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WoolSweater
December 24th, 2013, 03:24 PM
Hello,

I have a question. I'm very curious about it, and would love to hear different people's opinions. Also in my title I said women, but men of course can comment. I just rarely see men wearing buns and hair clips.


What I'm wanting to know is, why do you not wear your hair down? You spend many years growing it long, but then always have it up so no one can see the length. I'm not meaning this question as an insult at all, I am very curious why! I see a lot of postings with women who do not wear their long hair down. I understand this is in part due to protecting it, but don't you ever want to leave your hair down? Sometimes I wonder why knee length + is desired if never worn down. Again, I'm not upset or meaning to insult anyone, just interested! I guess in my mind, I'd always want it down if I had long, gorgeous hair. ;D But I've also read that some women, as well as leaving it up during the day, don't even have it down for the night! Seems the only time it is left down is for a shower, or a length shot. Now I always wear mine up, but that is because it's at an awkward length and not so healthy looking. I dream about the day I can proudly wear it down. And I also understand wearing it up at work, or with children, etc. But besides that, why? Thanks for reading! :)

FireFromWithin
December 24th, 2013, 03:34 PM
It is a personal choice and many wear their hair down for special occasions or just around the house. For many updos are not only protective but decorative and the amazing updos possible with very long hair are one of the major reasons I'm growing mine. Remember that hair growth can be a very personal choice, and that although someone personally loves their hair long even if they love the feel of it long and flowing around them they may not like the hassle of going outside in the wind with it or simply they are not growing their hair for others to look at so it doesn't matter to them. But I'm only at waist so I can't really say. I've started to wear my hair down more the closer to my goals I get (not that I'm all that close but I've also become lazy) as it needs less protecting since I will soon be able to trim.

As for night time even at waist my hair can get in the way. Especially when I share the bed with my other half who is convinced my hair is haunted by some kind of tickle monster and can get into his mouth and eyes. Besides, I like the waves and curls I get from having it up at night and it reduces the chance that I lie on part of it and get caught.

I'm sure some of the really long hairs will comment with answers too but I hope this helps with the general idea. Just remember everyone is different and go from there...

leslissocool
December 24th, 2013, 03:38 PM
Hair tangles. Knee+ hair tangles after a day at the park? Yeah, I'd rather wear it up and I'm not even there yet. Add small children to that and well it's not something I want, even when my hair was shorter!


Wearing hair down also brings out attention. People stare, some want to touch it, they comment and it's not always good. I grow my hair for me and I dislike that kind of attention. It's the same exact reason why people get tattoos in places that can be cover up, for privacy.

WoolSweater
December 24th, 2013, 03:40 PM
It is a personal choice and many wear their hair down for special occasions or just around the house. For many updos are not only protective but decorative and the amazing updos possible with very long hair are one of the major reasons I'm growing mine. Remember that hair growth can be a very personal choice, and that although someone personally loves their hair long even if they love the feel of it long and flowing around them they may not like the hassle of going outside in the wind with it or simply they are not growing their hair for others to look at so it doesn't matter to them. But I'm only at waist so I can't really say. I've started to wear my hair down more the closer to my goals I get (not that I'm all that close but I've also become lazy) as it needs less protecting since I will soon be able to trim.

As for night time even at waist my hair can get in the way. Especially when I share the bed with my other half who is convinced my hair is haunted by some kind of tickle monster and can get into his mouth and eyes. Besides, I like the waves and curls I get from having it up at night and it reduces the chance that I lie on part of it and get caught.

I'm sure some of the really long hairs will comment with answers too but I hope this helps with the general idea. Just remember everyone is different and go from there...

Oh yes, so sorry if my original post made it sound like everyone should be one way. I guess since I am not this way, I am curious to talk with those that are! And I don't know any "long hairs" in real life, so I can't ask them. :( I totally forgot about the braid waves at night, thanks for mentioning that. That makes sense to wear it braided if you want no heat curls.

furnival
December 24th, 2013, 03:47 PM
For a lot of people, the only way they can grow their hair to such lengths is to wear it up.

Also, wearing knee-length hair down must be a right pain in the @rse, as doing so with my waist-length hair certainly is. It gets caught in stuff, it goes in my food, in my eyes, it forms instant dreadlocks, gets trapped in doors, takes hours to detangle and invariably gets damaged. I can't imagine the hassle of going about with loose hair of extreme length, not to mention the damage it would incur.

The only reason my hair has got to waist is because I wear it up every day, and at night too. It's thin and fine and damages easily- easily enough that wearing it down or in a ponytail resulted in a stall of several years at shoulder length. Some people have no choice but to wear it up if they want it to grow. Alas, I'd love to run around trailing a luxurious mane, but that's not going to happen. :p

Aliped
December 24th, 2013, 03:51 PM
I agree with all of the above, but probably the biggest factor in my always wearing hair up is peoples weird attitudes to very long hair. I like it, most LHC members like it, but a lot of people in real life think its gross. Plus it just gets in the way a lot and tanges, and I love a nice braided bun!

Kherome
December 24th, 2013, 03:52 PM
Because:

You don't get to KEEP beautiful long hair if you don't protect it. It'll be a tatty mess in no time if you don't keep it up and watch out for it.

Creepy jerk guys oogle you in public, and it's gross. And not everyone wants to be oogled.

It takes AGES to carefully pick through long hair to detangle at night.

It gets in the way. You sit on it, you close doors on it, you drag it through stuff, people grab at it, etc.

Personal reason:

I think it's immodest. (Wearing it down that is)

WoolSweater
December 24th, 2013, 03:53 PM
I agree with all of the above, but probably the biggest factor in my always wearing hair up is peoples weird attitudes to very long hair. I like it, most LHC members like it, but a lot of people in real life think its gross. Plus it just gets in the way a lot and tanges, and I love a nice braided bun!

I understand this and I don't. I think long hair is beautiful, and I sometimes wonder where all these LHC faeries with their flowing locks live, because I don't know anyone past BSL! Haha. I feel like I am in an imaginary world. 8) I like it though. But day to day, I don't see long hair, and the rare times I do, I hear people make comments or look at them funny.


(I just changed my icon and I don't recognize my posts anymore haha I thought "wait, but I just said that...")

jacqueline101
December 24th, 2013, 03:58 PM
People wear it up to protect the ends. Protected ends will allow hair to grow without tangles and splits. Tangles are a pain to get out and when hair reaches a certain length I'd guess since I'm not there you would have to wear it up due to it being in the way. To protect it from being sat on and so on.

heidi w.
December 24th, 2013, 04:21 PM
I don't have long hair now, but I used to have nearly ankle length hair. It was generally around knee length, but a bit longer. I cut it off. It tangled so badly I couldn't get it out, so I cut it off.

I used to wear my hair up ALL of the time. All of the time. Literally. I wore it up to avoid it getting caught in a lot of stuff and to avoid tripping on it, and to take care of the ends. Tucking the ends in a bun is the best way to avoid tangling, which my hair is very easily.

I advise wearing it up. I didn't really care if anyone saw it. It's in an art video, and I know a lot of people saw it. I strongly advise knowing hair buns and wearing it up a lot.

heidi w.

kaydana
December 24th, 2013, 04:30 PM
I tend to think of it as like wearing nice underwear. You probably don't walk around outside in just your underwear, but that doesn't stop you wearing nice underwear under your outfit. Wearing nice underwear can make you feel special even if no one but you gets to see it. As a general rule, I wear my hair up when my underwear is covered, and down when my underwear is visible. There are exceptions, because wearing hair down and walking around in just underwear aren't the same thing, and I don't really care if people see my hair down (whereas I would mind everyone seeing me in my underwear), but I just don't feel like I'm dressed properly unless it's up.

Chromis
December 24th, 2013, 04:31 PM
Because I want to.

No really.

Actually I wore it up even when it was bsl and in ponytails before that while it was growing since that was pre-LHC and I didn't know how to put it up properly. Once I learned how to use sticks and clips I never wore a pony again. I hate having hair in my face and getting caught in things or tangled. To me part of the reason for growing it out was to be able to do more with it. At knee I have a plethora of options and quite a many pretty hairtoys to mix and match with my outfits. Aside from inconvenient I personally would find having my hair down all the time to be rather boring.

makeminea99
December 24th, 2013, 04:44 PM
^^^ What they all said!! Having said that, I do wear my hair down for nights out (not very frequent when one has young children!) and if it's not a windy or rainy day I'll wear a half up. But as a long haired acquaintance of mine said, wearing long hair up is like having the convenience of short hair without the long term commitment! ;) I like the versatility of being able to change the way I look so dramatically - just by manipulating my hair! Plus, sometimes it doesn't have to be down to impress people with the length - I've had surprised comments on a French braid before - the commenter obviously realised that my hair had to be decently long to make a good length braid! It's quite satisfying, I think. Good question, though. :)

Amapola
December 24th, 2013, 04:44 PM
I'm with Chromis - I love having long hair because it is MUCH easier to put up! Plus you can wear it in a ton of different ways!

I got asked this in real life, and I was puzzled... I don't think you have to have your hair down if it's long. Now that it's finally down to tailbone I can do some really cool braids. I'm looking forward to tomorrow (Christmas) because I'm going to make a fancy updo with it. I think I'll put an accent rope braid on top of a braided bun... and let's face it, you can't do that so easily with a pixie cut.

makeminea99
December 24th, 2013, 04:48 PM
I'm with Chromis - I love having long hair because it is MUCH easier to put up! Plus you can wear it in a ton of different ways!

I got asked this in real life, and I was puzzled... I don't think you have to have your hair down if it's long. Now that it's finally down to tailbone I can do some really cool braids. I'm looking forward to tomorrow (Christmas) because I'm going to make a fancy updo with it. I think I'll put an accent rope braid on top of a braided bun... and let's face it, you can't do that so easily with a pixie cut.

YES!! Funny you should say that, I've just been watching a tutorial on Youtube on Bebexo's channel, there's a pretty half up I might do for tomorrow - now am I allowed to post links yet, let's try: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dwvhOPcoUFw&feature=share&list=UUAHwt1nKYd543jwO1ICh87A&index=2

Sharysa
December 24th, 2013, 04:50 PM
I only wear it down for special occasions, or if the weather is right. Literally--I have 1c/2a hair, and it will frizz the heck up if I try to wear it down during humidity, rain, or general moist-ness. And even when my hair wasn't waist-length, it was even WORSE trying to wear it down because my hair's so thick and unruly that it gets EVERYWHERE.

I tend to compromise with half-ups whenever I want my hair down, but at least a little contained.

neko_kawaii
December 24th, 2013, 04:56 PM
My hair is long because I am lazy and dislike having hair in my face. Hair is almost always up and out of the way.

Madora
December 24th, 2013, 05:00 PM
Hello,

I have a question. I'm very curious about it, and would love to hear different people's opinions. Also in my title I said women, but men of course can comment. I just rarely see men wearing buns and hair clips.


What I'm wanting to know is, why do you not wear your hair down? You spend many years growing it long, but then always have it up so no one can see the length. I'm not meaning this question as an insult at all, I am very curious why! I see a lot of postings with women who do not wear their long hair down. I understand this is in part due to protecting it, but don't you ever want to leave your hair down? Sometimes I wonder why knee length + is desired if never worn down. Again, I'm not upset or meaning to insult anyone, just interested! I guess in my mind, I'd always want it down if I had long, gorgeous hair. ;D But I've also read that some women, as well as leaving it up during the day, don't even have it down for the night! Seems the only time it is left down is for a shower, or a length shot. Now I always wear mine up, but that is because it's at an awkward length and not so healthy looking. I dream about the day I can proudly wear it down. And I also understand wearing it up at work, or with children, etc. But besides that, why? Thanks for reading! :)

One word: tangles! Some strands of my hair are at knee and if I left my hair down it would tangle like nobody's business. Untangling that length tries my patience. While it is true that I waited a long time to reach my goal of knee, I've always been very careful to keep tangles at bay. Wearing it up works for me!!! It is braided every day and still looks nice.

