The Stereotypic "Hair Comment"

[Saldana]

OK, I know this is nothing new to many of us. But here's the deal...

I keep my hair up most of the time at work. I often wear it down (or mostly down) on Fridays, though, or anytime that I have to wash it before work (so it can dry a bit), or when it's giving me a headache having it up. So everybody in my building has seen my hair down, many times.

When I have it down and I"m at my desk or walking around, nobody ever says ANYTHING about it. They look at it, sometimes even stare, but never say a word, especially the men.

But the following scenario has happened at least five times in the past couple of months -

I'm in the ladies' restroom, usually around lunchtime. I stand in front of the mirror, take my hair down, comb it, mist it, and put it back up. During this time, another woman comes to the sink and washes her hands, eyeing me sidelong in the mirror.

At some point, when I look at her, she stops and says -

"....your hair is so LONG."

Um.

Why, yes it is.

And THEN - we have the stereotypic 'I want long hair' conversation. It goes something like this:

Her: I wish I could grow my hair long

Me: Then grow it!

Her: Oh, it won't grow....it gets to about here (points to just below her shoulders) and then it just splits and breaks off

Me: Do you use heat on it?

Her: ............well......yes....

Me: You can't use heat on it. You want long hair? Easy - just stop using your blow dryer, curling iron, and hot rollers - it'll grow! You can have long hair...:)

Her: Can't I use a special kind of shampoo? I just can't stop using my blow dryer...my hair will look awful. What kind of shampoo do you use? Your hair is so pretty....where can I get the kind of shampoo you have?

Me: Ummmm.....mostly I use Suave.....you can get it at WalMart.

Her: .................oh.

Her: well.......hm

Then she gives me a crooked smile, takes another wistful look at my hair, and mumbles something about getting back to work.

*sigh*

I'm sure other people have similar experiences...

1. Why only women, very rarely men?

2. Why tell me I have long hair? I *know* I have long hair, it's been on my head for years.

3. Why tell me in the bathroom, in a tone of amazement? My hair isn't any longer in bathroom than it was in the breakroom.

[spidermom]

I would guess that women talk about it in the bathroom because you're both taking a break. In the work setting, you're supposed to be working, not visiting.

I always take the comment "your hair is so long!" as a compliment because that's exactly how I want it to be and other people notice - hooray!

[Redheaded Raven]

I feel that people speak up in the bathroom because it is private.
They feel secure that they won't overheard :shrug:

[aprilmay]

I had a long hair conversation in a ladies room at a local pizza place. This was with a stranger who also had long hair. I did not see her prior to being in the restroom. We had a nice chat. Fellow long hairs are fun to talk to. I am never quite sure why others are interested or randomly decide to talk about my hair. It seems to be positive so I usually don't mind. As for explaining people's actions, that is a challenge!

[cobblersmaid]

Maybe because the bathroom is where you do girly "primping" type things, so she feels it is the appropriate place?

Maybe not as many men want long hair?

As for the "it's long" comment, I think people don't see how it is different from "it's pretty" or "it's so curly" or "it's so red!!!". People like to state the obvious.

[trolleypup]

I'm sure other people have similar experiences...

1. Why only women, very rarely men?

2. Why tell me I have long hair? I *know* I have long hair, it's been on my head for years.

3. Why tell me in the bathroom, in a tone of amazement? My hair isn't any longer in bathroom than it was in the breakroom.
i. I get that conversation, usually from women, but not, umm, in the restroom.

ii. It is a conversation starter...most people don't plan their throughts and speaking, so what comes out at first is often awkward. I take it as a compliment and don't worry about the exact words.

iii. Private and more secluded places, safer from public embarrassment, and if the question is taken badly, again, it is private.

bonus: special shampoo? Oh I just use plain water. O.O :misskim:

[Beloved]

It's like on LHC, we comment on each others' hair and how long/thick/whatever it is. I would definitely take it as a compliment that other women notice your hair and want advice from you, even if they want to keep using their hairdryers, LOL. Men probably don't say anything because it would sound like a come on.

