For me, I found several styles that kept my hair tidy and damage free:
1) Heidi braids
2) Fake lace crown braid
3) Double braided bun
and several others
The thing to remember is to always make sure your hair is thoroughly detangled before you start styling..and keep it detangled throughout the process.
Never braid tightly..or bun tightly either.
Sectioning the hair makes it more comfortable to wear. I use 3 inch crimped hairpins for all my updos.