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lectraplayer
April 13th, 2014, 08:44 PM
I've searched the internet but am not finding much in the way of hairstyles for men with shoulder-blade length hair and (getting) longer. My hair seems to frizz, but I hate that "ball of frizz" Gecko Caveman look. I'm looking for some professional updos and "down-dos." I am far from knowledgeable so I would also need instructions on how to replicate. My hair is super curly.

truepeacenik
April 13th, 2014, 09:23 PM
I have a dear friend with "somewhere along the scapulae" length and extraordinary curls. 3b or so.
He actually gets the lowest three inches shaved short, and then ponytails the rest, with some leave in conditioner for weight and definition.

Marbid
April 13th, 2014, 10:13 PM
Oooo you going to have a hard time finding that... Is like looking for variety on manly suits... They tend to be all the same...

Go look for inspiration in gumball... He has trully long hair and he is a guy..

I for once have seen quite a lot of manly long hair styles... There is the french braid... The normal english braid... The battle braid can seem manly... Um... Combination braids are cool too... As for up....

Chinese bun with a not decorated steel hairstick... Saw that here... Any type of bun here actually.. Just use a not decorated steel hairstick for added machoness... French braid and bun at the ends is good too... The classic half up with braid.. Even an elling woman bun will do...

Look all these on google.. Get an idea.. Anything can be worn by guys... Manlyness is in the eye of the beholder. It seems a rule in the guy world that purty decorations are fur gurls... But you can make do with some hair sticks with carvings... Or just plain metal... Simple designs ya know... If you don't want the pealrs and rocks on some of the hairsticks going around... Or just cla clips is ok too...

In the end.. You can wear anything you want in your hair... Put it up anyway you want.. The hair does not do gender distinction... Is the human... First figure out what you deem as gurly... Then look at what girl buns and braid do you think would look just fine on a guy...

Aderyn
April 13th, 2014, 10:43 PM
Generally, I think the "manly" hair styles really come down to the accessories used to fix your hair - i.e. hairsticks, forks, pony tail holders, what have you.. a more streamlined, simple design made from wood or metal is a bit more masculine, and definitely a lot more masculine than glittery, shiny, flowery, colorful hair toys. I don't find styles such as a nautilus, chinese bun, LWB, etc. to be particularly "feminine".

midbackorbust
April 13th, 2014, 10:45 PM
You could also check out Silvousplaits on YouTube, she has a few videos of men's long hairstyles inspired by fictional characters like this one:
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qvqJfyD5nlY

Good luck! :)

ravenheather
April 14th, 2014, 03:54 PM
flexi 8 clips come in black nickel that I think are good for guys too.

snuflan
April 14th, 2014, 04:25 PM
I like the Legolas-look and high buns on guys, but that's really individual I think. Try some styles and see what you like! :)

Gumball
April 14th, 2014, 04:31 PM
Thanks, Marbid. :flower: Hair sticks are a definitely good go-to once your hair is at a length where they become usable. Right now mine is up in a braided cinnabun held with a steel stick (my most used hair toy), but I drift between that and a nautilus bun for everyday wear. It keeps my hair up and out of the way, holding like a rock the whole time. Definitely go with what you're comfortable trying. You're bound to find something that's just right for you.

Luckily I have a photo I made recently with those two styles in it and a comparative combed-out length shot:

http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=10091&d=1396459024 (http://forums.longhaircommunity.com/album.php?albumid=11084&attachmentid=10091)

trolleypup
April 15th, 2014, 08:19 AM
Whatever the hell you want. As long as you wear it with confidence it will be good!

I'm not a curly and SL was decades ago, so no specific suggestions. My go to tool is a 7.5" lightweight stainless steel chopstick, after that, I look to Bronze Jewelers for slide barrettes.

truepeacenik
April 15th, 2014, 09:25 AM
Those steel chopsticks are the absolute best.
I have a collection of "things with pointy ends" to use in hair, but the pair trolley sent me years ago get heavy play.
Waterproof, not bling, androgynous to masculine in looks.

At just past shoulder, nature and culturally inspired metal barrettes will be great.
There are also cuffs to cover an elastic tie.

What might be helpful for us is knowing the environments you are in. Do you need to keep it up and back,such as a kitchen?
What do you do, and how does hair interfere? Where are you and what is the prevailing view of long hair?

MeAndTheMaz
April 15th, 2014, 10:48 AM
I don't know if you're looking to specifically find up-dos, or are looking for ways to hide the frizzies, but if it's more the latter, perhaps you might investigate the Curly Girl (http://thecurlyhairproblems.tumblr.com/cgmethod)(Guy) method. If you're brushing your 3c hair, that could be a big part of the problem.*

*No expert here, you might wait to get proper advice from those more experienced.