I worked with a woman who wore niqaab (full Islamic dress covering everything but the eyes and hands). She got frustrated with people asking her about it. But you know, if you do something out of the ordinary with your appearance, people will want to engage you about it and ask questions.

Since your long hair is something you embrace and are doing intentionally, I would take it as a compliment that other people notice. I can't wait for my BSL hair to be long enough to get comments. :)

[peachrose]

It's so funny how people think that their hair can't possibly look good without heat... Also it's annoying when people complain but then refuse to take good advice. I guess she will just keep admiring your hair from afar since she seems extremely pessimistic about growing her own...

[cocolover]

This made me laugh :D I agree with other posters, the bathroom is the place for more beauty talk in most people's minds. I also agree that the men probably don't want to make you feel like they are coming on to you. Positive comments about a woman's appearance are taken so many different ways by different people.

I am always amazed that people don't realize that hair can look better when not blown dry, straightened, curled, etc... They are so afraid to step away from the heat!!! I have never used a blow dryer on a regular basis, as my hair turns it into a frizz ball when I do. Whenever I'm traveling with others they comment how "lucky" I am that I don't have to blow dry my hair.

[Torrin Paige]

It's not only women...I once had a man walk by me at WalMart and remark to his wife,"Look at her tail! It's so thick!" I was with my Gram and her eyes got really big...then he approached me and asked me about hair care as he had a pony tail about BSL. His was in rough shape so I gave him some tips on how to baby it better (he was brushing it while wet and didn't use any conditioner...egads!) and wished him well. My Gram asked if that happened to me alot...and I told her it was mostly little girls and older ladies that remarked on my hair...but every now and then I came across someone with long hair who wanted tips on how to do the style my hair was in or what products I found the most helpful. I do get the "Your hair is so long!" comment a lot and I always just say, "Yup. Sure is." because what do you say to that? You can't say thank you. :o)

[Stevy]

It's not only women...I once had a man walk by me at WalMart and remark to his wife,"Look at her tail! It's so thick!" I was with my Gram and her eyes got really big...then he approached me and asked me about hair care as he had a pony tail about BSL. His was in rough shape so I gave him some tips on how to baby it better (he was brushing it while wet and didn't use any conditioner...egads!) and wished him well. My Gram asked if that happened to me alot...and I told her it was mostly little girls and older ladies that remarked on my hair...but every now and then I came across someone with long hair who wanted tips on how to do the style my hair was in or what products I found the most helpful. I do get the "Your hair is so long!" comment a lot and I always just say, "Yup. Sure is." because what do you say to that? You can't say thank you. :o)

Sorry to derail the thread, and to sound like a creepy stalker, but are you the Torrin Paige from Youtube? If so, I love your videos!

[Coriander]

There is a girl in one of my classes - she saw my hair down once when I was putting it back up. She said "Oh I would love to grow it that long!" I said, "So do it then :)" and she said she couldn't because it was too curly, too frizzy, etc.

I told her how I take care of my hair, even though it's not curly, and she told me she would start babying it :D

I can't wait to see it at the end of the semester.

[FallenAngel]

Ehrmm... :blushing: I have sounded just like that woman in a lot of conversations where I envied longhairs and NEVER thougth I could be one because of bad hair genes.

Dying, backcombing, letting my hair be loose all the time, never using conditioner or taking care of it and RIPPING my brush through it while it was wet could not have any inpact on it... could it? :shake: ;)

[LadyLongLocks]

That " Your Hair Is Soooo Long" comment drives me nuts! It could go either way and their expression gives you a hint of if it is good or bad. How do you answer to that? It's always the dreaded comment and so common.
I have had comments in the ladies room too while combing my hair. Seems like a appropriate place yet it is usually a short conversation.

I also have worn my hair down and never had a comment. I just wear it up most of the time and don't worry about it. I have more fun posting photos and videos online rather than showing it in real life situations.

Most people just don't understand why I have knee length hair at my age. It is funny at times though.