I know flowing long hair is a beautiful sight...and I've seen many beautiful heads here and in real life. But for me it just doesn't work. There are too many obstacles out there in the world and if I can avoid them by keeping my hair up, all the better. Even when I was younger I very rarely wore it down...for one thing it was very, very thick and wearing it down was like wearing a horse blanket...and in spite of hair bands it never stayed in place. Constantly falling forward, getting in the way, getting stuck on things...a royal pain. Detangling was not fun...and besides, although I was very careful when detangling, there were broken hairs to deal with. Not worth it to me to keep it down.

ravenreed
December 24th, 2013, 05:30 PM
I wore my hair down every day right up until waist. I still wear it down every so often or I wear a high pony, but past TB or so it starts catching on EVERYTHING. It also tangles if you so much as look at it funny. At fingertip, even in braid I kept dragging it on the ground when I would bend over, or sitting or kneeling on it. I had pretty much stopped wearing it loose at all. I went back to classic and am having fun wearing it down again.

Islandgrrl
December 24th, 2013, 05:48 PM
I haven't worn my hair down since it was long enough to put up. My hair needs to be out of my way. It drives me bonkers if it's in my face or in my way. Now, at mid-thigh length, it's just impractical to wear it down. As others have mentioned, it gets into everything and it tangles fiercely. It's literally been years since I've worn it down....since 2008, I think!

spidermom
December 24th, 2013, 06:00 PM
Long hair for me was a nuisance and always in the way if left down, but I still enjoyed taking it down at night and combing it out before braiding and going to bed.

I want to wear my hair down more often these days and had it cut shorter.

trolleypup
December 24th, 2013, 06:17 PM
I like having it down, blowing in the wind, etc. etc. But...it is up most of the time. Usually in my regular lazy bun. I work around heavy equipment/machinery, so not risking that. When I am hiking or doing trailwork, it is impractical to have it down (or anything but up AND contained (yay! ponyscrub)). I don't care to have it down when I am in crowded locations for obvious reasons.

At calf length, I've gotten very good and holding and moving my body so that my hair doesn't catch on things or get stepped on, etc, but those are very real and painful hazards.

That said, I do sometimes let it down at home and in public...when I am at leisure, going out on minor errands/eating/walks I often have it down. I'm willing to pay the price of this in damage...balancing protection vs. accumulated damage. Of course it tangles when it is down, but it is coarse and tough enough that I can keep the long lengths without 24/7 protection. Which is not to say that I don't need to spend 12 hours in a sunny window doing S&D. :(

I like having it down, I like doing stuff when it is down. Yes, I get a certain amount of attention, but in SF it is mostly positive, and presenting as a healthy straight male, I simply don't get the pernicious negative attention that others get, so I can also be an example for others that anyone can have long hair, and it is OK.

Crumpet
December 24th, 2013, 06:21 PM
In addition to what others have said...the TOUCHING!

I took my hair down briefly (upon request) on Friday. Immediately, a stranger started stroking my hair. Ewwww! On Saturday, people again asked me to take my hair down briefly. I did so and as I did, I was telling the Friday touching story...as I was doing that a friend started stroking my hair...he was a good friend and I didn't mind *him* doing it (and he apologised!) but that is a standard reaction.

Yup...lots of creepy guys out there who just want to stroke and roll around in our hair. I'm not having it.

AspenSong
December 24th, 2013, 07:54 PM
For me, I wear it up for many reasons. One of my biggest is of course, protection. My hair is super fine and thin, it's very floaty and flyaway and wearing it down for very long when I'm out and about just results in terrible knots or it getting caught in things I walk by. There's not enough weight to it to weigh it down at all. So it's all over. I wear it up, so I can keep it long. And one of the reasons I keep it long is for me. Just because I like it and enjoy it. It's like protecting or caring for anything pretty I like to wear or have...I take precautions to keep it safe.

I wear it up also because I do like the look of a lot of the buns I do.

In hindsight, unless my hair was ever at such a short length I couldn't put it up....I've always worn my hair up anyway. Maybe it's changed from being in a ponytail everyday or a claw clip but I've always drawn to keeping it styled in that sort of way anyway.

BlueMajorelle
December 24th, 2013, 07:57 PM
I once made the mistake of wearing my hair down in college for a party. It was finally to my waist. It made friends with a candle and badly singed the ends, so I had to cut most of it off. Luckily there was enough where I could donate the non-singed bits but it goes to show. I also teach art to children and it would be covered in paint and clay and glue of I wore it down. Messy!

I agree with these ladies, although you might be able to put your hair down once and awhile for special occasions, you risk damaging it by wearing it down. You don't get knee length hair by letting it make friends with candles!

Ferryl
December 24th, 2013, 09:01 PM
Putting my hair up during the day and down at night for my husband makes it feel special. ^_~

jasper
December 24th, 2013, 09:13 PM
I started wearing my hair up. It got a lot longer during those years of being up all the time. Now if I wear it down, it irritates the heck out of me by getting caught on stuff. :shrug:

dulce
December 24th, 2013, 09:17 PM
I wear it up a lot but sometimes down,am getting close to classic and at 61 years old,I get a lot of stares and sometimes very disapproving verbal comments from strangers when it is loose due to my age.

BlueMajorelle
December 24th, 2013, 09:26 PM
I wear it up a lot but sometimes down,am getting close to classic and at 61 years old,I get a lot of stares and sometimes very disapproving verbal comments from strangers when it is loose due to my age.

Pish posh! They should tend their own gardens. My grandmother is 91 years old and has hair down to her waist and it's the most beautiful snow white so I'm hoping my hair ages like hers. Yasmina Rossi is a beautiful mature model and has gorgeous long silver hair. Just because a person is older doesn't mean they need to get a granny cut.

Cheyne
December 24th, 2013, 11:34 PM
I work with commercial chemicals and fertilizer, along with spinning machinery. I would be scalped and not have to worry about any hair if I wore it down at work! :o

My hair is thick and curly, if I wear it down in warmer weather (anything above 70 degrees) it feels like I have an animal pelt on my back.

I am almost TBL and at 51 in the same boat as dulce. Many people hate seeing older women (who aren't models) with long hair-and they don't mind telling you so! I don't care what they think, but if they catch me at the wrong time they may lose some teeth.

MandyBeth
December 25th, 2013, 12:03 AM
Minion in training - prior to the disrupted adoption, she was in an EE orphanage and wasn't allowed long hair. So, she wants to keep her hair. But, it always falls forward, she's an active kid and it's annoying down usually.

Adorably evil minion - similar need to keep her hair, but her issue is that her hair was the only thing that wasn't easily taken from her and it always moved with her. But, she's half spider monkey with knee+ in braid waves, yet mid back curly. So her hair just velcros to everything because she's got a huge amount of hair that likes going east west. Plus, the blasted tangles. Also, her riding helmet doesn't fit right with loose hair, but even in braided pigtails made from three braids each, her braids hit her ponies and when she goes to jump, her braids whap her POA in his face. Her other pony isn't jumping yet, but they'll get there. POA didn't blink with that, but it's not safe at all.

From "I'm the diabolical dictator" (aka me) stand - Simple answer is school requires hair to be tied back and not at risk for wrapping around anything. For my real reason. - safety. The length can wrap into chain, or get sucked into a fan, or fall on a hot burner on our gas stove, plus all the various issues.

Now, at concerts, adorably evil wears her hair down - it's not fun to headbang in a bun, Daddy won't let her perch on his shoulders and headbang in a braid, and loose means she gets to headbang enough to get bands to actually notice her. But, she'll put up with the 3+ hours of detangling then. Concerts are worth the tangles, day to day is not.

DweamGoiL
December 25th, 2013, 12:17 AM
When I had TBL hair years back, I always wore it up. Honestly, it felt rather restricting to always have to have it up and it was quite heavy. Now, it's almost back to WL, but layered to diminish the weight of it. I enjoy wearing it down most of the time, and once it's too long to wear down, I will cut it down to a more manageable length. Don't get me wrong; I do get why you want to protect it and the high tangling factor...I really do, but I don't want to go down the road of the hair limiting my choices again.

maborosi
December 25th, 2013, 12:23 AM
It's mostly because it is a pain in the butt to wear down everywhere once it starts to get really long.
I'm hardly at BSL and my hair doesn't like being down. It finds its way into some uncomfortable situations that always get worse the longer it gets.

I face a new problem this time around- my hair color is really red, so people do touch it when it's down and make comments.
My coworkers ESPECIALLY do this and it's sometimes okay, but sometimes really uncomfortable.

So usually, I just keep it up to avoid issues. ^^

Hope that helps!

~maborosi~

CurlyCap
December 25th, 2013, 12:49 AM
First thing I do when I get home is take off my bra and let down my hair. I PREFER to wear my hair down.

But up it goes at work because:
1. My hair is as wide as it is long and is frequently called "distracting" or "inconvenient to others"

2. The rest of the day I can work with gross or dangerous chemicals so the hair is put up for my sake and safety.

My hair is no more tangly up than down and is going to catch on things either way. On vacations, it's always down and I'm a much happier camper.

LauraLongLocks
December 25th, 2013, 01:21 AM
I don't think my length is VERY long yet, but I've been wearing it up since shoulder length. It's just easier to keep it out of the way. As a mom, I'm bending over to pick things up off the floor, to reach for a small child, to re-boot laundry on my front-loading machines, to look for a shoe under the couch, to load the dishwasher, and to put a casserole into my oven for dinner. I also own a microdairy, and milking the cows and mucking out the stalls is not the sort of job for long, flowing hair.

However, if there is no wind, and it's not too hot, and I am not going to have young children with me, I will wear my hair down for a date night or other special occasion. I really look forward to these occasions, since I so rarely wear it down. It's fun to "wow" people who have no idea how long my hair is because they never see it.

I love how wearing my hair up has made tangles a non-issue for me, has made my ends stay healthy, and has given me so many options for styling.

KittyBird
December 25th, 2013, 01:43 AM
I wear it up for protection and for fun. To me, wearing my hair down all the time is terribly boring and annoying. I usually wear it down when I'm relaxing at home, but if I'm doing anything that requires moving around, I'll put it up. I love wearing my hair up. It keeps it looking nice, and I get to have fun with various buns and toys. The longer my hair is, the more buns I can do.
Also, wearing it up means that nobody can see how long it is. Co-workers and others who have only seen me with my hair up, usually thinks my hair is around shoulder length. I prefer that people don't know I'm a longhair. ;) I hate the attention I get when I wear it down, people touching it and asking when my last cut was, why I don't cut it, etc. I'm not good with compliments either, so if people say my hair is beautiful, I just get awkward.

Flor
December 25th, 2013, 02:00 AM
I'm only planning to grow mine until the mark where I can still enjoy wearing it loose whenever I want to. If it starts catching on things or tangling badly, forcing me to wear it up all the time, I'll cut it shorter. So I'm not seeing myself going much past waist, maybe I'll settle on something a bit shorter.

I guess I do want people to notice how long it is ;) Where I live it's mostly only teenage girls who have long hair. Women 20+ are between shoulder and APL mostly, very rarely at BSL. Whenever I spot someone my age with loose long hair, they always seem like such rebels to me, I like it!

Eniratak
December 25th, 2013, 02:05 AM
I have knee+ hair and I frequently wear mine down - mostly special occasions, but sometimes when I go out to run a few errands.
However, it really just depends on what I'm doing that day. Tangling does happen, but I don't worry about it so much. What really bothers me is having to throw it out of the way if I'm shopping and have to bend down or if I'm trying on clothes and it gets all tangled up in the tag of the shirt.
It's more for convenience when I wear it up.
I also get people who love to think that my hair is public property.

But my fiance really likes it down, so if I wear it down, it's mostly for him or for me, if it's especially pretty that day.

