How do you respond to people that disapprove of your hair?

**AuntyClaus** · December 31st, 2009, 08:22 AM

Originally Posted by Themyst

I have to agree, I like the Viking heritage comment. It's one of those comments that might set a person back somewhat and make them a bit worried they're not being 'politically correct' about something ... hee hee.

I think it also makes them vaguely worried that she might "go Viking" on their butts.

**Princess J** · December 31st, 2009, 03:32 PM

When people have commented on my hair, it has only ever been compliments.

The only time I have ever had a negative comment was about six years ago. My boyfriend at the time said he didn't like my hair, and asked me to cut it. So I did. It was waist length, and I got it cut to shoulder length. It did look nice, but I only really did it to please him, which was kinda sad in every way.

We aren't together anymore, my hair is waist length again, and I will never again mess with my hair just to please someone else!

**aksown** · December 31st, 2009, 04:36 PM

I am working on perfecting the blank stare, followed by the ever-so-slow raising of a single eyebrow. I plan on whipping it out the first time someone comments on my hair. It's almost enough to make me wish the people in my area were that rude!

**Libilou** · December 31st, 2009, 05:41 PM

The only person who disapproves of my hair is my mother. She says older women (I'm 41, I'm not old!) should have short hair.

I just smile and ignore her. It's my hair. I do look cute with short hair, but it is such a bother. Too much time to do my hair everyday. Now I can just put it up into an updo and go.

**Hydrilus** · December 31st, 2009, 06:24 PM

Originally Posted by aksown

I am working on perfecting the blank stare, followed by the ever-so-slow raising of a single eyebrow. I plan on whipping it out the first time someone comments on my hair. It's almost enough to make me wish the people in my area were that rude!

This made me laugh

I pulled the "Why, you want some?" response on my sister the other day when she asked "Why don't you cut your hair?" She said "Yeah!" as if to play along, but that's where the discussion ended hehe

**georgia_peach** · December 31st, 2009, 07:01 PM

I'm not comfortable with confrontation (though I admire those who are

). Since I know that's how I am, I make an effort to avoid negative or disapproving comments.

I remember making a new friend many years ago who was from a different culture, and she explained to me the value of deflecting (rather than fighting) excessive attention from others, whether it be positive or negative. I've always remembered that and tried to put it to use. That said, I'd sometimes love to give a scathing, pointed comeback when someone makes a rude comment about my desire for long hair!!

**treesandcoffee** · December 31st, 2009, 10:56 PM

Originally Posted by boomygrrl

My hair is long but not by LHC standards. I dont get comments about the length, but I do about it being curly. "Why don't you straighten it?"

Same with me and my past hair comments! No one really cared about a particular length, but everyone seemed to be offended by the curls, especially an ex of mine. When anyone tells me I should straighten it now, I just say I'd rather not subject it to heat damage (simple and to the point). I love the "not here to decorate" line, and can't wait to use it, whether regarding my length or curls!

**treesandcoffee** · December 31st, 2009, 10:59 PM

Originally Posted by GlamFanatic

THat was one of the follow ups I hate after they say, "Wow, your hair is long......do you ever think of cutting it?" Kind of annoying. As bad as saying to someone you just met, "Oh, I've heard so many THINGS about you..." Without saying if they are good or bad! People are just weirdly, vaguely, rude sometimes.

Hah, I think I would just go the very sarcastic route.

"Ever think of cutting it?"

"No, never. I've never thought about that, ever. I don't even know what you're talking about."

It may be a bit rude, but how not ruder than someone just meeting you and asking that!

**walterSCAN** · January 1st, 2010, 12:00 AM

Originally Posted by curlylocks85

People tell me I am intimidating too. I don't think it has to do with size but rather how people view me. I have been told that my eyes make me unapproachable. I suppose I have deep penetrating eyes.

Ha! Several people who are now my friends have told me that they were quite honestly terrified of me before they started actually talking to me.

I think it has something to do with how I carry myself? Who knows... a (male no less!) co-worker recently told me that I should never worry about being mugged in the dark-- apparently he saw me walking back from my break and I scared the cr#$ out of him. Nothing specific, just the way I was walking... I find it bizarre.

**BranwenWolf** · January 1st, 2010, 01:58 AM

Originally Posted by walterSCAN

Ha! Several people who are now my friends have told me that they were quite honestly terrified of me before they started actually talking to me.

I think it has something to do with how I carry myself? Who knows... a (male no less!) co-worker recently told me that I should never worry about being mugged in the dark-- apparently he saw me walking back from my break and I scared the cr#$ out of him. Nothing specific, just the way I was walking... I find it bizarre.

Same here. Several friends have told me they thought I was a b*tch at first.