[Torrin Paige]

Hiya, Stevy...yup I'm one and the same. I'm Torrin Paige everywhere so people can find me. So, most of us get the dumb "wow you're hair is so long" comment. How many have to deal with the "touchers" as I call them? If they ask first I don't mind at all...but I used to mind when they touched without asking...until I did it myself! There was a man in line in front of me at Sam's...and he had the most beautiful, remarkably thick hair I'd ever seen...and before I knew it, I had my hands wrapped around his ponytail. I apologized, of course, and he was a really good sport about it (thank goodness as I was mortified by what I'd done) but since then I've tried to be more understanding when I feel someone squeezing my braid at the grocery store. Sometimes I don't think they can help it.

[HairColoredHair]

Hiya, Stevy...yup I'm one and the same. I'm Torrin Paige everywhere so people can find me. So, most of us get the dumb "wow you're hair is so long" comment. How many have to deal with the "touchers" as I call them? If they ask first I don't mind at all...but I used to mind when they touched without asking...until I did it myself! There was a man in line in front of me at Sam's...and he had the most beautiful, remarkably thick hair I'd ever seen...and before I knew it, I had my hands wrapped around his ponytail. I apologized, of course, and he was a really good sport about it (thank goodness as I was mortified by what I'd done) but since then I've tried to be more understanding when I feel someone squeezing my braid at the grocery store. Sometimes I don't think they can help it.

I don't deal with too many people getting the grabbies about my hair... unless they're intoxicated... Sigh. It's always lovely to have someone come up behind you and yank on your braid like it's the reins on a horse and then giggle and throw it at you.

:lol:

[Torrin Paige]

I only get that from my brothers, thank goodness, and I usually retaliate with a nipple twister...so they've decided that ceasing and desisting was the best course of action.

[Saldana]

Ooooohhhh.....the dreaded 'reins on a horse' braid thing....in my previous job, I dealt almost exclusively with senior-aged, male veterans - home health care. I occasionally wore my hair in two braids, until I realized that was the only hairstyle that some of them just couldn't resist getting their hands into. And it was usually the *tug*tug* pony thing. *sigh* So I stopped wearing that style...and it stopped happening.

[HairColoredHair]

Yeah, my friends only do it once or twice before I remind them that I can strangle them with my braids and I know where they sleep.

[julya]

I do get 'Your hair is so long' pretty much whenever I have my hair down, even if it's only briefly.

[Euphony]

Whenever someone says they want long hair and are truly interested in having long hair, I give them LHC's address.

[Botticelli Gold]

When my brother and his partner returned to NZ from the UK, we picked them up at the airport. My SIL said to me "wow, your hair is so long, how did you get it to be that long?" Ummm, I grew it? Lol. I had to laugh and she just blushed. :D

[intothemist1999]

Ooooohhhh.....the dreaded 'reins on a horse' braid thing....in my previous job, I dealt almost exclusively with senior-aged, male veterans - home health care. I occasionally wore my hair in two braids, until I realized that was the only hairstyle that some of them just couldn't resist getting their hands into. And it was usually the *tug*tug* pony thing. *sigh* So I stopped wearing that style...and it stopped happening.



Now that I'm bunning all the time, I want some variety so I thought I'd toss in a braided pony. However, I also work in a care facility and I'm making a point of wearing it on days where I'm not playing the piano and casual passers-by (patients and others) can sneak up and give it a yank! Weird to have to plan ahead for such things :shrug: :)

Oh, I forgot.... noticed if I leave a long tassle on it, it's not nearly as inviting :D

[Magicknthenight]

I do get the "Your hair is so long!" comment a lot and I always just say, "Yup. Sure is." because what do you say to that? You can't say thank you. )
hehe i do. since long hair is what i want :) and if they did mean anything rude by it and i say thank you they usually shut up there and don't try to re-offend me. however its always positive. unless i missed something..which i sometimes tend to do..haha :brains:


