Does anyone ever try to discourage you?

**sycamoreboutiqu** · November 16th, 2011, 10:19 AM

Originally Posted by pepperminttea

You're in your pajamas and you look like a mermaid... this is exactly why I love long hair.

Exactly

**Finnenna** · November 16th, 2011, 11:42 AM

My mum thinks I look "ugly" and "old-fashioned" and "you look better with shorter hair because long hair doesn't suit your face". My hair is shoulder-length, She used to have longer hair before she cut it a few months ago.

She never complains when my hair is up and styled - she only says these things when it's down and un styled, since I don't bother when I'm bumming around the house. It's super annoying and hurtful.

**Pixie0763** · November 17th, 2011, 06:21 AM

I am just starting to grow my hair, and because I haven’t succeeded in the past, no one believes I’ll do it now. I get a lot of "Sure, whatever. We'll believe it when we see it. You'll whack it off again!"

... but that was before I started CO washing and found TLHC!

Now I want to try for terminal, just to see how long it'll get!

**Stessie** · November 17th, 2011, 10:00 AM

I, recently, had a guy I really liked go, "Eww, no. That's too long!!" When I told him about my goal to have Classic length. It was a little hurtful. :\

Everyone else [my family, close friends and even strangers] LOVES my hair. I've had a lot of people [usually elderly women] come up to me and gush about how much I resemble a doll. xD [My hair is 3a and WL]

It doesn't matter what others say, in the end. It's my hair and I'm going to let grow and grow and grow. ;]

**Stessie** · November 17th, 2011, 10:09 AM

Originally Posted by Finnenna

My mum thinks I look "ugly" and "old-fashioned" and "you look better with shorter hair because long hair doesn't suit your face". My hair is shoulder-length, She used to have longer hair before she cut it a few months ago.

She never complains when my hair is up and styled - she only says these things when it's down and un styled, since I don't bother when I'm bumming around the house. It's super annoying and hurtful.

I can see why that would be hurtful. To think that your hair is SL and she says this, already. :\ I don't know if she has realised this but fashion, nowadays, is a lot more experimental than it use to be. Who's to say what's 'old-fashioned' and what isn't? It, actually, seems old-fashioned to THINK that something is old-fashioned. lollz ;P

Don't let others deter you from your goals, with a few harsh/insensitive words. I'm sure your hair looks lovely, now and will look lovely once you reach your goal. :D

**Melanie Marie** · November 17th, 2011, 11:29 AM

I was shocked as I read through this thread and how many tasteless things people have said. What disturbs me even more is that people don't see anything wrong with saying hurtful things when an opinion was never solicited in the first place! Why do so many strangers and mere acquaintances assume that their opinions really matter to us? I think a lot of it has to do with ill-breeding.

I almost always get profuse compliments that overflow like bouquets, and the only ones who I would say significantly pester/pestered me about my hair are my mom and sister. The last time I saw my sister, she was quite mean to me about my hair, and if she acts that way when I see her in December, I'm going to really have a conversation with her.

My mom never really had too big of an issue with my desire for long hair, but for a little while she used to tell me to cut it shorter. I silently [but vehemently] refused, and my mom would simply nag me about it to the point that I was scared she would try to force me to have it cut.

I hadn't known at the time just how much my dad liked my long hair, so one day my dad and I were out for a walk and I mentioned the trouble Mom was giving me over my hair, and he just shook his head and said,"Don't worry about it, Melanie. There's no way that's going to happen."

Another time we were in the car and my mom was pestering me again, and my dad blew up and shouted,"DON'T TELL HER TO CUT HER HAIR! IT LOOKS BEAUTIFUL!" It was the best thing ever!

**pinupdancer** · November 17th, 2011, 03:35 PM

Ugh, all the time. My entire family and DBF are all against long hair. To them waist length is way too long, so needless to say my goal of classic length is horrifying to them. Not sure why. For most of my life my hair was classic length, but they seem to have forgotten.

However, after showing the DBF some of your pictures (hope you all don't mind), he is beginning to change his mind.

So thank you! lol

**anka.ch** · November 17th, 2011, 04:20 PM

I was discourage for years by my relatives (mom, aunts, grandmother etc.) and some hairstylists who were saying that my hair is very fine and thay look ugly and flat while long (like SL long) so thay must be cut and I need layers. I believed them...

I starded growing just when my husbend sad somthing totally different: 'I love your hair! Could you grow them for me?'

**Annibelle** · November 17th, 2011, 04:30 PM

Originally Posted by anka.ch

I starded growing just when my husbend sad somthing totally different: 'I love your hair! Could you grow them for me?'

I love that!

**Rowan1980** · November 17th, 2011, 04:58 PM

I had a coworker who was taken aback by the concept of my wanting classic-length hair, but she didn't discourage me at all. I think it's simply something very, very unusual where I live and hard to wrap one's head around.

I've been fortunate in that most folks don't even bat an eyelash when I mention (rarely) that I'm growing my hair out. It's up all the time, so it's not something would think to comment on. Granted, I've been asked about my hairsticks and spin pins, but largely out of curiosity and occasional wonder. (Read: You mean those two sticks are holding ALL your hair up in that bun? Woah!)