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    My niece is in Kindergarden and her hair still hasn't grown past 2 inches. I convinced her mother to try some organic shampoo and conditioner and also different oil treatments. Her hair is very thick and slightly curly but a little on the dry side and it won't grow. She's been to several specialists and doctors and they haven't helped with anything. Now that they don't have health insurance I thought I would ask on here if there's anything herbal or natural to try with her hair. Her mom will not shave her to see if that will work because my niece is constantly in public and will not wear hats. Everyone else in the family has thick nice hair. Our family gets bugged a lot and even though we answer that we cut it this short it's getting to the point where some people are being cruel. And if you have a positive similar story please share or if you know what some medical problems could be.

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    Hi,

    I went to grammar school with girl who had short hair that never grew. It was a genetic abnormality. Her whole family had thick black curly hair. She was blond and her hair was not only short but also thin and sparse. Her situation never did improve. I don't know though what her family did or did not do for her besides taking her to the doctor. She never took any meds for it that I know of.

    I'm sorry you're receiving negativity from others because of this and I wish I could tell you something that I know would help but I honestly don't know what the cause of her lack of growth is so I don't want to diagnose and prescribe.

    I think if there is a free clinic in your area it might be best to take her to a doctor to see if she's deficient in Human growth hormone or something similar. In the meantime, hugs. Just try to make her feel beautiful, valuable, and loved. She's probably aware that she's different and that can be such a blow to a kid's self esteem.


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    How awful for this poor girl and how cruel! It's one thing for kids to do the chiding, but quite another for adults to be chiming in on the ridicule.

    This girl's parents need to stand up to anyone who says something about the hair and directly announce to them that the girl is beautiful, including her lovely blonde hair. And that any further hurtful, hateful and ignorant remarks referring to her appearance will not be tolerated.

    There's no need to explain that she's seen doctors, specialists, anything - it's no one's business. But it is desperately important that this girl knows she is accepted, normal and beautiful as she is and that there is absolutely nothing wrong with her.

    Her hair will grow in when it's supposed to and all this attention to the subject should be curtailed before the girl is so traumatized she'll be spending the remaining days of her life on some psychiatrist's couch trying to figure out how to accept herself.

    Please, help this girl build the self-esteem and confidence she needs to succeed at whatever it is she wants to do in this life.
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    My daughter had curly hair down to the tops her ears when she was 3; it recently just picked up. Had the doctors checked her thyroid? Also since she doesn't have insurance she may be able to get Medicaid. here I wasn't eligible for Medicaid but I am on a state plan that is 20$ a month. She can find out if there is one in her state by calling Medicaid. In my case they automatically sent me the papers.
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    Ask the parents if her school has an anti-bullying policy. Her mother could talk to her teacher and make her aware of the situation if she already isn't. The teacher should be handling this in the classroom.


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    Default Re: Worried about niece..kids are teasing her

    My daughters hair began to grow when she was two years old.I often heard questions as to why she had short hair.I ignored it most of the time.It didn't bother my daughter so why me.

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    Poor kiddo, that sucks. Doubly so when you're a girl and don't yet have the womanly curves to make your gender obvious despite the short hair.

    Perhaps this thread that Jessie started on Essential Oils for Hair Loss and Shedding would be worth a read?

    I know she had luck getting her husband's hair to regrow, and has a great summary of studies that have been done and links to other sites where this they may have more specific answers

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    Default Re: Worried about niece..kids are teasing her

    I don't think that this little girl has something abnormal happen with her hair. I have a picture of me when I was 3 or 4 years old and shows me with my hair above my shoulders half straight and half curly.
    When I was born I had curly hair and till the age of 4 my hair didn't grow long enough to loose their curls not even to pass my shoulder in length and my mom didn't cut them or shave them as well. My hair grow longer at the age of 6 and as you can see I have lot of hair in my head even now that I'm 40 years old. Have in mind that I was a very thin and little girl and perhaps this is one of the reasons that my hair didn't grow faster.
    It would be wise to check out your niece's diet. Perhaps some more proteins and vitamins would help her hair grow and of course a very gentle hair routine with natural always products.

    I don't know why this bulling happens to this Kindergarden but if I was this little girl's mother I would sue them for not taking care for such problems or I would send my child to another school.

    In any case I don't think that your niece's hair have some problem and there's no reason for this girl to get traumatized because or her hair. Little girls are cute anyway, either with longer or with shorter hair and I'm sure that this girl can't be an exception.

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    I would strongly recommend against using any topical products on a five year old. That includes essential oils as are in many hair growth recipes. She's still just a baby, and her body is way too underdeveloped to handle products like that.

    If her doctors say she's healthy, let her be. Please, please, please. The ones who have something wrong with them are the people who are questioning you and bullying her. They need to be fixed, not your beautiful little niece. There's nothing wrong with her, and most likely, her hair will grow in its own due time. Take Carolyn's and Peggy E.'s advice to heart, and then give the her hair some time.

    ETA: I didn't suggest anything for her dry hair!

    Try diluting her shampoo until it is very weak, or you might want to go the water only (WO). Here's the thread about that. It is also possible to clean hair perfectly well with conditioner only (CO). There's a nice article about that in the Articles Section.
    Last edited by Flaxen; April 24th, 2009 at 03:50 PM.

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    Default Re: Worried about niece..kids are teasing her

    Quote Originally Posted by Flaxen View Post
    I would strongly recommend against using any topical products on a five year old. That includes essential oils as are in many hair growth recipes. She's still just a baby, and her body is way too underdeveloped to handle products like that.
    Gahh, I meant to toss a disclaimer in there, but got sidetracked on another thread and thought I was done posting. It wasn't so much the advocating of putting stuff on her head, so much as I knew there were links to other sides that are more focused on hair loss and what causes it.

    That said, my sister was literally BALD until she was almost 3 and now her hair is 3x as thick as mine. So sometimes all it takes is time.

    In the short-term, though, perhaps some fun clip-ins or something as a pick me up in the short term?

    Kids are nasty, and I doubt the bullying will stop 100% even if teachers are watchful... perhaps a talk with your niece about how when people bully its to make up for their own shortcomings, so she knows the issue is with THEM and not HER?

    I've been bullied, and it sucks. I hope it stops

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