Ooooohhhh.....the dreaded 'reins on a horse' braid thing....in my previous job, I dealt almost exclusively with senior-aged, male veterans - home health care. I occasionally wore my hair in two braids, until I realized that was the only hairstyle that some of them just couldn't resist getting their hands into. And it was usually the *tug*tug* pony thing. *sigh* So I stopped wearing that style...and it stopped happening.
oy! yea when i left my hair down a friend would separate my hair while walking and kinda yank them and say giddup. -..-

[Feline]

I just got the "gee, your hair is so long" bit Saturday in a new location- our local Subway sandwich shop. The remarks came from a female employee. I tried to say "thank you" as graciously as I could, my mouth being full of sandwich at that moment. :uhh: Her hair wasn't short, but certainly wasn't long by our definition. I get such comments every so often, usually followed by "I wish I could grow my hair long". Sometimes, these women can't wear really long hair due to their profession (medical, military, etc), but I think more often it is just a perception that they can't. Of course, I get stares of disbelief when I tell them that I rarely use a blow dryer and just let my hair air dry, it's almost like they can't believe you can actualy do that. :confused:

[twilight_faerie]

Eh, I think it's all right to say "thank you" when someone tells you how long your hair is. I don't think they'd bother telling you how long your hair is if they didn't mean it as a compliment. And if they don't mean it as a compliment, then they're just rude.

[MadPirateBippy]

When my brother and his partner returned to NZ from the UK, we picked them up at the airport. My SIL said to me "wow, your hair is so long, how did you get it to be that long?" Ummm, I grew it? Lol. I had to laugh and she just blushed. :D

I just tell people that I don't cut it.

That seems to be almost as confusing. :)

[RancheroTheBee]

I obviously don't get a lot of comments about my hair being long, as it isn't. But I do get a lot of, "Your hair grows so fast!" A friend of mine who compulsively bleaches her hair, and I told her I just don't get it cut.

She seemed completely flabbergasted.

[Trinka]

I usually say "thanks, God made it." :)

Might as well give Him the credit.

[Schefflera]

I get that comment occasionally, but it's never bothered me. I suppose it might be annoying if people were being actively disapproving, or tiresome if it were constant, but neither of those has really been an issue.

Then again, it doesn't bother me if people comment that I have small feet, either, and there was less decision-making involved in that.

I may have been responsible for it once. It was someone who'd always had her hair up before, at least when I'd seen her, and the length when she let it down really startled me. I can't remember if I said anything or just covertly admired it.

[Deimos]

Since my hair is "only" at bsl I don't get a lot of comments. I do make them occasionally to people I know and whose hair I admire. They thank me and tell me that they got it by "just not cutting it"....

[LadyEliza]

It's amazing how many people are under the impression that they can't have long hair.

True, maybe some have a shorter "terminal length" then others, but I really doubt that it's as short as they think.

And giving one thing so you can have another - that we should have learnt as children.

Mind you, Zoe is about to dye her hair black, because she is spinning out at having hair at all, and I can't talk her out of it. So I'll work around it :)

[MemSahib]

Interestingly, when mine got to roughly waist I began to get not only the "Your hair is so long" comments but also this one: "Have you ever cut it in in your life?"

:rolleyes:

Yes.

[SimplyLonghair]

My DD gets that alot! Especially when her hair was at classic, she has cut 16 inches off so she is back at somewhere around hip.... The most interesting reactions are the African American girls at work, they just couldn't get over how long her hair is and that it was this long After she had cut that much off! They all said that they thought that it was lovely. They were very sweet really and were very encouraging to her to keep growing. Much nicer about it than some others at work. :shrug: I think they understood the work behind getting fine hair long.

[Heavenly Locks]

I'll be SO happy when someone says that to me!! It's actually one of my goals...

[Nevermore]

I get it occasionally, but I think the reason people are so baffled by the concept of benign neglect is that short hair doesn't work that way.

Assuming that you have hair and can get it cut/cut it yourself, anyone can have short hair. It takes just a few minutes to get it. If you want it in a color that's unnatural to you, you can have that quickly as well. If you want it in a texture that's unnatural to you, heat and/or chemicals can usually give you that-again in a relatively short time. Want it to stick straight up? Products, again, pretty quickly.