Khristopher
April 15th, 2014, 11:28 AM
Don't worry about what others think about 'what's masculine' in hair do's... Wear what you're confortable with. I guess some color options in hair toys are fairly obvious, like black, blue, dark green, metallics, etc. Simple buns look neat and gender neutral. At shoulder length, I think ponytails and french/dutch braids come handy. You probably can cinnabun your hair too (my brother's hair is curly and shoulder too, we're experimenting with that).
Remember that men with long hair are badass :cool: and rock those curls!

tommyboy
April 17th, 2014, 05:20 PM
You can do whatever you want really, no reason not. I wouldn't feel comfortable with some things but other would. Right now I prefer a half ponytail generally.

GoldenSilk
April 17th, 2014, 10:39 PM
If you are getting tons of frizz, you might want to check into the Curly Girl/Guy method, or at least some of the techniques. Even if you don't do the full routine with gel and such, you could probably benefit from more moisture and not brushing/separating out your curls. But, I saw a guy once with perfect wet-set 3B curls. :thud: He rocked that look so hard...

Otherwise, what everyone else said... Stainless steel hairsticks, braids, and buns should all look nice and be very masculine. You might want to experiment with bun placement. Topknots have more of a warrior look, nape is more understated, middle-back of the head more everyday. Perhaps a high back bun (right at the apex) would look too much like a ballet bun for some, though I bet you could rock it anyway if you want.

ETA: You can certainly do some CG stuff and be wash-and-go. I've convinced two curly longhair boyfriends to conditioner wash with a leave-in and oil, and not break their curls, nothing else, and the difference has been amazing for both. They both had assumed they didn't even have curls anymore, just frizz. Now their hair is much healthier and less frizzy, being allowed to do its curly thing.

chen bao jun
April 18th, 2014, 08:58 AM
manbuns are actually supposed to be stylish right now.
I agree with the others that its the choice of hairtoy more than anything.
Of course you could always grow a beard, then nothing you do would look at all 'girly'.
Guys have worn ponytails forever, jsut be careful not to use those destructive elastic bands. I think they make leather slides specially for long haired guys.

CurlyCap
April 18th, 2014, 06:36 PM
Whatever the hell you want. As long as you wear it with confidence it will be good!

Absolutely!

Long hair is sexy as long as it looks intentional and like you keep your hair well. It can even be sort of sexy to see someone who for once doesn't have that dang same part combover thing most professional men wear.

I'd suggest you just learn a good curly hair routine so that your hair looks good either up or down and then choose for yourself how you want to wear it that day.

EdG
April 18th, 2014, 07:44 PM
I have straight hair and wear it loose. The only negative effect is that this sometimes causes thudpiles. ;)
Ed

sumidha
April 18th, 2014, 08:33 PM
Your hair sounds similar to my BF's hair length right now. His every day style is like this: http://nicepricesell.com/7-half-ponytail-hairstyles/half-up-half-down-ponytail/ with everything gathered into another low pony at the nape of his neck. It's also long enough now that I can braid it, and he doesn't do it very often, but I love it when he wears it in a samurai-ish high bun kinda like this: http://www.nick.com/nick-assets/shows/images/star411/blogs-3/2012-teen-vogue-avan-hair-2.jpg

GoddesJourney
April 18th, 2014, 08:34 PM
manbuns are actually supposed to be stylish right now.
I agree with the others that its the choice of hairtoy more than anything.
Of course you could always grow a beard, then nothing you do would look at all 'girly'.
Guys have worn ponytails forever, jsut be careful not to use those destructive elastic bands. I think they make leather slides specially for long haired guys.

Who doesn't like nice "man buns"...? :D

lectraplayer
April 21st, 2014, 09:14 PM
I have straight hair and wear it loose. The only negative effect is that this sometimes causes thudpiles. ;)
Ed
I wish I could get away with that. I get frizz city. :thud: I have gone to something similar to what comes up when I Google Curly Girl Method and am seeing improvements in leaps and bounds. Wish I could do more to keep my sides from flying so bad but I have so few ideas at the moment and it still seems too short to work with. I would like to do so without looking like I have products caked on.

CurlyCap
April 21st, 2014, 11:44 PM
I wish I could get away with that. I get frizz city. :thud: I have gone to something similar to what comes up when I Google Curly Girl Method and am seeing improvements in leaps and bounds. Wish I could do more to keep my sides from flying so bad but I have so few ideas at the moment and it still seems too short to work with. I would like to do so without looking like I have products caked on.

Welcome to product city! He he. (I laugh only because I am a fellow curly and share your pain.)

