Not wearing hair down because of insecurities?

[Emichiee]

Originally Posted by ashimajoy

I just hate being hot. Oh man, I hate hate hate it! But when it's cold out, I'll wear mine down.

Emichiee, I'm sympathetic to your issue with your hair being fine, but it looks relly pretty in the photo, like a shiny sheet of hair. I always wished mine were straight like that...

Thank you! The signature photo is up to date and my hairs lengths are not as thin anymore considering I have been trimming since Aug.08 (it was 'thin' rather than 'fine')
So the insecurities definetly bettered also. Maybe I should post a picture of my starting thinness in the first post and add a progress pic

[Upside Down]

I have to say, I can not believe how many people have insecurities about wearing hair down. I think you all have amazing hair! Most of them are faaar more beautiful then mine. Maybe the insecurities come with growth?

Still, try to enjoy your hair more.

As for me, I love wearing it down, far more than up. I know that when it is clean and curly and down that it looks amazing. I love the feeling of hair brushing against my back. I really love my hair. I only wear it up for practical reasons.

And it is only APL

Ok, my ego-trip and I are now checking out

[mira-chan]

"No insecurity"

Hair Length: Mid thigh/ just past fingertip

Goal Hair Length: No true goal. Maybe knee if I really try to care.

What is the reason you feel insecure about wearing your hair down?:
Not really insecure about it. I just don't like to wear it down. I do have a huge taper but I don't mind it. It's more convenient up.

When did you start feeling like that?: N/A

How do you deal with it?: Nothing to deal with other than putting it up and getting it out of my face.

Have things bettered?:N/A

What is your stategie to improve its looks when down?:
If I cared I'd probably trim more but my dislike of trimming is stronger than any wish I have to get thicker ends.

When will you be happy? :
I'm fine with my hair now. I do get the odd grumbly time when I get that one minute wish to have thicker ends. Usually it's more a curiosity of how it would look like with thicker ends at this length. Generally I like my hair just fine as is. Thus, I'd say I'm happy with it now.

[dukkelisa]

I don't feel insecure about wearing my hair down, but I don't like to do so, it gets in the way and it gets messy looking quick. It's funny, but I have always disliked hair on my neck.

[mechanolatry]

Hair Length: Currently BSL

Goal Hair Length: to the waist and beyond

What is the reason you feel insecure about wearing your hair down?:
The damage. But it's a weird, particular kind of damage. The hair shafts are scaly and those scales 'stick out' of my hair. Because of this my hair never sticks together. Even without any split-ends, it looks like a frizzy damaged mess. =(

When did you start feeling like that?: forever it seems

How do you deal with it?: Well, I finally figured the problem out. My hair hates something in my water. I can negate the damage by adding a little baking soda to the water I rinse with.

Have things bettered?: Oh yes! Hair recovery, here I come!

What is your strategy to improve its looks when down?: uh.. so far nothing works. If I manage to make it look nice with aloe vera gel and EVOO, all it takes is a few minutes of moving around for it to frizz up into a cloud of unhappiness. I'm working on it though. Trying to come up with a good misting recipe that my hair likes.

[Lissa]

Hair Length: Hip

Goal Hair Length: Hmm, not much longer than this, I think.

What is the reason you feel insecure about wearing your hair down?:
I don't usually, but sometimes. Mainly because I'm not entirely sure if it looks good all the time, I feel like there's less "tolerance" for not having well-kept hair when it's long. I don't people to think I have too long hair and can't take care of it.

When did you start feeling like that?: Oh, I don't know, probably some time in between waist and hip length.

How do you deal with it?: I try to treat it well so that it looks good, and wear it up when it doesn't.

Have things bettered?: Well, my hair has a fair amount of split ends these days, so I'm thinking of getting a trim, but I suppose my hair generally looks better down now that I'm more aware of taking care of it.

What is your stategie to improve its looks when down?:
Having a trim, S&D'ing, generally treating my hair better, using hair oil more often.

When will you be happy? : Whenever I feel like it looks good, and is full and healthy.

[hennared]

Unfortunately... I had to answer 'very insecure'

Hair Length: about 18" from the crown

Goal Hair Length: about waist

What is the reason you feel insecure about wearing your hair down?:
Because my hair is entirely see through, due to losing over 40% of my hair diffusely in ~19 months.

When did you start feeling like that? Starting about June 2008, about 3 months after the huge shedding began, I was mildly concerned.. got much worse this July, since the loss has become worse and more noticeable.

How do you deal with it?: I struggle with coping with the change in my hair. I've tried many nutritional supplements, goen to doctors, etc. to find if there is a cause for my hair loss that I can approach. That's not been working.. so I try to find ways to wear my hair that are not as upsetting to me (wearing it all up, wearing scarves, enhancing my natural waves... )

Have things bettered?: No.

What is your stategie to improve its looks when down?:
Hah! I'm working on that!

When will you be happy? :
If my hair recovered half of what I've lost, I'd be estatic. Failing that, I'm really not sure.. having my remaining hair be healthy looking again would sure help, though! The texture has gone South, too.

[TheEndlessOcean]

I voted sometimes.

Hair Length: About APL curly, midback pulled straight.

Goal Hair Length: About waist curly.

What is the reason you feel insecure about wearing your hair down?: I mainly feel insecure on what I perceive to be bad hair days. Overall I like my hair a lot, but if it's overly big or dry or just looking weird then I don't like wearing it down.

When did you start feeling like that?: Probably a bit after finding LHC and learning what good hair looks like

How do you deal with it?: Basically I just "plan" on wearing my hair down every day (though if I do I have hair ties with me in case I need it out of the way), but if I'm not happy with it that day I'll just put it in a ponytail before going out. I've also learned a ton about my hair and am always getting better at making my hair look good on any given day.

Have things bettered?: Yes, I feel more confident wearing it down more often now that it's in better condition and better taken care of.

What is your strategy to improve its looks when down?:
When I sleep at night I put my hair in a ponytail on the top of my head, which both makes my ends hold their curl and not get all messy, and also straightens out the first few inches of my hair somewhat, which is awesome. I love having curly hair, but I don't like it when it's curly on top and goes straight out for the first few inches. I also get my hair slightly damp and put a tiny bit of jojoba oil on it before I go to bed, which makes it very nice and moisturized the next day. Next time I wash I'm also going to try braiding my hair when it's wet to see if I can't turn my hair wavy that way (since I finally learned how to do a decent braid )

When will you be happy? :
When I've figured out to eliminate bad hair days, haha. Honestly though, I'm quite happy now, but I'm looking forward to it getting a lot longer, and growing out the broken hairs from when I didn't take very good care of my hair.

[pepperminttea]

I picked some insecurities.

Hair Length: Between BSL and waist

Goal Hair Length: Tailbone, maybe classic.

What is the reason you feel insecure about wearing your hair down?: I worry about damage; I have an inch or two I should trim off but I'm putting it off, so I'm babying my ends a bit by hiding them. But the main reason is my oily scalp; I have a spot that gets oily quicker than the rest of my scalp, right at the front, around my parting. It emerges after a day or so from washing, while the rest of it can go another day or two depending on how I wear it and whatnot. And with winter round the corner, the static drives me to distraction.

When did you start feeling like that?: With the oily thing, for as long as I can remember, though pre-long hair comms, my response was limited to ponytails. With the damage, for the past few years I've been on long hair comms.

How do you deal with it?: Updos, updos and more updos. I love wearing my hair down; I look forward to it, and plan days like the OP does. I find I'll time washes with days when I want to feel at my best; I always have a bit of a spring in my step if I know my hair looks good (up or down). And I know that by wearing it the way I do, it's better for it, so there's some respite.

Have things bettered?: Detangling is so much easier post-updos. I do not miss detangling every evening.

What is your strategy to improve its looks when down?: Always freshly washed. Generally now I put it up in a quick bun on my way to somewhere, then discreetly let it down when I get inside (very helpful on windy days).

When will you be happy?: Knowing me, never.

[noelgirl]

I voted that I'm insecure about blue cheese, although it really makes me more queasy than insecure Anyway, I used to wear it up all the time because I was insecure about frizz and splits. Since I've been on LHC, those problems have been greatly reduced, so I'm prouder of my hair and I've been wearing it down more. Still not much, since I do take public transit and this is not conducive to wearing hair down safely, and I also wear it up for ballet and work (sometimes I just do half-ups for work). But I've gone from never wearing it down to sometimes wearing it down.