People have this idea about every aspect of life that they have to do something to get what they want and if it's not coming to them right away, they need to do something else. How many people buy the latest ionic heated tool? They want shinier hair and they want it now. And when said tool doesn't magically give them Pantene commercial hair, they buy another or switch products without changing the real issue-the heat and/or products they were using in the first place. Why? Either they're ignorant to the cause of damage or they don't care. The idea of taking care of something over a long period of time to get what you want is pretty foreign to most people and frankly, that's a shame.

/soap box

I love hair comments, just not the ones that make me want to say, "If you didn't bleach the life out of your poor hair, you'd have as good a chance of having long hair as anyone else." because really, how do you say that to someone without being offensive unless they ask specifically?

[cobblersmaid]

Interestingly, when mine got to roughly waist I began to get not only the "Your hair is so long" comments but this one: "Have you ever cut it in in your life?"

:rolleyes:

Yes.

Yeah I love this...

[DragonLady]

Either they're ignorant to the cause of damage

That was certainly me! I'd do all the things I read in magazines or off the backs of product bottles, then wonder why, oh why, my hair never got any longer. I was shocked when I started reading the stuff here. Vinegar? In my hair? Coconut oil? Monistat? Are these women nuts???

But...as I lurked and read and thought it all over, it slowly began to all make sense. My hair wasn't growing anymore because it was self-trimming right where it rubbed against my chair. For ten years I've been sitting here -same chair, same place, and it's no wonder I saw almost no growth. But I just couldn't let go of the idea that my hair was so damaged by bad dye jobs and such that it just wasn't capable of growing anymore. I had long ago given up on the idea of the long, lovely hair I'd had the decade before; and it never once came to me that anything else would be contributing. :(

Now, I just want to kick myself for never seeing the obvious. If I'd just seen that one thing, my hair would be at my ankles and back again by now (assuming I never cut it).

[BranwenWolf]

The "why don't you cut your hair" comment came from nearly everyone and it got on my nerves so much. Because I like it that way, punk?!
I guess I'm just getting more and more intolerant of random strangers telling me what to do. I was taught to mind my own business as a child.

[LittleOrca]

The "why don't you cut your hair" comment came from nearly everyone and it got on my nerves so much. Because I like it that way, punk?!
I guess I'm just getting more and more intolerant of random strangers telling me what to do. I was taught to mind my own business as a child.

I hear you there! I have gotten those "Your hair so sooo long!" comments, in fact the most recent one was at the pool two weeks ago when I was using the dryer (don't kill me! I don't use it often. It was just really cold out and as soon as I got home I added oils to my hair!) and a preteen looked at me and told me my hair was long in a rather monotonous and kind of unimpressed tone. I replied with, "Yup."

But I get those "Hey! You should cut your hair and donate it to Locks of Love!" Um, no thank you. I am glad people want to, and as I have said on another post my mother and college friend are essentially brood mares for them (grow their hair out, cut it, grow it again) and they don't really need my hair. Someone even had the gall to ask my why I wouldn't donate it. They were almost angry that I was being "selfish" and not sharing my hair. :disgust: My hair is not a toy for children or a pizza for a party, it does not have to be shared. If that made me selfish, well fine, then I'm selfish! :D

[WaimeaWahine]

Maybe it's mostly short hairs - you know - folks who have never really had long hair. :confused:

My mother had long hair - claws too - that I always admired but she didn't allow me to have long hair as a child and never taught me anything about personal anything. It happens to a lot of women. Some women grow up without mothers or sisters.

Whether its makeup comments or hair color comments or length comments or clothes or whatever I think it's always a compliment and a question being directed by an admirer. You know? They're looking for information. Super long hair is not an everyday thing.

Right before finding this forum to answer all my questions on my totally unintentional impending length I did that Stereotypical Hair thing to a woman on the bus. Not only was her hair past TBL but she had a cool kind of geek girl look to her and it seemed like a good time to let out my curious inner 4 year old child. :)

I did try not to ask stupid questions and gave her plenty of personal space. Thankfully she was really sweet and understanding. May we all remember what it may be like or was once like to be a short hair with dreams...