The good news is that when you find the right combo of products, your hair doesn't look like it has stuff caked on. It actually just looks shiny and bouncy and should be incredibly touchable. For leave-ins, I'd avoid any conditioners with silicones because they tend to try dry tack and matte. Ew.

As for restraining fly aways, I suggest learning the magic of bobby pins. They come in extra small sizes that are easily hidden in curly hair and if you just pin a few places, it literally takes like 5 secs in the morning. You should be able to find this size in stores (for much cheaper!). They work a treat. http://www.amazon.com/Conair-Styling-Essentials-Mini-Brown/dp/B002T41K3G/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&qid=1398145337&sr=8-7&keywords=mini+bobby+pins

Also, since your hair is still shorter....you can still have tendrils! Tendrils are NOT girly. They are sexy, regardless of whose wearing them. So if you have a random bit of hair that refuses to be tied back, fight fire with fire, get that bit soaking wet and wrap it around your finger. You'll get a perfect curl.

Rosa Harris
April 22nd, 2014, 12:11 AM
My son does this... he takes a length of leather cord like you get at a craft shop - 1mm thickness - it comes in black and brown as well as lots of other colors. Then he folds it in half and makes a loop at the top by making a knot. The loop is just large enough to pass both strands through. Then he pulls this tight around a low pony tail and wraps the cord ends around the hair in opposite directions making a cross cross around the hair that holds his super curls in place. Once you are a couple inches from the end you half knot them together and then wrap then in opposite directions a couple times and tie a half bow.. you know one loop up so it does not look like a bow.

lectraplayer
April 22nd, 2014, 05:30 PM
The samurai do does sound like it has some possibility. I've seen a few sumo wrestlers whom has such a do with a "leaf" fan coming out of the bun. How would I recreate that fan? Also, I am looking for something fairly conservative. I work for people who thinks that Daniel Bryan's Yes chant (for those of you who watches the WWE sometimes) comes out of a porn. ...so I have to account for some twisted thoughts. I may try the Samurai do for church tomorrow.

lectraplayer
April 24th, 2014, 06:44 AM
Ok. An ochiochonmage is on my list as well as a braided tail and simple ponytail. What are some others I can toy around with?

AmyBeth
April 24th, 2014, 11:34 AM
I really think that on a woman, any hairstyle looks feminine, but when you put it on a man, it looks masculine. It's that simple. It depends on who is wearing it! So you can do almost anything you want and because you are a man, no one will ever mistake you for a female. Unless you go for Hello Kitty barrettes and baby's breath wreaths:p. I was in a grocery store once and saw an older man, maybe 60ish in a professional looking grey flannel suit and tie with wire rimmed glasses and his briefcase with salt and pepper hair sort of slicked back in a non descript way, but when he turned around, he had a braid down to his tail bone! It turned out that my husband knew him, he was a fairly prominent local attorney. He looked very professional and all business, even with his braid and the effect would have worked even if he had been wearing his hair in a bun. I'm very glad that long hair on men is acceptable in a business environment, because I love long hair on men. DH has hair almost as long as OP's and he'll try a hairstick as soon as it's long enough.

lectraplayer
May 8th, 2014, 07:27 PM
Right now I'm trying an overhand knot "bun." Stay tuned.

lectraplayer
August 12th, 2014, 07:01 PM
So far, I'm having a bit of luck with the overhand knot worn low with plenty of Doo Gro or olive/corn oil applied immediately out of the shower. ...and when I say plenty, I mean I go crazy with it. However, odor can be a problem, especially if I do it of a morning. My wife hates me wearing the knot high though.

I still want to try to go for a modified chonmage with a peacock-fanned tag end. Still working on that one.

...just had thoughts of a 1/4" steel or brass bolt as a hair toy... Should I or shouldn't I?

Panth
August 13th, 2014, 01:23 AM
So far, I'm having a bit of luck with the overhand knot worn low with plenty of Doo Gro or olive/corn oil applied immediately out of the shower. ...and when I say plenty, I mean I go crazy with it. However, odor can be a problem, especially if I do it of a morning. My wife hates me wearing the knot high though.

I still want to try to go for a modified chonmage with a peacock-fanned tag end. Still working on that one.

...just had thoughts of a 1/4" steel or brass bolt as a hair toy... Should I or shouldn't I?

I wouldn't, because of the screwthread. But you could probably make a fake one with some steel/brass rod and a nut if you really wanted to try it?

RainbowBowser
August 13th, 2014, 01:41 AM
Silvousplaits has already been mentioned, but I figure the playlist may be a bit more helpful.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHZvUpJ8tQdv5JGZzctwht98hY9V7aapv

Charybdis
August 13th, 2014, 09:13 AM
I'd suggest trying coconut oil, to avoid the problem of smelling like a salad. (I like olive oil as a pre-poo treatment, but don't use as a leave-in for this reason.) If you don't find the smell of baby oil off-putting, you could also give that a go. Unscented baby oil would be great, but I can never seem to find any.

truepeacenik
August 13th, 2014, 09:22 AM
Unscented baby oil is called mineral oil.

