Do you let other people touch/play with your hair?

[cat11]

I let my SO touch is sometimes but I really don't like it because I am so picky about it breaking and since my hair is so thick and its somewhat curly you cant just flippantly run your hands thru it without it catching. I get such a cringy feeling when I take my hair out of a bun and he tries to do this but it catches. I don't think he understands the concept of anything that makes it catch or crack or get stuck and pull is bad. Friction is bad. He has long hair too and he does terrible things with it. He has this horrible fleece pillowcase. He'll make it make the crackly noise brushing it just to see me freak out and cringe He thinks it's so funny and i'm like uuuuugh stop it pleeeaaaasseee...

I hate it .... he usally unless he just got a trim has all this damage at the bottom of his ends because he just pulls it to brush it (unless I comb it, which he loves- its much more common for me to touch his hair because I know how to touch hair lol.) I think he's starting to get it though. Dont touch it unless you are being very very gentle... no "snappy noises".... He really doesnt touch it so much anymore and I honestly don't care lol!

[Darkhorse1]

For me, it depends on the situation: Obviously at the hair dresser, I expect my hair to be touched. I remember some moments at the barn when I was running late and in the process of getting my baseball hat on and a mom saw my hair and dove her hands into it--purely as a mother and offered to braid it for me (her daughter was 12 and lessoned with me). I never once felt bothered by it and just told her that was so sweet, but I was able to braid really fast. (which I did). I've had cute little girls trying to figure out whose hair was infront of them in checkout lines, and I remember a gentle tug and a mother whispering sharply 'don't touch it!" and I had to laugh. I work with kids--it's how they learn. She was no older than 4---just curious.

Now, creepy guy who smelled my hair (after a very hot, late night ride and I was shopping and didn't notice--my friend did and we both had the last laugh since my hair was so gross!)--um, no. A strange adult just grabbing hair--that's assault to me. A child is innocent(up to about 4 yrs old/even 5 yrs old), but a stranger--male or female, grabbing your hair--no. That's a personal invasion of space. Now, I've been in some situations where I was in long lines and chatting with people and a woman commented on my hair and you could see she wanted to touch and I said 'oh, I'm fine with it'. That's ok, but no adult (or child over should be touching anything on you--hair included.(I mean stranger of course! Family/friends are fine if you're fine with it)

[Undomiel]

For me, it depends on the situation: Obviously at the hair dresser, I expect my hair to be touched. I remember some moments at the barn when I was running late and in the process of getting my baseball hat on and a mom saw my hair and dove her hands into it--purely as a mother and offered to braid it for me (her daughter was 12 and lessoned with me). I never once felt bothered by it and just told her that was so sweet, but I was able to braid really fast. (which I did). I've had cute little girls trying to figure out whose hair was infront of them in checkout lines, and I remember a gentle tug and a mother whispering sharply 'don't touch it!" and I had to laugh. I work with kids--it's how they learn. She was no older than 4---just curious.

Now, creepy guy who smelled my hair (after a very hot, late night ride and I was shopping and didn't notice--my friend did and we both had the last laugh since my hair was so gross!)--um, no. A strange adult just grabbing hair--that's assault to me. A child is innocent(up to about 4 yrs old/even 5 yrs old), but a stranger--male or female, grabbing your hair--no. That's a personal invasion of space. Now, I've been in some situations where I was in long lines and chatting with people and a woman commented on my hair and you could see she wanted to touch and I said 'oh, I'm fine with it'. That's ok, but no adult (or child over should be touching anything on you--hair included.(I mean stranger of course! Family/friends are fine if you're fine with it)

I had a creeper smell my hair while I was in line at the drug store 2 weeks ago. I feel your pain. I just moved ahead a little and gave the bitchiest look possible, though I don't think the man understood and he just gave a creepy, flirty smile. Some people just don't care about politeness and common courtesy... I think some guys even ENJOY making women uncomfortable. Here's to hoping neither of our creepers breed more creepers.

As for letting people touch my hair... yes to the SO, yes to most family members and yes to my friends - but if any of these people have dirty hands, NOPE! :P

[vivianne]

I wont let people touch my hair. My kitty´s are allowed to touch and play with, but people are not.
My husband likes my hair but don´t wont to touch it very often he likes my braids and buns and my hair down - but he prefers to look! That maches good with me!

[Fiorentina]

Oh no, no, no.

[amoeba]

If their hands are clean then I wouldn't have an issue. It feels nice when people are touching my hair.

[Hellebore]

Only my husband, but I've never had anyone else ask.

[floridaorchid]

I work with kids, and they will ask. On hair wash days, I let them.