[bekderiana1]

I feel good when people compliment my hair color and/or length even though by LHC stadards it's not that long yet. My husband LOVES my hair, but my x-husband met me when it was 'Princess Diana' short. When he saw my senior picture when it was about as long as it is now, he said, "Your hair looks like ass like that." See why he's my x?! Anyway, I was taken aback at that because people always told me what great hair I had. What a jerk!

[LaRue6358]

I come from a tall family. My cousin is 6'7" and people are always saying to him, "wow, you're tall." Uh-huh. Has been since he was 16. What the heck can you say to that?

I think men don't comment because a) they don't want long hair and b) making a personal comment in the workplace like that could be misconstrued as sexual harassment.

[enfys]

Haha I love the "have you ever cut it" one. I used to get that a lot past hip length. Surely it would have looked awful if it had literally never been cut. Through childhood etc. I played rough!

I have a friend who has tried to grow her hair for maybe four years and has a long bob, simply because she bleaches it so so much. Now shes making an effort for real and has dyed back to her natural colour. Well, closer than fluoro red anyway. She'd always ask me how to make it grow better and never wanted to accept that this was key. This time she might make it!

[harpyangel]

It's my dream to get the stereotypical hair comment! Won't happen for a good few years though as I'm just approaching apl...

I get loads of tall comments as I'm 6ft, people literally do say 'wow you're sooo tall!' I just say thankyou and smile and try not to look bored. One particularly undesirable man even said 'she's too tall to be a girl' I wanted to slap him!

Harpyangel xxx

[bekderiana1]

Yeah, I'm just under 5' 10" and I have men I know refer to me as an AMAZON or worse yet, "Big." I don't like that so much as it makes it seem like I'm over-weight when I'm not. A girl does not feel Big is a complement in general, does she?

[Flower]

In my experience women give compliments easier than men. That's why you get compliments off women.
Also, in the bathroom you were doing your hair which brought it into direct focus. That is probably why it came into conversation.
People probably notice your hair all the time at work, just like you notice things about other people, but you dont alwasy tell people what you think (good or bad).
People are probably always thinking your hair is gorgeous, but only get a chance to tell you in the bathroom ;)

People always say to me: "Oh your hair is so long!"
Not only does it look nice, but it is an accomplishment that not everyone has the patience for.
Be Blessed :)

[Anje]

I get loads of tall comments as I'm 6ft, people literally do say 'wow you're sooo tall!' I just say thankyou and smile and try not to look bored. One particularly undesirable man even said 'she's too tall to be a girl' I wanted to slap him!

Harpyangel xxx
I suppose "and you're too short/stupid/whatever to be a man" wouldn't be nice, would it? :demon:

I haven't gotten the full "hair comment" yet. Just "you have long hair" and comments about "I used to have hair like that" (either length or color) from old ladies with poodle perms.

[Alun]

I think men don't comment because a) they don't want long hair and b) making a personal comment in the workplace like that could be misconstrued as sexual harassment.

Bingo! Plus many men think that they will get fired/not get a job if they grow long hair, which IME is seldom really true.

[mooglewoo]

In response to "Your hair is long!" I usually just say "Yep." If I'm feeling extra sarcastic that day (because I feel somewhat sarcastic every day lolz) I say, "You're very perceptive."

In any conversation I have about my hair and they ask my routine, I have to say "But take this with a grain of salt-this is what works on MY hair. Eveyone's hair is different. Do you go online at all? I know this great site with tips."
I've given the LHC link out twice that way :}

[JamieLeigh]

It's always a bit awkward for me when someone says, "Your hair is so long!" Most of the time, it's meant as a compliment, because it's followed up by "...and so pretty!" Other times, I have to wonder if it's used in the same incredulous sense as, "There are SO MANY roaches in that guy's apartment!" ;)

Like others, sometimes I have no idea how to respond to the latter. Usually, I just agree with them. It IS long, after all. :)

[LisaButz2001]

1. Men probably don't want to be seen as sexually harrasing you, or they don't want to get in trouble with their girlfriends or wives.

2. It's a conversation opener. When somebody gets caught off guard by the reality of how long your hair really is they say the first thing that pops into their head.

3. They probably want to ask their questions in private, and if you are already styling your hair it's a good time to satisfy their curiousity.

[WaimeaWahine]

People have this idea about every aspect of life that they have to do something to get what they want and if it's not coming to them right away, they need to do something else. How many people buy the latest ionic heated tool? They want shinier hair and they want it now. And when said tool doesn't magically give them Pantene commercial hair, they buy another or switch products without changing the real issue-the heat and/or products they were using in the first place. Why? Either they're ignorant to the cause of damage or they don't care. The idea of taking care of something over a long period of time to get what you want is pretty foreign to most people and frankly, that's a shame.

Very well said! Everything is a process and takes time and you have to make a choice to put in the time. It took several methods, reading, and a lot of patience to free my hair from how frizzy it used to be. Time, effort, patience. There is no try once and destroy here it seems. :)

[Ashley]

I know, I can definitely relate. I've gotten the "Your hair is so long. Why? You should "do something" with it." comment quite often. People see it as no style at all, like my hair is just there. Some even just say it's boring or old-fashioned... What am I supposed to say? I have no idea how to react, I just don't know why people are bothered to say anything. Is just makes me more insecure and I keep thinking, well is it really that boring or dull if more people say so?

I just don't know what's up with some people... ;)

[LittleOrca]

I know, I can definitely relate. I've gotten the "Your hair is so long. Why? You should "do something" with it." comment quite often. People see it as no style at all, like my hair is just there. Some even just say it's boring or old-fashioned... What am I supposed to say? I have no idea how to react, I just don't know why people are bothered to say anything. Is just makes me more insecure and I keep thinking, well is it really that boring or dull if more people say so?

I just don't know what's up with some people... ;)


My aunt would tell me all the time that my hair was too long and too dull to be of any use in the real world. Aren't I in the real world now? Is this some fake world? :ponder: Why can't it be more like World of Warcraft?!

Anyways, I told her my hair was fine and that I liked it the way it was. I did feel a little insecure, then I found hair toys like sticks and flexi8 and with all the hairstyles I can get my hair up into, it looks more like her short red hair has no style to it. ;)

[Hay22]

Today at work a patient made a comment about how long my hair was (one of the first comments ever, as it's only at BSL), then told me that she can't grow her hair out past shoulder length. I asked, "Do you style with heat a lot?" and it was like a lightbulb went on in her head. Her face lit up and she said "It THAT why?!"

No one has told me to cut it yet, but I know my aunt got that constantly when her hair was past waist.

[Sissy]

It's like on LHC, we comment on each others' hair and how long/thick/whatever it is. I would definitely take it as a compliment that other women notice your hair and want advice from you, even if they want to keep using their hairdryers, LOL. Men probably don't say anything because it would sound like a come on.

I worked with a woman who wore niqaab (full Islamic dress covering everything but the eyes and hands). She got frustrated with people asking her about it. But you know, if you do something out of the ordinary with your appearance, people will want to engage you about it and ask questions.

Since your long hair is something you embrace and are doing intentionally, I would take it as a compliment that other people notice. I can't wait for my BSL hair to be long enough to get comments. :)

Yes, I agree with this. I get told my hair is long by complete strangers out at the shops (I always wear my hair down). I take it as a compliment.

[harpyangel]

Yeah, I'm just under 5' 10" and I have men I know refer to me as an AMAZON or worse yet, "Big." I don't like that so much as it makes it seem like I'm over-weight when I'm not. A girl does not feel Big is a complement in general, does she?

I hate that too! 'wow you're enormous!' No I'm tall! There is a difference!

Harpyangel xxx

[Vyo]

We really do need more dudes with long hair... D: