I dyed my blonde hair with a demi permanent "dark blonde" that turned a dark rich warm chocolate brown! So needless to say I've washed my hair a dozen times in two days trying to get the dye out. Some parts have lightened up significantly, but it's still way darker than I like on myself.
Problem #1 was there was a lot of red in it for some reason, so I got a dye additive to take out most of the red. It seems to have worked a bit.
So now, my hair looks like this (and I absolutely hate it). But I can't tell what undertone it is. Is this what you would call "brassy"... is it gold, or red, or neither one?

Next to my pic is my "goal" pic (hubbys hair). That is pretty much my natural color except I get natural high lights once it's grown out a bit, so it's more blond. So that is my "base" color that I am trying to get back to.

Can anyone help me categorize my current color to help me get to my goal color?

Thanks!

Current:


Goal: