I wish I was capable of being firm and telling people I don't know what to do. I'm kind of shy and hate bossing people around because I always feel like I'm being rude even if it's totally my right to tell them what to do.
The last time I got a haircut was last October-ish. I had it done a beauty school so if it got screwed up at least I wasn't paying someone upwards of $30 to mess up my hair. They guy who did it did insist on shampooing me, and did say some rude things about my henna and how it was the reason I had so many split ends. He did detangle with a comb though and only blow dried my hair about half way with a diffuser on low heat. He took off probably about 6-8 inches (way more than I wanted), but the ends were damaged enough that I didn't really mind too much. I was going to take off about that much, but had planned on doing it in maybe three smaller trims, letting it grow out in between.
At first he seemed confused that I didn't want a "style" or something I would have to straighten/curl/blowdry every day, but he got over it pretty quick. He was capable of listening to me for the most part and didn't heat style me before I left like a lot of places do, so I wasn't completely dissatisfied.
If anyone has a suggestion for a long hair friendly salon in Bellingham, WA I would be super grateful so I don't have to keep taking my chances at the beauty school.