Originally Posted by
chen bao jun
Curlycap, I feel you. I think our problem, at least my problem, is that the sites where a larger amount of women have hair that is more similar to mine are not useful for me to hang out in for extreme amounts of time, because they tend to be places where most of the members are altering their hair and the advice is geared towards that. People are always saying how there is a black (I have a black hairtype, not just a curly hair type but an African ancestry hairtype) 'natural' community and how there are all these great sites to support natural hair, but when you get on them, not really. I have no problem with people calling themselves 'natural' simply because they gave up chemically straigtening their hair, but if the site is all about blowdrying, flatironing and still making the hair straight in other ways, its not useful for me because I don't want to do that. I also, frankly think that a lot of the elaborate 'regimens' on these hairsites and products they recommend even when they are not straightening are all about people trying to have a looser curl than they naturally have, although nobody will say straight out that this is the goal. They will keep talking until the cows come home about their being more 'manageable'. But honestly, to me, any 'manageability' that doesn't take into account that my hair is going to have extreme shrinkage, because it just DOES; that my edges are going to be 'fuzzy' and not 'lie flat' because they just DON'T; that my hair likes to go upwards, or at least sideways, rather than down and that it doesn't swish around much but stays still more is not actually 'manageability', it s a desire for a whole different hairtype. Even if you are attacking your hair with cremes and potions and lotions and lots and lots of manipulation, rather than heat or chemicals and talking about 'curl definition' rather 'bone straight'. And I'm just not interested. I like the LHC methods because they 'keep it simple' (and also cheap, Vo5 conditioner and tressemme is way cheaper than miss jessie's or whoever's 'curl' product); and buns work very well with curly hair types that like to go upwards, because hey, buns are naturally 'up' and nobody here cares a hoot about either their edges or mine and I feel fine posting photos with fuzziness to the nth degree going on. Of course there is some lack of understanding of how curls work (the endless, how long is your hair really if you are measuring stretched) and not everybody anywhere is openminded about qualities they aren't personally familiar with. But its pretty good here. And there is the bonus, for me, that your hair can be just hair and not an endless political issue. I use this site as relaxation and it wouldn't be, for me personally (others may differ) if people were always going on about which companies needed to be boycotted because they are not 'our' companies and profiting from us, or complaining that they are being oppressed because one or the other private school, or business company or the US army wants them to keep their hair tidy (or in the case of the army, wnats it to be so that their hair fits under a helmet, for safety reasons in combat, you know?) Maybe these people are all oppressing people with big hair all the time, it could be, I don't know, and maybe I'm wrong or in denial or something, but I just want to relax sometimes and think about nothing else rather the next hair toy to admire, even if that is shallow or silly or whatever else you want to call it.
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