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TiaKitty
December 24th, 2010, 02:49 AM
So, I stabbed my Sweetie with a pencil in my bun... Like a real injury, broken skin and blood! Now he hesitates to hug me and has to position and reposition so he isn't injured.

I'd like to not instill fear upon affection!!!

Bunning is my go-to for busy days... other than clipy-clips, which do work, but are a constant struggle... and GoodDays, which slip out constantly on a bun, what can I do?

I'm so used to just picking up something pointy and controlling my hair with it...

Braids will have to become more common, and I hope they aren't as threatening.

luxepiggy
December 24th, 2010, 02:53 AM
I suggest the purchase of blunt hairsticks for use in lieu of pencils when securing updos (^(oo)^)

StormVixen
December 24th, 2010, 02:54 AM
this may be a little random (just woken up) you know those rubbers (erasers) you gan get to stick on the ends of pencils? how about sticking a couple of those on the pointy ends after doing your do?

Gabriel
December 24th, 2010, 06:32 AM
Try blunting the ends of your sticks/sharp pointy toys with some sandpaper. Also be sure that they aren't much bigger than your hair bun.

Hair forks without sharp tips or a sharp bold design will work too.

Like these (the designers also have more styles of course, I just linked a few as samples...) :

Quattro (http://www.etsy.com/listing/58842241/quattro-hair-accessories-starlites)

RavensLair (http://www.etsy.com/listing/64525636/the-moirai-the-three-sisters-three-solid)

OregonJewelry (http://www.etsy.com/listing/58817281/mix-metal-hair-comb?ref=sr_gallery_20&ga_search_query=hair+fork+metal&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_page=&order=&includes%5B0%5D=tags&includes%5B1%5D=title&filter%5B0%5D=handmade)

MairzyDozy (http://www.etsy.com/listing/49869779/hair-fork-4-inch-plain-copper-round?ref=sr_gallery_19&ga_search_query=hair+fork&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_page=&order=&includes%5B0%5D=tags&includes%5B1%5D=title&filter%5B0%5D=handmade)

DreamingDragonDesigns (http://www.etsy.com/listing/64635536/copper-twist-wavy-hair-fork)

(Be advised, I've only purchased from Quattro [I can recommend his stuff] so I can't really give an opinion on the other sellers but they all have pretty great track records from other members here.)

Spin Pins will work too and they sell them in a lot of local shops now.

Ficcarre clips are stab free too.

monkeyprincess
December 24th, 2010, 07:28 AM
When things are super crazy for me in the summer I too will often stick pens, pencils whatever is pointy really in my hair and my husband has been poked, jabbed and drawn on.

For the most part I use Ketylo sticks when I bun they can still poke him since they stick out a little bit, they just don't do any damage :)

Spin Pins are a great suggestion. When I'm feeling lazy I can get away with just using one but two will hold my hair very well all day. You can find them at Target for sure.

smileycat
December 24th, 2010, 07:54 AM
Hee hee... my sweetie definitely thinks some of my hair toys are great for double duty as weapons! He thinks this is great and even showed me how best to use them. :)

Oz
December 24th, 2010, 08:22 AM
eep i keep poking my lover in the eye with hair sticks too.. o dear...

why not just use little bobby pins to fix your bun instead of a stick? or try some ribbons,, soft and fancy and harmless.

Madora
December 24th, 2010, 09:16 AM
Given the length of your hair, I'd suggest 3 inch crimped hair pins. Weave them into your bun/braids in the north/south/east/west position. If you just stick them in, they will eventually fall out. By weaving them in (think of a running stitch in sewing) you'll be able to secure your hairdo so that it will stay put.

Cait_Mc
December 24th, 2010, 09:24 AM
I use a couple double pointed knitting needles that I had the DH bend into a U shape for me. They secure well for me and the pointy ends are safely secured in your bun. Also, they are safe from any little hands that would otherwise pull a hairstick out of my hair >.>

obssesif
December 24th, 2010, 10:42 AM
It happened to me too! :D
We have dangerous hair!:D

inty
December 25th, 2010, 08:20 AM
I've found that wherever I can use a hairstick/fork in my buns, I can use Large or even Medium Flexi-8 with the same success. They are so much safer for me and surrounding when being busy and active :)

Fadedbluedreams
December 25th, 2010, 08:44 AM
I suggest the purchase of blunt hairsticks for use in lieu of pencils when securing updos (^(oo)^)
I second the Piggy's suggestion

deko
December 25th, 2010, 02:16 PM
We have dangerous hair!:D

Yeees. Beware of The Hair (and it's owner) :D

I use short DB knitting needles to hold my Lazy Wrap bun, they don't stick very much off of the bun and are very pretty. An cheap. You can get them for about 5 dollars / five needles even if they are made of beautiful rosewood :)

kattygf
December 25th, 2010, 02:57 PM
Wear your hair down instead!

Lianna
December 25th, 2010, 05:18 PM
I suggest some standard hair pins, if you wanna keep it simple (not bobby pins). Examples:

http://mp.hairboutique.com/Conair-Accessories-Roller-Pins--18pc-Black/P/111844/C/207
http://mp.hairboutique.com/Smoothies-Wave-Pix-Black-XL/P/106203/C/347
http://mp.hairboutique.com/Smoothies-Sleek-Pix-Black/P/118844/C/347
http://mp.hairboutique.com/HB-HairJewels-Long-Filigree-Chignon-Pin-Gold-AB/P/104781/C/347

castano
December 25th, 2010, 06:02 PM
I've seen many women with pencils in their hair instead of proper hairtoys and I have always wondered how they could handle it so easily without hurting themselves!

joyellen
December 25th, 2010, 06:05 PM
I've poked my boyfriend in the eye with a hair stick too. Oops :o

Angeletti
December 25th, 2010, 06:36 PM
Another option is doing a figure 8 bun with the hair stick inserted vertically, that way it shouldn't poke anyone from the sides if they hug you.

yellowchariot
December 25th, 2010, 08:19 PM
So, I stabbed my Sweetie with a pencil in my bun... Like a real injury, broken skin and blood! Now he hesitates to hug me and has to position and reposition so he isn't injured.

I'd like to not instill fear upon affection!!!

Bunning is my go-to for busy days... other than clipy-clips, which do work, but are a constant struggle... and GoodDays, which slip out constantly on a bun, what can I do?

I'm so used to just picking up something pointy and controlling my hair with it...

Braids will have to become more common, and I hope they aren't as threatening.

^ My goodness! I think the real question here is. . . How is he doing?! If he was trying to hug you, I would guess that you nailed him in the neck, shoulder, or the head! :eek:

*note to self. . . if on a date with a woman, and she has an elaborate updo, watch for knifes, swords, and pencils* J/K :pinktongue:

Honestly, I have no suggestions, but I must say that would be a very effective means of self-defense! I am serious! ;)