It's funny because I used to ask this question when my hair was TBL because I was obsessed with wearing it down and showing it off and I couldn't understand why people with longer hair didn't feel the same. Now I get it. Hahaha.

emilylightning
December 25th, 2013, 02:10 AM
I want reactions!! I like wearing it up all the time because when I let it down people are like "wow your hair got so long" or "it looks better down" lol.
Also it gets really hot in the summer, and wind is annoying.
When I was a child I NEVER wore my hair up and it still got to waist, but nowadays it's just easier to wear it up and I want to keep it nice and healthy.

Indoors [rarely], sleeping, or on a really nice mild day, I'll wear my hair down. I plan on braiding more often once my hair gets longer, though.

Quixii
December 25th, 2013, 02:34 AM
I tend to wear my hair up because it's so easy, especially when it's long. I have a whole arsenal of buns that keep my hair up that I can accomplish in less than a minute. People with short hair don't have that advantage, and I enjoy it! Plus it keeps it out of the way, off my neck, and protected.

Hair at my length does tend to get in the way. I find myself sitting on it or it getting caught on things or it just gets in my face or something. Plus because mine is curly if I have a "bad curl day" or something it just looks awful and nothing can save it at that point, so up it goes.

But I do love my hair and how it looks down (most of the time), so when I feel like it, down it goes. But wearing it up most of the time makes it feel even more special and beautiful when I choose to wear it down. :)

Bene
December 25th, 2013, 03:23 AM
I did a big chop so I'm growing it back out. BUT, I did manage to hit tailbone and I wore it up all time, except for maintenance (washing, detangling, braiding, etc) and length shots. Why? Because my hair is for me, not for anyone else to see or appreciate. I wasn't interested in whether or not other people liked it or thought it was gross. The protection aspect was the last thing on my mind.

redtuss
December 25th, 2013, 04:06 AM
I'm with all the posters that say it's about tangling and getting it out of the way-issues.

Sure, everynow and then I let it be loose but I hate the thought of getting split ends or the tangles I might get.. It's not that long yet so I don't sit on it or anything but it can get caught in things. Thank goodness it's kinda heavy for fine hair so it rarely blows into my face when windy outside. Most of the days I decide to have it loose I "cave in" and put it up or braid it after a while.

But the wow-factor is great as well :)
I think it's fun with the eventual length-bomb! My mom especially loves when I have it loose since it's almost always up - she loves my hair and like to see it down! And I do too, some days it just behaves so well that I want to enjoy the feeling of loose ends on my body and not just braids!

embee
December 25th, 2013, 07:03 AM
When I was young, I thought my terminal length was BSL. It was always down, always curled (not heat, just foam rollers) with the curls falling straight in an hour or so, and always getting tangled. Breakage, major, also. :(

When I had children it drove me nuts, getting in my face, getting pulled by nursing babies, falling forward onto dirty diapers, getting into baby food... *chop* to really short. Really short was ugly on me, and I couldn't afford the upkeep trims.

After my divorce I hadn't the money to do anything but grow it out; I was a grown up and was working and needed to look somewhat professional. So up it went. It grew and grew and grew - and one day was at waist! What a shock. :)

I cannot stand hairs tickling me on my face. I hate hair in my food. Hair getting caught on/in things really bugs me. Strangers petting my hair squiks me something fierce. Long loose hair really doesn't look very good on me, my face is long and thin, my forehead is high. My hair is long and thin and straight - and it tends to be stringy, rat-tails is what my mom called it.

An updo is comfortable, neat, and probably about as attractive as I'm likely to be at my age.... neat and clean being a reasonable goal for 70+. :D Plus, it's a snap to care for - and I have tons of other things I'd rather do than style my hair.

I always wanted Long Princess Hair, so now I can pretend that's what I've got - and it *is* long, just not very princessy. ;)

LadyCelestina
December 25th, 2013, 09:21 AM
It is a ritual for me.Just like some people have a ritual of applying make up only on work days,I put my hair up.Also,it looks neat.
Letting it down later is also a ritual,connected with scalp massage.

And then,in my free time,I sometimes like to wear it up for practicality or the exact opposite,to make complicated hairstyles I don't have time for in the morning.

lapushka
December 25th, 2013, 09:52 AM
What I'm wanting to know is, why do you not wear your hair down? You spend many years growing it long, but then always have it up so no one can see the length. I'm not meaning this question as an insult at all, I am very curious why! I see a lot of postings with women who do not wear their long hair down. I understand this is in part due to protecting it, but don't you ever want to leave your hair down? Sometimes I wonder why knee length + is desired if never worn down. Again, I'm not upset or meaning to insult anyone, just interested! I guess in my mind, I'd always want it down if I had long, gorgeous hair. ;D But I've also read that some women, as well as leaving it up during the day, don't even have it down for the night! Seems the only time it is left down is for a shower, or a length shot. Now I always wear mine up, but that is because it's at an awkward length and not so healthy looking. I dream about the day I can proudly wear it down. And I also understand wearing it up at work, or with children, etc. But besides that, why? Thanks for reading! :)

That's not the first time we've had that question asked, and it probably will not be the last.

For me? It's comfort. It's a lot easier to wear your hair up once it gets past a certain length. My hair's worn up 6 days out of 7 (except on wash days - and it gets in my way then).

LadyLongLocks
December 25th, 2013, 10:33 AM
The longer my hair got the more I wore it up. As soon as I started sitting on it it got annoying to wear it down. So from classic length I mostly wore it in a bun. Now at floor I MUST wear it up. To me, floor length is impossible to wear down. I will be going back to knee in the near future. I do wear my hair down to sleep though. I never wear my hair down in public. Its always in a bun. At knee length I will wear it loose a little more around the house.

trolleypup
December 25th, 2013, 10:50 AM
I'll note that the unconscious hair protection reflexes take longer to develop than the speed that hair grows.

Also, I'll add to the hair up/down rituals...since hair is virtually always UP at work, one way I mark the transition from work to not work is letting my hair down. I don't do this as often as I used to, I enjoy being at work more, and there are times when I can have it down at work (both in the office and on the streetcars. Sometimes the bun gets loose, and I'm either too busy to redo it, or just leave it down for a while.

EdG
December 25th, 2013, 10:56 AM
One consideration in wearing long hair loose is that it is a real attention-getter.

I regularly receive hair complements whenever I go out with my hair down. People seem amazed by long hair.

You may not want that amount of attention. I don't mind. Hair's purpose is to get noticed - it works, perhaps too well. :lol:
Ed

Ashlbee
December 25th, 2013, 11:00 AM
Well, I am a recent college grad still looking for work, so being unemployed and at home most of the day, I just throw it up and out of the way, usually in the lazy wrap. I have a lot of hair toys and enjoy using them and playing with styles anyway.

For me, I associate having my hair down with a 'getting ready day'. Like I get dressed in nice clothes, put on my makeup and contact lenses, and keep my hair down. This is my 'out with people' look. I of course put my hair up sometimes too in an updo with a cute hair toy, but that is usually because A) the toy really matches my outfit or B) it is only up periodically though the day (like when eating) in an otherwise hair down sorta of day. I enjoy wearing my hair down and get lots of compliments on it. I am at hip and live in Southern California where long hair is in style (I know some live in parts of the world where beyond APL/BSL is consdidered weird and for some that may be a barrier), so I never get odd looks (not that I think that would stop me from wearing it down if it were considered odd.) But also, being 22 and single, I wear it down because I think that's how I look the most attractive and I would like to meet someone :shrug: When I was dating my ex-boyfriend, I wore it up a lot more, especially at work, because he would see it down at night in his apartment anyway and I was less actively 'hunting' lol. He really loved my long hair (well... the look of it, he hated finding its shed everywhere, rolling on it at night, etc. but he oggled it when it was down and played with it in the shower, etc.) and due to hi adoration of it and compliments I've received from other guys, I've sorta just started associated having it down with 'I'm in dating mode'.

Also, even though I'm only at hip, my hair does tangle and I do worry for mechanical damage, so hair up is just easier when I'm either lazy or more interested in professional and less interested in, 'do I look my most appealing'.

inertia
December 25th, 2013, 11:09 AM
As so many other people have said, it's just really hard to deal with having it loose after it reaches a certain point. I just cut it back from below TB to waist because I realized I was never wearing it loose any more, and although I liked my hair when it was down, I hated the way I looked the other 99% of the time. It had long since stopped being fun enough to make up for the amount of trouble it was causing me. For me, waist seems to be about the maximum length I can tolerate while wearing it loose regularly; beyond that it quickly starts having a lot more manageability issues.

Foxylocks
December 25th, 2013, 11:16 AM
Because:

You don't get to KEEP beautiful long hair if you don't protect it. It'll be a tatty mess in no time if you don't keep it up and watch out for it.

It takes AGES to carefully pick through long hair to detangle at night.
It gets in the way. You sit on it, you close doors on it, you drag it through stuff, people grab at it, etc.
Yes. Exactly. My hair is hip length, and I always wear it in a braid. Otherwise, it flies in my mouth, nose, and eyes. People, for some reason, disrespectfully run their hands through it and yank at it, which I will never understand. The braid prevents that. My hair will probably still be in its English braid at fingertip length :D

chen bao jun
December 25th, 2013, 11:56 AM
A friend asked me this the other day. I was all confused and didn't answer. But now that I have had time to think:
1. My hair is thick and heavy and even at shorter than shoulder length was in my eyes, my face, making me hot and uncomfortable. I've really only ever worn it loose for church, going out with hubby, special occasions.
2. I'm with the group that my hair is not going to grow beyond a certain length if its down and out. For me, that's brastrap. I want it longer. Like, waist, TB or therabouts.
3. I don't have the hair type like the women in movies and commercials whose hair looks good swinging and blowing around. My looks like an unholy mess very quickly when windblown and it never 'swings' no matter how long it gets. I can't just hair brush it back into place, either, because I can't brush my hair. I have to untangle a process that looks unattractive (and is tedious).
4. I DO have a hairtype that people simply cannot keep their hands out of. Sproingy curls.
5.Men seem to associate messy loose curly hair with bedroom hair--and are not shy about making remarks about me have 'sexy' hair, etc. I'm a married woman. I don't like this.
6. All my role models for long hair--grandmother, aunts, cousins wore buns and/or braids so I actually associate long hair with these hairstyles and not with the actresses and models mentioned above whose hair type is really different than mine. And on me, buns and braids look tidy and lovely while loose hair at least makes me feel messy--and I don't like feeling messy.

DweamGoiL
December 25th, 2013, 12:21 PM
I am shocked that some people feel it is ok to stroke your hair in public without even asking. I guess because in my City long hair is not that unusual that people don't do that, but I have never experienced that; looks, yes, comments, sometimes, but never unwelcome touching. That is akin to being fondled in my book.

spidermom
December 25th, 2013, 01:31 PM
Another consideration - the longer a hair gets, the more it is noticed when it sheds out. When you visit other people, they aren't likely to be pleased with finding your shed hairs stuck to their furniture, etc. People really get creeped out by finding a long shed hair in their food. Because of that, my husband doesn't want me to have loose hair in the kitchen even now (since I had it cut shorter).

Hootenanny
December 25th, 2013, 01:36 PM
Men seem to associate messy loose curly hair with bedroom hair--and are not shy about making remarks about me have 'sexy' hair, etc.

I have also found this to be the case, and it's one of the main reasons I wear my hair up. My hair is nowhere near long, but the curls attract this sort of attention sometimes, and in my case it's not welcome.

Theobroma
December 25th, 2013, 02:01 PM
Because I want to.

No really.

This, exactly.

I second everyone who's mentioned the protection aspect, but I started wearing my hair up all the time well before it was long enough to need protecting. I just like wearing it up.

DarkSunny
December 25th, 2013, 02:21 PM
I'm one of those that prefer to keep it down. Preference is key here though, and doesn't always need a reason behind it.

I'm growing it so that I can enjoy the feeling of having it down. I'm lucky in that I have relatively fine hair, so it it doesn't weigh me down at near tailbone length. If it starts becoming too much of a hassle as it gets longer, I'll just cut it back to this length, since I find it to be a comfortable one.

I'll wear it up when I'm sleeping, when I'm sitting in a car, or when it's really windy out. In winter, I'll keep it up a bit more to keep it from getting caught in zippers or tangled by hats. Otherwise, I prefer to have it down for my own enjoyment. I think it looks nicer on me that way, and updo's tend to either pull or constantly threaten to come loose in my hair (therefore actually becoming more of a hassle than just letting it stay loose).

I personally don't care about any perceived immodesty on my part by letting it hang loose. If anybody I walk past or encounter happens to think that way then that is their own personal issue to deal with and not my job to worry about or pander to them.

What I have lucked out on so far would be that people haven't attempted to touch my hair without permission. That would be a violation of my personal space and not okay. People have told me that I can be a bit intimidating, so maybe that's what stops strangers in my case. If somebody attempted it though, they would quickly be confronted about it. I usually have too long of a fuse, but unwelcome violations of my personal space are one of the few things that can set it off immediately.

NuclearApple
December 25th, 2013, 03:00 PM
When I had bcl hair I used to wear it down 2 or 3 times a month,because of tangles too but mainly because of the boring factor.
Long hair become boring if you always see it down,you never enjoy it and it doesn't draw that much attention.
It's better wearing it down in special occasions and not that often,very long hair is rare nowadays and it feels better to be diffrent from the mass.
After this you gotta protect it from breakage and tangles,which is not easy with hair that long (like classic and beyond).
I agree with all the girls above (and below if there were XD) btw.

me_random
December 25th, 2013, 03:40 PM
Mine's usually up, except when it's not :P Jokes aside, it's really up most of the time, as sometimes my hair (about hip-length now) gets a fair amount of attention, mainly from people that want to buy :agape: or touch/ogle it, and it tangles/gets stringy/poofy/into everything fairly easily...

i do like to have it down around the house though, since it's like a blanket :D

chen bao jun
December 25th, 2013, 04:50 PM
Yeah, curls don't have be long for this to happen to you. My hair isn't long yet either.
Another 'curly girl' of my acquaintance (actually a 45 year old married woman) was shocked once in a ladies' bathrooms by some completely strangers that started to admire her 'party hair' or 'club hair'. They were much younger women who kept telling her that her curls were perfect for 'going clubbing' (something that isn't on her radar, she has 6 kids)

I have also found this to be the case, and it's one of the main reasons I wear my hair up. My hair is nowhere near long, but the curls attract this sort of attention sometimes, and in my case it's not welcome.

Shell
December 25th, 2013, 06:28 PM
I agree with the majority of reasons given here for wearing it up. I would like to add that wearing hair in braids or up is a "style." It's a certain look, and it can be really pretty, cute, business like, earthy, or what have you. My updos are generally going for a specific look--anything from Audrey Hepburn to a messy bun.

My hair is currently an inch shy of tailbone, but it used to be almost fingertip. I wear it both up and down, but length isn't the only determiner--I just like the look of updos--glamorous to cute. :grin:

Calaelen
December 26th, 2013, 12:49 AM
Most of the previous answers apply to me, plus, I am a hair toy addict with a huge collection of ornaments for my hair. I think half up hair styles look immature, and half done, at least on myself. So up it goes with my hair toys on display. I DO wear it down, but only in good conditions where I feel the risk of damage is low. I love my long hair, but I am happy with wearing it up 90% of the time just for the awesomeness I feel when it is loose.

Arciela
December 26th, 2013, 03:36 AM
Almost all my life (Except a couple years ago) I've had my hair classic length or so...and hardly wore it up. I would sometimes for school when I felt lazy...but I always prefer it down. Even now...I still wear it down. It just feels more comfortable to me. My hair is so heavy it always hurts when I put it up...>.< even when I part my hair and wear a low bun...nope. A braid though I can handle :)

I usually only put it up when I eat or when I am doing something like house chores, etc.

door72067
December 26th, 2013, 08:40 AM
for 2 years I wore my hair up everyday because I was growing out color and I could *hide* the demarcation better that way (well, I felt like I was hiding it, anyway)

I cut to shoulder length last month (I can pony and BARELY do a bun with sticks) so I am wearing it down (as "down" as shoulder-length is) and honestly, it feels freeing, in a way (I had grown tired of HAVING to wear it up,or, feeling like I had to because of the color lines) but it is also a bit annoying knowing I have to *do* my hair in the morning rather than just twisting it up in pretty sticks

as it grows out now, I will do a combo of up/down depending on my mood or activities for the day

I'm not too concerned about being uber-careful or maybe needing a trim to take care of splits at some point

someone once said here "I take care of my hair as well as I am willing to" (something to that effect) and I agree...I want my hair to be a whim, not an obligation I feel enslaved to (just my own opinion about my own hair...everyone is free to care for their hair as they wish)

WoolSweater
December 26th, 2013, 02:06 PM
All of you are hyping me up on buns, I'm excited for the length where I can do the pretty ones. Which means, yes, I've been checking out most of your profiles and your bun photos, haha. ;)

Sillage
December 26th, 2013, 02:31 PM
I only have waist length, but the entire reason I grow my hair is for updos! I don't like wearing my hair long at all but love love LOVE buns and other up hairstyles. I really only care about the length in so much as it gives volume to my updos. About the only time I have down is to sleep.

walterSCAN
December 26th, 2013, 03:00 PM
I wear it up a lot but sometimes down,am getting close to classic and at 61 years old,I get a lot of stares and sometimes very disapproving verbal comments from strangers when it is loose due to my age.


I work with commercial chemicals and fertilizer, along with spinning machinery. I would be scalped and not have to worry about any hair if I wore it down at work! :o

My hair is thick and curly, if I wear it down in warmer weather (anything above 70 degrees) it feels like I have an animal pelt on my back.

I am almost TBL and at 51 in the same boat as dulce. Many people hate seeing older women (who aren't models) with long hair-and they don't mind telling you so! I don't care what they think, but if they catch me at the wrong time they may lose some teeth.

I hate that people do this!! How is the length of your hair any of their business?? Grrr. I think you should have the hair that makes you happy. (and I hope to have such beautiful hair when I get to be your age!)

YamaMaya
December 26th, 2013, 03:52 PM
With greater lengths comes the possibilities for different hairstyles and updos, also, in the classic and beyond groups I've heard that you get bothered quite a bit in public over it, especially in the states. Plus older ends are more prone to environmental and mechanical damage. I only wear my hair down at home now since I reached waist, and then I have it over my shoulder so it doesn't rub on the couch.

ladyfey
December 26th, 2013, 04:48 PM
Before kids, I wore it down most of the time. With kids, there is no way. Too much constant motion, when I leave it down to let it dry a bit, I end up stepping on it! The longest it was before was knee, now it's ankle.

PrincessBob
December 26th, 2013, 04:59 PM
I wear it up to keep it from snagging on things as I move around (I have a tender scalp) Also to keep it from getting tangled, matted knotted, caught between the strap of my purse and my body, keep ti from wrapping around doorknobs, and buttons. I wear it up all the time to keep my kitten's claws out of my hair. I wear it up to avoid damage, and so that I can do something new with it all the time, so I do not get bored and decide to cut my hair from frustration. When I do wear it down I get oohs and ahhs from folks who "didn't realize it was so long" and that can occasionally be fun, but the tangling is too damaging to the extra length. I can decorate it with a variety of hair sticks, combs and forks when it is pulled back and up. I cannot use hair ties to ponytail my hair anymore, so it is much easier to keep it out of my face while working on things if I keep it up.

Mainesongbird
December 26th, 2013, 05:22 PM
My hair isn't super long, I'm at waist =D. I wear mine up because I like updos. I get compliments when they see all the different braids I do. It makes me feel pretty. =)

Sharysa
December 26th, 2013, 06:27 PM
Most of the previous answers apply to me, plus, I am a hair toy addict with a huge collection of ornaments for my hair. I think half up hair styles look immature, and half done, at least on myself. So up it goes with my hair toys on display. I DO wear it down, but only in good conditions where I feel the risk of damage is low. I love my long hair, but I am happy with wearing it up 90% of the time just for the awesomeness I feel when it is loose.

Just wondering why exactly you think half-ups are immature, since most people find them a nice compromise between "up" and "down."

makeminea99
December 28th, 2013, 03:30 PM
My hair isn't super long, I'm at waist =D. I wear mine up because I like updos. I get compliments when they see all the different braids I do. It makes me feel pretty. =)
YES!! It's great when you've gone out with an updo/braid you've tried and you get compliments on it, isn't it? I always tell people, 'go look on Youtube! That's where I learned to do this one!' :)

MeowScat
December 28th, 2013, 03:38 PM
I wear mine up for the typical reasons:

1. I'm almost at Classic, so it tangles so easily. Less combing = less damage and less hassle.

2. It protects it beautifully, so I can grow it longer with no damage / breakage.

3. It's so easy to throw it in a bun and forget about it, no fiddling with it throughout the day.

4. When I do wear it down, it's a surprise to see how long it grew.

Angela_Rose
December 28th, 2013, 04:01 PM
Hi! Good question.
I'm at mid-thigh, having recently done a quality-over-quantity cut back from knee. My hair is up 95% of the time, and it is up for a few reasons:
Modesty- my hair is there for ME to enjoy. Same reasons I do not expose my beloved and very large breasts (with rare exceptions, she said, referencing her profile photo with MUCH cleavage and loose hair featured).
Privacy- people touch pretty hair. I don't know where their hands have been and I don't want some unwashed miscreant running his filthy paws through my locks.
Protection- long hair worn loose gets caught on stuff, sat upon, tugged, whipped about in wind, etc. All of these things can cause damage, and you don't get to knee length (for example) but shutting your braid in a car door and letting the tail whip about in 65MPH wind on the highway.
Security- I once had my braid yanked very, very hard by a particularly troublesome classmate. It was enough to pull me off balance and cause a fall. I whacked my head pretty hard and was later diagnosed with a concussion. Also, I drive a forklift at work and I wouldn't want my hair getting snagged in the machinery. I would die.
Convenience- I work in retail around a lot of stuff that shouldn't have hair dragged through. Just gross.

So... yeah. Up it goes! Plus, there are so many pretty things you can do with long hair and the methods we employ to secure it.

Tini'sNewHair
December 28th, 2013, 08:08 PM
My hair is NOT long by my tough standards but i remember when i was in school and my hair was about classic, EVERYONES eyes were on ME each time my hair ended up being down and the attention was overwhelming because i was a timid child and I was very sad (horrible parents!). I remember one time during sports sessions, i had to do this high jump and somehow my hair came lose, EVERYONES hands was in it to touch it and to ask me a billion questions but as soon as i had it up i was happily left alone to be the invisible poor kid again.

Fast-forward to present day, my hair is MBL-ish, since it reached to BSL i found it to be getting in my way and my biggest reason to having it up its my KIDS. The only time i leave it down now is if i go out with a friend for a coffee and the kids arenít with me (AND if the weather permits!). I also want to protect it and care for it the best i can because i love my hair and this time im growing my hair out for me, no matter what others think (I already had a relative say that classic length is "creepy" but whatever!!!!)

HintOfMint
December 29th, 2013, 12:06 AM
When I was far more obsessive about damage, I wore my hair up all the time to protect it from tangles. I would get massive nape tangles that would split like crazy and were the source of most of my damage. Now I'm just more careful about detangling and I take the risk to keep my hair down. But damage was my main consideration. The way I saw it, I wouldn't wear my favorite silk dress every week, I'd only bust it out for special occasions.

Mishka_84
December 30th, 2013, 09:57 AM
Two words: dirty diapers.

Hair down falls directly into the diaper when I'm wiping dirty bums. :D No thanks!

Plus, I just really like wearing a variety of updos, and doing something different every day.

Mainesongbird
December 30th, 2013, 12:47 PM
YES!! It's great when you've gone out with an updo/braid you've tried and you get compliments on it, isn't it? I always tell people, 'go look on Youtube! That's where I learned to do this one!' :)

That's where I learned how to braid, but I like when they think I am just a braiding whiz! LOL =)

saskia_madding
December 30th, 2013, 01:10 PM
I agree with what everyone here has said - less attention, better protection, and I like the look of updos and HAIR TOYS.

I think this is a factor that has to do with my super fineand thin hair. If I had a lot more of it and it was robust and indestructible (and heavy!!), I'd probably wear it down a lot more often.

http://i997.photobucket.com/albums/af97/Saskia_Madding/Hair%20toy%20challenge/challenge%202013/DSC09898_zps9605d41e.jpg

http://i997.photobucket.com/albums/af97/Saskia_Madding/Hair%20toy%20challenge/DSC08841.jpg

kaydana
December 30th, 2013, 01:27 PM
saskia_madding - I love your hair slide in the first photo!

tigereye
December 30th, 2013, 04:15 PM
This is probably the only real hair-question I get routinely asked here if I wear my hair down on occasion (most people know me for a year or so before ever seeing me with my hair down since it's such a rare occurrence, and even then it's usually in a half-up)
The simple answer is: I have long hair almost purely BECAUSE I can wear it up. I can't stand hair in my face. There are so many beautiful and varied updos to try, all of which perform the vital tasks of keeping my hair out of my face, and safe from lab-equipment such as chemicals, bacteria cultures, Bunsen flames, machinery etc. I couldn't cope with hair that was too short to bun. Or stuck to me all sweaty when exercising or sleeping. I braid it at night because it stops me getting too hot (I'm the kind of person who needs to keep the heating off at night when it's -10C outside, so if I don't keep my hair up, I can't sleep in summer).
I guess I'm just an odd-ball who couldn't put up with the hassle and annoyance of keeping my hair down. For other folks who can - rock it girl! ;)


*mumbles something about being addicted to pretty hair-toys...*

MidnightSunlite
December 30th, 2013, 04:29 PM
Well my hair isn't super long, it's almost hip. I love to wear it down even if it tangles (they aren't bad just a few). The only real problem for me is that my hair may get poofy/curly/wavy depending on if it was never flat ironed and was braided then taken out of braids for a wavy look or.. if it's been flat iron and never had any touch ups (my hair starts to curl/wave after a week or two maybe longer). If my problem occurs I just wear it in a bun or a braid. And sometimes I wear it down when it's windy, I enjoy seeing my hair whip around in the wind, makes me feel like I'm in a movie.

When my hair does get longer, I might wear it up, but I'll guarantee you that I'll wear it down any chance I get xD

DragonFlyPie
December 30th, 2013, 05:02 PM
My hair is about tailbone length & I HATE wearing it up, unless I'm doing major physical activity where it would absolutely get in my way (strenuous cleaning, gardening, working out.)

I have to wear it up at work, because I don't want it getting into things (work in a lab.)

When i'm home, my hair is down. When i go out, it's down. When i go to bed, it's down. I HATE updos. I think they look awful on me most on the time, as they are not flattering whatsoever to my face, so prefer long hair framing my face.

I've had long hair for most of my adult life. Did hack it all off once because I was mad at a significant other. But it's grown out since & I keep it long. As long as I trim the ends like once or twice a year, my hair is in amazing condition & I do not have any issues with tangly knots or splits.

I've also never once experienced any negative or creepy feedback from a single person in public, in my entire life (not that I can recall, anyway!) Usually I get "Omg your hair is so beautiful!" or "Wow! I just love your hair!" and 99.9% of the time that's from mature women.

gossamer
December 30th, 2013, 08:10 PM
What I'm wanting to know is, why do you not wear your hair down? You spend many years growing it long, but then always have it up so no one can see the length. I'm not meaning this question as an insult at all, I am very curious why! I see a lot of postings with women who do not wear their long hair down. I understand this is in part due to protecting it, but don't you ever want to leave your hair down? Sometimes I wonder why knee length + is desired if never worn down. Again, I'm not upset or meaning to insult anyone, just interested! I guess in my mind, I'd always want it down if I had long, gorgeous hair. ;D But I've also read that some women, as well as leaving it up during the day, don't even have it down for the night! Seems the only time it is left down is for a shower, or a length shot. Now I always wear mine up, but that is because it's at an awkward length and not so healthy looking. I dream about the day I can proudly wear it down. And I also understand wearing it up at work, or with children, etc. But besides that, why? Thanks for reading! :)

I almost never wear my hair down now that it's getting close to ankle length. I actually haven't worn it down much since it got to around knee length, actually.
There are a number of reasons why, let me try to state them simply:
1) The detangling afterwards is a huge chore.
2) It gets everywhere and in the way.
3) It drags on stairs when I walk down them, thus getting dirty and damaged.
4) There are too many questions from total strangers about it. Even braided but down, acquaintances feel they can touch it without asking me.
4a) Too many people telling me I should cut it for the kids with cancer.
5) I've stopped traffic before when someone pulled over to comment on it. That's ridiculous.
6) I'm not taken seriously with it down, all people notice is my hair.

As for your question about not taking it down at night, I think it's nearly impossible to sleep without my hair contained. I'd probably strangle my SO and get all tangled in it myself. Sitting at my desk right now, since my hair touches the floor when I'm in my chair, I'm in danger of catching it under the legs of the chair if I scoot back. That's painful!!

Does that help to answer your questions?

LisaButz2001
December 30th, 2013, 09:06 PM
I teach, so having my hair up is professional. Usually, if my hair is up, it's for functional or practical purposes. It's easier to do day to day errands or household chores, if it's up. It's very hot here, having i up is comfortable. When my hair was long enough to sit on, it was a huge hassle, getting in the way and being damaged. Wearing it down at waist length is easy, tailbone is "I can cope". I get mostly positive reactions, when it's down. I have a handful of people wanting me to cut it. I have a handful of people who touch it, but they aren't random strangers. I get compliments-most recently in July, while at a wedding.

I cannot conceive of ankle, calf, knee or floor length hair. I admire anyone with that dedication, as much as I like having long hair; it was a relief to cut 12 inches off and return to waist. I didn't wear it down more often, but I liked its appearance better, when I did. Sometimes, I wear it up, because it looks healthier, and I haven't had time to get a trim.

blue_eyes
December 31st, 2013, 11:03 AM
Hello,

I have a question. I'm very curious about it, and would love to hear different people's opinions. Also in my title I said women, but men of course can comment. I just rarely see men wearing buns and hair clips.


What I'm wanting to know is, why do you not wear your hair down? You spend many years growing it long, but then always have it up so no one can see the length. I'm not meaning this question as an insult at all, I am very curious why! I see a lot of postings with women who do not wear their long hair down. I understand this is in part due to protecting it, but don't you ever want to leave your hair down? Sometimes I wonder why knee length + is desired if never worn down. Again, I'm not upset or meaning to insult anyone, just interested! I guess in my mind, I'd always want it down if I had long, gorgeous hair. ;D But I've also read that some women, as well as leaving it up during the day, don't even have it down for the night! Seems the only time it is left down is for a shower, or a length shot. Now I always wear mine up, but that is because it's at an awkward length and not so healthy looking. I dream about the day I can proudly wear it down. And I also understand wearing it up at work, or with children, etc. But besides that, why? Thanks for reading! :)

I'm glad you asked this because I've often wondered the same thing! Personally, I love having my hair down and flowing all around me, and I only wear it up when I'm around the house, or at the beach, or if it's really windy outside. I also hate the way I look when my hair is up, and I don't know how to do any beautiful updos, so that might have something to do with it too. Plus I've never encountered anyone creepy who started stroking my hair :P At it's longest my hair was just reaching waist, so it wasn't super long and catching on anything, which I guess made it less of a nuisance for me.

WoolSweater
December 31st, 2013, 03:32 PM
I agree with what everyone here has said - less attention, better protection, and I like the look of updos and HAIR TOYS.

I think this is a factor that has to do with my super fineand thin hair. If I had a lot more of it and it was robust and indestructible (and heavy!!), I'd probably wear it down a lot more often.

http://i997.photobucket.com/albums/af97/Saskia_Madding/Hair%20toy%20challenge/challenge%202013/DSC09898_zps9605d41e.jpg

http://i997.photobucket.com/albums/af97/Saskia_Madding/Hair%20toy%20challenge/DSC08841.jpg

Gorgeous hair toys, oh wow!!! Incredible.



Thanks to everyone for the responses, I am reading each one! You all are really making me want to have super long hair to put it up in beautiful styles. :)

dulce
December 31st, 2013, 04:13 PM
At 61,I wear it up a lot,loose I do get negative comments as it is not deemed appropriate by many people for an older lady like me to have very long hair and to wear it loose and flowing but if I put it up ,or do a French braid or a pony with a ficcare the comments are much more favourable.Whether people get rude comments or not,I think , depends on the age of the long haired person.The public is much more tolerant with long hair on younger people[under 50 years old]

kganihanova
January 1st, 2014, 11:24 AM
I'm only at BSL/MBL right now but it's just easier to deal with it up. Its less of a hassle and I feel like a princess with it up :) It also makes hair care easier. When its up all day, you don't have to swipe it out of the way all the time. That said, if I'm sitting in a car/at home/not moving significantly, heck yeah my hair's coming down!!

TheVegan6
January 1st, 2014, 11:42 AM
My hair isn't long yet, but I wear it up all of the time. I am growing my hair so that I can wear my hair up in different buns. My hair is just so annoying when it is down.:taz:

spidermom
January 1st, 2014, 11:48 AM
Funny, the first time I reached the longer version of BSL, it was the longest my hair had ever been, and it bothered me so much that I started wearing it up all the time to keep it from annoying me by falling in my face, etc. Now that I've had classic length hair and had to deal with it, my current length of lower-BSL at the sides, hip length at the longest point in the middle of the back, I can wear it down easily and it doesn't annoy me at all unless I'm busy (house-cleaning, working out, etc).

catamonica
January 10th, 2014, 02:43 PM
I wear my hair in a braided bun 4 1/2 days to protect it. On Friday afternoon, I wear it in a braid. On weekends I take the braid out in the morning.
And wear it down. I wear it down for my husband. You have to let your hair breath. It needs oxygen. Everyone should wear it how they like.

honeybunnie8
January 10th, 2014, 03:25 PM
I can't believe so many of you have had strangers touch your hair. No one has ever tried to touch my hair when its down and I don't even get comments unless its from family.
I do live in a city with a lot of East Indians so I see them out and about with long loose hair and long braids all the time. So my WL/hip hair isn't strange. If anything it's short.

I keep my hair up a lot because I have a 2yr old son. He gets annoyed with my hair attacks him and it gets in the way when we are doing things. It also gets really dirty with food and other sticky things around a toddler magically.

FuzzyBlackWaves
January 10th, 2014, 03:44 PM
I sleep with my hair in a braid because I roll on it in my sleep otherwise and cause friction, split ends and breaks, plus it doesn't need to look especially stylish when I'm asleep. I also usually wear it in a braid at home to prevent it from rubbing on my clothes or getting caught in things. I wear it down for things like parties, dates, nights out. I don't get a lot of damage from wearing it down when I'm awake since I'm very careful with it but it's easier to keep it out of the way - plus it seems to grow quicker if I'm not watching it all the time. I actually do love letting it down because it's more comfortable, it looks better and I have to admit I enjoy the male attention.

Sarahlabyrinth
January 10th, 2014, 05:27 PM
I wear mine up because it protects the ends and seems to prevent me from getting split ends ( I have fine hair and so far have found 2 split ends, at present am not far from WL). It also keeps my hair pretty much tangle free, which is wonderful. Plus on the rare occasion when I do wear it loose and brushed out, it is always noticeably longer than the last time I did it.

jextxadore
January 10th, 2014, 06:53 PM
As a male, I've never had problems with creepy people staring or trying to touch it (creepy friends aside, but we all have them), and I very often get mistaken for a female whether my hair's up or down.