Lectraplayer, if you are still about, get on etsy and search for hair swords.

You will lose a few hours, so do this on a sleepless night. ;)

Korisznivella
August 13th, 2014, 11:53 AM
My gut reaction is that an English braid would look adorable, as would a plain, unbraided bun.

But the queer* person in me says that you might want to experiment with whatever styles and updos that you feel interested in, no matter how embarrassing it may feel at first! If you end up liking some styles that you try out, which feel feminine to you, please don't try to avoid them because of that. Like what you like and wear what you want to wear, and if someone calls you out or is unkind to you about it, be brave enough to not fall back on the "this is manly, too" excuse. Tell them, "Well, this may not be a masculine style, but I can wear what I want and there's no problem with that."

I feel really disappointed in guys that like something feminine but then shun it, because they're afraid of people disapproving. I firmly believe that men who avoid anything cute or feminine like the plague are contributing to the cultural mystification of women, the kind that allows masculine/male culture to dehumanise or objectify women and thus contributes to rape culture (like victim-blaming women for sexual assault).

Be an ally to women! Be cute when you wanna be cute but you're afraid to be! It'll ultimately be loads of fun and also show you care about women a lot!

*non-straight, gender non-conforming
** - and designated-male-at-birth people

P.S. - Some people might think that what I'm saying isn't pertinent to the topic at hand, but intersectional feminism would disagree. Me, and other feminists I know, would agree that a person's gender expression (wearing a feminine bun compared to wearing a plain English braid) definitely impacts how they view other genders (e.g. women in this case) and how they participate in their own gender culture. Cisgender (non-transgender) men who feel disgust (and even aggression) toward transgender women feel that way because they believe that people born with a female sex are predisposed towards femininity while folks born with a male sex are not, and will never be. This is the kind of mystification of womanhood/femininity that contributes to cisgender men killing trans women. How a man chooses to wear his hairs (and how he chooses not to wear his hairs) are based on gender norms, and are thus relevant to gender and culture at large.

lectraplayer
August 13th, 2014, 08:44 PM
But the queer* person in me says... ...are based on gender norms, and are thus relevant to gender and culture at large.

Certainly a relevant point to our discussion, and the only way to know if I like it is to put it atop my own head. However, some hair styles "just don't look right" to me, in which case I can simply just cull it from my own stylings.

Also, since I'm judging my own hair, styles that are too feminine to me can do bad things to my self confidence. Sorta like making Dwayne Johnson (for example) watch The Notebook before a match. The visual just doesn't seem right. To each his/her own, but that's where I'm at right now on the hair.

KwaveT
August 20th, 2014, 06:39 PM
Me personally I have no problem trying any kind of bun. I am well beyond caring about social perception. I let myself be led by Holy Spirit on what to do and not do. My problem with buns is that I can't seem to get the bun too high on my head because my wavy hair won't pull straight so it looks very unnatural. As high as I can get a bun to go and have my hair pull together straight as about center of back of my head. I don't know if that is because of the masculine hairline or it is because I have wavy hair. I don't know if others have this same problem or it is just me.

Tenaya
August 23rd, 2014, 09:12 PM
I agree - try it all! Even a super feminine seeming style will look completely different on a man (as it does on different women, anyway). And wearing a feminine style screams both confidence and sensitivity. It's like a male doctor wearing pink scrubs - awesome. If you decide to experiment give us some pictures!

rowie
August 23rd, 2014, 09:51 PM
Whatever the hell you want. As long as you wear it with confidence it will be good!


This times infinity! Be yourself and it shouldn't matter. It's your hair, your money that you work hard to spend for it so just do whatever makes you happy. I don't like to follow conventional styles and labels geared towards men because it would limit my freedom to choose and express my own style. Life is too short, enjoy having your hair long by experimenting with all the styles you can find in here with buns and hair toys, heck I've tried them all including Heidi braids and ballerina buns. While I wouldn't wear those out in public, I at least had fun experimenting what I can do to my hair. You might even discover the addiction towards hair toys. Although, I'd try to avoid that addiction because that would be entering the dark side here in this community.....

Long_hair_monk
August 25th, 2014, 07:24 AM
Dear Lectraplayer,

I will share my hair styles. Buy hair oil. Either coconut or olive or sesame.
After hair washing and drying, apply thoroughly on your damp hair. Then comb them and wear them in a braid. It looks cool and keeps hair neat and tidy.

Another way is wear them in a bun on nape or like a top knot.

Hope you like them