Originally Posted by
MotherConfessor
What!!?? I am so sorry, what a crushing thing to have your mother say - I cant even imagine! Incidentally, if she had to say it, you probably looked just as good as she did - if not better.
There seems to be a little in the way of harsh feedback for the girl not having a job. She's twenty, not thirty six, and clearly a contributing member of her household. I find I am often frustrated by this idea that when a child turns eighteen its like they are supposed to be shoved directly out the door and anyone who does not go is some kind of lazy leech or overly dependent. In an increasingly complex society it takes longer and longer to reach the "adulthood" marker. Consider that only fifty years ago if she was a twenty year old people would be pushing her get married right now before she becomes an old maid, but that is no longer a common time line. To any of the posters who may not have been American, we are in a pretty bad economic downturn and getting a job is extremely difficult. I have been assisting a friend with a job search and we put in applications every day with no results, and thats with a degree. I promise that I am not just defending myself - I work full time and go to school full time while working on my parents ranch.
By the way, I know it has been said already, but it would certainly be good to work on the wording of the post. We are all here because we are a little hair crazy. While I know that your intent was to point out that she is really overeating because you are not nearly as hair obsessed as some of us, well... that whole thing GetoffmySkittle posted about the phrase "no offense but" is true. I decided a while ago that that phrase should be taken out of the language entirely because nothing good ever follows.
Also, your mom is probably always going to be contentious about your hair, for whatever reason. Dont bring it up, love her anyway and be really glad shes not PearMartinis mom (just in that one sense, she may be lovely in every other way). Oh yeah, and waste not want not on the expensive shampoo. Hope everything ends well.
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