I do a single braid for my daytime hair every day, mainly because I used to do ponytails (and ended up with a whole ring of breakage) and I haven't figured out how to use a hair fork comfortably (and securely) yet. If I leave it down (and I have before, because I went through this phase where every time I went to a party my hair tie would fall out), it'll take hours to sort out when I get home; in winter, it gets worse, because wool coats really love to tangle hair. In summer…it's just too hot.

Oh, and hair getting tangled up in bag/camera straps —*torture.

Also, if it's already braided, people don't usually ask to braid it.

Oh, and I can eat without looking like I have a severe back and neck injury that involves wearing a brace. Soup may be good for you, but only when it's ingested.

At night, I do double braids to sleep (unless I'm too tired even to do that, in which case I just unbraid my hair and sleep. Or I'm completely drunk, which means I'll be too gone to even take my jacket off (it's happened before)) to avoid tangles and to keep hair out of my face. Although I do sometimes wake up feeling like I'm lying on a strange bump, which always turns out to be that I'm lying on the lump where I've (loosely) tied off the braid (loose enough that it sometimes slips out when I'm sleeping).

WoolSweater
January 10th, 2014, 07:24 PM
Also, if it's already braided, people don't usually ask to braid it.

Oh, and I can eat without looking like I have a severe back and neck injury that involves wearing a brace. Soup may be good for you, but only when it's ingested.




Hahaha you're funny; love the braid bit, because it is so, so true! People love to ask to braid other people's hair. x)

Bombadillo
January 10th, 2014, 08:20 PM
I must be keeping the wrong sort of company. No one has offered to braid my hair yet…maybe with more length if that ever comes.

Immera
January 10th, 2014, 08:44 PM
I have gotten the question of why have it long if I wear it in a bun 90 percent of the time. Because it is easier than short hair. I don't pay somebody to keep it in a short style, I don't blow dry, I don't heat curl or straighten. I don't use hair spray, mousse, gel or other stickiness.

I just braid, sometimes bun, and go.

My hair tangles easily, so braiding is more of for convenience and also protection. I enjoy trying out new braids and styles.

I have worn it long most of my life, would find it hard to imagine not having long hair. Agreed that most people I encounter think it's unhygienic because they've never experienced long hair themselves, and may not know very many people who keep their hair long.

Bottom line is my hair is for me.

Seeshami
January 10th, 2014, 08:48 PM
If I keep the psycho killer in jail he won't hurt any one.

The Naughty Mess says, "psycho killer eh?"

You're merciless mess, don't act like you're not dedicated to destroying EVERYTHING.

vanillabones
January 10th, 2014, 09:27 PM
I wore mine up for a good 2 years straight, and started wearing it down more from APL-BSL. With my hair type I need to start wearing it up almost always besides for washing and detangling if I want to get anywhere near my goal. I have been told I look better with my hair up... it sounds like an insult to me but is probably the truth. I have fairy thin fine hair and scalp cleavage is always a challenge. I doubt my hair will grow to waist if I continue wearing it down just because I finally can without being embarrassed by it. I like the idea of it being a personal achievement and people not worrying how long my hair is. It probably looks shoulder length (if that) when up in a bun. I'm about 2 inches past BSL in reality.

leslissocool
January 10th, 2014, 11:15 PM
I must be keeping the wrong sort of company. No one has offered to braid my hair yet…maybe with more length if that ever comes.

No one wants to braid my hair either! But I end up braiding EVERYONE's hair!

HumanBean
January 11th, 2014, 11:26 AM
I wear it down and up (not quite at waist, goal is hip). I wear it up at work mostly because I think my natural hair texture with very loose waves just looks messy and unkept down because it's neither here or there. So unless I bother to straighten it or curl it for work it goes up, with a nice hair toy and that way I know I look professional.

That's exactly why I think when I reach my goal length (or sooner) I will end up with a deep v hemline and lots of layers. The longer my hair is the more the mild waves are pulled straight, but I don't want super long hair, and the shorter my hair is the more the waves curl, so I think ultimately I will need to do something that embraces my natural texture so that I can wear it down more often.

sarahthegemini
January 11th, 2014, 12:18 PM
I've wondered this too. It makes me think, if having long hair is that much of a hassle (that you can't wear it down for 5 mins for fear of tangling and whatnot) then what's the point? But hey. I only have almost-apl, but I wear it down because I enjoy it. I don't see the point in putting so much effort into my hair if I can't enjoy it. But then, I'm not a fan of up-dos so obviously my point doesn't apply to those that actually enjoy updos. What I also wonder, is why do some have their hair heavily oiled 24/7?

Panth
January 11th, 2014, 12:22 PM
For me it went like this:

1) Got job in lab. Thus, hair needs to be up all day.
2) So, hair getting less mechanical damage, it grew past what I now know to be a false terminal (TBL). It's now at knee and still going...
3) Hair got longer and in better condition.
4) Now, hair is too long to comfortably wear loose (it tangles lots and is long enough to just GET IN THE WAY ALWAYS).
5) Also, I've become rather accustomed to having better-quality, less damaged looking hair than I did when I wore it down 24/7.
6) Also, I can't do more than microtrims or my buns won't work so nicely and be as pretty (blunt ends and buns... not good). And if I have to be in buns 90% of the time, well, I don't want them to look awful.

As to why I don't just keep it short if I'm going to wear it up all the time (which is usually the corollary question to the one the OP asked):

1) Short hair requires hairdressers and thus regular outlay of money.
2) It also requires product and maybe straightening/curling, resulting in more monetary outlay.
3) It gets in your face all the time (unless you use about 1 billion clips).
4) You never get to have an occasional long, loose hair day.
5) You can't do coronet braids (my favourite style, and the one that gets most compliments).
6) You also can't do Freida Kahlo braids.

And finally (and most importantly) 7) You don't have medieval hair to go with the medieval dresses (even if you like super-authenticity and would usually style that hair and cover it in a veil anyway... *ahem*).

Hiriel
January 11th, 2014, 01:44 PM
My hair is long because I am lazy and dislike having hair in my face. Hair is almost always up and out of the way.
Yeah, I like having the option of showing off a pretty hairtoy, a great updo, or wearing my hair down for wow factor, but most of the time having my hair this way (TBL-ish, and held up with a plain hairstick) is just so very, very convenient. I detangle in the morning and at night, and wash it once a week. Low maintenance!

Chromis
January 11th, 2014, 01:54 PM
I've wondered this too. It makes me think, if having long hair is that much of a hassle (that you can't wear it down for 5 mins for fear of tangling and whatnot) then what's the point? But hey. I only have almost-apl, but I wear it down because I enjoy it. I don't see the point in putting so much effort into my hair if I can't enjoy it. But then, I'm not a fan of up-dos so obviously my point doesn't apply to those that actually enjoy updos. What I also wonder, is why do some have their hair heavily oiled 24/7?

I keep my hair well oiled because it makes my updos look better. Less frizz=more sleek! I don't super saturate it and could wear it down although I do oil it just a little heavily for that. Would still look fine down, but I would oil slightly less if I were planning to wear it down. I love updos though and especially love to coordinate them with my outfits. I hated short hair (like with the clothing threads, I don't care what others do, but don't like it on *me*). Not enough options and most of them involve "products" because of my massive cowlicks and centre part.

UP Lisa
January 14th, 2014, 01:31 PM
Yes. I have the same hair type as you, and I totally agree.



For a lot of people, the only way they can grow their hair to such lengths is to wear it up.

Also, wearing knee-length hair down must be a right pain in the @rse, as doing so with my waist-length hair certainly is. It gets caught in stuff, it goes in my food, in my eyes, it forms instant dreadlocks, gets trapped in doors, takes hours to detangle and invariably gets damaged. I can't imagine the hassle of going about with loose hair of extreme length, not to mention the damage it would incur.

The only reason my hair has got to waist is because I wear it up every day, and at night too. It's thin and fine and damages easily- easily enough that wearing it down or in a ponytail resulted in a stall of several years at shoulder length. Some people have no choice but to wear it up if they want it to grow. Alas, I'd love to run around trailing a luxurious mane, but that's not going to happen. :p

Dovetail
January 14th, 2014, 03:52 PM
I Love love love to wear my hair down! But, I am liking it up more now at work, since when I bend down to the drive through it'd blow out towards people, or get caught in my hands. I also wear a blazer at work and the collar was causing matting (this would happen though regardless of length)

I still wear it down at home, and my husband especially likes it. I'll also wear it down to the bar sometimes, or if I want to stand out a bit.

I agree that it's like nice underwear! I know it's there, and I love it, but not everyone needs to see it :) I don't find it immodest to wear it down though!

I'm currently wearing it up all day, so that when I go on my cruise I can feel like a princess <3 I think i'll wear it up maybe on the islands so no one tries to cut it off! :o

emilyann
January 14th, 2014, 05:04 PM
I'm growing long hair so I could make all the pretty buns, actually! I have spent soooo much time on youtube looking at pretty hairstyles that I couldn't get if my hair were shorter.

I also have really tangle-prone hair. It's gotten to the point where I'm afraid I'll have to cut a bunch off because it's so damaged on the ends...but if I can put it in a bun and forget about it, I don't mind keeping the damaged length until it's a bit longer.

Also, I HATE hair in my face. If it isn't past my shoulders, it's in my face...

ErinLeigh
January 14th, 2014, 05:08 PM
I've wondered this too. It makes me think, if having long hair is that much of a hassle (that you can't wear it down for 5 mins for fear of tangling and whatnot) then what's the point? But hey. I only have almost-apl, but I wear it down because I enjoy it. I don't see the point in putting so much effort into my hair if I can't enjoy it. But then, I'm not a fan of up-dos so obviously my point doesn't apply to those that actually enjoy updos. What I also wonder, is why do some have their hair heavily oiled 24/7?

I have often wondered the same thing. I have never had truly long hair so I have come to determination I will never understand unless I do. I read about tangles and mechanical damage stress, worry about leaving down for a day etc and wonder ...what's the point? If its up all the time you may as well have shorter hair that is easily managed because if its up no one knows how long it is anyway. I thought a lot about things when I joined here. Strangely my own hair goal length changed when I realized the effort long hair would take because I like to wear down when going out. At home its always up just for comfort, but that's not a hair style to me. It's just tossed up in a clip. Perhaps if it was long enough to do cool things with my attitude would change.

I think at a certain point , but this is only a guess, that it just becomes a personal thing. Something found you enjoy sharing with only a select few, pride in accomplishing something with hair many cannot, or a comfort to some. Plus getting those thrilling moments of unveiling when you choose to. Or you are a simple long hair enthusiast who just really enjoys long hair

i wonder if you and I are still here years from now what we will be thinking ;)

as far as oiling every day. I do it. But I do it as a replacement for cones. Applied the same way. Just a few drops. But for overnight I do heavy oilings pre wash as I found it produces a better effect after washing. I am a near daily washer so need all the protection I can get!

ErinLeigh
January 14th, 2014, 05:13 PM
No one wants to braid my hair either! But I end up braiding EVERYONE's hair!

I would think people would beg to braid your gorgeous hair!

vanillabones
January 14th, 2014, 05:17 PM
ErinLeigh I can relate because before I joined the site hair was just hair to me and I cut it however and how much I wanted whenever I was cycling through emotions. Now I can easily seeing it become a 'security blanket' to me and something I'm attached to just because this has become a healthy hobby for me and it has taken all of the patience I have. I never thought this would be for me. I enjoyed damaging my hair for the volume, and I miss teasing it more than anything else. I feel like I'm hooked and committed to growing and don't want it to stop. It really is a lifestyle change for me even though it is 'JUST HAIR' I'm using it to practice inner self control. I'd love to have it down all the time but I'll enjoy those special moments even more when I pull out the hair toy and swish it around and down.

ErinLeigh
January 14th, 2014, 07:35 PM
I only have waist length, but the entire reason I grow my hair is for updos! I don't like wearing my hair long at all but love love LOVE buns and other up hairstyles. I really only care about the length in so much as it gives volume to my updos. About the only time I have down is to sleep.

Now that I truly understand. I was just watching some YouTube videos and didn't realize how long hair had to be for certain looks. I always assumed big buns were made with hairpieces so its cool to see it some with ones own hair!

I feel I do not look good in updos but I think if mine were more substantial it would change the whole look for me making it look good on me. I have a little pea sized bun which I think is the true reason i don't like updos on me. It would be way cool if I could have something huge and full to give it some flair.

Panth
January 15th, 2014, 01:33 AM
I've wondered this too. It makes me think, if having long hair is that much of a hassle (that you can't wear it down for 5 mins for fear of tangling and whatnot) then what's the point? But hey. I only have almost-apl, but I wear it down because I enjoy it. I don't see the point in putting so much effort into my hair if I can't enjoy it. But then, I'm not a fan of up-dos so obviously my point doesn't apply to those that actually enjoy updos. What I also wonder, is why do some have their hair heavily oiled 24/7?


I have often wondered the same thing. I have never had truly long hair so I have come to determination I will never understand unless I do. I read about tangles and mechanical damage stress, worry about leaving down for a day etc and wonder ...what's the point? If its up all the time you may as well have shorter hair that is easily managed because if its up no one knows how long it is anyway. I thought a lot about things when I joined here. Strangely my own hair goal length changed when I realized the effort long hair would take because I like to wear down when going out. At home its always up just for comfort, but that's not a hair style to me. It's just tossed up in a clip. Perhaps if it was long enough to do cool things with my attitude would change.

I think at a certain point , but this is only a guess, that it just becomes a personal thing. Something found you enjoy sharing with only a select few, pride in accomplishing something with hair many cannot, or a comfort to some. Plus getting those thrilling moments of unveiling when you choose to. Or you are a simple long hair enthusiast who just really enjoys long hair

i wonder if you and I are still here years from now what we will be thinking ;)

as far as oiling every day. I do it. But I do it as a replacement for cones. Applied the same way. Just a few drops. But for overnight I do heavy oilings pre wash as I found it produces a better effect after washing. I am a near daily washer so need all the protection I can get!

I think you have both answered your own questions...

Also a few other ideas/reasons:
- the whole "oh, no, what a hassle, stressing about it ... you can't wear it down for a minute without tangles ... constantly worried about damage" thing ... it's only a problem if you actually do all that stuff. If you are happy to wear updos (for whatever reason - liking updos, liking having your hair more private, work needs, laziness, whatever) then none of that is a constant stress, hassle or worry. You just, e.g. comb out, plait and bun (or just bun) in the morning, take down the bun at night. Daytime bun = no tangles or damage, so combing out in the morning is easy (easier even, depending on the hairtype, than having worn maybe even shoulder-length hair loose).
- I think another reason is a bit of laziness (ok, wrong word - desire to focus on other personal attributes not hair). Most of the super-long haired have very minimal, low-stress, low-fuss, benign neglect-type routines. One big reason for me to keep long hair is that daily it is very low maintenance (whilst short hair on me looks crap without massive quantities of time-consuming styling). For the same reason, I don't wear make-up. I prefer to use that time sewing or something. ;)
- A related reason is expense - short hair is expensive, because of the regular maintenance cuts that nearly always need to be done by a stylist. Then, there's quite possibly added expense of styling tools and/or lots of extra product to make it presentable. Long hair can be expensive (and often is on the LHC) if you want/let it be (hairtoys being a big one), but particularly at super-long lengths when benign neglect is the usual method, it can be as simple as cheap S&C and a £10 pair of scissors (or, even more simple if you are WO or SO and don't trim...).
- A related one again is control. With long hair, if you muck it up it's your fault. You don't have to trust stylists.. (I think many people here can relate to this one...)

Panth
January 15th, 2014, 01:34 AM
(Sorry - double post.)

Chromis
January 15th, 2014, 06:07 AM
I think you have both answered your own questions...

Also a few other ideas/reasons:
- the whole "oh, no, what a hassle, stressing about it ... you can't wear it down for a minute without tangles ... constantly worried about damage" thing ... it's only a problem if you actually do all that stuff. If you are happy to wear updos (for whatever reason - liking updos, liking having your hair more private, work needs, laziness, whatever) then none of that is a constant stress, hassle or worry. You just, e.g. comb out, plait and bun (or just bun) in the morning, take down the bun at night. Daytime bun = no tangles or damage, so combing out in the morning is easy (easier even, depending on the hairtype, than having worn maybe even shoulder-length hair loose).
- I think another reason is a bit of laziness (ok, wrong word - desire to focus on other personal attributes not hair). Most of the super-long haired have very minimal, low-stress, low-fuss, benign neglect-type routines. One big reason for me to keep long hair is that daily it is very low maintenance (whilst short hair on me looks crap without massive quantities of time-consuming styling). For the same reason, I don't wear make-up. I prefer to use that time sewing or something. ;)
- A related reason is expense - short hair is expensive, because of the regular maintenance cuts that nearly always need to be done by a stylist. Then, there's quite possibly added expense of styling tools and/or lots of extra product to make it presentable. Long hair can be expensive (and often is on the LHC) if you want/let it be (hairtoys being a big one), but particularly at super-long lengths when benign neglect is the usual method, it can be as simple as cheap S&C and a £10 pair of scissors (or, even more simple if you are WO or SO and don't trim...).
- A related one again is control. With long hair, if you muck it up it's your fault. You don't have to trust stylists.. (I think many people here can relate to this one...)

Yes, yes! I agree with all of this. I don't "worry" over my hair. It is hair. I don't like tangles, no, but I didn't like tangles when it was much shorter either! Long hair is much faster and less fuss for me, even at knee.

Nenyath
January 15th, 2014, 06:24 AM
One word: tangles! As my hair got to waist length, I had grown accustomed to wear it up for protection (when I wore it loose it always tangled and had tons of split ends!). Nowadays, I let it down for special occasions; it is a bit like putting on a fine dress - it looks fantastic but it is also unpractical!. If I bend, my hair comes tumbling down into whatever it is I am dealing with, or it gets caught bag straps, or if I am outside and it is windy, it will grab for whatever is within half a meter's radius :) And at night, it is always up, either under scarf, braided or both! Else it will pin me down and start teasing my boyfriend, not good! To be honest, I do not think that it would be this length unless I mostly kept it up!

EvelynMay
January 15th, 2014, 06:28 AM
this thread has been very helpful in changing my thoughts about this, as I had always wondered the same thing! "why have it so long if you're just going to wear it up?" but reading these responses let me know that that is precisely the reason why for some of you, so you can achieve really gorgeous updos with ease! I had never thought of it that way before. Probably because I'm so the opposite, for some reason I don't like wearing my hair up... sure, i'll occasionally throw it up if I'm baking or crafting, but I've never liked "doing" my hair up. I like the look of it down, I even kept it down for my wedding! But if I could accomplish the amazing hairstyles that I see some of you do, I probably would wear it up every once in a while, but still wouldn't convince me to do it every day. I guess the only thing related to that that I can think of was that I had a friend in college once who had hair down to her hips (at least) and she always wore it up but didn't really do any "style" with it, she just would throw it into one of those pony tails that you half pull through so it's like a bun, but not like a nice bun, but the kind of pony bun we all first learn when we are little. And she did this every single day. And I always wondered why she kept it long if she never wore it down and never did fun things with her hair. Still her choice completely, but she didn't seem to have the same reasons as you guys do for having it long to make nice hairstyles.

chen bao jun
January 15th, 2014, 06:50 AM
I just read something that speaks to me--laziness!
To sum it up: short hair can't be pulled up quickly and kept out of the way
short hair needs hairdressers, at least occasionally
I like my hair out of the way and quickly done each morning
Short hair is not for me
(Plus, I think when you have curls, long is honestly even more important for lazy people as the length drags them out a little and makes them easier to deal with, at least that's what I've found though I'm only bra strap)

kaydana
January 15th, 2014, 09:34 AM
this thread has been very helpful in changing my thoughts about this, as I had always wondered the same thing! "why have it so long if you're just going to wear it up?" but reading these responses let me know that that is precisely the reason why for some of you, so you can achieve really gorgeous updos with ease! I had never thought of it that way before. Probably because I'm so the opposite, for some reason I don't like wearing my hair up... sure, i'll occasionally throw it up if I'm baking or crafting, but I've never liked "doing" my hair up. I like the look of it down, I even kept it down for my wedding! But if I could accomplish the amazing hairstyles that I see some of you do, I probably would wear it up every once in a while, but still wouldn't convince me to do it every day. I guess the only thing related to that that I can think of was that I had a friend in college once who had hair down to her hips (at least) and she always wore it up but didn't really do any "style" with it, she just would throw it into one of those pony tails that you half pull through so it's like a bun, but not like a nice bun, but the kind of pony bun we all first learn when we are little. And she did this every single day. And I always wondered why she kept it long if she never wore it down and never did fun things with her hair. Still her choice completely, but she didn't seem to have the same reasons as you guys do for having it long to make nice hairstyles.

I think you've missed a lot of the points that have been made. Why do you assume that hair is something that exists simply for other people to look at? I don't have long hair for you, I have long hair for me. The only difference between my hair and all the other things I own, is that I have to carry my hair around with me all the time. Just because I have it, doesn't mean I want to show it off all the time. To me, suggesting that I should wear my hair down or in spectacular updos all the time is like suggesting that I gather together some large, transparent plastic bags and fill them with my favourite belongings every time I go out in public so that everyone else can admire them too.

EvelynMay
January 15th, 2014, 11:11 AM
I think you've missed a lot of the points that have been made. Why do you assume that hair is something that exists simply for other people to look at? I don't have long hair for you, I have long hair for me. The only difference between my hair and all the other things I own, is that I have to carry my hair around with me all the time. Just because I have it, doesn't mean I want to show it off all the time. To me, suggesting that I should wear my hair down or in spectacular updos all the time is like suggesting that I gather together some large, transparent plastic bags and fill them with my favourite belongings every time I go out in public so that everyone else can admire them too.

I did not mean to offend, I apologize :( I didn't assume anything, I was simply thinking out loud :( I had just wondered the same as the OP and after reading many of your responses that they needed longer hair to do their hair up in the ways that they wanted it suddenly made sense to. I didn't necessarily mean spectacular, I just meant fun hairdos like I see on this forum for daily wearings. I just simply wondered since the longer the hair the more it takes to wash it and care for it and that you didn't need very long hair in order to achieve the style that she wore everyday, so me personally I wondered since I didn't see any responses here that fully matched that. I was only curious as to her reasonings, which I can't know now, so I was just thinking out loud :( People could wonder the same about me because all I do is wear it down and never do anything to it, and if asked I would explain my reasonings also that I don't like my hair up and I like the natural look of my hair :) And then they would know. I thought it would be ok to put out there something that I was pondering, I apologize. We all think differently, that's why it helps to calmly discuss and learn from each other! :)

ErinLeigh
January 15th, 2014, 11:37 AM
ErinLeigh I can relate because before I joined the site hair was just hair to me and I cut it however and how much I wanted whenever I was cycling through emotions. Now I can easily seeing it become a 'security blanket' to me and something I'm attached to just because this has become a healthy hobby for me and it has taken all of the patience I have. I never thought this would be for me. I enjoyed damaging my hair for the volume, and I miss teasing it more than anything else. I feel like I'm hooked and committed to growing and don't want it to stop. It really is a lifestyle change for me even though it is 'JUST HAIR' I'm using it to practice inner self control. I'd love to have it down all the time but I'll enjoy those special moments even more when I pull out the hair toy and swish it around and down.

