or not)!? :confused:

I still love gabbing about hair care and giving and receiving support here though. :)

[faeflame]

I admit it, I'm only human and all the lovely hair on LHC does give me a serious case of hair envy and feelings of inadequecy. Thankfully, this is more than balanced by all the wonderful knowledge, inspiration, and support on this site.
My own family doesn't really get it when I obsess or rant over my hair length/condition or my thinning fears, but LHCers do and bless you for that!!!!!!!!!!!

[Elphie]

I tend to appreciate talents over hair quality. I wind up admiring someone's ability to pull off a fancy braid because I always feel that's something I could "learn". I certainly admire other people's hair but not with envy; I'm quite content with what's on my head.

Except when it's frizzy. Then I'd be happy to trade with most anyone!

[karli]

Right now I´m not pleased with my hairs appearance: It`s frizzy, my layers won`t melt in with the rest, my ends feels strange in spite of some trims. Hopefully, it will change in some time. I will have to try some new stuff.

As much as I like to admire others hair, this is what I have. A fuller, darker and shinier hair, won`t get me more friends, make school easier or my life happier.

But I do enjoy the changes my hair goes through, while it`s getting longer than it has ever been before. Even though my hair doesn`t look it`s best right now, it`s mine and I like it!

[rags]

I must admit I never did feel insecure or inadequate even with my puny little i hair, until someone singled me and a couple of others out and used us as examples. Since then, I've been totally paranoid about it, and tend to keep pics, etc. only to one trusted thread.

[Elphie]

I'm sorry to hear that happened, rags. Your shiny silvers are lovely!

[Natalia]

About visiting LHC, in terms of seeing all the gorgeous long hair :o

I see so many heads of long, thick, shiny, stunning, unique, thud-worthy hair. Sometimes I feel a trifle self conscious about mine, especially after hair loss.

Good thing this is such a supportive place to hang out :)

Anyone else feel this way?

I do :(. Im get insecure about length and thickness (o boy does that sound wrong :o....) especially thickness though. I also get self conscious about the tangles and things from my dye damage :( too.

I know there are other people who have to feel the same way even those amongdt us with the most awe worthy hair. Which by the way i include you! All that awe worthy shine of yours :D

[Nyghtingale]

I think we all look at others and wish we had what we feel we are lacking.

[Calista]

Oh dear, rags, I hope it wasn´t me you were singled out by. I know I sometimes use members here as examples when it comes to questions on thin hair, but only to illustrate how beautiful thin, fine hair can be. As a matter of fact I most often refer to Madeleine and her homepage, because I have met her in person and seen her hair, and it is breathtaking. But I´m also partial to silver hair and silver highlights, so now I´m wondering if I ever used you as an example. If I did and it caused you distress, I apologize.

Isn´t it weird though how most people lust after thin bodies and thick hair? Why isn´t it the other way around? It would be much easier to achieve for most of us. :ponder:

[Wicked Princess]

I can't say that I feel insecure about my hair...

But I do get mildly impatient! Very, very mildly, but impatience is impatience. I can't wait to see how long I can grow my hair! I find myself wishing it would grow faster so that I could try putting it in elaborate, giant-sized updos.

Of course, since I'm a newbie and a failure when it comes to even the most simple of updos, I suppose it's a good thing that I don't have a super-human- hair-growth rate...it gives me time to practice, hehe.

[JamieLeigh]

I'm not insecure about my hair as compared with other people's, as much as I am maybe wistful and admiring. I'm happy with my length, but the thickness is a lot to be desired in my opinion, so I do tend to gravitate to the photos of longer, thicker hair. I do love my own for what it is, though, and am happy to be sharing my journey with everyone here. :flower:

[Teazel]

Teazel, you can easily hide the thin hair on top by all the hair you have at the bottom. :silly:

Are we talking 'epic comb-over'? :silly: :wink:

[Calista]

Are we talking 'epic comb-over'? :silly: :wink:
:scared:

I was thinking of a really high bun... :lol:

[Melisande]

I don't feel envy. I'm old enough to like my hair the way it is, finally!, after fretting all my life over it. It helped me a lot to read that also the women with the hair I always wanted (curly, wavy, full) have problems - a real eye-opener for me. And once I understood that loads of people love straight hair like mine, it really encouraged me and I learned to accept my poor hair the way it is. I love it now.

I'm sad though that it took me so long. I'm happy for the younger members here who learn this important lesson at a young age and can stop destroying their natural beauty in search of an artifical chic.

But no, I'm not envious. I feel a pang sometimes when I hear that you get compliments - I'm in my middle Forties and get no compliments anymore (except for the lovely friends over at the German board - hugs to you!!!). It's sad that I got loads of compliments when I was young, insecure and felt crap with myself - and now that I found peace with myself and actually feel proud of a lot of things, the outside world doesn't register it. Call it self pity ;-)

But no envy, no. I'm happy when I see the beautiful heads here. So different, and each with its beauty - longer, shorter, thicker, thinner, curlier, straighter. Nature is such a wonderful thing. I feel that I got more sensitive and appreciative of it since I came here.

[hennaphile]

I don't feel envy. I'm old enough to like my hair the way it is, finally!, after fretting all my life over it. It helped me a lot to read that also the women with the hair I always wanted (curly, wavy, full) have problems - a real eye-opener for me. And once I understood that loads of people love straight hair like mine, it really encouraged me and I learned to accept my poor hair the way it is. I love it now.

I'm sad though that it took me so long. I'm happy for the younger members here who learn this important lesson at a young age and can stop destroying their natural beauty in search of an artifical chic.

But no, I'm not envious. I feel a pang sometimes when I hear that you get compliments - I'm in my middle Forties and get no compliments anymore (except for the lovely friends over at the German board - hugs to you!!!). It's sad that I got loads of compliments when I was young, insecure and felt crap with myself - and now that I found peace with myself and actually feel proud of a lot of things, the outside world doesn't register it. Call it self pity ;-)

But no envy, no. I'm happy when I see the beautiful heads here. So different, and each with its beauty - longer, shorter, thicker, thinner, curlier, straighter. Nature is such a wonderful thing. I feel that I got more sensitive and appreciative of it since I came here.

That's great that you've gotten to that space. And why don't more people give you compliments??? Silly them !

I just took pictures of my hairloss. It's pretty drastic :( I don't know that I'll ever have hair thicker than a pencil for 2/3 the length ever again in my life :(

[HildeMV]

Yes, I feel like other peoples hair here is less boring than mine. But I still won't cut it.:p

I can get inspiration though, for hairstyles.