That's a really well thought out nice post. Thanks for sharing. I respect the commitment.
I think after being here I learned it comes down to the fact everyone has their own reasons for why they choose their hairstyles. Our journeys are all so unique it would be silly to make assumptions on anyone for anything. Its funny how something as simple as hair can teach you so much about yourself. I understand what you mean by the post. I know haircare has changed me. I think about what I eat, I think about what is touching my skin, etc etc. It IS a commitment to self and I think one thing to learn from this is patience. I liken it to tending a garden almost. Reaping what you sow.

leslissocool
January 15th, 2014, 12:12 PM
I did not mean to offend, I apologize :( I didn't assume anything, I was simply thinking out loud :( I had just wondered the same as the OP and after reading many of your responses that they needed longer hair to do their hair up in the ways that they wanted it suddenly made sense to. I didn't necessarily mean spectacular, I just meant fun hairdos like I see on this forum for daily wearings. I just simply wondered since the longer the hair the more it takes to wash it and care for it and that you didn't need very long hair in order to achieve the style that she wore everyday, so me personally I wondered since I didn't see any responses here that fully matched that. I was only curious as to her reasonings, which I can't know now, so I was just thinking out loud :( People could wonder the same about me because all I do is wear it down and never do anything to it, and if asked I would explain my reasonings also that I don't like my hair up and I like the natural look of my hair :) And then they would know. I thought it would be ok to put out there something that I was pondering, I apologize. We all think differently, that's why it helps to calmly discuss and learn from each other! :)

I make one braid, down my back, and bun that or leave the braid down (depending on what I'm doing). So I'm like your friend.

I think the most accurate assumptiong to make when hair is tied or up is that you want it out of the way. I don't really like hair on my face 24/7. Have you ever grown out bangs and they annoy you? Short hair feels that way to me, so long hair in one braid is easy, as lazy as to not do anything with it and wear it down, and as natural too. You don't need long hair to feel that way, when you work out do you tie your hair? Most people do no matter the length, it's the same in every day even if you think "it's school I can wear it down!".


I don't think you offended at all :). I don't do anything spectacular with my hair either.

Panth
January 15th, 2014, 12:13 PM
I did not mean to offend, I apologize :( I didn't assume anything, I was simply thinking out loud :( I had just wondered the same as the OP and after reading many of your responses that they needed longer hair to do their hair up in the ways that they wanted it suddenly made sense to. I didn't necessarily mean spectacular, I just meant fun hairdos like I see on this forum for daily wearings. I just simply wondered since the longer the hair the more it takes to wash it and care for it and that you didn't need very long hair in order to achieve the style that she wore everyday, so me personally I wondered since I didn't see any responses here that fully matched that. I was only curious as to her reasonings, which I can't know now, so I was just thinking out loud :( People could wonder the same about me because all I do is wear it down and never do anything to it, and if asked I would explain my reasonings also that I don't like my hair up and I like the natural look of my hair :) And then they would know. I thought it would be ok to put out there something that I was pondering, I apologize. We all think differently, that's why it helps to calmly discuss and learn from each other! :)

Common misconception. (Depending on hairtype) longer hair is actually very often LESS hassle to deal with.

E.g. for me, a 1b/F/ii with a small widow's peak, high forehead and two cowlicks (one smack on my centre parting on the hairline at the front, one on the left of my crown):

Short hair (the shortest I've had is a "long bob" thing at between jaw-length and shoulder-length) = looks crap without daily styling e.g. loose waves from curling iron; needs to be blow dried or air-dried very carefully to hide the cowlicks; needs a professional trim every 2 months at a minimum; quite possibly would need leave-ins, mousse, gel, etc. to look best; needs combing/brushing multiple times a day to prevent its natural tendancy to form into stringy 'tentacles'; quite possibly would require more regular washing.

Knee length (the longest I've had, and what I have currently) = looks nice in my everyday braided cinnabun, almost always gets compliments on my coronet braid (both are <10 mins jobs and that's because I read forums when I do my hair...); can be dried in a towel-turban and/or just left loose inside my sleep stocking overnight to dry - the weight and the updo hides the cowlicks; no trims needed (I was growing it out) and now that I'm maintaining I can trim myself easily; doesn't need anything more than cheap S&C; gets combed once a day maximum (in the morning, when re-styling), tentacles are not a problem as is in updos; can wash 1.5-2x week only and still look good.

Yes, the daily time to comb out long hair vs. short hair is (obviously) longer, but not that much longer. The time per wash is a little longer (though the number of washes per week are likely to be less). However, once you add in all the other time-consuming things needed then it really is less hassle to have long hair. Of course, like anything you can make it time-consuming if you like, e.g. by doing complex updos or complex washing and treatment schedules. But that really isn't necessary!

chen bao jun
January 15th, 2014, 01:40 PM
Seconding the above. It is really amazing how much more time I have to spend with my hair when it is shorter. The longer it gets, the easier it gets, very definitely.

kaydana
January 15th, 2014, 02:06 PM
I did not mean to offend, I apologize :( I didn't assume anything, I was simply thinking out loud :( I had just wondered the same as the OP and after reading many of your responses that they needed longer hair to do their hair up in the ways that they wanted it suddenly made sense to. I didn't necessarily mean spectacular, I just meant fun hairdos like I see on this forum for daily wearings. I just simply wondered since the longer the hair the more it takes to wash it and care for it and that you didn't need very long hair in order to achieve the style that she wore everyday, so me personally I wondered since I didn't see any responses here that fully matched that. I was only curious as to her reasonings, which I can't know now, so I was just thinking out loud :( People could wonder the same about me because all I do is wear it down and never do anything to it, and if asked I would explain my reasonings also that I don't like my hair up and I like the natural look of my hair :) And then they would know. I thought it would be ok to put out there something that I was pondering, I apologize. We all think differently, that's why it helps to calmly discuss and learn from each other! :)

You didn't offend. I'm sorry if I sounded a bit snippy.

I don't need hair the length mine is now to do the hairstyle I wear every day. I've been able to do this since BSL. I wear it longer than BSL because that is the length at which I can put it up properly, but the extra 9-10 inches have nothing to do with the way I wear my hair on a daily basis. They're there simply because I want them. Their existence has nothing to do with the general public, they are there for me, and me alone. Maybe your friend was the same? Maybe she just wanted long hair because she wanted long hair. Seems a perfectly valid reason to me.

EvelynMay
January 16th, 2014, 07:48 AM
i could have worded it better too so that I didn't sound so judgey about my friend and her hair, just like everyone she has her own reasons too, I just wondered what hers was. I know it sounds silly, but sometimes it's amazing how everyone has their different reasons for having the same thing, including hair :) My perspective is for some reason I do not like to wear my hair up, I've always been that way. I'm not even sure why! So to come across those that think the exact opposite of me and adore putting their hair up is almost "foreign" to me. I do have to admit that when my hair was the shortest at chin length I did "have to" style it more or else it looked funny, so it was a lot more work! But when my hair was shoulder length it was easier than what I have now at nearly elbow length in terms of duration of showers and care to condition and detangling. But my hair looks "the same" everyday too as it's down and nothin' done to it, and for some people that would drive them batty too! "why have long hair if you're not going to do anything with it" I suppose would be the general thinking people would have about me and my hair. Maybe even some people would think my hair was "boring." But I like it. So yep, it's all relative! To each their own. :)

spirals
January 16th, 2014, 11:26 PM
I've thought about this and I think longer hair looks good on me because it balances my large frame. I don't consider myself fat, but I am curvy, and I really do have large bones. My wrist and finger measurements are in line with those of men my height. On top of that, my curls complete themselves at longer lengths. At APL or I had to fiddle with my layers so much to get it to look good and not be in my face. Longer hair stays behind my shoulders.
I do wear mine down 30% of the time, usually on wash day because it's curly then. The rest of the time it's up for convenience and because I like hair sticks. I guess I like to have options. I can do several buns and braids or just wear it down or in a half-up. When it was APL there was only one style. Longer hair affords more styles and more styles=more fun.

Venefica
January 17th, 2014, 05:41 AM
I do not wear my hair down since if I did, well you know cooking, yeah hair caught in the oven door, hair falling into wash water, hair caught on car doors, hair getting tageled into anything. I have hair almost to my knees, and from the time it was a little ways down my butt I always wear it up or braided out and also usually around the house or it will tangle, get dirty and be a mess. Now I have very strong hair and it can take a beating, but for many their hair can just not take the wear and tear long hair get if worn loose on a regular basis, keeping it up protects it. Also one reason to have your hair up, you do not need to wrap it around your neck to avoid it falling into the toilet when answering nature's call. It is just clear and easier to keep it up.

Chromis
January 17th, 2014, 07:49 AM
i could have worded it better too so that I didn't sound so judgey about my friend and her hair, just like everyone she has her own reasons too, I just wondered what hers was. I know it sounds silly, but sometimes it's amazing how everyone has their different reasons for having the same thing, including hair :) My perspective is for some reason I do not like to wear my hair up, I've always been that way. I'm not even sure why! So to come across those that think the exact opposite of me and adore putting their hair up is almost "foreign" to me. I do have to admit that when my hair was the shortest at chin length I did "have to" style it more or else it looked funny, so it was a lot more work! But when my hair was shoulder length it was easier than what I have now at nearly elbow length in terms of duration of showers and care to condition and detangling. But my hair looks "the same" everyday too as it's down and nothin' done to it, and for some people that would drive them batty too! "why have long hair if you're not going to do anything with it" I suppose would be the general thinking people would have about me and my hair. Maybe even some people would think my hair was "boring." But I like it. So yep, it's all relative! To each their own. :)

Ah, this still depends on your hair! At shoulder length I still had to "style" my hair because there was not enough weight yet to overcome my cowlicks but I still had trouble tying it back. Otherwise I had triangle head....on one side and it flipped in on the other. Super goofy looking! It doesn't behave well until bra strap length at least, and really I notice no difference in the time that took to wash and now. This is probably *because* I like to wear it up, so I don't have any extra detangling time. :disco:

MeganE
January 17th, 2014, 09:51 AM
OP, I had an idea for you last night. I was doing a treatment using my heat cap, which is electric, and I had it plugged into an extension cord so that I could be not trapped next to an outlet. The cord is long enough to give me movement throughout my apartment, and it trailed behind me and caught on everything.

I suggest getting some rope, or cord, or ribbons, or anything, and just tying it to your ponytail. Let it be as long as you think you want your hair to be, and just... wear it at home for a day. And then imagine the wind blowing in it. And then imagine driving with it. And then imagine some crazy person grabbing at it. Think about how long it would take to gently detangle it once it does have knots in it.

You might love it, you might hate it, you might gain some understanding of why the super long hairs wear it up (I know I did).

Just because one wears their hair up, does not make it the equivalent of being short.

MeganE
January 17th, 2014, 09:59 AM
I think you've missed a lot of the points that have been made. Why do you assume that hair is something that exists simply for other people to look at? I don't have long hair for you, I have long hair for me. The only difference between my hair and all the other things I own, is that I have to carry my hair around with me all the time. Just because I have it, doesn't mean I want to show it off all the time. To me, suggesting that I should wear my hair down or in spectacular updos all the time is like suggesting that I gather together some large, transparent plastic bags and fill them with my favourite belongings every time I go out in public so that everyone else can admire them too.

You hit the nail on the head there sister. BAM!!!!!

Gaelle27
January 17th, 2014, 10:52 AM
I dont have very long hair, it's just a litle past waist, and I never go out with my hair down.
Why? because I like it, to protect it and because I dont like show off. I grow my hair for me. For that time at nigth, when I let it down and comb/brush it. For feeling it brushing against back and my arms. Plus, updos are great to have your hair out of the way and tangle free.
Whit shorter hair, about APL, I didn't understant the "up every day" thing. But now I do. And if you let your hair grow longer, you may get it too :)